Gone blind recently. Conversations tips.

readonlyuser · 2014-08-08T17:15:02+00:00

This is a great question.

I don't see being blind as a huge disadvantage for you. If you were deaf, you'd be screwed. You have more opportunities to touch girls while talking, and an easy source of conversation (what life is like being blind).

I'd say your biggest obstacles are more logistical, like how do you take a girl home and are you sure you're opening beautiful women.

Since you're blind, you will absolutely have to qualify her based on her personality and be attracted to that. Ask about her best personality traits, ask if she's adventurous, accomplished, sexual, spontaneous, etc. Again, kino is going to be easy for you (you can pretend to need it as a part of talking to people), and it's an easy transition to more casual touch, like her arms and even her back. Make sure you're clearly communicating with your facial expressions. I think increasing sexual tension will be difficult, because even after you close the personal space, you can't make deep eye contact that causes that tension. I recommend telling her to close her eyes for some reason of your choosing, and slow down your speech to a slow rhythym while talking close to her ear.

Finally, doing any outgoing or exciting things a girl wouldn't expect from a blind guy would be helpful. Think about "The Scent of a Woman" when Pacino tangos with the girl. You don't have to bust out a dance, but spinning her around is something she wouldn't anticipate. Make it clear that being blind is just an inconvenience, and you're still master of your domain and in control.

EDIT: Awkward question here: when people see you, are your eyes closed? Are your pupils going all over the place? Do you wear sunglasses? Do you have a cane/dog? Are you 100% blind, or just have extremely bad vision?

MuchMouthen · 2014-08-08T18:15:34+00:00

Sorry I don't have any advice for you but I wanted to say I think you are awesome. It's inspiring to see a question like this when most of the questions in here are based on bullshit nonexistent problems. I am confident you will find what you are looking for in life. Thanks for helping to put things into perspective.

puaCurveBall · 2014-08-08T19:03:18+00:00

Honestly this gives you many advantages! First, you are immediately different which is a bit exotic, you'll definitely stand out from the rest of the guys that are hitting on her.

You also have amazing opportunities for kino, as you can ask to feel her face, or just tell her to hold your hand while you talk to her because it makes you feel like you have more of a connection.(or any other excuse)

You can be a bit more explicit with your escalation, and tell her you have to be bold because its hard for you to read her signals, so you need to make moves and then get her to verbally allow or reject you, which only works in your favor.

I know it is fucking cheesy, but you might want to come up with several analogies or wordplay about how being blind lets you connect with people, see them under the skin, makes you less shallow, whatever. Romantic escapism basically about the advantages... it can provide a unique insight as well as be damn sexy.

Good luck!

fuckpasswordrecovery · 2014-08-09T00:36:43+00:00

This is what I picture OP as.

http://images2.memedroid.com/images/UPLOADED44/5246577c2baea.jpeg

TacoT · 2014-08-08T19:54:48+00:00

I don't have a fucking clue, but if you succeed and write a book about it, I'll buy it.

Zack_Fair_ · 2014-08-08T18:29:54+00:00

girls will be interested in you approaching them. it literally never hapens to them, so at the very least they will be intrigued.

plus girls like to think that they are good people, so they will make an effort to be extra nice, which you can use to your advantage. and you will hardly ever get harsh rejections anymore

SpaceTire · 2014-08-08T22:21:41+00:00

what program do you use?

Avicenna1 · 2014-08-08T22:50:45+00:00

How'd you get blind? How old are you?

chadeusmaximus · 2014-08-08T23:57:13+00:00

I have a few questions if you don't mind answering.

What does the world "look like" to you?
Do you dream in color?

I ask, because I had a friend that went blind around 28. For him, the world looked like it was always midnight, with no moon. Sometimes he could see the outline of objects, if the sun was really bright, but never any definition. I think he just the contrast between light and dark.

One time we did an experiment and he looked directly at a TV, nose on the screen. He couldn't see that it was on.

He did dream in color, because he was able to see normally, but gradually lost his sight as he got older. For him, it always made him angry, because he would always have these awesome dreams in full color, and then when he woke up, wouldn't be able to see. Very jarring.

He ended up drinking himself to death a few years later, and died of liver failure.

Not sure why I'm sharing this, other than to say that going blind has got to suck. Guess I needed to get that off my chest.

admirals_go_nuts · 2014-08-08T19:30:55+00:00

You should also try to find a decent friend to wing you. He can filter cute girls and all

LarryLove · 2014-08-08T22:05:34+00:00

Tell girls you want to feel their faces. That can't fail.

DoJax · 2014-08-09T06:31:41+00:00

First, you now dont have to worry about looks, second, dont have to worry about what to read next. Honestly you could just sit in a bar with a friend and when some girl starts talking and your friend nudges you under the table you could be all like "Excuse me ladies, but who does that beautiful voice belong to?"

Also, have to ask OP, have your other senses improved at all?

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wimmyjales · 2014-08-09T03:26:10+00:00

Dude, there are no more ugly women in your world. Only body types. So excluding fat or flat chicks, your dating prospects far outnumber that of a sighted man. Just don't ever ask anyone what your girl looks like, and you're dating anyone you want to picture! Mila Kunis, Jennifer Lawrence, whoever the last hot chick you've seen is, doesn't matter you get to choose their look. If you still want to make sure you bang tens for whatever reason, just pick up a guitar and learn how to play and sing.

txroller · 2014-08-08T20:22:12+00:00

dating sites. This is just a great way to let someone get to know your personality and know about your blindness before meeting you in person. If you have a friend that can screen the girls you chose to respond too it would be helpful of course as well as taking a couple of good pics. Be direct and act fast though. Don't waste time with a lot of messaging. Get a meet up planned in under 3-4 messages.

fuckpasswordrecovery · 2014-08-09T00:33:11+00:00

Good luck to you my friend, though it really doesn't sound like you'll need it.

DiscreteOpinion · 2014-08-09T01:06:38+00:00

Give it time. As long as you don't allow yourself to become discouraged, you'll probably be in here giving conversation tips to the rest of us, sooner than you think.

SpookyKG · 2014-08-09T04:55:28+00:00

Join groups to meet other blind people!

DeMiNe0 · 2014-08-09T11:30:59+00:00

Do you have Macular Degeneration? The way you described your vision is exactly the way my mom describes hers and that's what she has.

With that said, I don't think your going to have(or atleast shouldn't have) many problems with coming up with things to talk about... Not because your blind anyway. You seem like a pretty decent dude. So the only advise on that front that I can give you is just to follow the tips that any person would to make good conversation. Hell your loss of vision could be an entire topic within itself that can burn up a few hours of time.

Make3 · 2014-08-09T12:16:01+00:00

haha so you don't have to care about how good girls look anymore. that must be great. or do you? this must be weird.

sharpii12 · 2014-08-13T13:47:41+00:00

Just wondering, how are you reading this? Do you have a friend to help you or do you have some super cool high tech machine to help you. If the latter is the case, could you please explain the basics of how it works?

adamwizzy · 2014-08-08T23:58:03+00:00

Being blind is almost worth the trade here pal.

I mean you've really hit the jackpot.

Any beta could nail a hottie (everyone) if blind.

Also a great excuse for touching and wearing cool sunglassses inside.

On a different note, how are you reading all of this, does your computer read it out loud?

Title	Gone blind recently. Conversations tips.
Author	highfivetotheface
Upvotes	167
Comments	64
Date	August 8, 2014 4:17 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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