Seeing two girls at the same time

SlickBackMex · 2022-02-11T15:42:47+00:00

I wish I had those problems 🤣

RPFeynman_ · 2022-02-11T10:29:06+00:00

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isthisourthrowaway · 2022-02-11T10:09:35+00:00

Who are you more passionate. About

MattPruga · 2022-02-11T12:38:40+00:00

Same situation, I don't want exclusivity with neither but want to have fun with both.

BigDaftLaddie · 2022-02-11T14:20:16+00:00

“Darling, I was wondering…” - How every casual relationship ended

ebmnm · 2022-02-11T14:35:31+00:00

I wouldn’t worry about it until you been seeing them for a month. Its very likely they both are seeing other guys too

Neil1398 · 2022-02-11T15:35:10+00:00

Bruh, this is a situation, I almost never wanna be in, because I see how I actually do start to catch feelings, and to break a heart would hurt me lol.

Personally, I’d just put one more on the backburner, and see the one you like wayy more. Once they both got you hooked, it’s gonna be hard to push one out of you’re life over the other.

This is more of a down the line strategy, because in all honesty, you can tell a girl, you don’t wanna commit or you’re seeing other people, and that’ll sometimes make her push harder for you. (Competition).

That shit, makes me fall for the girl a bit but I’ll usually not cave in to monogamy. However, you start catching feelings, and then boom, you’re stuck between breaking one of their hearts.

Just don’t spend too much time with the one you’re not feeling as much, because time, oxytocin, and attention creates feelings in men.

davidarkness · 2022-02-11T14:39:33+00:00

Have fun , don’t get attached.

korakata · 2022-02-11T14:23:16+00:00

I think you need to communicate and ask them, and yourself, what they want out of this dynamic. If you just wanna have sex, tell them both. If you want something serious, tell them both. That way you’re not wasting anyones time or hurting anyones feelings. This also gives them the option to choose what they want, which isn’t possible right now because you haven’t been upfront.

SpiritBombGirl · 2022-02-11T15:56:19+00:00

I recently have embraced radical honesty and haven't had a negative situation yet. Being upfront goes way further than people think.

Be up front, who knows you might end up in a poly relationship with both and they are cool with it 😎

Godletrich · 2022-02-11T16:44:07+00:00

Why you want to jump into a relationship with one of them instead of spinning plates? :D Just have fun with them and enjoy.

beastbrendan · 2022-02-11T18:03:12+00:00

Girls do this to guys all the time, I see no issue.

ksmith11011 · 2022-02-11T18:09:29+00:00

If they’re both sweethearts who are always available to you, they aren’t trying to make you jealous with other guys, and they aren’t playing hard to get then you’ve got a hard decision to make. If only 1 is like what I described then you keep her and get rid of the other one. If neither are like this then keep doing what you want until one starts to act that way. Then you have the conversation with her.

Normally by a month in with a girl she very clearly will want a relationship with you, you wouldn’t have any doubt about how she feels, it’ll be obvious. If you have doubts about both it’s likely they’re both just in it for the sex or they’re both playing games that would end up sabotaging things anyways.

Always go for the one who’s the most clearly interested / is playing the least games.

surferguy999 · 2022-02-11T20:07:45+00:00

I’ve done the same, at one time I was seeing like 3-4 girls at the same time. Honestly it was a bit exhausting.

Just be honest, I made it clear I wanted something casual and I was fine if they saw other people as well.

After a few months one of them did ask to be my GF but I declined (for multiple reasons).

You’re only a dick if you make them believe you’re exclusive.

Sometimes I even mention that I went on another date or ask them for girl advice. Reminds us that we’re both casual partners and not anything else.

GravelRoad730 · 2022-02-11T13:14:19+00:00

Normally they bring it up on conversation..." are you seeing anyone else ?" and always say yes even if your not.

2022-02-12T01:31:37+00:00

If you really feel bad about it then make sure they know you're not exclusive

cormacru999 · 2022-02-12T02:09:33+00:00

8 days ago, you were wondering about some girl, a few days ago you were talking some other girl, & now you're seeing 2 girls successfully? Why are you worried about these other girls if you can't figure out what to do with the 2 that are willing to spend time with you. You're creating your own problems.

IDhl89 · 2022-02-11T15:25:10+00:00

Personally I would go on a few more dates, get to know each a bit more and then decide to continue with one…

hookedonfonicsmunky · 2022-02-11T18:54:18+00:00

i say bang both until one asks you to go exclusive, cuz u know damnnnnn well all the women have like 20 fuck buddies

TheRiverOfDyx · 2022-02-12T01:47:11+00:00

Flip the script. A girl is dating two guys, she don’t feel bad about it. She’s just trying on a new pair of pants while she tries a shirt on. Then she picks one. She ain’t trying two pairs of pants at the same time, she’s investigating two different options at the same time.

Fuck em, bro, quit feeling guilty. THEY want you to feel guilty, while they go out guilt-free and get a train run on them. Fuck bitches, get money, and don’t care bout no bitch’s feelings unless she’s your wife and demonstrates she ACTUALLY cares about your feelings and isn’t just going along until you give TOO MUCH feelings and she dumps you.

Stay cold. You don’t owe these girls a relationship, they owe YOU wifey-material if you are doing your job of being a good man. They don’t deserve to be cuffed if they don’t demonstrate they can be an equal to your opposite.

DependentAd1504 · 2022-02-11T13:52:19+00:00

No matter how good they seem, sleeping on first date is a Big Red Flag if you are thinking in terms of serious or long term relationship.... It's basics

coldbeer669 · 2022-02-11T18:31:10+00:00

I would keep seeing both of them just let them meet lol

28carslater · 2022-02-11T20:21:33+00:00

Keep the pimp hand strong.

r_m_castro · 2022-02-12T01:53:55+00:00

To me if you date two people at the same time you're an asshole. Then people will come with the argument that "it's not serious yet".

I don't care. If I'm going out with someone and discover she's going out with other dude I'll be pisssd. I would also feel like shit if I was going out with more than one.

I'd tell you to ditch one of them and stay with the one you identify more.

2022-02-12T01:59:19+00:00

Two is my limit lol. As long as you’re honest you shouldn’t really feel guilty.

cormacru999 · 2022-02-12T02:07:27+00:00

So rather than talk to them about what you're looking for, what you'll willing to do, etc, you've decided to come to Reddit & ask strangers, that you have no idea what their experiences, education, etc may be? Just talk to them.

tlthang · 2022-02-11T19:15:42+00:00

If you are on dates … this is normal.. once you are in a relationship then go back and ask this question again

willgo-waggins · 2022-02-11T22:31:33+00:00

Have fun until you pick one and decide to get serious. Or don’t do that, be very careful or very open with both, and keep having fun.

I am up to three regular FWB’s now and also hit randos for ONS’s here and there. It’s great. I basically always have pussy when I want it. And somebody to go out with or just hang out with.

Single life is good!

kingsupra420 · 2022-02-12T00:23:55+00:00

Ask and see if they like sharing you with other girls? Some are open to the idea while some are not. If they do, then you don't have to keep it a secret

Godsidious2 · 2022-02-12T04:05:11+00:00

play them both player.

RapTVCalifornia · 2022-02-11T18:21:23+00:00

Why is communing and being honest so hard lol

AirSpacer · 2022-02-12T00:34:58+00:00

A true Lothario. This was me when I gave all of my energy to situations like these. This requires a lot of introspection where only you can decide.

No_Professor8939 · 2022-02-12T00:46:12+00:00

I wish I could have that moment

RosenFell · 2022-02-12T02:38:28+00:00

two

girls

Max_Longfellow · 2022-02-12T03:16:30+00:00

First off, if neither have brought it up for all you know they could be seeing other guys too, all's fair in no communication because no expectations have been made or questioned.

Back in my heyday I handled this problem by either:

1.) Being upfront about not wanting to seriously date. Don't frame it that bland, but very early on just admit the truth in a way that doesn't say "it's you." If you time it right and say it right, takes a bit of a feel because everyone is different, you'd be surprised the responses you'd get. Again, you're conveying you're not interested in actively pursuing anything serious right now, not out having sex with multiple women. They can ask that if they are interested and you have to make the personal decision to lie or not. If the playboy game works for you have at it but despite some claims I've never had anyone jump into my lap from telling them "I'm having sex with multiple women right now." Maybe you're just letting things flow naturally. I don't have to lie when I say honestly I don't like trying to "make it work" or "force a connection or title" in the dating phase, because how much harder are you going to have to work when things settle down? It should feel easy to connect in the beginning. Just one example.

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2.) Usually they will eventually bring it up ("So what are you looking for?"), that's the easy way to handle it because you can come in on the "well honestly I wasn't planning on getting into a serious relationship right now, but I enjoy the time we spend together." If instead they just start acting like you are dating without it being talked about, I usually start not being as available as much, they notice and bring it up and then approach it the way I just listed.

Or sometimes it fizzles because you find out it was what it was. I mean not every ending is a "failure" like some make it out; "oh you didn't keep up with two chicks because you didn't (insert analysis here). Sometimes you find out some shit just isn't worth the effort and you move on. Also, I mean unless you have some social value like being a rockstar or rich etc., etc., where the girls literally line up for you because of said social value, doing the multiple casual thing takes a lot of fucking time and work and it really is like spinning multiple plates at once.

I had four girls I was sleeping with and not intending to get serious with and I was no one's boyfriend or dating partner show up to a birthday party once. I don't know how someone didn't find out and just start shit to start shit but my man, for us average guys, sometimes the anxiety of unplanned shit like that ain't worth it.

ExtensionMachine1847 · 2022-02-12T04:02:17+00:00

Work on one of them, otherwise the money's gonna disappear real quick. Trust me, It feels great at first.

chily88 · 2022-02-12T08:41:18+00:00

Pfft amature this Guy knows how its dun https://www.timesnownews.com/the-buzz/article/man-sees-35-women-at-the-same-time-to-get-gifts-for-fake-birthdays/748607

Ornery_Set_8584 · 2022-02-12T09:55:36+00:00

Since you’ve not establish to be exclusive, you can do whatever you want What you do don’t break relationships, it’s what she knows..

zertsetzung · 2022-02-12T10:50:05+00:00

Hang in there, and keep doing it for as long as you possibly can lol.

I mean come on dude these are the types of experiences that dudes (who want them of course) need to have. This is like on some "shit-that-you-tell-your-grandsons-when-your-old"- type shit.

zertsetzung · 2022-02-12T10:56:03+00:00

How do you reckon I should handle this situation?

Easy one. Hang in there and maintain it for as long as you can.

which I usually see as a sign that things aren't going to be too serious

To that I say yes and no. Most seduction websites will tell you to quickly bed a woman you are attracted to whether you are trying to get her for a relationship or a fling.

So I wouldnt quite use that as an indicator of whether or not a relationship is going to end up being serious.

h1mera · 2022-02-17T10:24:20+00:00

I have read your previous questions and comments. The level of your questions does not match the question you are asking :-) I'm not saying it's not true, but it looks suspicious to me.

Title	Seeing two girls at the same time
Author	RPFeynman_
Upvotes	76
Comments	77
Date	February 11, 2022 10:08 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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