How important is it to be able to defend yourself and your partner under the threat of violence?

Agreable_Actuator84 · 2020-12-02T20:50:09+00:00

This seems like a weird mental obsession rather than a serious concern. Maybe a therapist would be of more help to discover why you have this oddly specific thought and what you could do about it.

But all things considered, more muscle mass helps, as does knowing a fighting sport like boxing or bjj. Also getting a concealed carry license, a gun and training. Also get a better job so you can afford to visit locations were you are less likely to be jumped and stop dating skanks with ex con boyfriends.

Unless she is your mom or the mother of your biological children, no woman is worth getting into a fight for.

revente · 2020-12-02T21:15:10+00:00

You are not obligated to protect anyone. So unless you love the girl you are with, you could always run away and call the cops.

If it's the girl that instigated this shit, dump her. It's never worth it to get your ass kicked over some ho.

Anyway, if you actually find yourself in such situation try to stay calm and deescalate.

cottagecorehoe · 2020-12-02T20:49:04+00:00

I think it's important to know when it's a battle worth fighting and what the right response should be.

I don't think it is something you should be worrying about too much; if you're this concerned about it, maybe think about why you are so worried about it? Are you in a place with a lot of violence? Are you scared of losing your partner? Is this something you've witnessed/experienced?

knezevicm96 · 2020-12-02T21:37:11+00:00

As a 5’3 woman, if I were to ever find myself in a dangerous situation with my bf I would not want him to be macho and try to fight someone, even if this person insulted me in some way. I want my man safe and would do anything to calm the situation down.

TheMailmanic · 2020-12-02T22:06:06+00:00

I think it's more important to learn how to de escalate and run. Experienced martial artists will tell you that there's no winning a serious street fight... all you can do is lose less than the other guy. Even if u knock the other guy out you may be permanently crippled or injured.

If u live in a high crime area though you should invest in self defense tools and training.

Women_Should_Suck · 2020-12-02T20:59:23+00:00

My assessment watching many successful guys is that you need to be able to curb aggression. That can be done very successfully in one of two ways, through your own violence or through calming direction. The most successful man I’ve ever met has never been in a fight, but he’s been threatened and defended himself and his friends countless times.

CenaSmackDown · 2020-12-02T22:39:33+00:00

It really depends on how often you go out. If you frequent bars and night clubs you're going to have to protect her more often than if you just went out to church and the movies but that's it. People can even confront you when you go out to dinner. Women are worried about rape and sexual assault quite a bit more than men, but I'm not sure how big of a factor it is when they "choose a mate"

pringlydingly · 2020-12-02T23:38:46+00:00

What everyone here has said is really good. Another word of note, make sure you keep your chill even after you've gained said gun/training/whatever. You should not feel safe even if you have those things, because in the chaos of those kinds of situations anything can happen. You can have a handgun and still get hit over the head with a bottle from behind, etc.

And if you do end up getting into an altercation and handle yourself just fine, if you KO a dude and he tombstones and bounces his head off the concrete and dies, your life could be fucked from that point on.

Awareness, De-escalation, and Removal of yourself from the situation. Always first line. Everything else is not worth it. If your girl calls you a bitch for not fighting a gang of bikers or something, good sign to drop her ass.

Pm_MeyourManBoobs · 2020-12-02T20:32:38+00:00

You are definitely fucked. I'd stop dating right now.

f__kthe_network · 2020-12-02T20:37:10+00:00

Ummmm #merica get a damn pistol.if this is a real concern of yours.. learn to shoot it and be comfortable with it. And all the sudden it won't matter how many pushups you can or can't do ..

badlad-13 · 2020-12-03T07:28:38+00:00

be jim when roy attacked him and jim pushed karen out of the way. If girl is adding fuel to fire u gotta leave her man

Slashzeppelin420 · 2020-12-02T23:51:28+00:00

Other than lifting hard and learning Krav Maga or kickboxing. Might I suggest carrying a pocket knife. A sharp one for emergencies. That’s what I do since the laws here aren’t as lenient as the US for carrying a gun.

gmahogany · 2020-12-03T02:31:21+00:00

All but a couple potentially violent situations I've been in were easily de-escalated by not playing the dick swinging game. If you can keep your adrenaline down, it's much easier to de escalate.

But the only way to keep your adrenaline down is to have a plan if force is required. Box and grapple. When you're used to people putting hands on you and you know how to take down and restrain someone, you have options. If you know how to fight its much easier to avoid a fight. In my opinion, there is no excuse for a grown man to not be prepared for defense. I was insecure about this growing up. It's an essential life skill.

Sakura48 · 2020-12-04T08:21:50+00:00

Try to calm things down but if you have no choice, attack with all you got. Also learning martial arts can help.

ShouldIBuyACardigan · 2020-12-05T10:55:37+00:00

Fighting is stupid. A knife doesn't care if you are 6'2" or 5'2". Just try to leave the situation and call The police

zitandspit99 · 2020-12-21T20:39:50+00:00

Old thread but I have a real life example. My friend and his gf were at the club when these two hella rowdy guys purposefully bumped into his gf. My friend is a body builder and could easily have kicked their scrawny asses - instead, he calmly and cooly just steadied his girl, told her they weren't worth it, took her hand and lead her to another part of the dance floor. And that's it. She was gushing for an entire day afterwards to her friends about it over how safe she feels with him.

On the other hand I have a friend who was super aggressive (he's since calmed down). Someone disrespected his girl once and he flew into a rage and beat the guy's ass. His girl at the time wasn't impressed; she saw him as an immature hothead and began to lose respect for him until she eventually broke it off.

Lesson there is girls far prefer a level headed and calm guy than a hot head.

Title	How important is it to be able to defend yourself and your partner under the threat of violence?
Author	Owamelleh
Upvotes	9
Comments	28
Date	December 2, 2020 8:28 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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