I’m stuck at getting 8s

Professional-Comb759 · 2025-11-17T10:19:23+00:00

Check your rating. People tend to rate themselves higher than they are. Iguess in reality you are a 3 at best a 4.

stylerTyler · 2025-11-17T10:44:29+00:00

Dafuq is wrong with the young generations running around assigning random numbers to people based on their own perception of whatever dumb criteria they may have

GrouchNslouch777 · 2025-11-17T12:46:16+00:00

Bitch you're stuck getting 3s stop lying

Accomplished_Egg_928 · 2025-11-17T14:45:08+00:00

It boils down to how you speak to them. If you've got it in your head that they are a 9 or 10 and you can only achieve 8s, you will naturally treat them differently from 7s & 8s. Take risks, treat them as a normal person and flirt. But you need you get to know them beyond the surface level and then tease them about things they do, bring them down a bit off their pedalstool, then build them back up, keeping it light and flirty. They will defend themselves.

They will be taken back a bit that you have balls, and will start investing in you.

However, there are some who know they can get Chad's easily and therefore no matter what you do, they will always reject you, and that's OK, you don't want to be with them anyway. But stop focusing on how hot they are, you're already losing when you do that.

TripleDigitNomad · 2025-11-17T17:02:01+00:00

8s are already the usual peak for the average guy. 9s require another level of money, status, fame, or looks to seduce.

I honestly prefer the 8s, personally. Less bullshit to deal with.

Rhino3750ss · 2025-11-17T11:30:56+00:00

With these level of women, confidence isn't enough

You have to raise your perceived preselection level above your actual preselection level.

You are actually preselected by 8s, which is why you are stuck with 8s.

Any one girl needs to feel you have had or could get equal or hotter women than her to feel safe with you.

The good news is women prioritize perceived value they can observe over actual value that they cannot.

Just make behavioral changes to how you speak so you can make a 10 feel like you already have access to 10s.

If they look at you with disgust, they are sensing some form of giddy ness or urgency on your part, which signals non selection among her beauty level. The hotter the girl, the more she can feel it even if its just in your subconscious.

Be more patient with how you speak and your subconscious will adjust to give the right signals. However low and slow you keep your tone and cadence with the 8s, take it down another notch. Most important, act dumber.

norwegiandoggo · 2025-11-17T11:06:23+00:00

What is the opener you use? Is it a direct opener?

mraees93 · 2025-11-17T11:39:42+00:00

It's most definitely your looks.. When i lost enough weight i noticed a pattern where mostly 7+ women were open and friendly. They were still shy but not as standoffish as the lower value women

Successful_Engine191 · 2025-11-17T13:03:53+00:00

Dress in a suit to have perceived value and importance and see if that does anything, just spitballing.

FinancialEmotion3526 · 2025-11-17T13:10:05+00:00

You need to have money or a really cool career (or talent) to date a gorgeous girl. You need to be genuinely charismatic and interesting, if wealth is not in the picture.

If girls are disgusted when you approach them, you don’t have neither charisma nor the looks.

Inevitable_Branch720 · 2025-11-19T15:24:12+00:00

I recently learned through filming myself and having it reviewed by someone more experienced...that I was distorting reality when it came to the 8+. My vibe was different , a bit confrontational from resentment I had from years of rejection. My mentor had to reset myindset and show me that I had to be a cool , normal guy first. With a touch of dominance. You get those girls by not trying to impress them and leading like a mofo.

After it clicked I started having lays with 8+ pretty quickly.

That being said your game has to be decent in the first place. If they look at you with disgust: 1. Fix your fashion. Lake sure you don't look out of touch or "bummy". Fashion is more about social cues than looking good.

Talk slower. Put yourself in first position in your mind. You are more important than her so take your time while you're talking.
Stop with the compliment openers. No clue why the idea is so widespread that it's the best way to approach. If a fat chick walks up to you and calls you cute

Are you having sex with her just because she gave you a compliment ?

Prestigious_Water336 · 2025-11-25T12:15:39+00:00

Attractive people are attracted to other attractive people.

If you're not on the same level of looks, they're probably not going to be interested in you.

J1mmy_white · 2025-11-17T10:35:57+00:00

Money solves everything

FixAccomplished9993 · 2025-11-17T10:27:34+00:00

Really depends on the situation and which subculture these women are in.

I've approached women who would reject me if I met her on the street but would be all over me if we met as an exclusive social club where they know everyone is preselected.

There are certain types of women that you can't get via cold approach alone because the risk is too high for them and they already have too much good candidates within their circles to make sense for them to go for some dude she just meets.

Title	I’m stuck at getting 8s
Author	Logical_Procedure260
Upvotes	0
Comments	25
Date	November 17, 2025 10:13 AM UTC (8 months ago)
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