Feeling jaded

Best-Yesterday1216 · 2026-05-31T16:53:30+00:00

I think imma go hard on these areas
Flirting and social skills
Lose weight
Find ways to make more money
Improve wardrobe and how i carry myself

Because i am fumbling and getting flaked and seen as a option and not a first choice

laptopglass · 2026-05-31T16:56:08+00:00

Idk I see ugly guys with women all the time

You're choosing dating apps, which are mostly about looks, and bars/clubs, where you need to have a lot of energy/charisma to stand out.

norwegiandoggo · 2026-05-31T16:49:35+00:00

True. This is why less physically attractive dudes often try to appeal in other ways, or develop strategies like

developing their sense of humor
niche-down their target audience to an extreme degree, like going all-in on the Metal, Hiphop, Rave, Renaissance Fair, tattoo, or cosplay crowd ++ (many others).
get moneyyyy
develop social status / fame. Like becoming a politian, comedian, or notable Youtuber etc.
passbort-broing

MineDesperate2920 · 2026-05-31T16:09:14+00:00

It’s your vibe. I’m a good looking guy and I can tell you while it does help and you aren’t totally wrong it helps wayyyyyyy less than you think. And if I solely relied on my looks I’d have almost zero success. I can tell you this because I used to do it when I was young and it gets you basiclau no girls

Western-Month-3877 · 2026-05-31T16:22:14+00:00

Pretty privilege is real. I’ve learned that since young age. Teachers favor good looking students over the bad looking ones. Heck, even parents do that too.

Also in school I’ve learned that majority of fortune 500 CEO’s is over 6 feet tall. So I guess height privilege is real, too? It’s like being pretty and tall is like having life on easy mode.

But seriously, how bad looking are you? Because I don’t believe there’s only 2 sides: good looking vs bad looking. There’s gotta be the middle ground “average looking” people.

If you have “a face that only a mother can love” then yea you’re on very hard mode. But if you have “if only I could lose 20+ lbs and have some fashion, facial, and hairstyle professionals do makeover on me” face then work on it asap.

Silent_Momento · 2026-05-31T17:12:40+00:00

There are likely some ways you can improve yourself, so do that. Lose some weight, work out, ect. You can stop playing the game, but you can't change the rules.

I get the discouraging feeling as a later starter myself at 26, but it's all just a numbers game no matter what method you use. Apps, clubs, cold approaches, ect. You'll get rejected most of the time in all of those unless you are exceptionally attractive, but statistically you will find at least some success if you keep trying.

Teripendiicecreamyum · 2026-05-31T19:32:04+00:00

That's funny because I see social men, who are seen at the work/gym or other places pull the most women. These dudes just treat everyone equally and approach everyone to talk.

I always see these men then surrounded by women and so on.

ChicoBrillo · 2026-05-31T22:21:29+00:00

It probably has less to do with your looks then you think. Not saying you're neurodivergent but I find that usually has way more to do with it.

Cirrustratus · 2026-06-03T07:53:09+00:00

get jacked too my man, it does make it

AndyJaeven · 2026-05-31T23:59:10+00:00

“People and women”

“Quality selection of women”

Might wanna re-evaluate how you view women bud.

Title	Feeling jaded
Author	Best-Yesterday1216
Upvotes	14
Comments	30
Date	May 31, 2026 4:05 PM UTC (1 month ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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