I'm 21m, intern in an office [doesn't matter what kind of, where, meaningless info].
3 weeks ago 3 new girls were hired in our office.
20f, 21f, 23f - all of them around HB7-8.
At first I focused on the 20f one, too bossy, too bitchy [WAY too bitchy]. X
Then I moved on to 23f one. At first, we hit it off, we went out once but after that her ex came in to the game, things complicated, she wasn't ready [bullshit], ejected before she came up with "let's be friends". X
After me ejecting from the 23f one... well, she started walking around the office, teasing me a lot harder and telling everyone how she would not date me and any other girl in the office wouldn't do so [?]. She also started calling me narcisstic. I assume she has some kind of weird sense of humor.
Anyway, I didn't care much [and I still don't].
Before I even had a chance hitting on the last one she invited me to come over. Her friends were staying at her place for the night, jacuzzi, wine, movie. I was tired so I thanked for the invitation, wished her good fun and went to sleep.
The next day, in the evening I texted her something [it was something about girls at office being mad at me]. 30 minutes of texting back and forth and guess what? She tells me she's tired, alone and wants to watch a movie at her place. [oh wait, is that the famous and legendary "booty call"? could it be true?]
I packed my external drive [no, it's not an euphemism], some alcohol and I ran to catch a train.
I'm at her place. We're drinking wine, a lot of wine, watching a movie, tease a little bit, share some laughs.
Wine runs out, we're cuddling on her couch. My hand travels over her body, no rejection.
She offers me to sleep on a couch in her room [ok!]. We're upstairs, alone, in the dark, I sit on a couch, she brings me some sheets and pillows. I grab her hand and tell her to lay down with me.
- There isn't enough space for both of us, let's move to your bed.
No rejection, she plays along. We're in her bed, making out and after literally 3 minutes we're... You guys know best what happened.
Since then, we became FWB. We're both 21, students, we're both living with parents. Plus, I live far away from her place.. so whenever she has a free place, she texts me if I want to come so we can "chill out".
I KNOW, I know I played it like a sloth. Next time I'll try to work a little faster BUT... I still got laid !
PS
I didn't dig in to the conversations or how heavy the kino was because it would be a wall of text and no one wants to read posts like that. I tried to keep it short and simple.
PS2
Before I got to seddit I wouldn't even think that there are girls out there willing to have sex with no strings attached.
So, thank you guys !
EDIT
Forgot to add that thanks to this community I boosted my confidence and learned how to deal with women. I am no longer afraid of "putting my foot down" and setting the borders. Damn it feels good.
EDIT2
Following /u/asad16 advice I'll elaborate on how I "charmed" this girl.
As I said before, I am not afraid of putting my foot down. There are only 3 guys and like 10 girls in our office. Sometimes those girls become a little too cocky and I have to show them that I will not accept any shit they throw at me.
"FWB" was a witness of 2 or 3 times when I had to tell our colleague to tone herself down a little bit. We're like a bunch of friends, some teasing is always fun but not when you have to concetrate, you got a work to do, you have something to say or they're just crossing the line.
The second thing, DHV. It's a parliamentary office. We meet politicians, solve people's problems, contact with some high social value people - it's all complicated. So since I am more experienced I was showing her how to do that and that.
I also know some people, know who is who, who does what and so on. I found her intersted in this topic so whenever I had an opportunity I was telling her a different story or simply introducing her to new people.
KINO, when we met, simple handshake. Since the beginning I was treating her like an old friend. Hi five, frontal hugs, friendly touching - lots of it and actually with everybody. When we were at her place I was little more forward.
Before the "jacuzzi invitation" we had a dinner [me, her, her friend]. Being able to maintain a small talk with her friends is a big plus [I guess].
And teasing, I think that played a big part here. She's a "lady", good girl from a good house. Wealthy parents, had only 1 boyfriend in her life who turned out be an insecure douche [1 year long LTR] and an army of guys putting her on a pedestal telling her how beautiful or how awesome she is.
Well, I didn't do that. We had several neg wars. After the night together she told me that no one has ever treat her like that. I'm "different" - and apparently, she likes it and wants more.
I treat her like any other girl. I don't even consider that dinner in 3 as a date.
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