How to not get played

OpinionThink481 · 2026-05-08T00:31:58+00:00

You can only get played when you don't do things because you want to them regardless of what the other person does, but because you think you should or are dependent of her.

The moment you understand that everything you do is because you want to and that you always do things at your own risk, not because someone forced you with a gun to do it, you can't get played because you had already made peace that what you do is because you wanted to do that regardless of any outcome.

It's basically attaching yourself to the action and detaching yourself from the result of your actions. You do what you want and then let fate decide what results you get without expectations, instead of trying to control things you accept that you can only control what you want to do and then let whatever happens, happen.

So if you want something communicate clearly what you want instead of guessing or interpreting behaviors, and then know what type of clear answer you want to receive after you communicated what you want explicitly. Never assume that things should be obvious, or self-evident that they don't need to be said.

And lastly remember that anything a woman says she wants today can change at any moment simply becasue she no longer feels like it the next day or week. So never make choices based on promises that are never actually contracts. Always make sure that what you do is what you want to do regardless of the promises that may or may not ever be fulfilled.

CharacterStrategy598 · 2026-05-08T00:23:18+00:00

Remember how in high school and college girls didn't care about money? Try to recreate what they desire with those you chose.

Sorry-Place6291 · 2026-05-08T00:05:46+00:00

Not enough context bro

Disastrous_Affect742 · 2026-05-08T00:32:51+00:00

Offer something to women money , status, or looks can't offer

ghrinz · 2026-05-08T01:51:53+00:00

The only way you can achieve this, if you’re playing and not in autopilot.

MineDesperate2920 · 2026-05-08T02:21:45+00:00

Don’t let your emotions get involved and u won’t

anection · 2026-05-08T09:19:33+00:00

Actually you can understand this from their behaviour. So try to gain some experience with the girls. Have some short and long term relationships. Try to observe how they act when the are dating someone they find attractive.

ReindeerFun3762 · 2026-05-08T22:00:07+00:00

If you don't want to get played stay away from younger women with the most options. Those are the majority of women that will play games cuz they have so many options they don't care what happens with most guys

jordaboop · 2026-05-10T06:49:37+00:00

You have rigid principles and you stick with them.

Sounds like you want a relationship? if so, only advance or do things for a woman if her goals align with yours.

"How do i know if she's genuine?" that's the game, you need to figure it out.

Also, being an absolute chad is going to help. Getting ripped, rich and socially amazing will help you. So work on those things too, because I've found out that a woman who's primally attracted to you as a man can't even comprehend playing you, she's way too lost in her feminine to do some fuck shit. But also, know you have to maintain that (in various ways) for the rest of your life cos once you give her the ick it's get very hard to recover.

I say this as respectfully as I can, you basically imagine that you're dealing with a child. They can't comprehend all your male bullshit like honour or principles, they just want whatever their feelings ask for and they will override anything for that, which is why you see a shitload of women staying with chad when he cheats because her feelings are saying she's attracted to him and wants him to settle for her even though he doesn't. Likewise if she somehow gets with you but her feelings are saying you're a fat ugly nerd then she will justify a way to leave you which includes cheating, because to her.. feelings are king.

Title	How to not get played
Author	Kindly-Tough-2091
Upvotes	0
Comments	12
Date	May 7, 2026 11:59 PM UTC (3 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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