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[–]BlueJeanMistressFDS Apprentice[S] 254 points255 points256 points 4 years ago* (4 children) | Copy Link
I would also add one more to this:
9) Say nothing: Sometimes it’s better to remain quiet, observe and let the other person dig their own grave. Often times when someone thinks you’re a good listener they’re more likely to keep talking and reveal their true intentions.
[–]DeterminedblondeFDS Newbie 45 points46 points47 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I noticed toxic men do this often. No one can criticise your opinions if they don’t hear them.
This is my way of saying YES SAY NOTHING. Fight fire with fire!
[–]askmeabouttheforestFDS Newbie 156 points157 points158 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
When faced with gross sexism or threats: "I don't understand what you mean, could you explain it to me?"
[–]millennialpink2000FDS Apprentice 74 points75 points76 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I'll add: "Why are you talking to me like I have a head injury?"
[–]LizzoSaidTruthHurtsFDS Newbie 18 points19 points20 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Speaking from personal experience, whenever I try to use these with the LVM men in my family, it never works. These statements only work when I’m talking to men with a modicum of decency.
[–]crust_mutt 52 points53 points54 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
9) “Don’t touch me.”
[–]wilsathethief 47 points48 points49 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I learned recently this one: "do I seem interested in talking to you? then stop." making them actually acknowledge they're ignoring our body language/obvious hints/signs we arent interested and they're consciously ignoring that.
[–]bellinibabie 43 points44 points45 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
“Do you speak to men like that?”
“Would you appreciate a (insert age here, works especially well on old men) year old man calling you sweetie/honey/baby?”
[–]faultierinFDS Newbie 29 points30 points31 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
For disguisting jokes etc. the best strategy is pretending you don't understand. Then they either have to explain it in really gross way or get embarassed instantly because they don't want to explain it as it is gross.
[–]BlueJeanMistressFDS Apprentice[S] 10 points11 points12 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
This can work or men will turn it around, get defensive and say “it was just a joke, you’re overreacting. Never mind!”
[–]CrackpotPatriotFDS Newbie 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
And my response when they do the latter is always, “Oh; gotcha -rape is funny. Odd.” And walk away.
“Oh; gotcha -child porn is funny. Odd.” And walk away.
“Oh, gotcha -cheating is funny. Odd.” And walk away.
“Oh, gotcha -violence is funny. Odd.” And walk away.
[–]ThePatriarchyIsTrash 32 points33 points34 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
One I just introduced into my vernacular today: I'm done with this conversation. Have a good day (turn and walk away)
[–]ro0ibos2FDS Newbie 11 points12 points13 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
> 2) no
Very international one. If he doesn't speak English, he should at least know what this one means.
[–]fds_throwaway_4_uFDS Newbie 9 points10 points11 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
9) Fuck off
[–]mythrowawaypdxFDS Newbie 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Very helpful. I just used #1 while talking to my father. He is a narcissist and gets overly excited when talking, he starts to raise his voice and talk over you when he's not even upset. If I continue talking he won't stop but when i said that sentence it worked.
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