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reversedbydark · 2022-01-24T23:25:46+00:00

The best way to build confidence is to look/feel good. Get a haircut, some nice clothes and a great perfume maybe even a nice watch.

Flirting isn't about what you say, it's how you say it.

Feel free to ignore the other comments who got it all wrong.

HungDaddyNYC · 2022-01-24T22:56:23+00:00

Talk to strangers in line/wherever. Treat them as human beings.

brendanm420 · 2022-01-24T23:03:51+00:00

Just start complimenting random people and the confidence will eventually come it’s all just mind games it ain’t that deep, no one’s going to get mad if you say something nice about them, people love attention.

ld20r · 2022-01-25T01:18:56+00:00

Forget about girls for a second and go out and do something your afraid of.

I have a fear of heights for example but started to get on top of that by visiting skyscrapers and also travelling in a helicopter.

You don’t have to do those things but the point is that you need to find objectives that scare you and use that as a challenge to grow and become more confident. This will build your character and ultimately your confidence and how you view yourself.

On a more practical note one really good way to get good at approaching women is approaching Everybody. Your friends, family, pets, neighbour down the street, shopkeeper etc

Get used to forming conversations and interacting with people in general and then you can take those experiences and learnings to improve your conversations and interactions when you are talking to women.

UncleSteve420 · 2022-01-25T01:16:37+00:00

You just have to establish the mindset that she will reciprocate your energy or convince yourself she will find you attractive and think that this flirting could improve your chances hehe

Minute-Lie-2287 · 2022-01-25T02:01:46+00:00

Id suggest an acting class. You'll have have to do goofy shit in front of people/ with people and you'll have to totally let go. Along with a range of other skills you'll pick up to use.

dobbs1997 · 2022-01-25T02:28:15+00:00

Not being afraid of “rejection”

handcuffjumpingjacks · 2022-01-25T03:28:10+00:00

Hello friend, hope this helps: Bring yourself to a mental place where you've got nothing at stake.

Meditate on your situation, all of the positive aspects of your life, all the privileges you enjoy, and of of the resources at your disposal.

What will be there when you get home? Who do you have that you can count on?

Even something you decide, which is not a given, can help to stabilize your mindset; for example, deciding what to have for breakfast the next day.

Consider that, regardless of anything that happens, tomorrow will be another day. You'll wake up and get another chance to take on each new morning. There is no rush, and no pressure today. Try to try again later, better than before.

When you really internalize that life is long and that there really isn't any hurry, confidence comes easy. Try and try again. It's gonna be alright, buddy :)

b_a_d_r0b0t · 2022-01-25T03:12:03+00:00

Be tall, white and rich.

Xombie0991 · 2022-01-25T01:07:12+00:00

It’s not that scary dude

kshades25 · 2022-01-25T02:39:24+00:00

Start talking to people of all ages to get the dynamic of a good conversation down. After, hang out with a dude who has game. Observe and try to mimic his behaviors, but add your own spice to it. Realize you will succeed but there are girls yoi may not click with..no big deal...there are plenty of women in this world.

socialanimal_us · 2022-01-25T02:48:17+00:00

You just need a healthier relationship with your desire https://youtu.be/bZAgGiDf2lo and you need to relate https://youtu.be/g9msqcQedsQ

waybetter94 · 2022-01-25T06:22:02+00:00

For me, I watched a lot of Craig Ferguson and Russel Brand's clips with flirting techniques. It actually gave me a lot of confidence and a little more wit.

Puzzleheaded-Dot-411 · 2022-01-25T06:28:14+00:00

Just be normal and able to hold a conversation. All that expensive shit can only get you so far.

Able-Maybe8813 · 2022-01-25T06:30:01+00:00

I’m an older dude and I’ve been where your at! It’s only the first couple times!! You just need to do it no matter how scared you are! It’s a yes or a no! If it’s a yes that will give you confidence! Two things I’ve learned and over time you will too is: they want it just as bad as we do if not more and two: there was once a baseball player named babe Ruth he was the home run king for a long time but he also struck out more then any heavy hitter so it only goes to show that you gotta get up to the plate and do your best!!!

Equivalent_Feature23 · 2022-01-25T06:45:50+00:00

You don’t need confidence. They are not monsters. Just treat them like mortals.

ctmsansei · 2022-01-25T07:20:36+00:00

read models, maybe the perspective it offers is enough to make yours shift and find easier to approach women.

Mr_ambitiouz · 2022-01-25T07:39:55+00:00

You have to flirt first to become confident. You'll get rejected a lot of times but you'll succeed in a few, and those few successes are the one that makes you confident. Then you'll know that you did it before and you can do it again

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