One step away from a cuck

AlohaMaui808 · 2021-10-12T15:56:13+00:00

I want the storm to pass

If I do everything right, I'll have a smooth, problem free life

That's you.

You could start by reading the sidebar, Mr. Nice Guy

muzzy_W0e · 2021-10-12T15:43:55+00:00

I was expecting more entertainment based on the title.

IncitingDramah · 2021-10-12T16:53:24+00:00

Got kids with her? If not, pull the rip cord and bail.

You've done too much damage, and will take you discipline and will power to hold your stupid situation together (obvious you don't have either).

Let me give you the advice my father gave me.

A man can build a thousand bridges in his life, but only suck one dick. Do you know what he'll be remembered for? That's right, sucking that one dick.

You, however, are at the all you can suck dick buffet and she's watched you go through miles of dick at this buffet. No wonder your about to get cucked (if she isn't fucking others already), youre more feminine than she is. She won't respect you, because you've done nothing to EARN respect from anyone. Fuck, you don't even respect yourself my dude.

She acts the way she does because you're feminine, weak, unattractive, and apparently fucking autistic. She treats you like she does because you let her, you'd rather have the slim chance of smelling her panties or Chad's dick on her breath than even entertain the idea of effort to change or leave.

My advice. Bail, work on yourself, dont look at pussy until you have hair on your balls and base in your voice. Stop being a boy, do the work, and be a man.

Shipbldr2000 · 2021-10-12T15:47:55+00:00

How about you get started by making your own decisions? Seriously.

Make a decision, act on it and own the outcome. Either way, you win.

Idigabighole · 2021-10-12T17:43:32+00:00

Well you seem to have decided on the stfu part. Now read the sidebar, lift and get ready. Shit will get hectic.

ragnar_Daneskjold · 2021-10-12T18:35:08+00:00

Also looking for signpost from someone whose already walked this path,
basically in the right direction towards reading material , information
to digest, regarding getting started on becoming a better man

Man! If only.

Once you find that direction or like resource of info and like a bar of material to digest...off to the side somewhere....will you please report back to tell the rest of us where it is? Thanks dude.

Argentina_MRP · 2021-10-12T20:10:08+00:00

Wait a minute... No kids? Leave.

Your post lacks a ton of info on you and the relationship. Not sure what you are expecting here. By the way, I sense a lot of oneitis for your woman as you have no options whatsoever. Start working through the sidebar and lifting weights on the regular. That should be a good start. Don't you think?

BigBoiBahmani · 2021-10-13T04:40:22+00:00

Watch Rian Stone's content on YouTube obsessively. I have been in your mindset before. That hamster is a motherfucker. "All issues must be resolved logically". Probably watched a lot of Jordan Peterson eske shit too I wager.

Watch Rian Stone's podcast Red Morning - The Scoreboard. It talks about the exact thing you said your options are.

Three things. Motivations, Forces and Assumptions. You define what you want, how you wanna go about getting what you want, what assumptions are you making about the whole system.

If you wanna get jacked so that your wife will start loving you again? Or hate your wife very much? Then you have fucked up motivations. People get deviated in this usually and go Rambo. Focus on what you want.

If you don't know how to game or dread, learn. These are forces. Easier to understand and apply.

Still think your wife loves you unconditionally for who you are because love is from the soul? Fucked up assumptions.

Find out what's wrong with you and fix that.

About the shit test part.

Learn how to not take your wife seriously. Treat her like a child in these situations. Or most situations. Pat her on the head or cheek.

Here is a bit of an article I had saved. It is from somewhere in the sidebar I don't remember where though:

"Women, then, are only children of a larger growth; … A man of sense only trifles with them, plays with them, humors and flatters them, as he does with a sprightly forward child; but he neither consults them about, nor trusts them with serious matters; though he often makes them believe that he does both; which is the thing in the world they are most proud of; for they love mightily to be dabbling in business (which by the way they always spoil); and being justly distrustful that men in general look upon them in a trifling light, they almost adore that man who talks more seriously to them, and who seems to consult and trust them; I say, who seems; for weak men really do, but wise ones only seem to do it."

I have written a short bit about this as well:

Women's anger is a shit test. Literally everything is a shit test. Just laugh and maybe pat them on the head "Everything's fine babe relax."

It is fairly easy to not be affected by outbursts/anger/illogical arguments which are ultimately tantrums which come from someone with a body of a 14 year old and hopefully a cute face. They will keep throwing these tantrums hoping and waiting for someone who will not take these seriously. That guy, gets rewarded.

Women will punish you for taking them seriously.

So what Grug do? Well, most of the time; STFU. Then try to use classic handling techniques like "Amused Mastery" and "Agree and Amplify" and most important of it all, never take women seriously.

Learn to be a man who doesn't take women seriously instinctively because:

He has abundance. (Mastery of the material world)
He knows it is a shit test. (Knowledge of the material world)

What I have in this is not completely correct. But it is good enough to work.

Praexology · 2021-10-13T13:13:45+00:00

Outside of your other post about holding her in contempt, this is more or less one of the least bad victim pukes I've read.

Been a needy little bitch and basically made her my mission.

I need to sort myself out regardless if it's with her or not.

As soon as there are shit tests or conflict I get bent over and fucked in the ass.

My problem is I'm dependent on a feeling of resolution,

I need to dedicate my life to becoming a better man, regardless of the price I have to pay.

So I'm just going to pretend she's dead until my head's a bit clearer.

Mission

Frame

Outcome Independence

You've done a decent job of identifying your core problems: validation addiction, mismanaged hierarchy of values and congruency.

Get into oys and start keeping a journal.

Stfu more often.

business_-_travel · 2021-10-12T18:27:44+00:00

Is this a college relationship or something?

I have no idea what's going on here...

Kevlar__Soul · 2021-10-15T03:04:11+00:00

First step is stop being a fucking pussy. Who cares if she is angry? What she going to do kick your ass? Chances are she will give you the silent treatment and you get a vacation from conversations about her feels for a few day.

Side bar gives you all the reading material you will need. Rian stone is also a great YouTube channel on relationships and he has videos series breaking down most of the books. Doesn’t replace reading them but is a good start:

To be honest if your not married and no kids involved I would plan on bailing. Start reading married man sex life and no more mr nice guy, these will give you an idea on what your doing wrong. Fix your issues and if things aren’t exactly where you want them or heading in that direction in 6 month then just bail. Best case she is happy you finally grew a pair and falls in line and worst case you fix your issues so when you find another girl you don’t make the same mistakes.

Make sure you control the birth control, by wearing a fucking rubber. Don’t want that to all this sudden forget to take her BC for a week and your stuck with her for 18 years.

As for not dealing well with conflict your assuming rolling over in every argument is making her happy or is actually resolving the issue. Only thing her hind brain is thinking is my man is weak for rolling over and doesn’t have the mental strength to protect me or my future kids. She won’t know why she keep testing you and your failures make angry.

Just_Some_Guy_RP · 2021-10-12T21:45:21+00:00

Well what do you want in life?

Do you want this girl in your life? If so fix your broken mental models and be more attractive, either she comes around or she doesn't. If not break up with her move into your own place and work on your shit. Failing that you could always start a Space Marine army and watch the fresh and fit podcast...

No one is going to sign post you. If you'd like you can look at our post histories and see who you're getting advice from and hope that those people are legit.

But really before the usual stuff of STFU, LIFT Read Side bar, know what you want in life and start from there.

sicrm · 2021-10-12T16:04:00+00:00

focus building some semblance of a frame and use her as a sparring partner if you don’t leave.

oobertas · 2021-10-12T21:48:42+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/acvzgx/steels_guide_to_married_red_pill/

mrpthrowa · 2021-10-13T09:23:55+00:00

The average man has a huge ego - he is a fixer, to know how to fix something, but admit that they won't fix it takes a lot of guts. Guts to to admit "defeat" in not fixing this "one girl" and this "one relationship".

But a rational man recognises investment and reward - his time is irreplacable, and his time is better spent pursuing new far easier opporunities, than getting trapped into a sunken cost fallacy and continuing to pour invaluable time into a valueless rewardless endeavour.

Title	One step away from a cuck
Author	flimzillatro
Upvotes	8
Comments	33
Date	October 12, 2021 3:15 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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