My own toxic masculinity

Helpful_Hat_836 · 2024-12-24T21:16:40+00:00

Bro, rejection ain’t personal it’s just life not vibing. Chill with blaming women for living their truth. Therapy, self-reflection, and moving on will serve you better than resentment. Stop dragging yourself down. Be better, not bitter.

South-Ad-9635 · 2024-12-24T21:29:23+00:00

This sounds less like toxic masculinity and more like being an entitled asshole.

Things aren't always going to go your way. In fact, they often won't.

Learn to deal with that gracefully

Small-Acanthaceae567 · 2024-12-24T21:17:48+00:00

This seams to me that you have some deep rooted issues around rejection.

Your lashing out is most likely a response to your own self inflicted resentment if I had to guess. Probabaly also associated with feelings of not being good enough or something to that effect.

I'd probabaly go see a psychologist and work on controlling your own emotions and importantly controlling your own behaviour. As you have said, you know that a lot of the time your acting irrationally, so recognise when you are and stop. Get control over how you behave, especially with emotionally charged emotions.

That said, it's understandable that you feel angry or frustrated that a good thing isn't going to happen. The issue is then blaming women. Just focus on self improvement.

And definitely try and get some counselling about why you get so angry over it.

AcrossTheShimenawa · 2024-12-24T21:41:25+00:00

Yo broski. Really great question, really appreciate your self awareness.

Yes, this is a stage that many guys go through due to their own insecurity. This is why I rail against red-pill coaches because they enable these kinds of thoughts and keep guys stuck at a certain level so they can make more money off them.

Many guys do and have gotten passed this so don't fret. You will too.

My recommendation is meditation and delving into Eckhart Tolle (specifically practicing the power of now). This can help flatten the learning curve. Other than that, continue seeing girls regularly. More experience breeds this out of most guys eventually.

On an emotional level what this looks like is not needing her presence to validate yours (Tolle talks about this quite a bit). So when she pulls away you remain grounded. This is not only amazing for your own peace of mind, this is necessary to have healthy relationships with healthy boundaries.

You may like her and love her, but she won't ever be able to rock you off center. This is incredibly attractive for a woman. Many guys can do this with girls they don't care about. Far fewer can do it with women they love. Put in the effort, it's worth it.

boydsmith111 · 2024-12-24T21:37:01+00:00

First of all kudos for being self-aware to know that your resentment is irrational

The thing which you call resentment is caused by a part of you which feels that by resenting you actually get what you want

Seems silly right? But that's what it is. By resenting it thinks that it will get what it values

But you have consciously seen that this strategy does not work

So what is the solution for this?

There is a book called as Core Transformation by Connirae Andreas

This will help you to find what the part of you really wants and give it in a more resourceful way instead of resenting

Good luck and good job on the self-awareness

Trip_seize · 2024-12-25T12:27:23+00:00

Where does one even begin to make a woman feel bad for wanting kids?

Next you'll be beating your dog when it barks!

2024-12-25T17:23:21+00:00

Sounds like u need to grow up There's no thing as toxic masculinity. There's just Toxic behaviour. What ur doing isn't being masculine it's u not being adult an being a child. U can get upset an express ur feelings without exploding. I find as a man women like us to tell them how we feel not show them how u feel. Till u work that out an develop the discipline an self control. Ur gonna Continue to act like a child

hansieboy10 · 2024-12-25T17:43:31+00:00

Bro just listen to your own thoughts. You know it’s not a bit deal, think that belief that. Get some succes somewhere or with someone else. That’s it.

Intelligent-Roll-763 · 2024-12-27T18:23:15+00:00

It comes from a previous bad experience with women. You oroba had one or several instances where you were hurt or humiliated, and now you have this protection mechanism to avoid those Instances.

This usually goes away after experiencing success with women, the good experiences overcome the bad ones . Women are not mean by design, they are just clueless.

Wonderful_Idea_5145 · 2024-12-27T21:07:40+00:00

Hey I just want to thank everyone for their support feedback and constructive criticism. A lot of suppressed emotions can come up for men and can manifest in nasty ways in this process, and it really helps me to process them by exploring them with other people on here.

Title	My own toxic masculinity
Author	Wonderful_Idea_5145
Upvotes	13
Comments	11
Date	December 24, 2024 9:00 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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