Useless rant about Tinder

road_2_pulled_pork · 2018-01-20T14:45:12+00:00

There were some obscene statistics about Tinder here, which shows Tinder is a losing game unless you’re a top 20% man (however that is measured).

Here’s a paradigm shift: how about you actually go out and approach?

I honestly don’t think Tinder is anything better than a way to pass time while you’re taking a shit.

_experienced_Gun · 2018-01-20T20:07:27+00:00

Don't look to your environment to change, look to yourself.

No matter where you go, there will be people you like and people you don't like. More often then not, it is the latter.

So if Tinder is putting you into a position of being surrounded by entitled, reluctant or rude people - stop using it.

But complaining about it is just avoiding self reliance. What is stopping you from going out and meeting girls in real life? Could it be that you're frustrated that this medium will force you to face more uncomfortable situations?

Girls who are confident, good looking, happy in their own skin, polite, have things going on in their life, etc. they aren't using these online dating apps. They are too busy having lives that surround them socially. If you want quality women, you have to get into the real world.

InertBrian · 2018-01-20T16:44:52+00:00

Canned openers are stupid unless the girl has nothing in her bio to go off of or says she likes cheesy pick up lines.

You’ll have more success coming up with something witty that’s written in her bio.

On my best Tinder lay, the girl’s bio said “I’m sorry but I’d choose Channing Tatum over you”

My opener was “Change your bio. You’d do a double take on Channing Tatum if you met me😏”. It had a positive-flirty response, brief convo, got her Snapchat & the rest is history.

Cheesy pick up lines are ok depending on the context. Another Tinder lay was a down to earth person (although I probably could’ve said anything, admittedly she didn’t seem too high up on the social food chain, this is Tinder we’re talking about). She had horse riding pictures in her bio so my opener was “where do horses go when they’re sick...the horsepital!”. Cheesy line but did the trick because I took info about the person and joked in a way that resonated with them.

LingeringGnome · 2018-01-20T23:38:28+00:00

Good pics and a good bio will render "openings" meaningless. This goes back to taking care of yourself in your career, and at the gym. This in turn takes care of Tinder, which is an app 100% based on the physical and a one sentence bio.

Smooth21 · 2018-01-21T01:25:10+00:00

I feel like this would be an appropriate place to put this odd story.

Today a girl messaged me first on a dating app, "Coffee Meets Bagel" so naturally the conversation went smoothly and I quickly got her number. This was so bizarre to me because she's actually attractive.

I think this is the first time an attractive girl messaged me first (not counting Bumble). We've already set up a date for tomorrow. She's meeting me at my place and then we are going to grab a drink together.

I have zero risk because if she flakes, I didn't even have to drive anywhere anyways. We've already talked on the phone, she seems normal. Anyways, just an odd online encounter, but I hope it goes well tomorrow!

kril89 · 2018-01-20T21:02:27+00:00

Yeah the more I use dating apps if girls are just giving me one or two word responses I just stop messaging them. No need to waste my time on there bullshit

InertBrian · 2018-01-20T18:34:32+00:00

I don’t know, I’m not a big fan of FB messenger. In that case I’d rather just get their phone #. Snapchat has a lighter-friendlier vibe to it where people can see what you do in day to day life.

rockintomordor · 2018-01-21T07:46:10+00:00

Honestly, tinder is pretty garbage unless you're so unbelievably hot you don't need it except to increase your numbers.

I use it to mess with my irl friends. I know one or two people who have used it to find people they already know who might be interested in hooking up, but by and large any kind of online dating is a losing proposition.

Depending on which study you read, somewhere between 70 and 90 percent of human communication is done through body language. Obviously, this spills over into dating. Plus, whether you're attracted to a picture of someone is relatively loosely connected to being attracted to them in person.

Oregongrown96 · 2018-01-22T08:27:08+00:00

I feel the same way about tinder , i feel like no matter what approach i take , simple , cheesy a joke , referring to there bio/ picture i sweat no matter what i do it doesnt go any where. I do live in a really small town but none the less

Brostory_com · 2018-01-24T10:39:16+00:00

Uninstall tinder. If you want top quality women you have to find them in real life. In RL, the competition is pretty low, most guys suuuuck.

Tinder is waste of time and energy. You are investing in someone you never met, and probably won't meet.

2018-01-25T23:02:29+00:00

That's why u should try getting her number as soon as possible. If u keep texting her on tinder then you're gonna be just match #999 boosting her ego.

HappyBull · 2018-01-20T16:48:19+00:00

Well if they’re only there for an ego boost you have to respect that. Some of these ladies, who are actual people, might be in a low point of their lives or just got out of a relationship and use tinder as a distraction.

On top of that, you can’t expect every girl you match with to instantly be so cheery. They go through so many average “hey’s” a day.

You can’t force someone to be into you. If both are, then awesome. Make a date. If not, get on with your life. Why would you waste your time on someone who’s not interested in the same things you want??

Steve_Savage · 2018-01-20T19:24:11+00:00

Girls need ego boosts, as unlike guys they almost all have horrible self-esteem issues regardless of how they really look. We guys on the other hand, well we're just all the total shit aren't we, cool as fuck.

So instead of ranting or taking advantage of a woman because of her need for approval, why not just accept this and understand that girls will need it so give them what they need.

You may be offended by this if you are a liberal snowflake, but women are weak and men are strong. Its our job to be that man who is a provider, protector. So don't be offended if a girl seems mean, its probably her lack of self-esteem talking. Try to be a bit more analytical and patient with her. Girls LOVE that kind of guy that is so awesome that he knows what she's thinking and knows exactly what to say when she's having her 30th mental breakdown.

Title	Useless rant about Tinder
Author	leddituser123
Upvotes	5
Comments	41
Date	January 20, 2018 2:35 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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