Ghosted after first date - double text advice

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xotakes · 2024-05-12T20:50:53+00:00

Look man. I know you want to and feel like texting both of em more. Just don’t do it. If they come around and want to hang out it’s your win but if you text more they won’t be coming back.

radphd · 2024-05-12T22:23:53+00:00

Double text - zero% chance they’ll be interested in you

No double text - 1% chance they’ll text you in 3-5 weeks. And by then hopefully your dating roster is full.

Particular-Tax4511 · 2024-05-12T21:59:37+00:00

Stop texting them that. Or anything. They just didn’t feel it bro. Move on

Grim-vs-World · 2024-05-12T23:25:17+00:00

Next time you go on a date, do not message after the date. It’s for the girl to thank you for taking her out. You don’t wanna sound desperate saying let’s go out again sometime, you want that suggestion to flow naturally in a conversation you have with her on the phone. This way you keep her on the edge and on the chase.

TRTGymBro1 · 2024-05-12T23:06:38+00:00

Never send such a text ever again. You will gain nothing from texting them for feedback. I can give you your feedback right now. You went to both dates wanting to get something and that made you come across needy and they rejected you. The second you stop wanting anything from women, you will have any woman you want.

thegoldenlove · 2024-05-12T22:46:33+00:00

Depends on the age. The 20 something these days are pretty rude and avoidant - so a ghost can be a sign of not interested. If in the 30s, then you might have a shot. Just double text a few days later saying, hey how are things going and make a funny comment. And leave it

cemj86 · 2024-05-13T01:08:44+00:00

Move on lover boy.Jesus Christ

Thierr · 2024-05-12T21:34:52+00:00

If youre ok with chalking them up as a loss, then just be honest and vulnerable.

Just say hey, I am getting the feeling you don't want to see me again, but this keeps happening to me where I feel like I have a nice date but then they don't reply anymore. I'd love if you could give me pointers as to what I might be doing wrong or what is missing to take connections further.

And then most importantly, do NOT be butt hurt if their reply stings. Thank them for being honest. And use what they say to improve.

MY own take: it sounds like you had a good date but you didn't even kiss. Not escalating is a turnoff to most women. They expect you to take the lead and make moves, progressing the date forward, increasing sexual tension and attraction, and kissing or having sex

Poised_Conviction · 2024-05-13T01:55:06+00:00

Rookie mistake you wait for them to text you after hanging out with them cause if they reach out to you means they had a good time I don't know how your vibe was or how the date went only you do so you gotta figure out how to improve and don't double text if it didn't work out on to the next

Leiosss · 2024-05-13T01:57:58+00:00

Last time i got ghosted just gave up if she aint interested in me i aint interested on her, simple

PrinceWhoPromes · 2024-05-13T02:01:13+00:00

We’ve all been there… resist the urge lol

WinningCommunication · 2024-05-13T03:32:28+00:00

Hmm, you really need to give more details. This is not very useful. That is also not a good text to send. Think about it, shouldn't it make sense that the details of the date matter to what may have gone wrong?

No_Standard_260 · 2024-05-13T03:49:56+00:00

Even if they didn't mean to ghost, them seeing a double text will give the ick and you will never have a shot

roakmamba · 2024-05-13T04:27:44+00:00

Nothing you can do. keep it moving on. I wouldn't have texted them first right after the date. I usually let them hit me up or I'll open up after a few days later and I wouldn't say ," let's go out again sometime ", line. They can interpret it as you being too invested in them and they'll lose interest.

daddyvow · 2024-05-13T04:59:35+00:00

Sometimes nothing “goes wrong”. They just weren’t that into you.

rhz10 · 2024-05-13T05:59:33+00:00

Even if they respond to your text, there's little to guarantee that they will actually tell you the real reason. I have learned that being able to move on without receiving any kind of explanation or closure is a valuable skill for men.

Tatleman68 · 2024-05-12T21:14:02+00:00

Just call them; other than that, move on

jjboy91 · 2024-05-12T21:31:03+00:00

Block and delete bro

Competitive-Ask4393 · 2024-05-13T00:37:54+00:00

Move on. It hurts but it’s important to become numb to this feeling.

You got ghosted, process that emotion. Assume why they ghosted and make the change.

Could it happen again in the future?? Sure but you popped ur cherry for this experience. It’ll never sting as badly again.

DeanG30 · 2024-05-13T00:57:07+00:00

Hey bro this is normally has something to do with not having a Knouff emotional investment on the first date which means yes she was originally attracted to you but on the day you are giving off the wrong vibe which is coming from your body language everything from your expression and voice tonality is being read second, by second by the woman that you're on the date with, this is something that can be fixed, and it's good that you are aware and asking questions about why ghosting is happening. Feel free to reach out to me if you want some advice and help in this area. All the best to you bro.

benediktion · 2024-05-13T01:46:45+00:00

I always set up dates through a phone call.

I never set up dates through a text. It’s so easy to just delete. Your texts are nothing but words on a screen. It’s impersonal and dehumanizing.

Title	Ghosted after first date - double text advice
Author	EdUNC-
Upvotes	21
Comments	31
Date	May 12, 2024 8:37 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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