Should I tell my partner about my performance anxiety.

SnapSocialGuru · 2018-01-01T19:25:42+00:00

Confidently admitting an insecurity or flaw is a superpower.

It won’t turn her off.

It’ll make her trust you more.

U_Gunna_Eat_That · 2018-01-01T16:59:59+00:00

Have you tried focusing on getting her off first without your penis? I find that helps me with nerves

Jon_Boopin · 2018-01-01T17:58:00+00:00

Don't masturbate for at least a week or two, you should be right back up

v3vic · 2018-01-01T17:49:31+00:00

Im having kinda same issue. When we get down to busines it gets hard to breath like deep inhales, can't describe properly. No problem staying hard during foreplay but then sometimes just lose erection.

ImJustSo · 2018-01-01T17:40:58+00:00

You probably should talk to her about it, because she probably needs some reassurances about this. Also, she may be able to help you calm down and take time with you. Explain to her what you're feeling, then explain to her what you think you need from her.

circlhat · 2018-01-01T20:33:51+00:00

just tell her you need time to relax and to take things slow

iHasABaseball · 2018-01-02T15:53:02+00:00

You've got fingers and a tongue, pal. Those go a long way.

trifle_truffle · 2018-01-01T18:33:54+00:00

Hey, that has happened with me as well. And a mild anxiety disorder doesn’t help things as well.

Recently I’m looking to manage expectations a bit. Before getting down to business, (at some point during the drinks / dinner) I casually be let it known (truthfully) that I love variety in sex and that how there’s no one way of pleasing a partner (especially via PIV sex).

Having lowered expectations, I don’t feel so pressured to perform.

Injoker11 · 2018-01-01T22:09:44+00:00

Looks like you already know the answer to your issue. "now I'm in my own head" Then get out of your head and in your dick.

mrloogz · 2018-01-02T15:24:36+00:00

I also lose my erection but only after the first round and with condoms on.. i can't make it stay hard and it's bothering me and of course our sexy time. Don't know what to do, we can't remove the condom as we're both scared or getting her pregnant due to pre cum or worse i cum inside(even if i always pops outside, who knows)

hunterpua · 2018-01-02T20:27:46+00:00

How long have you been together? After a while you're supposed to talk about things like that.

UncleWarwick · 2018-01-01T21:01:57+00:00

One - don’t talk about it unless it happens in the moment. Don’t even think about it. If it happens it happens and go from there.

Two - this totally happened to me last week. Took a girl home, nothing was working. Pretty much due to PIED. I handled it as such: “yeah... fucking porn. Shit happens.” As far as I know she’s down to play again. If she isn’t, oh well. There will be another one.

MisterJimmy · 2018-01-01T21:13:40+00:00

Get some viagra!

Chewieeatsewoks · 2021-11-18T16:30:58+00:00

I told someone I have been seeing about mine last night and this morning she told me it had made her feel wierd after our call. It is only when she gets on top as it happened once when I was drunk so the last two times it has also happened as I got up in my own head. Everything else sexually is incredible. Not going to lie, I felt pretty shit today after her reaction and found myself replying with messages reassuring her it wasn't anything to do with my attraction to her and more what was going on in my head.

Title	Should I tell my partner about my performance anxiety.
Author	gloshotta
Upvotes	16
Comments	38
Date	January 1, 2018 4:55 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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