Losing my game by reading "The Game"

2014-05-02T22:25:15+00:00

If anything, I am less confident and worse than when I started reading it.

It's a recounting of the rise of PUAs and the degeneracy that resulted from their unchecked access to sex with attractive women. It's a cautionary tale.

Try to keep in mind that it's talking about people with serious overindulgence issues: you can learn pick-up without becoming a guy who is going out 5x a week and desperately seeking one-night stands and multiple girlfriends. Some people drink to get buzzed twice a week and it enriches their life: some people are alcoholics who need to be drunk 24/7 because it's their coping mechanism. The PUAs in The Game are in the latter category, unbalanced individuals obsessed with having as much sex as they can to the point that their life becomes nothing but the chase for more. They aren't role models, they're the tragic pioneers.

puaCurveBall · 2014-05-02T10:20:35+00:00

It was never an instructional manual, it was a novel. The focus on being entertaining was always above being helpful.

APXEBATOP · 2014-05-02T12:52:04+00:00

I am reading Mark Manson's Models. I think a lot what he says makes sense with regards to modern relationships.

EndOfTheUniverse · 2014-05-02T18:42:29+00:00

"Adapt what is useful, reject what is useless, and add what is specifically your own." - Bruce Lee

ackshunpact · 2014-05-02T10:05:10+00:00

Read books if you want to. But all you gotta do is go out into the world and see what does/doesn't work for you and adapt your game from there. Picture yourself now, then picture yourself 1000 approaces later. it's not something you can learn from a book.

rangamatchstick · 2014-05-02T14:53:08+00:00

Im having a similar experience right now and am thinking it is due to trying to many new things at once before we are properly comfortable with the basics (although there were other issues for me). Tone it down, go through the basics, make sure you have them down pat, then add new things in a few at a time and learn them before you move on to the next.

kdelamont · 2014-05-02T16:54:23+00:00

Jesus, has anyone in here actually read The Game? It was a book about the downside of all this, one guy's descent into a nasty place because of an obsession. It was a warning guide, not a manual. You shouldn't be reading it looking to learn HOW to get women, but read it as a book about the consequences of becoming obsessed with it.

It shows you, above all, that there is a way to logically apporoach the problem of your dating life, but moreso it shows you the pitfalls of this way of thinkin.

L1AM · 2014-05-02T19:09:54+00:00

I read "The Game" and it got me into this community. Some parts are applicable and relevant, others are not. I found it an awesome, intriguing story that got me interested by showing me potential. I did not read it hoping that it would contain the secrets.

ThrowawayPUA · 2014-05-03T02:40:34+00:00

Read all the way to the end. The conclusion is significant. But remember, this is a semi-autobiographical novel, which needs a story arc and a protagonist/hero (Neil Strauss).

childishgames · 2014-05-02T08:34:20+00:00

I went out to bars and clubs with more confidence, I actually started talking to girls and I was getting results.

dude, that is all you need to do... fuck the seduction community, if you are approaching and having success then who cares what everyone else here tells you to do. I tend to only go on these boards when I'm having a ton of success. If you come here to try to fix your problems, you are probably overthinking things. You will fix your problems by going out there and hitting on girls. You need to take the pressure off yourself and take a break from this stuff.

YRuafraid · 2014-05-02T13:58:52+00:00

The things you should be picking up from The Game are the universal traits that girls find attractive and things that they find unattractive. Don't get too absorbed into the PUA routines and mind games.

tempingdeezhoez · 2014-05-02T19:30:07+00:00

A lot has come since The Game. Such as losing the canned routines, peacocking, and things that don't matter nearly as much as confidence, rapport, leading the situation.

DyoDyo · 2014-05-02T18:23:45+00:00

Don't read these books... it is a marketing scam 90% of the time.

1) Be attractive

2) Be interesting (hobbies, travel...) & normal (have friends & not a no-life)

3) Approach girls in your league (sorry, an ugly guy is not going to attract a hot model) & Escalate

4) Enjoy

Title	Losing my game by reading "The Game"
Author	NotThatDroid
Upvotes	8
Comments	23
Date	May 2, 2014 8:27 AM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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