It’s been a while since I’ve posted here. Just some background. I’ve been divorced almost 2 years and when we got divorced she used recordings of me she took secretly to use as intimidation tactics to get more custody time. She also filed CPS case against me at the time which was all later unsubstantiated. I had a variable work schedule with no family support at the time in healthcare making it further difficult to take them more and ended up getting the kids every other weekend and 1 after school day a week for 2 hours. Something like 30% custody.

I got a new job that would allow me to take care of the kids more and met with a lawyer to fight for more custody time. I now work 6 twelves in a row and have 8 days off in a row. It’s hard work but I love having a life again. So now there is no reason I can’t do 50/50 alternating weeks. Her lawyer fought back and we were heading to trial. Just a week before that her lawyer came begging to us to do mediation and she settled with everything I was asking for! My lawyer said she was probably bluffing the whole time and realized they had no case. I just told the kids the news with my EX at drop off and they all jumped and cheered and gave me hugs. I hope that stung like salt in a wound for her.

When I first found out I was getting divorced I thought my life was over. I almost ended my life then and there. I thought everything was hopeless. My ex got remarried 3 months after I got divorced to make things even harder. I didn’t give up and found this forum to give me hope. I took advice and worked out and found my favorite hobby of fishing and bought my own fishing boat. I rediscovered who I was. I never thought I would ever be happy again.

I am here to tell you all to never give up, never stop fighting, because it only gets better. And if you have kids they are the most important thing in the world to fight over. Do not miss out on them growing up and make memories with them they will never forget. Thank you everyone!