Don’t mix someone having high education + wealth with being HV

Sage_Planter · 2020-07-11T04:44:26+00:00

Yes to all of this.

I'd argue that educated and wealthy men need to be approached with even more caution because it's easier for them to hide their low value with achievements and money. For example, it takes absolutely nothing for a well-off man to ask his secretary to send expensive flowers with a nice note, but those actions seem high value.

theseviraltimes · 2020-07-11T04:24:32+00:00

I work in fine dinning and I deal with wealthy, educated men all the time. Some of them are pure trash. They can be so rude, arrogant, sexist, ignorant, etc. They might be more common than polite wealthy men, in fact. I’ve worked in much more working-class kind of places before and some of the most polite and gentlemanly guys I’ve dealt with are farmers, factory workers, mechanic types. It depends on what your own personal values are, but if I went down that road, I think would feel much more comfortable and secure with a salt of the earth working man, who still makes a decent living, than a wealthy man who won’t acknowledge the people who take care of him.

readyheartsx · 2020-07-11T03:48:27+00:00

Wow this sounds like me. Except for the cheapskate part. But I dated a broke ass high school drop out for 8 years he ended up cheating on me. Shortly after I met this great fun guy on an app and he would spend all this money to come see me. He had his masters degree and was working at Facebook as a software engineer. Truly brilliant but this guy was a narcissist. Love bombing, all that. But basically he was obsessed with sex and things like BDSM. Like OBSESSED.

Not too bad until he started making comments about how I would look so sexy with huge breasts (implants) and why my teeth had brown spots on it. And back then I didn’t exercise much but what I found really odd and really particular was that he would track his parents weight and BMI and all that from an app all the way in the US while his parents lived in India. If their weight or BMI or any other health stat went up by one point guess who he’s calling??? This guy had a DISORDERED view of his eating habits and his body.

I had an eating disorder in high school I never told him about but I could tell his body image was truly messed up.

Also , all our conversations were mostly all about him. And he would always brag about himself.

“I want to always be the smartest guy in the room”

Weirdest thing is he’d always say “I think I’m a narcissist”

Naive me would think that LVM= no education and always broke and that can be true but LVM can also mean great education, making 200K a year and still a fucking asshole.

There’s a lot of other scenarios. Like how he would drink a lot... etc. But I don’t even wanna think about it. You’re so right girl.

Neorago · 2020-07-11T11:52:28+00:00

I have the same experience.

My narc ex won a 5 figure sum of money and had a decent job but still made us split all our bills and never took me on dates. He also had a £40 limit for buying me gifts on my birthday. Yet he could spend £20 a week on fizzy drinks and £40 a week on takeout. Hundreds on games every year. SO stingy.

My recent ex wasn't HV but he was generous. He was a broke student whilst I have my degree and career yet he was still willing to put his most prized possession up for sale just so he could travel to see me. For my birthday he set aside money to take me for lunch and to the arcade. It doesn't sound like much money but it was for him and it was the best date I've ever had.

spin_the_globe · 2020-07-11T14:56:27+00:00

Yep yep yep. A turd doesn't magically turn into chocolate just because it's wrapped in gold foil. The foil just hides the stink for a little longer.

ImPiqued1111111 · 2020-07-12T02:40:20+00:00

The man I dated with multiple advanced degrees from top tier international universities and a high-paying, high-level job at a very well-known multinational corporation actually paid for all of our dates. He was also a sadistic sex addicted psychopath who is the most cunning manipulator I've ever encountered and I'm still recovering from the damage done by his twisted games.

JaneIsaPain · 2020-07-12T07:05:03+00:00

There is no predictor of which man is a misognist. The only proof is how he treats you.

Title	Don’t mix someone having high education + wealth with being HV
Author	dntbfllikeidid
Upvotes	154
Comments	25
Date	July 11, 2020 12:38 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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