Your going to be ok !!

fromcradletoglaive · 2024-10-27T23:29:56+00:00

I don't know, man. I don't see a light only the tunnel. Trying to take this into account. Lost my friends during the marriage. Lost my job due to depression. Lost my wife because I don't even know how to lobe myself much less her. When I leave my kids will be stuck with a mother would would rather sleep than tend to them. She'll have a man in a month if not a week. I don't know.l what's next and even if I can muster the strength to heal. I know I'm just another guy who needs to grow a spine and some self worth but I don't know how. I dont.

Sir_Senseless · 2024-10-26T20:52:03+00:00

I really hope so man. I really hope so.

Zestyclose-Thanks662 · 2024-10-26T10:46:01+00:00

Wow Thank you for Posting. You did something great by letting us know.. A heartfelt Thank you

MR-Ozmidnight · 2024-10-25T23:02:42+00:00

Thank you for sharing that. It shows the guys that people care and that they are not alone. I appreciate you.

My experience was about 27 years ago. I was in a relationship with someone so narcissistic that it was almost unbelievable. She gaslighted me for months, if not years. The only way I managed to get through it was by focusing on my kids. I dedicated myself to them until the situation became unbearable. Her anger was impacting them, so I planned to leave. However, she ran off with my best friend at the time, leaving me to care for my sons.

After she was dumped, she returned and poisoned the local legal community to the point where one lawyer I thought was a friend turned against me. I ended up having to hire a lawyer from out of town, but he messed things up, and as a result, I lost over $500,000, including my home, car, investments, and most importantly, my sons.

Despite everything, I eventually moved on. I'm glad to hear about others who have survived similar ordeals. We need to support each other in this, so once again, thank you for your post. It’s important to remind men that there is light at the end of the tunnel.

JustSomeDude7287 · 2024-10-25T20:02:34+00:00

Thanks for sharing. It will get better, in fact, it HAVE to.

THX1138-22 · 2024-10-25T17:21:38+00:00

I really think this is true. I've found some podcasts to be very helpful as well, especially the "Happy Wife" podcast by Karen Seitz--it has been the most helpful one so far for me. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-happy-wife-school/id1752153127

As she describes, she was a former unhappy wife who emasculated her husband, but then realized what she was doing. As a man, hearing her perspective is really healing. She describes male red pill concepts without the rage and presents them in a more thoughtful way while also providing a message of healthy female empowerment.

Melodic-Grapefruit-4 · 2024-10-25T15:51:23+00:00

Thanks for this man. I’ve been feeling down this week!

Easy_Fan_3858 · 2024-10-25T12:18:33+00:00

Its so hard when you've been so committed. Commited to the vows, committed to the idea we are a team, committed to being better every day for each other, committed to being a great father, committed to working through the lows... I could jut go on.

Then it seems to easy and selfish for her to have an affair, leave everything we built behind, for no reasons but her own. So many lies, so much gaslighting, endless manipulation. Yet I still find myself hoping there is more I can do. I still find myself crying because my efforts weren't enough to keep this ship sailing.

Im so broken inside. I'm so scared. Scared I wont be able to provide enough to my kids financially. Scared my kids wont know what a really family dynamic can be. Scared of what my stbx will subject them to as being normal.

I have no one where I live. My family is all 26 hours worth of driving away. As the years went on my wife became my only friend. I wish I could hug someone. I wish someone would hug me.

Altruistic-Beat-5606 · 2024-10-25T12:07:18+00:00

Today I serve my wife at work in front of all her bosses and coworkers!!!! Hardest thing that I did was file and do this f up process. Ty for sharing and posting i have been thru therapy and self healing with cupping and accupunture. Man we all need love in this world especially us men who sacrifice everything for our families. Don't beg stand tall believe in the lord and kick ass all let'sgoooooo

Human-Development938 · 2024-10-25T10:22:59+00:00

I am in the exact same life boat. It’s scary, but hopeful I can navigate the treacherous waters keeping my sanity, health intact and relationship with my Sons. Appreciate your words of encouragement. Thank You

Indepedence-david · 2024-10-25T10:17:30+00:00

Thanks 🙏

Miserable_Ad_1172 · 2024-10-25T09:08:57+00:00

Thank you so much.

unK4G3D · 2024-10-25T07:05:03+00:00

Thank you for posting this. This is the worst time of my life. It will be very difficult for me to get through the coming holidays without my wife of 40 years, who I still love. About a month ago she said she wanted a divorce because she didn’t love me anymore. She wants to spend her remaining years alone and ironically with me to do things with our kids and grandkids. Not sure how this will go yet. She wants to remain good friends, just not be together. Women are strange creatures.

Murky_Ranger23 · 2024-10-25T02:46:16+00:00

Exactly the post I needed today- thank you brother.

keepontruckingfolks · 2024-10-25T02:40:59+00:00

I couldn’t agree more!!!

I’m in my first week alone post separation with my teenage daughters and it’s awesome!!

Same old story. 20 year marriage then she turns 40 and done. Found out it was years of infidelity .

She travelled for work while I worked full time , raised my daughters and did most of the cooking, cleaning and all of the home maintenance. I’m full purple (I can do all the blue and pink jobs) which has already prepared me to be a single dad.

It will get better and it will get awesome!!!

I did all the suggestions; yoga, meditation, gym, therapy, journaling, sleep, reading, wardrobe and it worked!!

Don’t expect it to help overnight but if you really commit to any of these, things will get better!!

It’s a rollercoaster and you will go in and out of the stages of divorce. However, you will at some point get through the depression, regret, guilt, shame, anger and get to the acceptance, relief and even excitement.

Hang in there, create your own happiness and remember that things happen for a reason.

Eric_C_Productions · 2024-10-25T02:31:07+00:00

I am with you my brother. I am in the same boat as you. My wife took everything....including my 401k. The only thing is, I am not shedding a tear, no crying for me. Just celebrating the fact that I am free from the toxicity and the negative environment my crazy ex wife subjected me to for 20 years of marriage and 24 years together. I have two boys whom I cherish and in less than a months time (fingers crossed) she will have bought me out of OUR house that we shared for 21 years. Am I going to miss that house? Nope....too many memories and it is time for me to move on. Start new ones. New beginning and new hope! So, thanks for your pep talk and I wish you luck in your new life.

Title	Your going to be ok !!
Author	david10277
Upvotes	82
Comments	29
Date	October 25, 2024 1:15 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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