is the dating world superficial or accepting?

PugsleyAdams4 · 2022-08-02T04:42:03+00:00

There's below average women too. But if you are talking about hot women and unattractive men it's possible, but those guys have other things going for them. High confidence from a successful career, being charismatic, born leaders or being somewhere on the dark triad spectrum. It's definitely not "nice guys".

Women choose from what's available, and their mind always looks for what seems to be the best choice for procreation.

atomant88 · 2022-08-02T04:17:12+00:00

the 'average man' is pretty pathetic bro. if youre average or below youre putting in no effort. get a haircut, wear some cologne, dress well, shower and shave regularly, and then youre already ahead of most guys. if you can hit the gym, work on your diet, find a car, a nice apartment, then youre pulling way ahead of average.

but the number one thing most guys are lacking is charm. charisma. just get an ounce of that and youre made.

do not worry about the average man. or being the average man. worry about maximizing what you have. just a small bit of effort and you'll be set

daddysgotanew · 2022-08-02T12:16:59+00:00

It’s brutal even for above average men like myself. Women are constantly shopping for the best, usually looks wise but they will take men with exceptional qualities in other areas (lots of money, status, big dick)- these are those men that make you go “how the hell did he get her”. Well that’s how.

The idea that you can be some average-all-around schmuck and get a hot girl with just game is nothing more than a fantasy. You have to offer something that other men can’t.

neversleeps212 · 2022-08-02T07:35:13+00:00

You get out what you’re putting in. If you’re only tryna date 23-year-old models then best believe they’re gonna judge you on how hot and rich yiu are. And if you’re only tryna smash without putting any time or effort into getting to know the girl or develop a connection, don’t be surprised when the girls who will hookup only want super jacked chads.

Not saying you should date unattractive women either but come in looking to find an emotional connection and get to know other people as actual individuals and you’ll find things more accepting.

punkman01 · 2022-08-02T09:13:06+00:00

Old guy here. I think there is a real lack of actively showing kindness to your SO. There is being kind but I mean the next level of showing kindness. I have discovered that the more I show kindness to my wife the happier I am. I know I am going a little off topic but I was trying to help people get past the superficial bit. Of course love and respect are crucial but let's ensure we include a huge dose of kindness into our relationships.

P7o7s7t7a7l · 2022-08-02T06:07:00+00:00

Dating is accepting when times are tough and a lot of people are identifiably in the same situation.

Dating is more superficial on a vacation or holiday when people just want to have fun and forget their worries.

SmallDonut0 · 2022-08-02T06:13:25+00:00

It's a mixture of both Some want someone to talk to Some want to hold onto. Out of almost 8 bil people... you'll find someone like you

hookedonfonicsmunky · 2022-08-02T12:08:00+00:00

I'm on the upper average scale, still brutal, but less brutal when my attitude shifted from, are they going to like me, to thinking am i even going to like them.... basically making them prove themselves helped a lot. But i will say i have noticed the height thing being weird af recently cuz i'm 5 9 and was called out by a 5 4 chick saying i was lying on my profile hahaha

incognito3107 · 2022-08-02T07:30:52+00:00

Always brutal, but most guys can manage to improve themselves and work with sexual magic to get a decent girl.

DigLucky3112 · 2022-08-02T09:34:42+00:00

While attractiveness is not unimportant its lower down the list for most woman, who class personality triats like sense of humor, intelligence, passion (not the sexual kind, but an active enthusiasm in a pursuit), confidence, generosity. as more important when considering a potential mate.

vicvicious420 · 2022-08-02T16:02:19+00:00

Don't go for 10's then if you're not a 10. Go for 3-5's and they won't have such high expectations.

azicre · 2022-08-02T17:37:54+00:00

Percentage wise the dating games is going to brutal if you are a man.

inline6throwaway · 2022-08-02T22:01:18+00:00

As long as unattractive men (or any man for that matter) don't hinge their self esteem on whether they can get a "hot" woman, then yeah at some point he probably can date at least one of them in his life

Special-Object-1498 · 2022-08-02T22:50:55+00:00

the dating world is for the most part superficial. looks triumph all.

LLORD_FARQUAD · 2022-08-02T23:41:12+00:00

Short men are superrrr rare & definitely the most attractive.

Ex. Tom Cruise, James Franco, Sylvester Stallone.

These women just like copying one another. They all have the same flower tattoo or bible verse tattooed on them, & can’t forget about that nose piercing. So, yeah ngl it’ll be rough. But, when that woman comes along, she won’t be one of the sheep

Traditional_Map_9206 · 2022-08-03T03:55:05+00:00

I think you need a Xanax lol

Title	is the dating world superficial or accepting?
Author	millscuzimhot
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Date	August 2, 2022 4:09 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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