How do you guys do this

UltraAirWolf · 2025-04-20T19:13:36+00:00

The journey of 10,000 miles starts with a single step.

norwegiandoggo · 2025-04-20T19:15:34+00:00

Start smaller.

burncushlikewood · 2025-04-20T23:20:29+00:00

I have bad news for you, that feeling of anxiety when you approach a woman is never going away, you have to push past this feeling and approach anyways. How do we do this? It takes practice and introspection

Doppelgen · 2025-04-20T19:28:18+00:00

Aren’t you being too bold approaching a random girl on the street? I consider myself to be rather successful with women, yet I’d never do that.

I’d suggest you take it easier and start by approaching people in places where it would make at least a liiiitle bit of sense to approach them.

Go step by step until you get there, assuming you even want to get there. I don’t.

Prestigious_Water336 · 2025-04-20T19:17:12+00:00

Just comment about the situation,place,or something happening.

It can be as simple as "hey do you know of any good places to eat around here?" And then proceed from there. Introduce yourself,make some small talk. Get her number. And bam you got it.

ow3ntrillson · 2025-04-20T20:43:03+00:00

I could say ease yourself into it or just jump into it but getting over the hurdle of taking to women is something that you’ll have to decide for yourself to do. 1 piece of advice I can give is try not to overthink it. Don’t try to wow girls at first or assume a personality that you don’t have trying to impress a girl. Keep it light, authentic and casual.

KudaraYT · 2025-04-20T23:55:34+00:00

This is literally me

FriendlyWrenChilling · 2025-04-21T04:19:00+00:00

What I make my students do is to carry a notebook and write down the reason on why they didn't approach. Usually after awhile they will gather like 30 answers, then I will address their limiting beliefs one by one until the problem is resolved.

PeterLamb87 · 2025-04-21T09:03:04+00:00

Find an activity where you are forced to talk and interact with women without trying to fuck em, dance classes are my go to advice, but you cand look something more to your liking.

Rollorich · 2025-04-22T10:05:09+00:00

Read the book the flinch. It's a free pdf online and is fairly short

SmoothVortex · 2025-04-22T18:39:52+00:00

Start talking to people in general. Say good morning, small chats and ao on.

marlostanfielddd · 2025-04-23T20:43:48+00:00

Just start with aproaching one girl

HomelessMilkman · 2025-04-23T22:01:26+00:00

the guys so confident he’ll literally sing to a girl and they’ll eat it up

It's all 'status'.

Why are you anxious? Because you perceive 'threats' in the environment.

A 'high status' guy doesn't see threats and isn't micromanaging how he's coming across, he's just expressing himself freely.

The whole goal is that you don't walk around flinching, reacting, analysing, judging, comparing, you walk around comfortable and relaxed, without the vague notion that anything can 'threaten' you.

Easier said than done, 'situational confidence' is viable, cold approach isn't for everyone but it's also rewarding not needing the approval of your group to function. It's taking the 'safety wheels' off and developing core identity.

Title	How do you guys do this
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Date	April 20, 2025 6:56 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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