So I’ve had a huge crush on this chick for a while - real bad case of oneitis. Fake scenarios in my head, idolizing her, - the whole gambit. She’s real pretty too, probably like a 9/10 and with a awesome personality to boot. I noticed something different with us today, we both got drunk (which is probably what stirred all of this), but basically I let go of her for a while and decided I didn’t have a chance and instead I should just focus on having fun. In the process, I guess a few chicks started hitting on me and she ended up seeing. This prompted her to go into overdrive and start climbing all over me, putting her head on me, the whole deal. We ended up staying awake until 6 am just talking about our life stories and she ended up admitting she had the same thoughts about me, thought about the same made up scenarios, and so on. Obviously at this point I knew I HAD to ask her out so I did, and not surprisingly she said yes.

That’s not the point of this story though. The point is, I never would of had this chance or experience if I didn’t stop putting her on a pedestal, if I didn’t stop validating myself with her opinions of me, if I didn’t just decide to have fun and see where the wind took me. So morale of the story is stop caring, for real. She’ll see it, and she’ll want to be a part of it. Make your life as interesting as possible, live for yourself, and everything else will fall together after.

Just thought this story ended up capturing the essence of this subreddit. Unfortunately, this wasn’t a lesson I could learn from here. It was something I needed to learn myself. But I hope this inspires someone to take the plunge too.

Thanks, seddit.

UPDATE: For anyone still curious.. I lost the password to this throwaway a while ago. Just kinda remembered it today when I was browsing this sub. Went top posts for this year and scrolled down a bit, low and behold heres my post.

8 months later, we are still dating. And yes for the people who asked. We have had sex, usually everyday... Funny thing about that though. Our relationship has turned long distance since the school year has ended. We are exactly 10 hours away by drive and she has flown over twice, and is coming once more in two weeks (in the span of the 4 months summer vacation our uni gives us). I have flown over once. Each visit is about a week and some change.

Relationship is very strong, she is super loyal, was very inexperienced before me (had to teach her how to give head haha), and she is head over heels for me as I am for her. We hardly fight, and when we do we never get angry, more so both of us trying at all costs to work through it safely. I just received a hand written letter from her today, containing some pictures she wrote on the back of. One of the pictures was one she took of us together the night I wrote this when she was climbing all over me hah. Kind of reminded me to update you all. Some of ya won't care but I thought i'd give this happy ending and even happier one.

I love this girl.