"Dating Your Intellectual Equal"

User-31f64a4e · 2015-01-17T14:01:04+00:00

I enjoy spending my free time doing research about things that pique my interest or have sat on my mind for a while, while she would rather talk about how rude her co workers are or how shes afraid that certain people don't like her.

Great minds talk about ideas. Mediocre minds talk about events. Small minds talk about people. In the case of women, their consensus nature forces them to talk about people as that is how the group mind sorts out who has status and who does not.

cover20 · 2015-01-17T09:02:58+00:00

Can she change? No she cannot grow another 30 IQ points.

Sounds like an ideal plate. The other stuff would get worse if married. And a dumb wife tends to mean dumb kids.

GayLubeOil · 2015-01-17T09:34:07+00:00

Both of them have alot of growing up to do. The thing to remember about maturity is people only develop it when they have to develop it. If your buddy gets shot in Afghanistan and you'll mature quickly and try to stop the bleeding with whatever possible. Meanwhile rich Amanda has the luxury of saying eww blood, if another girl gets a scrape at her boarding school.

White american women are the most spoied privileged people on earth. They are also the most shallow materialistic and immature.

2015-01-17T07:03:54+00:00

I have been with my wife since I was a sophomore in high school. I'm 24 now. I started to develop the same feelings about her as I was going through basic military training and tech school. It will become a serious problem later on down the road IMO. Those types of chicks are the kind that have no clue what they want or will want in the near future. They aren't necessarily out to ruin you but they are too naive and gullible. Don't ever think she won't cheat either. You might be able to get through to her somehow but that is going to take some serious introspection on her part. She's gonna have to actually start CARING about improving herself and the way she thinks. Don't settle for anything less than qualities you KNOW are going to pay off in the long run.

H42 · 2015-01-17T13:39:10+00:00

His oneitis will be his utter downfall. This guy will never swallow the pill until years after that female breaks him into dust.

RedHeimdall · 2015-01-17T08:04:11+00:00

Finding a girl who's your intellectual equal...

Good. Fucking. Luck. With. That.

But even if you did find one, would you be attracted to her? Doubtful.

3409852034 · 2015-01-17T14:33:58+00:00

I've dated girls that below, equal, and above my intellect. My observations, your own milage may vary:

Lower intellect:

more feminine
more sex
more attractive
more drama. Always some issue that needs solving
talks more, often endlessly about nothing
content with the relationship as opposed to interested in you as a person
more likely to be needy. Stronger victim mentality
greater need for validation
shit tests are more basic: about loyalty, fidelity, masculinity, and are task-based

Equal or higher intellect:

more stylish and classy
great conversations
varied hobbies, and more of them
more interesting in general
less self-absorbed due to natural curiosity about the world and others
more interested in you as a person
a need to be fulfilled with "witty conversations" or "intellectual proof"
more independent
shit tests are more sophisticated - often to test your status, or intelligence

I enjoy dating both types of women. However, given the choice, I'd rather date a woman that's less intelligent than me. They both bust your balls in different ways, but the less intelligent woman is easier to deal with. I find sex with them is often better, more natural and passionate and primal. Intelligent women need the intellect satisfied as well as their body.

As I say, your own milage may vary.

CostaDelicata · 2015-01-18T03:42:41+00:00

She'sonly 19 years old and I'm 21

If you marry a woman while you are both under 24, you will look back when you are 25 and it willfeel like you were married to at least 6 different women. Up to around age 25 both men and women firgure out who they are by "trying" and exploring different parts of their personalities. You are too young to get that serious IMO. Enjoy life, work hard, play hard, and stop stressing :)

2015-01-17T10:01:17+00:00

Congrats to the poster for even realizing the red flags before he decided to marry. Some men never get to see that path until it's too late.

TreePlusTree · 2015-01-17T07:14:22+00:00

I'm gonna tell you this right now, I'm in an ltr with the single smartest woman I've ever met. Seriously, my crowd was always the smart kids (not the dumbass "nerd", we're the guys that slept in class and aced our tests no fuckin problem), so it means alot to say she's fucking smart as shit, man.

With all that, she's a damn child. Gets temper tantrums, complains about workmates as the entirety of her conversational topics, and is just generally emotional. Shit is hilarious when I hear NAWALT lol, this girl is living proof they're all the same.

asdfghjkltyu · 2015-01-17T08:37:07+00:00

It depends what you mean equal. Some women are very smart, but they aren't smart in the same way as men (not saying they're inferior, but its a different kind of intelligence). The smartest women can also be horribly insecure and make poor decisions in life. They also have interests that you don't really want to share (Feminism etc) and you can have just as little in common with them as anyone else.

long-lostfriend · 2015-01-18T13:42:59+00:00

I cannot date my intellectual equal; I am straight. :)

My wife happens to be a pretty smart lady, but I have told her on numerous occasions that it her pleasantness and respect for me that turns me on far more than her IQ and intellect.

The problem with the woman in the OP is not that she is dumb; the problem is that she is petty, immature, disrespectful, materialistic, and a gossip. None of those qualities are limited to the less-intelligent among women.

The guy needs to next her because she is all of those things, and stop worrying about the intellectual angle. That's what male friends are for.

the99percent1 · 2015-01-17T07:05:27+00:00

You are the captain of your ship. You lead, she follows. There is no equal to you, a man of (or heading to) great integrity and pillar of strength.

Don't let yourself slide into thinking you will find a woman of equal mindedness or even aiming for self-actualization. Such women simply do not exists. If you want to find an equal intellectual and mature person, seek out a male friend.

End of story...

2015-01-17T14:38:29+00:00

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99_Problem · 2015-01-18T18:39:09+00:00

"Intellectual equal" ... fucking please.

You can get intellectual stimulation from anybody: man, woman, child, animal ... many many different sources. I can go to a museum, art gallery, conference, or internet message board and get intellectual stimulation.

You can get sexual fulfillment from far fewer people. If you're in a relationship but not sexually fulfilled, what the fuck is the point?

If you're holding out for "an intellectual equal" you're going to be sorely disappointed every time. And you'll likely miss out on some of the greatest sexual experiences of your life.

slcjosh · 2015-01-18T23:33:27+00:00

You're 21 man. Your intellect isn't as great as you think. Reassess something like this when you hit 25. Then again at 30. The differences will be massive.

RedPillSafe · 2015-01-17T14:30:05+00:00

I have a 145 IQ so my whole life I've never found a female of equal intelligence.

But Red Pill makes it clear that stoic objective rational intelligence (which IQ measures) is NOT the game women play.

Women are the opposite form of intelligence which is the hamster loop. Their advantage exists because they can flip their reality upside down in two seconds.

As men we can be "stunned" by how fast they can spin.

Women can "out spin" men if we lose our rational frame. (very easily)

So be careful with this "men and women as equals" logic it's not how things work.

A man can objectively be a genius and not understand women.

Whisper · 2015-01-18T11:14:27+00:00

Please no belligerence.

No. Fuck you. You're going to get the medicine how I choose to give it to you. I'm not going to coat with sugar for you. Because fuck that.

Stop treating your woman like your friend. She is not your friend. She is your woman.

You do not need to have the same level of intelligence. You do not need to have the same hobbies. You do not need to be "compatible". Compatibility is a lie. Relationships do not work based on compatibility or shared interests. They work based on mutual attraction and shared values.

If you want to have an intellectual conversation, make some intellectual friends. Women are not for intellectual stimulation. They are for emotional connection. They are childlike for a reason. It's not a flaw. It is their greatest asset. It helps you lighten the fuck up and have some fucking fun.

In any good relationship with a woman, you're going to be at least as much of a father as you are a lover.

The idea that your woman is supposed to your equal in maturity is dumb idea. It's not how attraction works and it never has been. It was a lie you have been sold, and you need to unlearn it. You experience her immaturity as infuriating because you are too timid or lazy to take charge. Do fathers get angry that their little girls are immature and won't share responsibility?

If she wants to buy a dog, tell her no. If she wants to go fly kites, go fly kites with her. That's what "immaturity" is for. All maturity and no nonsense make life not worth living.

Stop expecting women to be men. Having a relationship with another man would not be fun even if you could somehow "decide" to be gay.

MattyAnon · 2015-01-17T08:51:00+00:00

I think you're answering most of your own questions.

Only you can decide what you really want, FOR YOU. You're very young to consider marriage. And ask yourself what an emotionally immature woman would do when she knows she both "has you" and "can get cash prizes from you should divorce happen".

LKLazy · 2015-01-18T00:34:07+00:00

The fact that you have to ask that means you have not read RP, or absorbed anything in RP. Lurk more. The answer is that if you are even thinking to marry before you're even 30, or you actually DO marry before you are 30, then you're failing the biggest shit test. I can see some red flags within this relationship, so no.

Remember, you tell her NAWALT. When in reality, AWALT.

Lt_Muffintoes · 2015-01-20T16:00:48+00:00

she thought we would have an apartment together soon and that I'd simply be okay with getting a dog

This is a major problem. She has no respect for your viewpoint, and she doesn't even have the curiousity to find out what it is.

She will make a horrible mother and probably divorce rape you.

I applaud that it set off some alarm bells in you. Most men would ignore or accept it.

Low intelligence in and of itself is not necessarily a deal breaker. I would rather be with a dumber, well-developed open hearted girl than a highly intelligent cold hearted narcissist.

This may help you in future: http://fdrurl.com/rtrpdf

sir_wankalot_here · 2015-01-19T03:22:11+00:00

Where do you find women that are actually intellectual ? It is easier to find a unicorn.

2015-01-17T15:51:40+00:00

The notion that love is compromise... What a disgusting perspective.

Title	"Dating Your Intellectual Equal"
Author	morphite65
Upvotes	19
Comments	68
Date	January 17, 2015 6:43 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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