I don't understand,why do men think the only way to get a woman attracted to them is with money? It's not true.

Umbran_scale · 2020-06-07T10:39:27+00:00

The guys using money as a means of attraction generally don't care about receiving connection on an emotional level and only on a surface level, why do you think sugar daddies, trophy wives and the like exist?

Far as they're concerned, if their money has gotten them into their pants then that's all they need done.

earsurgery9 · 2020-06-07T08:06:13+00:00

that only works on older women.

Young girls in my experience couldn't care less.

If they think you are good looking, you can live in your mums basement and be forever jobless. I've seen that happen TONNES of times for good looking dudes lol

Money isn't 'attraction'. She's 'attracted' too a guy she thinks is handsome and sexy. Money doesn't make her 'attracted'

IamNotKirkCousins1 · 2020-06-07T16:31:20+00:00

I work in the tech industry with a lot of wealthy software engineers. This is absolutely true. I would go even further. In today’s world, unless you are making fuck you money, it’s somewhat irrelevant in large metro areas. If you make enough to live on your own and not have to worry about minor expenses, that is enough. Other things matter way more. Can you hold a conversation? Are you funny sometimes? Are you in shape? Is there anything interesting about you? Do you have legitimate long term goals? Are you socially normal? Etc (shocker: most guys who are struggling dating would be a no in all of the previous things I just stated)

Making money is way overvalued by a lot of men about how far money can take them. They think that it works because they eventually get a girlfriend and marry her when they’re in their mid 30s. Like buddy, it’s not because of the money. It’s because she has a biological clock, is aging, physical appearance decreasing in value with age, and her amount of choices has dwindled drastically from when she was in her late teens/20s. She didn’t choose you because you were making mid 6 figures (but most will rationalize that it was in large part because of that). She chose you because she ran out of choices and is time capped on having kids. For guys out there who randomly start seeing a ton of success in their 30s dating (when they’ve never had any before), proceed with severe caution when marrying

Speaking to the guys in my industry, most of you aren’t getting laid and you’re in the top 5% of income in the US. This should tell you something. You need to work on other parts of your life besides your job

STD_Tyler · 2020-06-07T08:16:47+00:00

That's how money can get you laid more:

1- Good clothes

2-Good perfume, good male grooming products, better skin care..etc

3 - She will see you live in your own place and not in a shared room, so more chance for a long term relationship than fucking you and dumping you..

4 - Good car

5 - Professional photographers for instagram/dating apps

6- More money can buy you more freedom to socialize

7 - More money can make you more confident (in most cases)

8 - More money can make you happier (in most cases)

So good inner game = better results with women

9- Good haircut

10- Hire personal trainers, buy supplements/steroids/exercise equipments ..etc

11- Plastic surgery, hair transplant or even change your teeth to veneers..etc

12- It is easier to build a social circle when you look successful rather than being ubereats cyclist. Successful people want to be surrounded by people of same league, sorry.

13- And yes, it is human nature that she will get attracted to your rich, power and status. That's females nature and doesn't mean they are ALL gold diggers.

And the list goes on...

aarjunn01 · 2020-06-07T10:21:42+00:00

Money gives power and reach. Men obviously are expected to look after the survival in terms of evolution. Hence women see men with money as a good catch.

pablitosocool · 2020-06-07T16:46:47+00:00

i want money more than sex.

Amin-911 · 2020-06-07T18:11:29+00:00

Money give you more opportunities with women.

Martyisruling · 2020-06-07T21:52:44+00:00

Well, because people grab the first and most simple answer they can latch onto.

It's not the money, so much as stability and confidence. Men with money usually have an abundance of both.

Men without a girl, like to have reasons other than what's wrong with them or what they're not doing for not having one.

I wouldn't worry too much about it.

2020-06-08T04:57:27+00:00

Women aren’t attracted to money. They’re attracted to status.

If they see a man walking down the street with a tailored suit and nice shoes they don’t think, “This guy must have money”. They think, “This guy must be high value”.

DajuanKev · 2020-06-07T15:40:35+00:00

Money is an initial interest, case and point. lol

are_u_serious4574 · 2020-06-07T16:24:23+00:00

I meant to say that unfortunately some women are gold diggers 💰💰💰

leadfootasshole · 2020-06-07T07:25:59+00:00

It’s so much as the money but as the confidence+security that having some cash brings. Nicer clothes, better food, or even just the ability to enjoy certain events all might just make an insecure guy more chill and if he’s more chill+has money it’s a lot easier to get lady attention

Fluganaveggnum · 2020-06-07T10:19:51+00:00

I don't understand, why do you think men think the only way to get women is money?

anto2554 · 2020-06-07T07:25:09+00:00

Some folks really can't understand that money doesn't buy everything. In the end, I pity them, since what they get is hardly ever worth the price they pay.

Striking-Resort · 2020-06-07T15:06:37+00:00

Money is not the only way but it’s the easier way

Dominus-Prime- · 2020-06-07T15:53:55+00:00

Attraction is easy. It requires emotional stimulation not money. You are correct

danielhuffman1973 · 2020-06-07T18:12:53+00:00

kieston · 2020-06-07T18:36:41+00:00

Then write down everyone you've dated approximately how much they've made and figure out how many people you've dated that have made less than $20,000.

Primalkingdating · 2020-06-07T19:24:12+00:00

Here is the honest truth. Money does help to attract women. No one will deny that. But it is not the end all and be all. Personally, I used to get laid when I was a security guard. The simple fact is that you as a man should want to be successful because you want to be successful and it will improve your life. Not because you want to get women.

JonSmithSnow · 2020-06-08T05:06:33+00:00

Money gives you certain characteristics: confidence, charisma, and so on. If you’re able to cultivate these characteristics without money, then you’ll attract females without money.

quickjump · 2020-06-08T06:28:02+00:00

I can only guess and say that maybe those men have been rich their whole lives and since money is just a tool, they've only known how to use that tool for every problem in their life. I'm sure money was all it took to get them girls. Some girls don't fall for it, but others do.

flamingleo1 · 2020-06-08T23:28:57+00:00

Wealth in general will attract people in your life because the lifestyle is desired by everyone. Most people who end up becoming parents don't have life goals figured out or have experience, because of this they don't have a blue print to pass on to their children. That's because parenting is the biggest life lesson anyone will ever have to do.

This is why role models are so important and also important to to teach your children good habits and philosophies from a young age to stimulates strong mental strength in who they are. This is why most crime bosses get recruits at a young age.

Overall most people who don't have society definition of wealth, but are working towards a 6 figure life (everyone). This allows them to create the a mental condition or excuse of not having time to spend time with their families creating a disconnect.That allows television and social media or community to raise their kids ultimately give your child a racial assignment to identify with.

That teaches the wrong things without proper guidance which distracts people from the bigger picture of good habits in life (working hard, investing into gain experience in ones self, making connections, doing things that are hard, commitment, not making excuses etc.) creating overall low quality personalities.

Obviously I am speaking from the low income aspect covering some issues and I know wealthy people have a whole set of issues too, but that's my opinion while keeping it short-lish.

RealPinky · 2020-06-07T08:22:51+00:00

Well looks like they really don't understand..

lolopolo999 · 2020-06-07T10:27:37+00:00

Being too nice also never works. Know your worth folks. Shoot your shot and move on if it doesn't work.

mavad91 · 2020-06-07T14:38:10+00:00

No, being good looking attracts them...

SkullJoker77 · 2020-06-07T15:03:54+00:00

Women love money like men like sex

So yes, money, and LOTS of it, works.

Pink_Hanna · 2020-06-07T11:42:21+00:00

If you have a lot of money, you don't need a personality. If you have a great personality, you don't need money.

qkatrk · 2020-06-07T10:20:57+00:00

Everybody wants to secure their future somehow. And what we have been told through media is basically spend. So, instincts are growing up like that. Fighting an instinct is harder than having kind manners from the men's perspective. On the contrast, women have the similar instincts but they have been taught one more thing like "Men should male the first move, men's duty is to supply for her women, so why only be ok with the money? Expect more". I know this is a very shallow and easy judgement but Ocham's razor suggests the simplest explanation to be true and I just freestyled it.

Sorry for what you have been through but do take the money seriously in the first place but check ambition, eagerness. Then you can check everything else.

I am goofy and I lost many battles for woman because I simply have no money but everytime I am with a woman, even only messaging, I made sure that I am putting a smile on her and try to show her that I am ambitious enough to deserve a chance. Thanks for the reading have fun.

d_thstroke · 2020-06-07T13:27:20+00:00

that's how it is in my uni, everyone thinks money is the way. I'm actually happy to be one of the few people with knowledge about women, less competition and I hope it stays that way

Nottoday3211 · 2020-06-07T08:49:16+00:00

women are very complicated and you never tell the truth of your feelings, I compare you to cats. It is true that you will always be attracted to extrovert men who show their materials, be it a car, clothing, better work, that is, have a stable life in general. You are always interested when you are single with married men or men in a relationship. not everyone is the same but as a general rule it is that, the fame of a person or high status catches your attention.

CryingFreeman123 · 2022-05-13T17:04:01+00:00

Well think about current culture. We constantly see successful men, successful women, unsuccessful men and women posting the good and or impressive parts of their lives exclusively.

When society sees that all the time, then look at their own lives and how they're not doing or experiencing these lives, it makes some feel like shit and makes others look at normal people as shit.

Tinder is a prime cause too. It's designed to get money from the more desperate group, men, by hiding most profiles for the sake of the wealthier, better looking men. This has a negative effect on women too, giving them an idea that any man beneath the boosted profiles, regardless of personality or interests, is a failure and not worth their time. Normal users don't understand that Tinder is a business and stealthily promotes unhealthy matches to make money.

Gold digger stories are also louder than normal healthy relationship stories. There are tons of women out there who look down on men for having less money, thats a fact, but media and societal expectations tell both men and women that they should have more money or should only seek out those with money respectively.

And, might catch flack for this one, but feminism too. This isn't in any way slamming or criticizing feminism but with women becoming more successful, earning higher end positions, and earning more than they have historically, it raises the expectations of who the men they should be with can be. The above mentioned success is not a negative, just wanna make that completely clear, but it is a shift in a society that has always operated very differently. It's leading to more divorces as well, as women no longer "need a man" to earn for them, hence expecting men to provide more and more than they ever have as well.

Basically it's all culture and society, not to sound cliche. And I'm not looking at it as a negative or positive, just seeing it for what it is. Where that'll lead us, who knows, but things are indeed different now. From old school sexist attitudes sticking around to the new cultural attitudes making way, people are more confused than ever and adapting is difficult.

Title	I don't understand,why do men think the only way to get a woman attracted to them is with money? It's not true.
Author	bayfarm
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Date	June 7, 2020 7:20 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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