The anger

Comfortable-Angle660 · 2024-05-26T00:59:06+00:00

You telling me a judge ordered you to give her money when you have the kids, and she only gets “visitation”? She needs to get a f’n job, and start paying you child support. What a pos.

Beamformer · 2024-05-24T21:35:28+00:00

Sorry about the GF.

Yeah my ex stole our savings and left me putting our kid through college. Which is much harder now that I'm buying my house for a second time. Her fair share she said, after spending our money for years like she was royalty. The anger is now just financial, I don't give afk what she does today .. not my problem. She refused to show mercy and that will be her future when she reaches out about our kid or anything else in the future.

Complicatedlogic · 2024-05-24T17:00:40+00:00

This may not be popular, but staying positive didn’t help me. Getting angry helped fuel me to getting back where I not only needed to be in life, but much higher than I ever thought I could. I’m not rude or mean to anyone. I’m not violent. I just let the hate and pain I dealt with motivate me.

NoLawfulness8554 · 2024-05-24T16:04:51+00:00

This sucks. I hope you regain your power to move forward. This will pass.

TerribleAmbassador69 · 2024-05-24T11:24:52+00:00

That woman destroyed the life you had. Anger, deep anger is what you should feel.

From this post, you’re proving how strong a person you are. You’ve got everything thrown at you all at once. It is legitimate trauma.

I echo the advice to not have a gf rn. It won’t fix things and will be painful for everyone involved.

Spend some intentional time today (and daily) to focus on one reason you’re angry. Our emotions are ways our bodies inform us that our needs are or are not being met. Clearly, your ex has ripped apart your life. Focus on one specific need at a time. Recognize that the emotions you feel associated with that need are your body’s functional response. Then think of one strategy you can work towards to satisfy that need. It will take a while. But then you’ll know what you can do to move forward.

It’s not going to be easy. It’s going to be very hard. But it will get better.

Miserable_Ad_1172 · 2024-05-24T09:36:05+00:00

“Harnesses it, let it serve you” Kratos.

I think your doing great to make sure you aren’t letting it out in negative ways. That takes discipline something most walk away wives know absolutely nothing about nor will they unitl it’s too late and and the kids have left them, their house stinks of cat piss and they can’t get low value men to even look at them.

Please don’t pursue a girlfriend at this time that isn’t fair on them or you. Date, have sex but just don’t try to have anything serious. Please heed this advice.

You will be ok and anger is completely natural,don’t let modern society teach you that it’s not. But the anger works for you not against you. You are in charge.

Daily stoic by Ryan holiday helped me look at things a little different so there’s a little project your in full control of. Save yourself spending money on any more women for a little while and buy yourself some constructive reading, it will also help you sleep.

Remember they know not what they do and should be pitied more than blamed.

You will be ok and there’s many of us here who will listen if you want to rant and let that shit out 💪🏼😊

upvotersfortruth · 2024-05-24T08:59:48+00:00

When my rage hit its peak, I went for drives alone and just screamed out every nasty thing that came to me, at times I felt like I couldn't control what I was saying. Then once I stopped vomiting that hate, I felt ... better. Significantly better. Then it would build again, and I did it again. The shit is infuriating sometimes, "manage your anger" - fuck off. Let it out in the least destructive way possible.

Title	The anger
Author	Remarkable_Egg492
Upvotes	17
Comments	13
Date	May 24, 2024 8:15 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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