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Put in some reading & work before asking questions that have been addressed, like: * How do I approach? * How do I get a number? * How do I talk to girls at college? * How/When do I kiss a girl? * Does this really work?
As for the last one, it is an answered question. There have been many posts on physical limitations over the years, including this one. No need to re-ask it.
[–]Redwolfdc 77 points78 points79 points 3 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
If you are 6ft you are not short, but it implies that she is definitely taller than the average woman. Some women have issues with height differences, some don’t. I’ve noticed tall girls are kind of used to most guys being shorter than they are.
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That makes sense. I was just curious because I see it always talked about negatively online. My sisters have also said that girls like their partners taller as it makes them feel more feminine. I’ve also heard studies detailing that short man tall woman relationships don’t typically work out
[–]Redwolfdc 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yep, it sounds like she doesn’t care. The only way it might be an issue if OP gets self conscious about it.
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They will in secret but it’s just so funny how online they speak a different story about shorter men. Lol frauds
[–][deleted] 27 points28 points29 points 3 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
usually it matters, sometimes it doesn't. Some girls are fine with it, more rare but they still exist. I'm 5'7 and dated/ons three 6 foot and above girls, if you know how to handle it and she doesn't have "set in stone " rules it's not that hard. Also had girls 5'7 and under that told me they don't usually date guys under 6' but made an exception. So take your shot, always
[–]Redwolfdc 17 points18 points19 points 3 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I have noticed those who are above 6ft are less height queens. I think it’s because they are used to being the tall one. And statistically if they only were interested in guys taller than them, it would really narrow their pool of potentials.
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I think it's just the psychological threshold for women, so if you're above 6 feet you're good enough, regardless if she is 5" or 5'9 . So it's not so much about the difference as much as random number that is preferred.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I think it depends mostly on environment. When you live in a society where 6ft people are not so rare it’s expected that people will gravitate towards that as a preference. I seriously doubt average Asian girl expect her boyfriend to have that height.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The environment has a social component, there's a lot of " i want a 666 guy, 6 feet, 6 digits bank account, 6 i forgot what " .
You have a lot of 5" girls that want tall guys, most have no inner values so go by what society tells them, guys that are tall and rich, doesn't matter if he's a jerk, or if he stole to get the money.
There's a biological component too, they want to feel protected and feminine, but as long as the guy is bigger/taller that shouldn't be an issue. If in 1-2 years they go to 6'1, then 6'3 etc, they will all just try to get 10 guys that fit that description.
[–][deleted] 12 points13 points14 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
American and British women are really obsessed with height. It's much less important in the rest of the world. It matters but generally just being taller than the girl is enough.
[–]Milksteaknow 12 points13 points14 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
The fact you bring it up means it bothers you. A confident man doesn’t care. I’m 5’7 and my last gf was taller. Then she broke up with me last month and I banged a new girl 16 days later because I don’t let my height hold me back. You’re focusing on appearance so much, it’s really feminine.
[–]bondrez 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I'm only 170 cm and didn't know this was a problem for some men. And like you said, it's feminine.
[–]Capable-Stock-4699 27 points28 points29 points 3 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Face > height it’s been proven
[–]bondrez 5 points6 points7 points 3 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Charisma > face > height it's been proven
[–]ij1211 5 points6 points7 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
How does one detect charisma before face?
face>height>charisma imo
[–]alent3976 7 points8 points9 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
bro you’re 6ft you’re fine shoot your shot
[–]lifeintraining 4 points5 points6 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The problem is your mindset. If a woman doesn’t like you, she doesn’t like you for some reason or another…who cares? It’s sounds like you’re the one that is uncomfortable with your height. You’ve gotta get over that. You literally blew your chance due to your own insecurities.
[–]IOnlyCameToArgue 5 points6 points7 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Short guys are just playing the game on a harder difficulty setting.
[–]ij1211 3 points4 points5 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
As a short guy it’s almost like playing dark souls lmao
[–]wedonthaveapulse 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Fk, I love tall ones but they are never interested in me. I am 6ft and get normal height girls with no problems. Please teach me your way.
[–]SimplyADesk 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Get shorter lol
[–]Gaydame 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I don't understand why you're asking us, or anyone!
You only have to ask,
What the fuck does my opinion about height matter??!
[–]BlacBlood 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You’re 6 ft and she’s looking down on you? What is she like 6’4?
[–]neversleeps212 5 points6 points7 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Probably like 5’10” but in 5 inch heels since it was at the club
[–]JohnnyLazer17 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yes but In this specific case probably not. You’re a tall dude as it stands. If this girl is looking down on you chances are she hasn’t been with too many guys who are taller than her. Usually when a girl is taller than the average man she doesn’t give a shit about height. If she did she’d be really lonely unless she’s an absolute dime.
[–]gameofloans24 4 points5 points6 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
depends on the girl. i'm 5'6" and some girls don't like that. some girls like short guys. doesn't really matter.
[–]MarxWasGay 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
it doesn't matter, there's nothing you can do. the only reason you'd ask this is if you think there's something that can give you an excuse to not approach or date someone.
it's the same as asking "will the sun explode in a million years and wipe us all out?"
yes, it will. so what?
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
That’s a good way of looking at it. U can’t control ur height. Therefore, it doesn’t matter.
[–]ij1211 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Won’t it be more like it matters but you can’t control it?
While it does matter to a lot of women, for ur sake, ur own height shouldn’t matter to u. This will give u the confidence needed to pull more despite how short u r.
[–]ij1211 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
But if it matters to women it will affect chances right?
[–]Gigachad4Head 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yes, and so do other. things such as but not limited to style, charisma,money, status, physical shape etc.. do your best to max out the ones you can, and youre gonna be fine mostly
[–]MissionAd399 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It matters depending on where you stand. If you’re a 5’5, 5’6 dude, it’s gonna be tough. I mean I have a 5’5 friend who has been prosperous with 8s and 9s regularly as we grew older but he is very charismatic, handsome and cute, PAUSE, so a unicorn and he’s now married to a solid 9. For 5’7, 5’8 they’ll be alright with game and looks. Once you start getting in that 5’9 - 5’11 area I don’t wanna hear any complaints. I’m 5’11 and just standing in bars and clubs most dudes are the same height as me or a little bit taller with a few being up there in the 6’2 - 6’4. In my height range, which is average, I’ve noticed women taller or exact same height are much more open to give you a chance despite not towering over them. And the short women can barely tell the difference cause women’s sense of height is bad anyway. They probably think I’m 6’1
[–]5_7pickup 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Questions like this serve no purpose. You know the answer to this already. Some girls care, some care less, some don’t care at all.
The only way to find out which kind of girl you’re dealing with is to go find out. Go talk to her and find out.
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[–]5_7pickup 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yo do you think it would be helpful to get some outside sales role or part time job where yI simply just interact with strangers? I think that would get the juices flowing for me. Then cold approaching might be 2nd nature
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[+]Character_Estate_9552 points 3 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
Don’t know what any of that is, but I’m assuming my game is good because I’m going out with her again this weekend but I was just curious about the topic
I am 6 ft tall best relationship is with a man 6 ft tall whereas previously dated a lot of former pro athletes or just tall men 6 ft 4 and taller. But he has a way about him that makes him seem like I am always looking up to him …. In every way.
[–]AliasBlaster -2 points-1 points0 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Height doesn't mean shit. Anyone who says otherwise is a black pill virgin retard.
[–]epimpstyle 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
How many times have you seen in real life a lady near her shorter boyfriend?
[–]CaptainSaveBPD -1 points0 points1 point 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yes it matters. Anyone who says otherwise is just coping.
Matter bruh
[–]aidsjohnson 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It definitely matters, but that doesn't mean it's impossible and you should stop trying.
[–]HHaTTmasTer 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yes, there are exceptions tho, don't assume this girl is an exception, you can compensate height with many other ways, go for it, it is no excuse for insecurity if you also got your shit together.
[–]Vinegar_Tits_9 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Most women honestly don’t give a shit. I’m happy to be with someone the same height as me or taller I’m 165cm. But I’ve had crushes on guys considerably shorter.
[–]neversleeps212 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Was she actually taller than you or just wearing crazy heels? I’m 5’8” and currently in the talking stage with a girl who’s 5’6” so taller than me when she’s in full going out mode heels. But honestly it doesn’t matter to me or her. As a personal preference I like women to be shorter than me when we’re both in tennis shoes but honestly I don’t care if she’s taller in heels because that’s just appearances for other people not reality. Plus when you’re horizontal on the bed it ain’t the height that matters 😏
Are you attracted to her?
If the answer is 'yes', why does her height matter?
[–]Jadiv 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I'm a tall woman and up until I dated my ex (who was 5'9), I never ever thought of height... However in our relationship he brought it up so much that after him, I've only been, subconsciously, with way-taller guys... It's often the others who noted our height difference not me...
If you like this girl, go for it... If not then please focus on yourself...
[–]Keithlct 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
When you are in bed, height does not matter.. Lmao.. 🤣🤣🤣
If you’re 6ft and she’s taller than you or the same height she’s taller than the average woman. She probably understands that a lot of guys she finds attractive are likely to be shorter than her so it’s a bit different as it’s something she just has to come to terms with in dating. Plus you’re tall enough if you were like 5’4 I’m not as sure she would still be interested.
[–]XM_Ice 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Of course it does, each person likes something different. I prefer shorter dudes, around my height, 5.4 - 5.6, tho I wouldn't reject a person basing On something like this.
Everyone knows that a guy must be a bit taller than the girl and I know cases when the girl is not happy because she can not wear high heels because in that case, she is taller than the guy.
Even if I'm short, I'm sure that does exist shorter girls than me... so it is not a tragedy :-)
[–]bonix 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Who cares! Why do you care? Insecurities are showing in you, especially when you brought it up to her. Some girls may take height seriously just like some guys take other physical aspects seriously, that's their problem not yours. If someone isn't into you for any reason they have that right. No one likes insecure people though, it is a bad and toxic trait. It's not like you can change your height so why waste anytime worrying about it.
[–]Dorsiflexionkey 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
At worst, height is a single component. If you rely one 1 thing to be happy you're going to fail regardless.
[–]novasolid64 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I would say back in the day it didn't, but now that women get flooded with men on social media and dating sites, they're allowed to be more picky. Therefore it does.
[–]Local-Lychee-9016 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I’m 5”8 (25F) and usually I prefer men who are atleast 5”10 and above but I don’t mind men who are shorter as long as I’m interested in them For eg. met a guy recent who is 5”6 at max but I’m into him because he has a 10/10 personality.
[–]OnlineDater1234 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Not really in general but to extremely shallow people in OLD... yes
to some yes, i'm 5' 9" and showed up to a date to a girl 5' 4" and she literally said within the first mintute "i thought your profile said you were 5 9" i basically just went through the date not even acknowledging that dumb bitch
[–]laboa74 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
To some people will, I personally don't really care and that would be my recommendation but to each its own I guess
[–]quiet160 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I've gone out with multiple girls that were taller than me. It's no different man it's still fun =). I'm 5'8 so not that tall but like anything it's what you make of the situation. If she's still interested in you then height doesn't matter.
[–]BigVisual5833 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
6'0 is tall
[–]Imshortandspicy 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It matters, but you can overcome it with personality and game
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