Everyone (including me) find drunk me more fun, outgoing, charismatic, and awesome. How can I make drunk me into real me?

BassNet · 2015-05-04T16:51:13+00:00

There are incorrect views in your head. Misconceptions about women, and yourself. Particularly dealing with your self esteem, sexual self esteem, and how women act and are in general.

When you're drunk... you forget these.

Drunk girls are the same way. Let's say they have an incredibly incorrect view, that if she let's one guy in a crowded club dance with her, everyone will see her as a slut. Couple shots... she forgets about that bullshit.

Another thing being drunk does is stop you from thinking before approaching. Predicting approaches is stupid, and a result of false negative beliefs. When most guys are sober they subconsciously think of negative possibilities. Alcohol says, 'please... you don't know this girl. how can you assume a roadblock if you haven't even spoken to her... just fucking approach.'

fryskate · 2015-05-04T11:20:36+00:00

Just be drunk ask the time.... Lol jk not good

TBBTEL · 2015-05-04T14:27:14+00:00

I have the same problem and in my case it's mostly about holding myself back.(confidence and not giving fucks)

So I'm trying to become more confident and mindful in order to let myself be me fully.

I'm doing this by acknowledging my fear/resistance and accepting it, but not acting upon it. In turn this will lessen the fear/resistance over time and it'll require less and less attention and will happen naturally.(I hope)

It's also about trusting in yourself and letting go of your ego and caring about what other people think of you.

jgottlander · 2015-05-04T13:42:57+00:00

I'm mostly the same way, and its all in your head. I become my real self when I'm drunk. Don't care what people think of what I'm doing or saying, just doing it because I want it in the moment, not thinking before. After started reading No more Mr. Nice guy I've started to become more of my real self, not thinking so much what other people think of me. That's what real confidence is, not dependent on what other think of you :)

cabbageman1995 · 2015-05-04T16:49:37+00:00

Is had this problem myself, my solution depends on how drunk you get. If you can remember what it is you do whilst drunk that makes you fun, you can slowly introduce it piece by piece into your sober life. For example I found out that when I'm drunk and a song I like comes on I'll just go for it and dance my heart out, after realising how much fun this was I tried doing it when I was with a group of friends sober, turns out it was still fun and got a good reaction from my friends. I also find that when drunk I'm far more willing to talk about whatever I want instead of talking about what I think I should talk about about. So I've been trying to do this more in day to day life.

Try to find out what you do whilst drunk that makes you awesome and introduce it slowly piece by piece instead of all at once into your sober life and soon it'll become second nature

nat_lite · 2015-05-04T18:33:40+00:00

It's a long process, but it's possible. Start by figuring out what exactly is different about you when you're drunk, in terms of behavior. When I'm drunk, I smile more, laugh more, and say what's on my mind. I can do that sober now, too.

And yeah, it's mainly about confidence and caring less about what others think. I'd recommend Allen Carr's Easy way to Control alcohol. It's an excellent book and breaks down how drinking doesn't actually give you confidence. I quit drinking and since then I've become more charismatic and happier, even though it's a bit hard at first.

CoxyMcChunk · 2015-05-04T14:59:55+00:00

Shame. You're expecting or open to shame when you're sober, and when you drink, you care less about the possible shame of your actions, and that leads to the fun guy.
Work on limiting or totally getting rid of your fear of judgement and shame, and actively, in your head, find something you can think about or say to yourself to become you and lose the worry.

tooeasilybored · 2015-05-04T15:26:06+00:00

Drunk you is the real you. I've always said that if you want to get to know someone, the real them get them drunk and see what happens. The real you comes out, you're too drunk to think and apply that filter to things you say/do.

How do you do that on a daily basis without being drunk? Self confidence my man, be yourself and stand out. Don't just go with the flow, create your own. Confidence, but not cockiness is extremely attractive in either sexes.

cazzah123 · 2015-05-04T10:36:37+00:00

Slowly ween yourself off alcohol. Or atleast onto less than you currently drink.

AliceA · 2015-05-04T15:17:00+00:00

Self hypnosis should do it and not have you become an alcoholic.

Ionick · 2015-05-04T17:55:40+00:00

you could try getting that condition/disease that brews alcohol in your stomach whenever you eat bread. That'll help somehow

FreedomTribe · 2015-05-05T04:04:12+00:00

This reminds me of why I quit drinking. Over the course of time I built myself up into that person while being 100% sober. Just became more confident and expressive from approaching so many girls sober. Sounds like you're not approaching girls much to be honest.. Also sober that is.

cutsham · 2015-05-05T07:19:36+00:00

When you're drunk, you act spontaneously without being anxious or wondering what others will think. What this proves is that you can act the same way sober if you allow yourself to just let go. It's all about confidence.

Pointwest418 · 2015-05-07T02:55:15+00:00

Act drunk.

Fake it, 'til you make it

meatonbones · 2015-05-04T14:15:19+00:00

living a life that excites u I think. that ur proud of, that u respect

hullkogan · 2015-05-04T18:35:02+00:00

Drink more.

Title	Everyone (including me) find drunk me more fun, outgoing, charismatic, and awesome. How can I make drunk me into real me?
Author	Jay_V
Upvotes	26
Comments	28
Date	May 4, 2015 10:29 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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