This is when my brain is most scrambled. Do I text her the next day? Do I wait? I care less about content and more about time constraints and general vibe to convey.

I've got a pretty solid abundance mentality now, and I only pursue anything more with girls I'M interested in pursuing. That being said, I can typically feel out the vibe of whether she wants to see me again or whether she doesn't, but I've had a couple lately where I just couldn't pinpoint it. One I hooked into a fwb, the other kinda went cold. Just f-closed one last night and I figured I'd post here before moving forward.

What're your tips for post-coitus interaction, specifically regarding timing? I figure the best mental frame to go with is: my goal is to make this chick a fuckbuddy, not a friend with benefits who i'd actually HANG with aside form the sex - or a girlfriend, just yet. That way I stay slightly detached and let any further attraction (of both the fwb or gf nature) go down naturally.

My hypothesis is - wait a couple days, provide value with the first text (joke, song link, whatever it is you do to provide value via text) and quickly progress (within a couple texts) to planning another link up within the next week.

Either that, or wait until the next weekend, invite out as opposed to "any plans tonight?" and if that falls through find a day that works.

I'm not looking for any inner-game "text her when you want" stuff - it's great and all but not superbly transferable given the delicate nature of the relationship dynamic post-hookup. edit:(I'm under the impression that both people are unsure of how to progress with it. Correct me if I'm wrong.) If you have something regarding mental frame that's tangible though, let me know! Hope everyone can take value from this.