For 40s Men

HistorianOk2573 · 2025-07-11T13:28:42+00:00

You are only creepy when you approach women without having the conviction thatwhat you are doing is right. If you have inner doubts, and you approach a woman, those inner doubts will cause you to be wary, as if execting a rejection or a bad reaction from a woman at any moment, and women will pick up on that insecurity quite easily because they'll notice your body lanuage, your nervousness, and will notice that you are not fully relaxed.

They might be even test you by saying: "aren't you a bit too old to be hitting on girls?" and in that moment if you are not fully confident in what you are doing you will fail the test because you will probably act ashamed, and being to justify and defending yourself,... etc

So it's all about talking with 100% conviction that what you do is perfectl yacceptable, desirable and if she tests you double down on it without apologising for it.

Her: Aren't you a bit too old to be hitting on girls?

Just agree and amplify or use humor:

You: "Yeah i am so old, i could be president of the united states"

or

You: "Yeah im so old i could be your great great grand paren, show some respect to the elderly"

The way you start the conversation is by being unapologetic about the fact that you approach them to get to know them because you are curuious to see what type of person they are. So you literally just say that. "hey i don't usually do this, but man i saw you and i loved your style so uch and i immeidately got curious to get to know you, real quick"

Kylearean · 2025-07-11T21:51:24+00:00

A lot of girls are into it if you're going to provide some substantial support.

Showing up sloppy or lacking the daddy vibe, you're not going to do well.

jt4643277378 · 2025-07-11T14:21:30+00:00

Own ya shit son stay in ya lane and the more you improve yourself mentally and physically the bigger chances you’ll snap someone out of your lane.

And if you don’t, then mentally and physically you’ll be happy with yourself, so there’s that..

Legitimate-Hamster50 · 2025-07-11T14:15:23+00:00

There are girls who are interested in 40s men that are in their 20-30s and don't have kids. You just have to have to approach / use dating apps like anyone else would. I personally add compare to other comments say don't lie about your age if you actually want start a family. You don't want someone who lie. You got this boss!

Fearless_Prior2917 · 2025-07-11T15:48:22+00:00

I'm 48, and got a super hot 21 year-old's number last night...we are already setting up a date. I feel I'm doing better with women in their 20s now than when I was 30. Here is my advice:

Do not act old. Don't discuss things that show your age. Be confident and bold...A younger women talking to an older man will expect him to have a very strong frame, and lead her.

Run good game! I teased her, was flirty, and did some good push-pulls. I got her chasing me. Act like you are the prize. Do not discuss anything logically, keep it all fun and flirty. Avoid giving straight answers to questions, keep her guessing and working for it.

I have 2 tactics I use to handle the age question:

1: Avoid it. The more time you have to get her to like you, the less it will matter to her. Stall as long as you can.

2: Address it with a takeaway. This is what I did last night.

- Me: "How old are you?"

- Her: "21"

- Me: "On no, you're way too young for me, but I'm still kind of curious about you"

- Her: "How old are you? Or should I not ask (nervously)"

- Me: "Older (with a smirk)" Then I changed the subject.

Juiceb0ckz · 2025-07-11T15:35:19+00:00

just always remember. that far of an age difference has less in-common than what they/you are normally used to. so you either get on their level of thinking, or try to weed out the mature ones that are on your level of thinking. also, everything is a numbers game. I follow a saying '' the more you fuck around, the more you find out'' ... so if u wanna find out, just keep fuckin around. you'll eventually get something.

MineDesperate2920 · 2025-07-11T12:23:28+00:00

I’m 36. I find for 20’s it’s a lot more difficult than it used to be. The age thing will become a big problem for most girls. You have to either lie about your age lol. Or have enough value to overcome the age issue. The odd girl (very rare) will be into it tho but not common

New_Banana3858 · 2025-07-11T11:11:46+00:00

look up james marshall on youtube.

riordanajs · 2025-07-11T20:20:03+00:00

Old RSD instructors are in their mid forties and seem to have little problem approaching young women. Look for Owen Cook, the Jeffy Show, Madison Social Influence and Todd V Dating on Youtube.

shlomobo · 2025-07-11T18:54:13+00:00

I can absolutely understand why you are interested in sex with younger women. Go for it.

But for a family and a relationship - what do you want with a 20 year old girl as a 40 year old guy? I mean where are similarities besides sex? You wanna talk and as a 40 year old maybe someone who has her shit together. This is rarely possible with this age gap.

Maybe it‘s better to focus on a woman you actually like and that meets your vibe instead of focus on younger age if you wanna start a family.

cA05GfJ2K6 · 2025-07-11T14:04:21+00:00

Do you, as a 40 year old, really want to date anyone less than 25?

Western_Cake5482 · 2025-07-11T12:48:35+00:00

Life-Income2986 · 2025-07-11T13:08:02+00:00

I would suggest thinking of them as people and not fertile brood mares.

DavidStamina · 2025-07-11T13:24:23+00:00

I'm 41 and even recently had a 20yo (cheated on her 20yo boyfriend with me for 2 weeks lol), then a 22yo and 2 days ago a 23yo.

1. Do some minor looksmaxxing, old money style, nice clothes from Zara, good haircut, take care of the beard situation, good fragrance

2. From then on it's just a numbers game. Some % of girls say no, and some % say yes, don't even see the age gap.

3. Realize - the younger the woman is, the less accurate can she guess your age. Because she will guess from her own age upwards. E.g. she is 18, you're 40, she will almost never say 40, in 90% of cases she will guesstimate something between 25 and 32 for you. For her those numbers sound big. Conclusion:

4. Instead of just telling your age, let her guesstimate, and then throw 1-2 years on top, e.g. she says "I think you're ~ 30" → "Almost right, I'm 32".

The more you do it, the more you will see that there is really not much difference between them. Yes, they tend to be more naive, yes sometimes youngish stupid, yes, more "tik-toky" vibes, but overall the seduction is more or less the same as with a 30 yo, which is

- open, vibing, convo, mutual attraction, exchange contacts, texting, setting up a date, meeting, having drinks or "cooking" at your place, making out and f cking.

If need more help, contact me. your appearance might be important

Title	For 40s Men
Author	ParesMamiAfterGym
Upvotes	59
Comments	52
Date	July 11, 2025 10:49 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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