How can I(20F) make it clear that I actually really am looking for something casual?

Chrpropaganda · 2015-09-14T03:05:14+00:00

Just make it clear. Go about getting the date as you normally would and at some point during the night clearly state you're looking for a casual relationship. Once you've done that, the responsibility of making a decision moves over to him.

InscrutablePUA · 2015-09-14T03:58:14+00:00

I have a feeling your real problem is that you're only interested in men who are not interested in you. A reasonably in-shape girl can get laid by 1) applying makeup, 2) going out, 3) having basic social skills which means giving IOIs to a guy she wants to sleep with. (IOI = indicator of interest).

I would actually NOT recommend straight up asking for casual sex as most guys (IN REAL LIFE) would find that weird, like there's something wrong with you. If a guy you like is not moving things towards casual sex, you can say things like "wanna watch a movie at my place" or "i'm so tired and could really use a massage" and he'll get the message.

cdtCPTret · 2015-09-14T04:02:11+00:00

Respond to all his advances on the date. Yes to many IOIs. Give him the "fuck me" eyes. If he doesn't get it from there, you probably don't want to be fucking him anyway. Make him feel your biceps too.

sedtawy · 2015-09-14T03:27:09+00:00

Flirt with guys and be more sexual/forward about it. Typically if the guy is looking for something like that he'll get the hint and go for it.

A good line would be: "To be honest, I'm not really looking for anything serious right now but I don't know, maybe we could still spend some time together." Add some "sexy" eyes and a smile and you should be set.

But always state it clearly before things get too serious (before sex). You are probably looking to sleep with him within a week of meeting or about 1-2 dates.

As for texting. Text whatever you want but if you don't want this guy to at least be a friend, keep it sexual/flirty.

Rorta · 2015-09-14T08:46:50+00:00

You're probably asking the wrong guys. There are men everywhere who do not want a relationship, myself included.

bossbozo · 2015-09-14T13:55:35+00:00

wait you're a female looking for males???? Head over to /r/fwb read the posting rules, post, and enjoy

molotov255 · 2015-09-14T11:09:09+00:00

Single and ready to mingle hmu if interested we can start slow and chatting on kik or whatsapp. If not then best of luck to u

bossbozo · 2015-09-14T13:56:22+00:00

or you can download tinder, set up and account and enjoy, or you know any dating site for that matter

chef_baboon · 2015-09-14T20:06:37+00:00

Have you tried dating sites like okcupid? You can put your interest as casual sex and specify you're looking for a fwb setup. I assure you great success

CrushHazard · 2015-09-14T21:55:38+00:00

I'm gonna venture a guess that the problem is not "relationship vibes" so much. More that you are just being too "guy-ish" in your approach. Unless you are perfect 10 supermodel material, men are going to be turned off if you are too aggressive. Be flirty and fickle. Touch their bicep and say how strong they are. If they get tongue tied, bounce from the venue.

Don't be too direct. There is a video of a mega-hottie in LA asking 100 guys if they want to have sex with her, and only 30-something said yes. Women who approach men for sex are almost always hookers.

Llleblanc1986 · 2015-09-15T04:31:39+00:00

By making it clear that you actually really am looking for something casual..

bizort · 2015-09-14T11:38:30+00:00

People dance around this stuff so much. The benefit to being a female is that you don't have to impress so much so you can be very clear on what you want. Just say it.

When you're young you feel like you have to dance around everything. When you get older you realize it was really silly to be that way and you end up being more direct and life becomes a lot easier. Just say what you want.

karimpii · 2015-09-14T16:22:09+00:00

If you said u just wanted drinks and sex, and the guy thought u were leading him on, I got to question how clearly you worded your statement, or if the guy just didn't listen

DomX · 2015-09-14T11:43:54+00:00

You're a 20 year old female and have this problem? Were you raised in a Little House on the Prairie?

KawnN · 2015-09-14T11:15:23+00:00

act bitchy

NakataFND · 2015-09-14T15:39:45+00:00

Oh you dont have time? I think that you just dont like taking responsibilities or/and you are bad at managing your time or/and like procrastinating. So there are men that can simultaneously have a job, family & other plans and they are able to fulfill them and they even have time to go to gym and play with their kids. And they dont even get congratulated about it but you at age of 20 are unable to find time for a simple relationship. HA! Millions of years of evolution and we are the same stage - lets fuck around and kick some rocks at our free time

DaygameCoach · 2015-09-14T05:27:07+00:00

I've written about casual vs serious and screening and putting out signals for it here:

http://www.daygamer.net/2012/07/06/how-to-get-the-right-girlguy-communication-skills-101/

Title	How can I(20F) make it clear that I actually really am looking for something casual?
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Date	September 14, 2015 2:35 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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