How to last longer in bed?

PrematureCumSpeedRun · 2021-05-03T15:05:09+00:00

reverse kegels, edging, ssri, bro im lifelong pe i have done alot of work and research to cure this, im even on ssri to delay ejaculation in the end , i have maybe increased my fuck time from 10s to 1 min max, its painful for me to believe it will be like this forever i hope i can cure it.

bradpiff0 · 2021-05-03T15:16:08+00:00

Do not squeeze your arse, relax

KitaiTravels · 2021-05-03T18:31:23+00:00

I also wrote about it here: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/n3vd1o/guide_from_kissing_to_sex_how_to_build_tension/

You desensitize with time
You can always go slower, stop or change positions in order to cool down again
Keep breathing

Don't do any bullshit like visualizing your grandma. That's gross and you wanna enjoy your time with that lady, don't you? :D

ALSO women taught me that sometimes they prefer you to come quickly vs suffering to extend the sex.

quantumactual · 2021-05-03T16:09:21+00:00

Have more sex

jbo99 · 2021-05-03T16:20:42+00:00

I multiply 2 as high as I can get in my head. So 2, 4, 8, 16, 32 etc... Usually works to make me last longer because I shift my focus and sort of go into a zone where I’m just going without really focusing super hard on the situation

trippykid42069 · 2021-05-03T16:32:34+00:00

Changes positions or when you feel really close switch it up with some oral. It may only delay it slightly but it’s better than nothing!

TimeToFuckPigeons · 2021-05-04T06:34:59+00:00

Jerk off a couple hours before you go out, then once about 20 minutes before you go out. Round 3 gets hard faster and stays longer, although it doesn’t feel as good and it’s a smaller load.

My advice is eat the girl out first until she finishes, then go in. With some women orgasm 2 is faster and even if you cum too quickly she gets something out of it too. If you’re not into providing oral, you can always finger her instead

MajesticLaw4939 · 2021-05-03T15:44:00+00:00

Get prescribed ED medication. Suggestions for roots and things.. I don't know about that. Maybe it works, the pharmaceutical stuff will definitely help. Your doctor won't judge you, just ask your GP. Have sex more often, try to consider if some of your problem might be psychological. Also stop fapping if you are.

Jack_Khorver · 2021-05-03T16:12:33+00:00

Hahahah i got the same question BUT the opposite man! I litteraly take too much time to cum, sometimes even feel bad for the girl sweating like hell to make me cum like its a challenge. Life is funny tho!

Fun_Branch_9614 · 2021-05-03T14:46:40+00:00

I applaud you for asking!! As I’m not a guy I can’t help. But I wish more guys would be like this.

Snoo5902 · 2021-05-03T17:40:29+00:00

Honestly riding a bicycle for 45 minutes a day makes me capable of chiseling ice sculptures

ChocoSalt · 2021-05-03T19:32:23+00:00

Smoke a little weed before

Nikastreams · 2021-05-03T23:04:55+00:00

Carefully regulated whiskey dick

elyuma · 2021-05-04T00:16:05+00:00

My main problem is to find the girls first. Then i will worry about how to last longer than 30 seconds

FirstAd2519 · 2021-05-03T21:08:14+00:00

I am a woman (47 y.o.), most women DON'T and can't have an orgasm from intercourse. It's all about clitoral stimulation. We don't have ANY nurve endings inside our VG. None. So we can have kids and don't die of pain. We feel pleasure from the intercourse but won't cum. So ask the girl how she needs to be pleasured first and get her off. Then it truly doesn't matter how long you last, 1 min or 10 or 30 seconds.

Edwin_Tzar · 2021-05-03T15:08:56+00:00

Maca root. Ginseng and tong Kat Ali. You can buy them from sprouts

shulgin_ · 2021-05-04T02:48:45+00:00

Wear socks! Haha i cant cum with socks. Also slow down down you're about yo bust, switch postions often. Really get into the mindset of making the girl cum first. If you're a giving lover, eventually, you can time it to when you bust at the same time, and that's super hot for a female. Good luck my man!

OuchCharlieOw · 2021-05-03T19:56:23+00:00

Relax muscles and focus on your breathing. The more your muscles tighten and flex the easier it is to cum. When your breathing is shallow your muscles tense. When your breathing is deep and in the belly you will relax.

BuckFuddy82 · 2021-05-03T20:18:56+00:00

Try Promiscent. Heard good stuff about it.

Assertain68 · 2021-05-03T21:16:17+00:00

Masturbate in the morning every morning And when ur have sex slow down at first . Find a rhythm, then focus on something. If you wanna. I’m look at ur face lol

ProofMud4677 · 2021-05-03T21:46:55+00:00

Have you really been getting more girls in bed? Because usually men who are having sex tend to be able to hold up longer than men who aren’t. At any rate...practice, practice, practice.

GitGud_Pirates_Inc · 2021-05-03T23:55:08+00:00

Get a kegel app, do that as much as you want suggested at least once a day. There's two types of kegels and during sex knowing which to do is helpful as they can make you last long. Of course there are delay sprays, thick condoms, condoms that come with delay get in them.

Relax and think about other things, watch the tv or just try not to focus on what you're attracted to so much during it.

Google is your friend just search up what you want and open hella tabs. I've got hundreds for all sorts of things I want to read, learn, and improve on open and many more bookmarked to read as well.

TTIsurvivors · 2021-05-04T00:24:29+00:00

This also really depends on how long your lasting already and how long you’re trying to last. So can I ask how many minutes you last vs how long you would like to last?

Durex_Canada · 2021-05-03T16:59:37+00:00

This is just a suggestion but some condoms are designed with Performax lubricant on the inside to help him last longer and ribs and dots on the outside to increase her stimulation😉

SeanWhoWonders · 2021-05-03T15:46:37+00:00

Are you on anti depressants? Zoloft has this nice side effect for me. Sometimes I just give up exhausted, but my wife loves it!

notonthat · 2021-05-03T20:31:26+00:00

I might be different for a couple reasons but what I typically do is start slow. Almost more sensually. Sometimes I drive hard a couple times and stop, and if I feel close to ejaculating I just breathe deep, stay present and tighten up the muscles around the prostate or bladder. Usually after a couple seconds this leads to a complete relaxation of the process and I keep going. The other thing about me, and I don’t know why it happens is I can stay hard for quite a long while after ejaculating. So typically when I am ready to go and they are super turned on I will start going hard, and after I ejaculate basically fuck them properly for about 5-15 minutes, sometimes longer at varying speeds

I always love everything pre-ejaculation (I love everything but the sensitivity is wild before I ejaculate) so I have always focused on keeping myself from ejaculating for as long as I can as kind of a self torture. Girls love it. Just talk dirty to them, tell them they turn you on so fucking much you’re on the verge of exploding into them but you’re not going to yet, and they will usually get into it, sometimes even fuck with you and try and get you to ejaculate before you want to. Just focus on self-torturing yourself and loving it and being present with them.
You can also do this masturbating, keep bringing yourself to almost going, stop. Do it again. Stop. Do it again until you can take it anymore

MikeHonch0o · 2021-05-14T14:43:09+00:00

A lot of people have good methods for while you’re actually with the girl some ways to help before you see the girl is to 1.) if you have enough time jerk off earlier that day but try not to blow your whole load. 2.) practice, whenever I jerk off and I get close to cumming I stop and relax for a second and it’s basically like edging yourself while also building up your tolerance to cumming quickly and easily once I started doing this a few years back most times I last at the very least 30 minutes typically longer and have always put on a good show

ww7419 · 2021-05-03T17:14:22+00:00

Think about grandma.

Ordinary_Wheel_7785 · 2021-05-03T20:06:48+00:00

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dmk728 · 2021-05-03T21:41:10+00:00

Do complex math in your head

beecoscad · 2021-05-03T22:19:13+00:00

If your prick can handle it and your patient, numbing the tip with a lidocaine solution works for me. I found it best to use the no mess applicator to rub the solution on. It works quick with only minor initial discomfort and dries fast. It'll keep it numb for a solid thirty minutes to an hour.

So it then becomes a game of maintaining your stiffness rather then trying not to ejaculate. I found it to be easier this way, with the only caveat being you'll have to wait a descent amount of time to regain feeling and reach your own climax.

By that time, if your skilled enough, you should be able to get your woman to climax at least once if not more if your receptive and attending to her needs properly. Additionally, she'll become even more attentive and fixated on returning the pleasure you've given her.

Demnian1422 · 2021-05-04T06:56:15+00:00

How are you getting girls in bed? I am honestly asking.

Arurry · 2021-05-04T11:06:04+00:00

Jerk off earlier in the evening before the event starts. Sort of like prep.

Jamesdoink · 2021-05-04T13:41:30+00:00

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Andrew_stack23 · 2021-05-16T13:45:16+00:00

your pelvic floor is what causes ejaculation it tightens and then pulses causing an ejaculation reverse kegels allow you to relax your pelvic floor to reduce arousal to last longer and also practice it with masturbation to get the feeling

Itsthesamethinggg · 2021-06-09T11:23:12+00:00

First, don’t beat your meat or watch porn.

Second, it’s all a mind game. When you are relaxed and confident you will last a lot longer, I went from busting in like 30 seconds to lasting about 8 minutes. And the second round I can last for about 30. Getting into cardio helped get a better breathing technique that allows me to stay relaxed. I’m also a lot more confident knowing I can last more that a couple pumps. And also you don’t gotta be going at it for 10 min straight, you can slowdown and even pull it out and do other stuff.

You’ll know what I mean when you get the hang of it. Best of luck to all.

Healthy_Ad7621 · 2021-06-17T12:25:03+00:00

Breathing is huge...... I couldn’t last long at all! Due to jacking off at high speeds when younger to not get caught.. quietly too. Read the book multi orgasmic man! So many damn tips.. although I have not mastered it I have been able to take some of the tips and techniques and last longer in bed with my girlfriend. It was to the point where she was getting very frustrated. Book states in 3-6 months you can become non ejaculatory and send your orgasm up into your brain through your spine. And then down to your naval. Sounds crazy but I’m starting to believe lol! I haven’t been able to pull it up my spine yet but just concentrating on breathing has helped me last 5-10 minutes. Kegels and relax yourself through breathing. If you’re focused on breathing you become a little less aroused but can stay harder longer. I know what you mean.. I would get so fucking aroused by the thought of sex. And my girl is so damn fine and her body is out of this world.. but with enough practice on your own you can overcome! I still have a lot to learn but I am feeling so damn confident and hearing her fucking moan and yell my name like they do in the pornos is just amazing to hear.. you got this

Title	How to last longer in bed?
Author	Ordinary_Wheel_7785
Upvotes	45
Comments	78
Date	May 3, 2021 2:42 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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