We mediated and we signed. It was surreal ..for those who followed my journey it's been 2 yrs since my divorced started.

Mediation was successful-

Tips :

I would highly recommend you getting a good mediator

From the moment your served, request a court date, then work on mediation

Look for legal guidance from your lawyer not life advice..there not your therapist. You have to fiqure what you want first

Practice self cafe - gym, cardio , good support systems, family, friends , etc

Put pressure on the resolve it or your going to court. Lawyers will play the billing game as long as the can to keep milking you both.

Talk to your kids - they need to understand what's going on. There some guys who say keep the kids out of it..yes and no.. they need should what has happened and what's gonna happen

Fuck her- she's is not your wife anymore she is a disappointment and a failed project . Look at her that way and leave it like that

Accept it - dont try to understand it one thing i struggled with was trying to make sense of her affair..don't try..just accept it and move to remove her. Yes it's hard but trust me trying to understand why will drain you and you will never get a explanation

Shes Sorry - she wont say shes sorry

Narcissist- educate yourself on this and know how to deal with these kinds of people. Cant say this enough. If shes a narcissist divorce will be a challenge

Be clear in how you want it to end and what you are will to let go off..

Ok To recap ..my wife had a affair and I found out..confronted her and she left the matrimonial home. Then filed . Ifs been a fucking journey.Emotionally., financially , spiritually.

I have a business, employed, rsu , investment property, child support ,spousal support, equity split for the mantriaonal home whole alotta shit.

Matrimonial home has sold and going to rent

Final items out of mediation Shes getting about 300k from the house proceeds. 3k in spousal support - indefinite ( my mid range was 3500 so I'm happy with 3k) 1200 in child support till my daughter turns 18 This is the offset amount

-Investment Condo I'm keeping -2 older kids stay with me the 50/50 is for my youngest

I'm not totally happy on the spousal support but for context I make about 350k . I'm just glad it's over and I can close this chapter. 2yrs is a long time and I've spent about $70k in legal fees.
I was considering spousal buyout but it would be giving up all my equity in the home.Not doing that..

Now I'm working on moving some assets out my name and purchasing some over seas propetry where I can retire and she can go kick rocks on the indefinite spousal support.

Transferring my online business to my kids for the passive income.

My employer is a global company and I can transfer to any of there subsidiaries.ie..brazi, Singapore..l I'm thinking . It would be a interal transfer.

I obtained my 2nd passport today.

Just array of options are on the table. Going to rent for 1yr and fiqure what's next.

All I can say is - it's long journey but the joy of the freedom is worth the cost. I can literary do anything I want and I dont need to ask permission get input, come back make sure shes ok, none of that shit.

I am a free man ...it can only get better

Yes I'm gonna write a book..this story had to be shared.