Why I do become picky the second they start liking me?

onetothehouse · 2015-03-02T03:40:58+00:00

The same reason my cat stops chasing a toy once it stops moving. They, and you, just like the chase.

PM_ME_UR_UNWIPED_BUM · 2015-03-02T14:03:02+00:00

"The hunt is better than the cunt"

SoldierGenerale · 2015-03-02T16:13:31+00:00

The thought of actually being able to fuck the girls freaks you the fuck out. You intentionally sabotage yourself into thinking the girl wasn't that hot to begin with so that you don't have to go through with it. It's called a success barrier and it's very detrimental to your progress.

It could also be that you're just not talking to hot enough girls. No offence but I highly doubt hot girls would give an 18-year old virgin much attention.

Want to overcome it? Don't be a pussy and just finish the race.

Gamefart101 · 2015-03-02T03:36:18+00:00

holy shit it is uncanny how similar situations we are in, and have been wondering the same for some time now. i too do his, have never had a girlfriend, am still a virgin and am even trying nofap (although not doing as well as you are thus far.)

gamedude101 · 2015-03-02T04:25:39+00:00

Anybody have any advice on overcoming this?

new_cummer · 2015-03-02T04:27:55+00:00

How old are you?

mysilenceisgolden · 2015-03-02T06:36:01+00:00

Life is about what you want but can't have.

forseti_ · 2015-03-02T11:31:31+00:00

Try to think about it this way: Everything except having sex with the girl is a rejection.

joshsway · 2015-03-02T13:04:47+00:00

I don't know the reason (probably some inherent evolutionary desire to 'spread our seed') but it's kinda normal to lose some interest once you "get" a girl. However, usually, get = sex. In your case, it seems that you are too afraid of making the move so it's more of a fear of rejection/approach anxiety issue.

smo0f · 2015-03-02T16:15:16+00:00

I mean, it's easy to say that it's because it's no longer challenging to you at that point. But I think since you have never had a GF and are a virgin, it's also highly possibly that you are afraid of success and change so your mind looks for reasons to back out. If you really want to have a GF and/or sex, you have to realize that no one is perfect, and everyone has flaws, and that to overcome a fear you must face it.

If you just like the chase and don't care about having a gf or getting laid and are content with how things are, then this isn't a problem and just continue what you are doing.

lofiharvest · 2015-03-02T16:22:48+00:00

It could be fear of sex or being vulnerable with a person. Another thing it could be is you are waiting for a 'perfect person' that just doesn't exist. When I was younger I talked myself out of pursuing plenty of good women. The result? I had no girlfriends, was a virgin, and hardly ever had dates. Remember no matter who you date they are always going to have flaws. You have them and I have them too. The decision you have to make is whether or not the person overall is someone you are attracted to. Also sometimes it takes time to decide whether or not you want a LTR as you can only get a glimpse into person from the first few dates.

Oscar_88 · 2015-03-02T18:35:21+00:00

Maybe your insecurities about it are coming up. The moment you know things are starting to get serious you start wanting to run and therefore start looking to pick things in her apart so you give yourself an excuse to leave? The butterflies in your stomach give a pretty clear indication as far as im concerned

KER86 · 2015-03-02T15:53:18+00:00

You're probably just afraid of sex...whether you know it or not

ThrowawayPUA · 2015-03-02T05:30:37+00:00

P.S: I'm currently doing the NoFap challenge (30 days in),

Well there's your problem. I have seen plenty of nofaps who will avoid getting into sexual situations, because might ruin their unbroken streak of celibacy.

You are using nofap to suppress your sexual feelings. That sense of butterflies you get, that's a thrill and it comes from sexual excitement. And nofap is teaching you this is a bad thing.

I think you should do the GoFap Challenge. You should masturbate once a day (or more) for 30 days.

Title	Why I do become picky the second they start liking me?
Author	gamedude101
Upvotes	7
Comments	29
Date	March 2, 2015 3:06 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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