How to make my personality attractive.

punktfan · 2024-05-30T08:31:38+00:00

This is a very general question, so I'll give you a very general answer. Stop being “cute/childish/young/nice/friendly/boring”, and be your authentic self even when you think people won't like you for it. Some people won't, and that's good. If you want to be more attractive, you need to be more polarizing. It will repel the right people, and it will attract the right people. So, say what you think. Have your own opinion. Disagree with people. Don't apologize. None of that means that you have to be rude or act like a dick. Just don't compromise yourself to please other people.

AssistTemporary8422 · 2024-05-30T14:33:47+00:00

Your problem isn't that you lack some specific tricks and tips. Its that you lack the emotions. When you feel flirty, sexual, teasing, and/or romantic you will do those things automatically. But maybe right now you feel anxious, low self-esteem and needy for approval. Other emotions that are useful are self-amusing, fun loving, humorous, thrill seeking, confident, and assertive. In the past I've used standup comedy clips to prime myself for social interactions. It wasn't the specific jokes that helped me but that fun humorous vibe that it put me in. Emotions is a big reason why many people seem to be more fun when they drink alcohol or use weed or other substances.

trifling-pickle · 2024-05-30T15:02:34+00:00

How to win friends and influence people is a good book to read. It helped me realize how simple it is to relate with others, which could help you figure out how to hold/maintain conversations.

Available_Bass9725 · 2024-05-30T10:25:28+00:00

be manipulative and emotionally unavailable but at the same time learn to carry every conversation.

jackthehat6 · 2024-05-30T08:24:28+00:00

I also don’t know what women find attractive, is it someone’s joking and throwing jokes, is it someone who asks questions and get to know them. Or what exactly

it depends on the girls personality and more importantly, whether she is attracted to you or not:

There's guys who crush it by being very jokey and humerous

There's guys who crush it by being very 'stoic' and serious

There's guys who crush it by being super direct about their intentions and make their attraction crystal clear (used to be called 'mode1' game)

There's guys who crush it by being very INdirect about their intentions and basically pretend they're not attracted to her (more 'mysterymethod')

There's guys who crush it who approach and 'neg' and and roast the girl

There's guys who crush it who approach and are friendly and complimentary about her etc

There's really no rules, tbh (which is why every PUA coach tends to massively disagree with each other lol)

I think I can tell within a few seconds of the open whether i'm gonna be wasting my time or not (e.g if she's attracted to me or not)

DaygameCode · 2024-05-30T14:00:44+00:00

1 - Opener and setting the playful flirty tone right away. Wanna establish myself as a flirt right away to avoid the small talk and NPC vibe.

2 - Accidental physical touch to break the touch barrier organically.

3 - Switch from impersonal to personal topics of conversation where i get her to talk about herself so she can show the type of person she is and we also can build a solid connection

4 - Make sure that we are isolated to set the stage for flirting without “activating” her defences (slut factor)

5 - Express what i find different about her to justify in a solid way my romantic/sexual interest in the next step. (Getting her to believe she is not just another girl of the countless that i might hit on)

6 - Show/express sexual interest by flirting sexually to create sexual tension and avoid being friendzoned.

7 - Intentional physical touch to test the waters about whether she is ready to be kissed and reinforce the flirtation

8 - Kiss close | Nothing sexual just to reinforced that something romantic happened, and that she is loving a fantasy

9 - Phone close | Suggesting a date idea and if she agrees, then take her number

10 - Consolidate after phone close by talking 2 minutes more fantasising out loud about the upcoming date with her and leave.

11 - First text | An inside joke about the encounter to remind her of the emotional mood she was in before i left.

Ideal time for the approach: 15 minutes

Ideal place to approach: Train trip, public parks/beach

Hope it helps, and if it doesn’t skip. This is what works for me.

PS: I can do zoom session if you DM me and I’ll explain each step with examples.

BurnItDownSR · 2024-05-30T07:53:36+00:00

Sounds like you're new here. Maybe you haven't read the rule about questions that are too broad.

The simple answer to this is "learn game" while the more detailed answer would be someone teaching you game or giving you a laundry list of things to learn which will essentially have you learning game.

Like I said, too broad. You'll get your answer from just reading through the advice on this subreddit.

iuliuss_ · 2024-05-30T09:27:11+00:00

Men has 3 pillars of attractiveness:

You should feel comfortable in your skin
You should know where you are going
You should make sure to have fun while going there

It sounds very abstract and generic but I hope you understand and adjust with your life.

vinmar222 · 2024-05-31T16:34:14+00:00

In short, its not what you say but how you say it. A flirtatious vibe starts with the nonverbals. Its the way you talk, the way you carry yourself, its the dominant, calm, self assured confidence in your voice, the pauses, eye contact and lack of nervous behaviours, the list goes on. A boring conversation on paper can be brought to life in any intended way (flirty, sexual, funny, interesting, exciting etc) just by the way you express the words through your non verbals.

Sounds like you also need to see some examples of what this actually looks like at a high level, not to copy but to have an idea.

Its not something I can help you with without hearing you in a conversation, If you wanna record an audio of you talking to some women i should be able try help you with the issue. Dm me if you want

SaaSWriters · 2024-05-30T10:03:12+00:00

The first thing is to find out who you actually are. Right now, you’re trying to figure a persona that you think women will find attractive. To be fair, most guys do that which is why most guys are unattractive.

InstructionAbject763 · 2024-05-31T02:17:05+00:00

No. Your personality is yours. The right person will find your personality attractive

But, personality is like hygiene

You could be hot af nagurally but trapped on a desert usland for two weeks, and no ldy would want you.

Fantastic-Life-2024 · 2024-05-31T07:47:42+00:00

being “cute/childish/young/nice/friendly/boring”,

That worked years ago but now you're a grown man and you meet grown women it doesn't work now.

rich_god · 2024-05-30T07:53:45+00:00

What are the most exciting aspects of your life ? What turns you on in your day-to-day life ?

If you’re excited and authentically fulfilled by your life, you will attract people and opportunities. If you depend on women to have your needs met and to feel alive, you will be needy and repulsive.

wixenus · 2024-05-30T10:58:21+00:00

Find it. Try to do new things in life, go outside, try to get out of your comfort zone, meet new people, talk to them, try to understand what you like, try to understand what you dislike. It's too early for you to worry about dating. For a healthy relationship with yourself and others, find out who you are first.

My best tip for you would be getting a notebook and note what did you do that week that is out of your routine, what did you try and did you like it, which part of it did you like or dislike. As you fill the notebook, you will see that there will be patterns that emerge from the pages. These are the hints of your original personality. Embracing them would be great steps to fully immerse yourself in your personality.

Believe me, every personality is attractive to some people, you don't need to do anything to make it attractive. You just need to present yours better at the end.

Title	How to make my personality attractive.
Author	ThrowRahlly
Upvotes	12
Comments	30
Date	May 30, 2024 7:18 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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