Question for the players/experienced

norwegiandoggo · 2026-06-22T19:42:01+00:00

It makes it harder for a few reasons.

You spend less time in actual long-term relationships, so you don't get practice at it. Because of this, your relationship skills may begin to lag behind other men on the dating-market that prioritized relationships.

You also get used to sexual variety. And while most men want and enjoy sexual variety, not everyone chooses to get it (or have the skills / attractiveness to pull it off). When you're used to a perk, like access to multiple sex partners, it gets harder to give it up. It can feel like a huge loss to give it up.

Personally, I realized pretty early I couldn't go 100% monogamous, because I did not want to give up this type of sexual variety, and I resorted to open relationships from then on out.

TBearYCF · 2026-06-22T19:14:59+00:00

Enjoy having fun. The more women you experience the more sure you’ll be of what you really want later on. Just don’t be a douche and take advantage of women. Even hookups can be respectful.

Matter_Still · 2026-06-22T22:08:58+00:00

“I lose interest pretty fast after picking out flaws and getting the ick and it's become bit of an issue.”

And that’s a “bit of a problem”? Don Juanism, being compelled to seek out the next conquest is one thing, you are experiencing a feeling of revulsion for a woman you have befriended, ostensibly for no other reason than to get laid.

That this was not a one-off with a girl but a trend in which you begin “picking out flaws” in girls you found attractive enough to seduce.

That’s not going to become an issue, it IS an issue, you cannot be “uncaring” and connect intimately in the way you are suggesting.

Rare-Degree-9596 · 2026-06-23T01:26:05+00:00

I approach every woman genuinely and directly. If I compliment her, its sincere and I let her know with my demeanor what my intent is leaning towards, without being overly eager, too intense or overbearing.

If she is not what I am looking for I want to be able to disengage and move on as well.

ImpossibleWaiting · 2026-06-22T19:34:50+00:00

Look into open relationships imo. Longterm is a lot about investment from both sides.

ChicoBrillo · 2026-06-22T22:44:09+00:00

It's more about commitment than attraction. A relationship based on attraction doesn't tend to last long because the longer you know somebody the less attractive (human) they become, at least this has been my experience.

Additional-Case4392 · 2026-06-22T23:58:17+00:00

You’ll eventually get tired of meaningless sex. You’ll eventually want a partner to take seriously and have a family with. Once those instincts kick in, you’ll have the experience with women to make a good mate choice. Have your fun for now until you want something more, then make it happen.

breaktheice7 · 2026-06-22T23:58:20+00:00

Brother, I thought you lived in SoCal?

DatGuyJBone · 2026-06-23T00:56:36+00:00

Sorry I don’t have an answer but I do have a question. Do you just straight up tell the women you see that you’re not looking for anything serious? I’m an inexperienced 23 y/o who’s tryna fool around a bit

confused_8357 · 2026-06-23T01:21:59+00:00

Hey would u mind sharing whats working out for u in terms of game?

I was surprised how similar our goals and thoughts are.

Rare-Degree-9596 · 2026-06-23T01:29:34+00:00

I go to concerts (edm, house, etc), clubs, events and the like.

I dress simply, black, jeans, shirt, Chuck Taylor's.

I don't over scent, I don't wear bling or jewelry.

I meet at least 2-3 interested and interesting women everytime I go out.

I grt approach by women regularly now, its becoming a thing with women now.

Jason__Hardon · 2026-06-23T01:59:54+00:00

Or You could, just hear me out, never have any relationships ever and just keep going from girl to girl to girl since you say you so good with women 🤷🏻‍♂️

FindingNewLeaf · 2026-06-23T12:50:50+00:00

> Is this only bc I haven't been with the absolute hottest girls 8.5+ where it's easier for me to fall for them or be entranced?

If you are picking the girl you chose to be in a relationship with solely by her looks, you have a huge chance of not enjoying that relationship.

Even if she was a 10, she would never be a 10 all the time, and eventually she will age and be pregnant and big, etc... You really should try to figure out the types of personality and qualities you really enjoy having around you and then find someone with those traits that you are attracted to.

Being in a relationship requires as much skill as dating, with the difference that now the knowledge and skill of both sides apply not just yours.

MineDesperate2920 · 2026-06-23T16:18:30+00:00

Yes it becomes a huge issue. I’m 37. 17 years of game and over 100 girls. Met a girl last year I really liked and can tell is a good girl. Can’t figure out how not to cheat or not get bored. It’s a real issue on the other side of it that you wouldn’t think of until it might be too late

Personal_Muffin_6915 · 2026-06-22T20:13:22+00:00

no it’s bc you’re going from hole to hole…literally training your brain to get used to short term fun. you can’t even appreciate a woman because you don’t view for anything more than her body

Title	Question for the players/experienced
Author	YinMaestro
Upvotes	7
Comments	39
Date	June 22, 2026 6:51 PM UTC (1 month ago)
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