I recently read somewhere, "Being good with women isn't a skill; it's a habit".

Although I don't agree 100% (I think you perfect a skill, then integrate that skill into your life as a habit), I do think having a good set of habits when dealing with women is very important.

To that end, here are a list of bad habits I have. To make sure this is positive, I have also included steps I plan to take to correct any bad habits. I invite other sedditors to list their bad habits and how they plan to overcome them, and others to give advice in correcting their bad habits.

  1. Negative thinking - The little bastard voice inside your head. This destroys my inner game. It's like a cancer that eats away at the core of my being. Solution: I wear a rubber band around my wrist. Each time I catch myself thinking negatively, I twang it. This is my trigger to clear my mind by focusing on my breathing then start thinking about something else.

  2. Being lazy - effects all areas of my life, not just game : Keep my todo list up to date. Check it when I get up, at lunch and when I get home. Work through the tasks on there asap, but add a little time between tasks so I can do something fun.

  3. Not opening sets - Pretty fucking important : Have longer conversations with people I meet in everyday life (e.g. Shop keepers, people in queues). If I can't think of anything to say to open a girl, just say "Hi". Better than nothing. Really need to force myself to properly open sets though. Could use some help!

  4. Ejecting from sets waaaay too early - I'm never going to close if I chat for 30 - 60 seconds then eject: Practice plant and plough until I either close or the girl makes her excuses and walks off. Even if things get awkward, try and keep talking. Even if what I say is crap in terms of game, keep talking to get used to not ejecting too early. If I really can't think of anything to say. Just stand there in silence. It will be awkward, but will harden me against social awkwardness. It may be creepy but it will eventually stop me worrying if I come across as creepy. This is pretty easy seeing as I stop moving targets. Nothing is stopping her walking off at any time.

  5. Keeping my chin too low - Proper Alpha male body language includes keeping your chin raised above shoulder level : Keep practicing doing this as I'm waling around.

  6. Looking away when girls look at me, even if they are looking at me because they 'caught' me eying them up - This is beta weak sauce, the sign of a pussy. I had it cracked at one stage but have slipped: Next time I catch a girls eye on the tube (where it happens the most), or when out in anywhere else in public hold eye contact and smile till she looks away first. if I look away as a knee jerk reaction, immediately look at her again to correct myself.

  7. Blaming others for my problems - This gives your power away to others, and is used by people to justify their inaction which leads to a shitty life (E.g. It's not my fault I don't get paid much, my employer is tight, it's not my fault I'm crap with women; girls don't realize how awesome I am etc) : Stop blaming other people, take ownership of my actions, realize that I have choices in any situation, use the pain to power vocabulary in the book, "Feel the fear and do it anyway").

I have already fixed some bad habits, such as not smiling enough, speaking too quietly and having beta body language, so I'm sure I can conquer these given time.