Having trouble accepting it

wisstinks4 · 2023-02-06T15:08:10+00:00

Lets break this down into bite sized pieces: 1. You’re a good guy who got hosed. No need to, actually stop beating yourself up. No more guilt pain. SHE did it, not you. Let go. 2. She is toxic. If you just said, if you go back to her, she’ll do it again. You need to cut that out of your life. That will only harm you further and could push you into mental health issues. 3. It’s time to start a new chapter in life. Picture in your mind your new world and what you want to do. What does it look like for you to go start to live your best life and move on?

Tall-Fig-3327 · 2023-02-05T16:44:16+00:00

Keep your head up brother. Things will get better.

jasoncb123 · 2023-02-05T18:24:38+00:00

Is there a Red Cross in your area. Don’t be afraid to ask them for help if there is

captainchippsixx · 2023-02-05T19:43:47+00:00

You took a punch. Time to get up and get pissed.

Loving a liar, cheater and a betrayer needs to transition to dislike and put what as shitty human she turns out to be.

JonathanApple · 2023-02-05T18:47:22+00:00

We are here, don't be afraid to ask for help. Good luck brother. People do care.

thrownaway41422 · 2023-02-05T21:16:11+00:00

Any chance you're in Louisville KY? I've got a couch if you are.

Small_Quarter_3673 · 2023-02-05T21:52:46+00:00

Focus on finding a place to live before worrying about a cheater

A_StableGenius · 2023-02-06T00:22:27+00:00

It's hard at first. Things will get better as you will get stronger mentally and physically. We like to tell ourselves if we only had one more chance it could work. Divorce shows you the REAL person you married and many times it can be a blessing for your health when she leaves. The bad part is.... the kid/s suffer the most if you have little ones. It's very sad but you have to keep going brother. Hate to say it but she wrote the relationship off months or years ago mentally. We all go through this phase. It's hard I know but you can do it.

dday_throwaway3 · 2023-02-06T12:21:40+00:00

Change starts when you've had enough. Pain is a huge catalyst for change, use it to create a better life. Suffer the pain of discipline rather than the pain of regret.

Old-Macaroon8148 · 2023-02-05T16:55:46+00:00

I’m with you man. Just keep going don’t give up.

BloodyButUnbowed1 · 2023-02-05T19:04:38+00:00

Keep your head up brother! You have survived 100% of your bad days in life, you will continue to survive but you have to keep going. It's hard, you got to keep it pushing. I was pretty much where you were last year. Take things one day at a time. Set goals and work towards to. Remember, any progress is still progress. I still have a way to go, but when I look back to last year, I'm so thankful that I did not give up. That what motivate me not to give up now. I hope you find the same inspiration in yourself. If you ever need to talk PM me.

Alito999 · 2023-02-05T20:08:38+00:00

Good luck brother. You are better than that, it just doesn’t feel that way at the moment. It will get better and every day is one day closer to coming out the other side.

Repulsive-Fall1019 · 2023-02-05T20:11:07+00:00

im not trying to belittle you my friend. but this is beta mentality. and im speaking to you as a man here. okay. you need to always be secure in yourself and your capabilities. and you cant allow that to fall.. because of a woman. because it only affects you, not them. you should not have had to lose this much, by a womans hands. you as a man need to move better. and think smarter. relationships are like chess. and a marriage is more so. it takes more than love to fulfill, and anyone who doesnt make themselves a priority in your life doesnt belong there. my ex wife was an ungreatful ***. i made the decision to leave her. and my 3 kids. all under the age of 5. the hardest thing ive ever done. but i knew i couldnt have this woman "run" me, forever. i asked her for a divorce. she said she didnt care, take care of the kids, i went the following day, paid my lawyer in full. kept my head up. officially filed sept 29th. had a new girlfriend by the 4th of october, ex moved out the 1st of november. and i been happy as a pig in shit ever since. always keep your head up. theres always tomorrow. its a mans world. you shouldnt have lost this much, esp since she cheated on you. get stronger and go live your life.. im 28 btw.

Ptsdveterannavy · 2023-02-05T22:22:23+00:00

Things will turn around, believe that.

warrior_up · 2023-02-07T00:49:56+00:00

You just miss what your brain remembers as comfortable. You need to remind yourself that your answers will come when you fully accept and embrace "the suck" the uncomfortableness is your new name it's your truth and your future.

PS you can't make a hoe a housewife.

Title	Having trouble accepting it
Author	Vegetable_Courage23
Upvotes	15
Comments	18
Date	February 5, 2023 4:43 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/comments/10ugwal/having_trouble_accepting_it/
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