Imagining my future as if I will be single for the rest of my life

norwegiandoggo · 2022-02-16T07:37:45+00:00

I think it's probably an exercise to help you better decide what's right for you. I haven't done it, but I think it's really helpful to project multiple scenarios in the future so you can be better prepared for several outcomes. Often times, unhappiness in life comes from being dissapointed because you had too high expectations. By doing this exercise you are creating multiple expectations, and you will be better prepared and you won't take such a hit to your happiness if either less desirable scenario happens for you.

I will also say, just as a criticism to all of this. That there's no reason to even ponder this decision at this moment. No-one is holding a gun to your head and telling you that you have to decide for the REST OF YOUR LIFE whether you want to remain single. I mean, things change. Maybe you feel one way now, and another way 3 years from now..that's okay..you can change your mind. This supposed "decision" is silly to make for your entire life into the future. You don't know what the future holds or how you will feel in 5-10 years time. You should only care about how you feel now, and make a decision whether you want to be in a relationship or single now. It's like "make a decision now if you want to be single or in a relationship when you're 70 years old".. why? It makes no sense. I have noe clue how I will feel about this then.

yourlittleman01 · 2022-02-16T10:45:18+00:00

To be honest, you don't really know what will happen in the future, however I think you shouldn't hope too much to prevent yourself from being disappointed.

BigShuggy · 2022-02-16T16:57:22+00:00

If you aren’t seeing a girl right now I really don’t understand how the two weeks would be different. Like whether or not you plan on getting into a relationship in the future, surely you’ll just be going about your business in accordance with your beliefs and goals. Even if the relationship is considered a goal in one of the weeks, it’s not a lot of time to see a big change in behaviour.

EU-Howdie · 2022-02-16T12:06:20+00:00

Waw, I think you have a wonderful and practical, pragmatical therapist. Really, that is my opinion. Sometimes people loose themselves in thoughts, assumings and fantasizings. And you can waist months, years, even decades in that, doing that. But .... the proof is in eating the pudding. Maybe after the first byte (or the first weekend you are single and feel alone) you already realize ... no, this is nothing for me, it is not what I really want in life. Wonderful therapist!

UrFavPlayerIsBack · 2022-02-16T07:37:23+00:00

Chasing relationships is a feminine duty

Men gotta focus on his path and journey

Right woman for ya will meet u sooner or later. And join ur journey. Be in a supportive role. Otherwise you’ll waste ur, and her time..

1hatethis · 2022-02-16T07:41:34+00:00

That’s copied straight out of stoicism. Stop paying your therapist. Go read the Enchiridion or something

tskank69 · 2022-02-16T11:30:45+00:00

My 25 year old brother has decided that women are a plague and that he will be married to money. He says the meaning of his existence is having more money than someone else when he dies, thus proving his superiority.

FactCheckYou · 2022-02-16T12:52:59+00:00

interesting! what do you imagine will be different between the first week and the next?

CantAlibi · 2022-02-16T13:29:29+00:00

So you're killing urself right? Cuz that'd be my plan.

uglyandIknowit1234 · 2022-02-16T16:45:28+00:00

Yes and it made me miserable but its reality for me seeing as I rarely fall in love and always get rejected and a relationship is torture for me when I’m not in love

jjboy91 · 2022-02-16T20:26:46+00:00

I'm always getting rejected so I made my peace with it and enjoy life alone. It's not fun every but it worked so far.

PondScum420 · 2022-02-17T01:25:27+00:00

I think it’s a good way to go about it because people get lose themselves in the pursuit of a lover. I think treating yourself like you’ll always be single, grounds you in yourself more. I’ve also seen countless people stop challenging themselves once they get in a relationship, that or they forget about their personal dreams and desires. It’s a better way to be imo

Title	Imagining my future as if I will be single for the rest of my life
Author	HotDogRandy
Upvotes	92
Comments	41
Date	February 16, 2022 7:20 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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