Lunch date

ImmediateSeesaw1556 · 2026-02-27T18:19:00+00:00

One thing I usually do is, I go for a full warm hug, not the side hug that friends do. Right away set the tone for the date. A lot of people here have mentioned escalations, and teasing, don’t treat it like a back and forth question and answer round, joke around a bit, and stay confident. Good luck to you.

Kindly_Challenge7639 · 2026-02-27T18:33:36+00:00

Remember you’re the prize aswell brother. Don’t try and overcompensate, she needs to prove to you she’s worth it. Just be yourself that’s all I can say, doing so will allow things to happen naturally, if there a vibe/spark between you both, then naturally everything will arise - flirting, joking around. If she reciprocated the energy you give then you’re in - if she doesn’t straight away you can ease into it

Nabbzi · 2026-02-27T18:20:17+00:00

She definatly is shooting for the romantic spark. So have your mindset also there. Hugs, light touches. Playful and flirty.

Broad-Cranberry-9050 · 2026-02-27T19:35:04+00:00

since she set the precedent of seeing if it's friendly or romantic, i agree with the other commenter. Give her a nice full warm hug, show her through body language that you are trying to make it romantic.

Then in the date, if you can sit perpendicular to her if in a square table. Do not sit across. Make sit more open to lean in and have physical contact.

Try to get some physical contact out the way. Hand touching, slowyly raising it. If at any point you get hesitation or resistance, stop and dont go further. Reading body language is about knowing when she doesnt want more than you are giving her.

THen at the end of the date try to get a kiss. If it's obvious the conenction, go for it, no questions asked.

If it's not obvious or even if it's obvious that it's not there. Just ask. But not in a "can i kiss you?" way. Because that basically reads as "i want to kiss you but am nervous". Instead do it in a way where you are leading with an idea, taking initiative but are completely ok with her saying no. So something like "should we get that first kiss out the way?" That basically reads as "i had a good time and am down to kiss you. I know there might be some pressure around first kiss so let's get that pressure out the way. but it wont break me if you say no".

Hell since she siad the "let's see if there's romanitc spark or not?" line before the date, throw it like "so should we see if the romantic spark is there when we kiss?"

Certain_Process_7657 · 2026-02-27T21:57:23+00:00

Lunch date is an awful idea in general as it's too time constrained especially on a weekday assuming one of you has to get back to work.

Also it's awkward to go for a first kiss in daylight. First dates should always be in the evening if possible.

The point of any date is to feel a spark. Assuming you met online so basically she's saying she wants to see if she's still actually physically attracted to you in person and you look like your photos. Also you need to be able to make her laugh.

Remarkable_Outside67 · 2026-02-27T18:53:34+00:00

When she says, “However, she mentioned this date is to see if “we could be friends or if there is a romantic spark,” that sounds more like a preemptive move — almost like she’s saying, “Don’t fall for me too fast.” In other words, she’s calibrating the level of interest between you two.

Try not to step into that frame. At the end of the day, as a man, you’re the one who should be leading the interaction — and that includes being aware of how she’s feeling in the moment and adjusting accordingly.

aerohk · 2026-02-28T02:00:12+00:00

Dinner. Make it dinner. Lunch is for hanging out with friends.

Back2theCouture · 2026-02-27T18:39:25+00:00

A friendly convo is always okay in the beginning. But it needs to lead to more intimate ones, the “you and me” convo.

To create “sparks and chemistry”, toss some flirts and banters here and there, with a sprinkle of physical escalation as well.

baby_oil773 · 2026-02-27T19:12:40+00:00

eh i wouldnt have done lunch. Drinks at a bar tends to be my go to

burncushlikewood · 2026-02-28T04:20:55+00:00

Listen, make good conversation, touch her, be charming

Long8D · 2026-02-28T10:59:04+00:00

Good signs bro, don't fumble it by texting her all day. Lock in the date and chill. Let the anticipation build with some light texting to show her you're still there.

Forget trying to make it romantic, the more you try to force it the more she feels it and it kills the vibe. Just be fun and a little unpredictable. Tease her, disagree with her sometimes, hold eye contact a beat longer than normal. Touch her casually early on so it feels natural later. And by touching, I mean light friendly touches.

Also if you can, try to switch lunch to drinks or coffee. Lunch is very friend zone energy.

She already said romance is on the table. The door is open, just don't overthink yourself out of it before you even get there.

Terrible_Assist_1345 · 2026-03-03T10:53:02+00:00

She's actually testing you to see if you're needy or not.

Janey-Smith · 2026-02-28T01:38:30+00:00

Act like a gentleman. Open doors pull out chair, bring flowers, listen, pay for lunch, offer a sincere compliment, and offer to go for walk after if weather allows or to go to get coffee or bookstore then walk or drive or escort her back to her place without being over zealous creep. Take hand kiss knuckles say you had pleasant time and you look forward to meeting again. Walk or dive away●/● if she spoke positively. Call again in 2 days for another date this time make it dinner! Good luck and be blessed!!!! ●/●if she chases after you, follow her lead!!!!

Title	Lunch date
Author	RazzleDazzle1537
Upvotes	14
Comments	26
Date	February 27, 2026 6:09 PM UTC (5 months ago)
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