First Real Rejection.

petriomelony · 2012-02-18T04:26:15+00:00

approach more people, get yourself busy and thinking about other things. you went on one date with her, and the date wasn't great - why wasn't it great? reflect and learn from the experience. develop an abundance mindset, she's one girl in a sea of billions. delete her number.

SleepyOta · 2012-02-18T11:12:43+00:00

Ah, it's fine, man. If you haven't been rejected in a while, it's gonna hurt. I say get used to it! She rejected you. It's her loss not yours. She lost a chance with you and you just lost more dates with a girl who won't see how awesome you are. You want a woman to date you because she wants you, right? So, my advice is get rejected more! Why? Because you have to see that getting rejected ain't no big deal and it happens to everyone. It will make acceptance so much sweeter, too!

Get out there some more, man!

bigstinkyniggerdick · 2012-02-18T06:37:34+00:00

dude i get rejected like that all the time. how spoiled are you that this meaningless incident has become profound for you? my advice to you is just get used to it. honestly this is like hearing someone say "i can't believe i fell and scraped my knee, my skin has never been damaged before. how do i cope?". what would you say to that? probably get used to it and quit crying, right?

AnAdventureCore · 2012-02-18T05:21:30+00:00

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documents1856 · 2012-02-18T10:59:25+00:00

Its something you have to get used to, most of us have to deal with tons of flakes and girls who reject on the first date or approach, maybe 20-30% are successes, which is low but with the sheer volume we approach it appears women come easy. Its like an exponential graph, slow in the beginning but once you reach a point you don't even remember your failures or how many times you got rejected cuz you are too busy with your successes.

thistooshallparse · 2012-02-18T10:59:28+00:00

What does the rejection actually MEAN? What is the meaning you are drawing from it? Interrogate your internal thought process, because you are probably blowing this up into some big thing about yourself.

IMO, what some girl thinks about me (or you) doesn't matter. Who gives a fuck what someone who barely knows you thinks?

The advice on getting over rejection is to get a handle on yourself and to like yourself without reference to other people.

WisdomModifier · 2012-02-18T20:26:14+00:00

Just realize that rejection happens, and you're the prize. If she doesn't respect that, then it's her loss... and besides... now you have the chance to date more girls!

B-Cera · 2012-02-18T21:43:49+00:00

Thanks for the advice? but basically I really have blown this up way too much than I should have. I'm an awesome guy and if she doesn't see that then her loss, this is just one date of many that will come in the future. Rejection happens but I just have to think on the positive side and realize that rejection happens to everyone and to move on.

mileshigh_23 · 2012-02-19T07:05:35+00:00

Rejection doesn't hurt when you've got four other girls on the line. Approach way more. Get more numbers.

revbobdobbs · 2012-02-20T01:14:48+00:00

Girls do this all the time. They seem hot, and then they evaporate.

As you get more experienced, you will see this happen a lot.

Don't let it effect you. Don't try to figure out why they do this. Trying to figure it out will fuck with your head. And ultimately, it doesn't matter. Chances are that you didn't fuck up - you didn't do anything wrong. She's just not buying what you are selling - so move on.

Simply stop believing that the universe is obliged to follow the script that you've written in your head. Real life is unpredictable. Become unnattached from outcome.

alphaChompy · 2012-02-18T05:45:18+00:00

Rejection is like getting pounded in the ass. It hurts the first time, but eventually you get used to it.

tldr: Call instead of text.

Murmaider · 2012-02-19T22:49:24+00:00

I got bailed on yesterday for a date that i had today. I've been totally digging this chick for over a year, but thanks to seddit finally worked up the courage to ask her out. The advice in this post, is exactly what i need to hear.

Title	First Real Rejection.
Author	B-Cera
Upvotes	19
Comments	14
Date	February 18, 2012 3:23 AM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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