she cheats - response?

slaytalera · 2015-09-19T18:27:41+00:00

I'd walk away, the other person has already decided they don't respect your relationship, so move on and find a better person to be with

leftajar · 2015-09-19T18:37:16+00:00

ALWAYS FUCKING NEXT HER.

If you stay, she has no reason to respect you ever again. Furthermore, you've shown her, by lack of punishment, that she can get away with it again.

NinjasAreStillCool · 2015-09-19T19:48:53+00:00

I have done scenario B. Walk away now before you get in too deep and next time have clear lines about this issue before it happens.

chronicGreens · 2015-09-19T20:05:01+00:00

Walk the fuck away. She clearly doesn't respect you don't give her a shrivel of your mind any longer. Take some time off and invest in yourself, hit the weights, get immersed in some hobbies, keep your mind busy and you will not regret how rewarding it is.

mrpepelopez · 2015-09-19T20:43:28+00:00

Assuming you had a clear understanding that you were in a monogamous relationship I'd walk away and never talk to them again.

Sometimes people throw "cheating" around loosely though. I've been accused of it when I was involved with someone but no official conversation of being exclusive had ever happened. They just assumed.

Ruudjah · 2015-09-19T20:09:36+00:00

Walk.

BlueVentureatWork · 2015-09-19T20:24:23+00:00

how is this a question? you're worth more than that, bro. she cheats, you leave her skanky ass in the dust.

drewcontreras · 2015-09-19T19:06:36+00:00

you walk away 100%. you will be disrespecting yourself if you don't. you as a man are valuable, and deserve respect. just tell her that you want to break up. don't be upset, don't hold grudges. just move on. now it will be hard, it will hurt. but you will get over it.

the fact that she cheated shows that she found someone better than you. so this is a sign that you need to change something about yourself start reading self help books (way of superior man, motivation manifesto, 48 laws of power) start working out start looking into dressing better/ research fragrances start making more money (legally)

god bless! comment and let me know how it went!

CuntyMcFagNuts69 · 2015-09-19T20:29:28+00:00

You calmly tell her, we are done. If she is living with you you tell her she has a day to make arrangements. Never get angry, hold frame.

You don't owe her an explanation, you will only be praising the hamster if you explain. If she doesn't know you know that she cheated, don't bring it up. Let the hamster be a hamster

sedtawy · 2015-09-20T01:24:18+00:00

You do not need to talk about it. An exclusive relationship of any kind is exactly that. You leave her and never look back.

You will likely suffer a little oneitis. Keep in mind that you left her because SHE wasn't worth your time.

Squand · 2015-09-19T22:23:30+00:00

It totally depends on the scenario. People take cheating too seriously. It's not the end of the world and it can be a one time thing. It is almost always a symptom of some outside factor rather than, "they don't respect you." Feeling unloved, insecure, yadda yadda. If you want, you can work with someone on that.

There is a savage love anecdote where he's like, "you made 25 years and only cheated once? You did awesome!"

Walking is always fine. But imo, it's not a given.

People should know the consequences of their actions, having the discussion early is a good idea. I usually tell people if you cheat, I won't be mad, but we will probably break up. I always want people to feel comfortable coming to me. So I usually make it clear we will still be friends and that I'll respect them for being honest with me. If they don't tell me, they will lose me forever without recourse. I tell her, if I cheat on you, I'll break up with you.

That last part is usually met with resistance and interesting conversation.

Making a huge deal about it also isn't good for you. Odds are, if you are into pick up, you'll date a lot of women, and while I've never been cheated on, it's likely it will happen someday. Don't let it wreck you.

People act like it's this huge awful unforgivable taboo... If you didn't get a disease, it's just a lie. People lie all the time, and it doesn't shake our faith in women / humanity. This shouldn't either. Also remember, if a skilled seductress wanted to fuck you, no level of commitment would stop her. We are all capable of cheating, some of us are better at avoiding temptation than others. But we all have vices and sex is a fun one... It makes sense that it's hard to say no.

I know dudes who were crazy wrecked by ex infidelity and that's not productive.

seventhirteen · 2015-09-19T20:23:52+00:00

No one that would betray your trust is worth a second of your time, don't even walk away, make her go.

KJ_PHL · 2015-09-19T23:41:56+00:00

Same as the other response. Leave. I have been cheated on, I tried to stay, it got worse.

Voidslan · 2015-09-20T03:02:31+00:00

Depends on if you predefined your relationship to allow it. I don't allow it. To me a relationship is an exclusive agreement between two people. The agreement is null and void upon the moment of cheating. I mean this literally. If my girlfriend told me today that she cheated on me 3 months ago, it means she dumped me three months ago and we've been friends with benefits since.

I wouldn't give a second chance. She has already demonstrated she will cheat. It's good to use prior behavior to guess at future behavior.

Swankymcdoogle · 2015-09-20T05:48:05+00:00

Uh LMAO. You go about your life like she never existed. You can never let someon disrespect you like that, even though it's usually not about you.

TheXXL · 2015-09-19T19:54:22+00:00

I don´t have a monogamous relationship in the first place, so there is no cheating. But this is hard to pull off, since most women don´t want to have an open realtionship.

marcelo19004 · 2015-09-20T08:40:46+00:00

Been down this road buddy, just next her, the man you want to create doesn't need parasitic people.

breyarg · 2015-09-20T10:04:19+00:00

I would either walk away or if comfortable...... use it to try an open relationship if it interests u. She still lied about it but it could be used to try something different.

Just another perspective. Personally for me id probably just walk away. I couldn't forgive it.... but as for trust... if there are new rules to ur 2 person game to include new players then i dont see a problem with that

Total_Carnage · 2015-09-19T20:25:40+00:00

I don't know why this topic would ever need to be discussed. If someone cheats on you, just walk.

PowerSeductionWar · 2015-09-19T22:23:17+00:00

Whether you choose A or B depends on how much you've invested in the relationship

Title	she cheats - response?
Author	idoril
Upvotes	11
Comments	29
Date	September 19, 2015 6:19 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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