It doesn't seem to work.

quinnmcd · 2020-01-15T17:43:12+00:00

definitely repost this with more details and few interactions

SacredGuardianSS · 2020-01-15T17:37:56+00:00

I think it might have to do with the fact you’re in Germany. I have some German friends and I feel like they would indeed reject you faster than other girls, indeed because you don’t know them.

However, it could also be your approach. If you just have a small talk and then immediately ask her phone number I understand some girls will be shy or protective of their privacy. Maybe it helps if you’d ask for their Instagram or an other, more approachable way of contacting someone (you could even ask “hey, do you want to keep in touch?”)

So I’d say, analyse your methods and switch them up :-)

And I’ve also read somewhere on reddit that man felt like the average looking girls always rejected because they get approached the most, so you could also try to approach the “top of the league” ones, who are supposedly more likely to say yes since they get approached less.

Good luck!

tekcring · 2020-01-15T18:18:14+00:00

The cold hard reality that nobody wants to tell you (partly because people want to make money from you) is that cold approach is a huge numbers game. You really can't force attraction in a girl with some routines and pushpull lines etc etc (game). The 'skill' element is almost negligible. Theoretically, You can approach with excellent body language and eye contact and be relaxed and self amused and deliver a 'good' opener etc, and get rejected 100 times in a row. No problem at all.

It's about finding single girls who think you are hot and then being able to prove you're not too weird and being able to escalate etc

The other element is that she needs to be the sort of girl who is approachable and sociable and doesn't mind talking to strangers; This is where you being in Germany is probably relevant. (I've not been there in ages, but i've spoken to people who say it's very similar to the South of the UK (not London) where girls only bang guys in their social circle and are super wierded out by cold approach and chatting to strangers in general)

My results in the US and in Eastern Europe blow my results here in the South East UK out of the water! One can't game a girl who doesn't want to be gamed by you

jackelz101 · 2020-01-15T19:00:49+00:00

Yeah the infield video’s i see from the US make it seem like a gameheaven over there. I think European girls tend to be more serious and dont expect to be social while being somewhere randomly outside. Maybe you should work on your approaches seeming more natural, while kinda acknowledging that it is a unusual situation for you two to be in. Daygame is something not very familiar for women in Europe, so take that in account within the interaction. The women you approach might be getting weirder out by how normal you make it seem to them. These are women who are probably only used to be gamed while going out or through social circles.

Kylemoa1 · 2020-01-15T17:38:32+00:00

Need a little bit more detail on what you are doing or saying when you do approach. Is this during the day or at night?

Are you rushing things "Hey you're cute, I thought id introduce myself and ask for your number and maybe we can go out sometime." or anything along those lines.

Just need a little bit more detail to better determine how to help.

Coolguy1699 · 2020-01-15T22:55:50+00:00

Nahh don’t think it’s true. How do you usually approach?

codewizbambam · 2020-01-15T23:18:23+00:00

That's what I say all the time. The idea that you can learn seduction just by doing one daygame cold approach after the other is just flawed, I mean why should you? Also, it seems pretty much like the whole thing may work in areas in the US where anybody talks to everyone else on the street anyway, but it doesn't as soon as there is any social distance involved.

From one German guy to the other, try to get to know people in social spots, warm up the leads before you try to seduce them, and try nightgame over daygame. If you try kicking in the front door around here, the next thing you run into, is the guard dogs. Heh. Get's much easier in social spots like nightclubs, say raves, goth raves and so on. Also, learn some theory. Just doing approaches won't get you far, even in nightclubs.

kalz44 · 2020-01-16T05:42:23+00:00

If I were you I’d take a break for week or two and let things sink in a bit more. Maybe think about how needy you’re coming across.

TheXXL · 2020-01-16T08:47:25+00:00

It actually is harder in Germany (fellow German here) as we people are naturally colder than other people. What I observed is that night game is easier and also picking obvious non German girls is also a lot more rewarding.

Try going out in the night and do your game there, if you happen to be in a city where there are lots of foreign people, chances are high to meet foreign students and so on.

grrinchas · 2020-01-15T18:07:37+00:00

Nah. It is totally normal.

For me took 500 approaches till I got my first lay.

And I know some guys who needed 1000.

Keep it going. Just don't forget to learn from your mistakes. Every fail is not a fail is a feedback.

It really depends how fast learner you are, and how fast you can recover from these failures.

p.s. 95% PUA who start, never reach finish line, cause it is too hard, requires lots of time, and it is painful. Don't give up. Be 5% man.

Hubblenobbin · 2020-01-19T16:11:26+00:00

What theory are you using, let's get some FR's from you.

Title	It doesn't seem to work.
Author	SacredGuardianSS
Upvotes	7
Comments	32
Date	January 15, 2020 5:19 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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