Get over Approach Hesitation

Dwerg1 · 2024-11-24T15:33:54+00:00

The most important thing to know when approaching anyone is to notice when your presence is unwanted and leave them alone.

You're not doing it to make people uncomfortable. They might feel uncomfortable, but that's on them, not you. You're not doing anything wrong by innocently starting a conversation. If they don't like it you just leave, there is no further consequence.

MrPound4Pound · 2024-11-24T16:13:36+00:00

I have over 100+ approaches and I still hesitate from time to time which causes me to miss out on opportunities. Maybe 1 out of every 5 approaches. Last night at the club, it was 1 out of 4 where it took me awhile to pull the trigger.

The only way I know how to overcome this is to do a ton more approaches lol. Usually it's the first approach of the day or night that takes awhile but once I get that first one, I'm locked in.

Also when I haven't approached or done any cold approach day or night game for weeks, I notice it's tough to do the first approach again since the "cold approach" break I had.

I also noticed day game for me is way tougher to pull the trigger on an approach than night game. I did a whole ton of daygame in my first 50 approaches and then started doing night game.

I've been trying to do both again but I will do something like 7+ night game approaches, very beautiful women too. Go to the grocery store and try to do an approach the following week and it takes me forever to commit to it. I think cause day game, approaches aren't really seen as "normal" so that's probably why I'm taking longer to do while night game, men are expected to approach women.

I would like someone's input to those who've had 500+ and 1000+ approaches, is it automatic for you? How's your approach anxiety at this level of approaching?

durkiobro · 2024-11-25T00:24:13+00:00

Yeah I’m trying to get over this. Just the other day, I saw a girl that was very good looking and she even smiled at me but I didn’t approach 😭

I think the best way to get over this is simply repetition.

epimpstyle · 2024-11-24T15:46:36+00:00

Do you want to show other people how bold and confident you are or are you looking for efficiency?

You need to make things easier not only for yourself but also for the girl because if there are many people around when you start a conversation and people are listening, it is not only YOU in this story but also the girl. If she agrees to talk to you, she will show everyone that she is an "easy" person and this is not pleasant for any normal girl on this planet. The easiest thing for her to do is to reject you even if she likes you on some level. Think about this idea before you talk to a girl when there are people around - is not a smart thing to do.

MrTerno · 2024-11-25T01:04:36+00:00

I’m applying the 3-seconds rule in my life to solve this problem. At the clubs it helps a lot, After the 2nd approach I don’t feel anxiety anymore then things flow naturally

ratfooshi · 2024-11-25T03:01:48+00:00

That's the name of the game.

Don't give either of you time to reflect on the consequences.

It sets the tone for the whole interaction.

Night and day difference. 🌃⛅

Captain-Comment · 2024-11-25T09:16:38+00:00

On your way to where you're going do some warm ups. Just speak to random people (guys and girls) on the way even if it's just a hello. Make the interactions longer the more interesting or natural they go and by the time you get to the club or wherever you're going you should be more comfortable with doing approaches, or at least that's what I've heard. I've never actually tried this myself but the theory sounds sound.

Eezay · 2024-11-25T11:01:21+00:00

I was diagnosed with OCD when I was a teen and in therapy I learned that the quickest way to get over pretty much any fear or obsessive thought is repeated exposition, if you can stomach it.

Hypnotic_John · 2024-11-27T14:40:55+00:00

I used hypnosis to eliminate anything that makes me less confident. So I could always approach if I wanted to.

Title	Get over Approach Hesitation
Author	Recent-Description89
Upvotes	45
Comments	11
Date	November 24, 2024 3:04 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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