Mainland Chinese girls don't seem interested once on date?

netw0rkpenguin · 2026-03-12T07:13:10+00:00

Tell them you are a defense contractor with top secret clearance and watch them perc up (/s, somewhat)

norwegiandoggo · 2026-03-12T08:54:27+00:00

This is strange, because I dated several Chinese mainland women in the US like this. And while some were a bit shy and reserved - most would still accept my advances. They're horny just like other women.

If you ask them what they're looking for, and they say "I don't know" - that typically means casual sex is on the table. Just proceed as normal. Don't expect as much enthusiasm in body language or verbally - that's a cultural difference to act more reserved. Don't let that throw you off your game, and just move things along towards your bedroom anyway. You'll probably be surprised how many want to go all the way with you despite the apparent lack of early engagement or enthusiasm. It's just a difference in how they express themselves compared to westerners.

jaded-tired · 2026-03-12T04:10:27+00:00

Mainland Chinese girl here: a lot of us are reserved on the first date because we don’t want to come across as easy and don’t want to show that we are too invested. If a man is too talkative, then we’ll take it as flirtatious and think you’re just trying to get into our pants.

Also, regarding about us not knowing what we want, a lot of us don’t really have that much experience in relationships. Just because we’re using dating apps, it doesn’t mean we’ve been with a lot of men. Maybe some of them are just trying to make genuine friends and see where it goes.

Last point: There are different standards for men. If you’re Asian, despite being an Asian American, you’ll be judged as Asian and the rest of the men in the other categories. So if you’re an outgoing man, you may come off a bit more intimidating and more horny than if you were other men because we already expect other non-Asian men to be more horny so they’re less intimidating since we expect them to be like that. It’s not fair but it is what it is.

vladseheda · 2026-03-12T07:18:23+00:00

They expect u to do all the work and if u don’t they call it not “sincere”. They use this word specifically. The bio questions are transactional as in what do I and my parents get in return for dating/marrying u. The upside if that’s what ur into they’re almost always looking at u as marriage material

Ok_Investigator7568 · 2026-03-12T14:43:30+00:00

I am a south east asian guy dating only attractive 7+ on the appearance scale women. I have been on 50+ dates with mainland chinese girls and probably slept with 40 of them.

You need to show them you are steady and reliable, as this is sexy to them, not a jester. When I hear the comment “you are more talkative than I thought you’d be” it meant they were looking for someone with quiet confidence and manly, and I had to tone it down.

The less I talk and the bigger the death stare on my face, the more they become attracted. The more talkative I am, the more likely my success rate hits 0. So, now I just give them the death stare, ask questions about them, don’t give too much info about myself, and qualify them by asking why, what do you mean, I disagree etc. Also helps if you act aloof to de-escalate and make it fun without jestering.

You need to drink alcohol with them. If you don’t, it’s like you miss a step and they become flakey.

datatexture · 2026-03-12T10:22:10+00:00

Most of them are just coy and frigid and once she finally opens up to you you're in for a dead fish session. It's a cultural thing. Also no emotional depth. Also a cultural thing. If you're looking for an overall anemic experience, stick around.

Nine_ · 2026-03-12T07:34:14+00:00

try the ones that have rave photos they’re more normal

HauntingAsparagus2 · 2026-03-12T07:39:04+00:00

Sounds like the juice doesnt worth the squeeze

theeyeofvoid · 2026-03-12T17:31:37+00:00

No white; that's the answer

DrewforPres · 2026-03-12T21:17:47+00:00

That’s wild. I’ve found Chinese women to be some of the horniest and easiest to seduce I’ve met

MajesticFerret36 · 2026-03-13T17:50:23+00:00

What are your advances?

Verbal or physical?

I find Chinese girls respond better to physical advances than verbal ones. Admitting to being sexual creatures is not part of their culture. But they respond well to touching and physical dominance just fine.

Just move the date forward and try to end up at your place and expect it will take more than one date for plenty of them.

S-Tier_Commenter · 2026-03-12T10:25:22+00:00

Had a Chinese girl invite me over one night after we matched on bumble. Was going there assuming to get some, but on arrival she told me she refrained from even touching on the first meet.

I was a bit pushy and did manage to get an arm around her, but that was it. We arranged another date for tea the next day at my place, when we did kiss. She left for a party but then messaged me late at night if she could come over again. We went on to meet each other 28 days in a row, and she became my gf for a bit.

Special case I suppose.

Had another Chinese girl from bumble who did have sex on the first date. So depends on the person too.

verticalstars · 2026-03-12T13:29:58+00:00

Hello asian brother. Sorry but they are probably just shy or not into u (when they meet u in-person)... Either ways why u wanna waste your time analyzing this. Instead focus on lining up other dates.. Keep your in-person dates cheap coffee or your place. And stop trying to seduce girls over text. Do it in person.

SuperPoop · 2026-03-12T13:37:19+00:00

generally speaking, my experience with Asian women is that they're very shy at first. they may like you a lot, but it takes a lot for them to come out of their shell.

Throwawayamanager · 2026-03-12T17:16:06+00:00

ask about my bio

So, they actually give a shit about getting to know you as a person instead of just hopping on your stick? The horror. /s.

I think I can tell what the issue is.

Maybe they sense that you're a superficial and shallow person when they meet you and that's why they're not interested and do just enough to be polite.

If you just want a casual roll in the hay, get on Tinder (that's what it was invented for anyway) and just be up front about it instead of complaining about women seeing through you.

SummerSplash · 2026-03-12T15:00:05+00:00

They just don't know how to date, and their dating style is quite different: indeed interview style questions but not 'having fun' on a date.

BTW 'mainland China' is actually a political term that implies that Taiwan belongs to China. So you should just call it China if you don't want to imply that.

Ok-Orange7146 · 2026-03-12T04:16:50+00:00

They’re not interested in YOU. It’s as simple as that. You bore them.

Title	Mainland Chinese girls don't seem interested once on date?
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Date	March 12, 2026 3:54 AM UTC (4 months ago)
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