Quit Being Negative

ADJMan · 2017-09-27T03:06:02+00:00

This took me years to figure out. It took a complete change of my personal beliefs to grasp the benefits from thinking like this. Once I learned to see positions other than my own my own complaining started to fade and I started to see how annoying the people that are negative all the time actually are.

ThePUA_Baddie · 2017-09-27T03:14:53+00:00

most dark little shits are naturally negative people

Woop_dee_do · 2017-09-27T09:48:23+00:00

I agree 100%. I sometimes catch myself being negative, and all it does is make you and other feel bad. It also massively has a negative effect on your game, chicks don't want to go home with a guy after he spends his entire night complaining about how other people are having a good time. I rarely even downvote posts on reddit or anywhere becuase we all have different opinions

ImJustSo · 2017-09-27T11:33:23+00:00

I appreciate your sentiment, but you're basically asking every negative dick to respond to this post, because you've called them out.

I agree with your post, but I'm curious if you've figured something out about negative people and your own outlook. There's some people you can get through to, but typically you have to have a close relationship with those individuals to make a difference. They have to respect your opinion in the first place and try to take away from the conversation what you intend.

Typically, this isn't how positive people/negative people relationships go. Typically, a negative person will find it much easier to shit all over your life, so that they don't have to change. They just try to bring positive people down to their level instead of rising up and changing. They can just affect another person's mood and think, "See, we're not so different now are we? You positive piece of shit. Mua....Ha. Ha. Ha."

There's two kinds of people in this world: People that deserve your time, and people that don't deserve anything.

The positive spin you put on the world should be protected at all times. Your positive mindset is under a constant barrage by people, places, things, and ideas.

If a negative person throws shit at you, dodge it.

If the world throws muddy rain water in your face, you wipe it off.

If you break an ankle, look forward to chatting with that cute nurse.

If starving puppies make you sad, go pet some dogs at the Humane Society, maybe adopt one and give it a good life.

Negative people are weak. They die sooner. They live shitty lives. They ruin other people's lives. No one finds the negativity attractive, not even their negative shitty friends. They're not under a constant barrage that's trying to change their mood. They've given up fighting for a good life and they're assaulting yours instead, because it's easier.

Those people should get one chance to fuck up, then they need to get the hell out of our way.

ThrowAccount654 · 2017-09-27T08:12:51+00:00

"All your successes are because the girls are total sluts and are probably banging a thousand guys at the same time!"

99% of the time when a "male" uses the word slut its because they are jealous as fuck

also in case you haven't noticed (somehow... with how good you must be socially to be a good PUA) if someone spends all this time on the internet it means they have nothing better they would rather be doing IRL, so they are gonna be WEIRD AS FUCK. ive been spam posting the past few days because im tweaking out on adderall since i have exams but otherwise the internet is a complete waste of my time when i could be with real people doing real things in real life... so yeah they are gonna be weird as fuck.

ShatteredBong · 2017-09-27T09:50:28+00:00

It's the web. People always are gonna hate. How you know your doing good.

h6d · 2017-09-27T07:55:40+00:00

yesyesyes op thanks for posting this. positivity is definitely the way to go 100 percent

SyrusDrake · 2017-09-27T11:20:29+00:00

I know you probably don't particularly care but let me offer some explanation for those behaviors anyway. I mean, yea, some people are just trolls, don't worry about them. But I know that there can be "legitimate" reasons for such negative reactions as well:

1) Overcoming negativity is really fucking hard. I know from experience. Generally, changing one's behavior and attitude is difficult because it changes who you are. But having a negative attitude also makes a sick sort of sense. You're always going to be either pleasantly surprised or right. Setting yourself up to be potentially wrong and disappointed is difficult.

2) What's aggravating and can provoke a negative feedback is the "just"-attitude of a lot of advice, particularly from "experienced" users in this sub. "Just" talk to her, "just" ask her out, "just" be less negative. English isn't my native language and it took me a lot of time and effort to get to my current skill level. I know how hard it can be, especially if you are more familiar with other languages. So when someone needs help, I always try to see it from their perspective, I don't go "Just write this simple text in English".

3) Similar issue that's pissing me off as well: You read advice on some blog and the author is like "It's super easy. I always talk to women and never had a negative experience" and you check out their bio and their picture and they're almost always super attractive. Social interactions are just easier if you're blessed with natural charisma. That alone isn't a problem. Some people are just born with some sort of gift, one way or another, be it skill or appearance or what have you. No need to hold it against them. But being completely oblivious to your gift is annoying, especially if you think some task at hand should be as easy for non-gifted people as it is for you.

orukai · 2017-09-27T14:29:45+00:00

I was like this as well... I want to say from my teens up to my early 20s. You're right about the self inflicted misery. I also have something else to add. The people who get annoyed by the negative vibes, perhaps in about two minutes or less they will completely forget about that "annoying asshat" after dealing with said annoying asshat, further negating any reason to condition yourself to be so negative.

EmberTraveler · 2017-09-27T17:07:40+00:00

Agreed!

Thriving and giving good energy compared to sucking it up and coping

Ricardoheesbeen · 2017-09-27T22:04:13+00:00

You're absolutely right man, if you allow yourself to be negative about things, then your life is going to be negative. Period

MisterBurgerFace · 2017-09-27T11:53:14+00:00

I'm not negative, i'm objective. For example, you know a lot, and I admire that. You also preach a lot about psychology, and I admire that too. Your core when dealing with women is solid, and I like that in a guy, because there are too many guys out there who aren't consistent with who they try to be.

Now, on to the bad stuff. You're a bit dumb when it comes to psychology. I know psychology because I studied psychology. Your explanations from psychological standpoints USUALLY check out, and while not 100% accurate, they are enough to teach others. But sometimes they are just plain wrong. The fact that you linger a lot on the Red Pill, which is a place that harbors hate in general, makes you kind of a hypocrite.

Check out this excerpt:

"Before you can start focusing on success with women, you have to get rid of your fear of trying. If you are naturally a beta male, as most men are, you are going to have some anxiety when hitting on girls. You need to accept your fear (which is totally normal), and face it. Do exactly what you are afraid to do. Go talk to women. The more uncomfortable it makes you, the better. The less alcohol involved, the better. I have a great program to gradually ease you into it, which you can find here. You will almost certainly get rejected a lot at first. That’s ok. Your purpose in this step is simply to show your subconscious mind that nothing truly bad happens when you hit on girls. If you live in a modern Western society, nobody is going to come chop your head off because you talked to a girl to whom you were not entitled. The more your subconscious sees that there is no real danger, the less anxiety you will have around attractive women. Step Two: Convince yourself that you are attractive to women"

This section alone proves you lack a lot of knowledge in psychology, which puts you at a huge disadvantage.

Another thing is you are a bit annoying and needy. You like to teach, which is good, but you are click-baity and you make posts like this complaining and whining about something you can totally ignore, especially if you were an 'alpha male' (which is sarcasm on my part, because you'd be surprised how wrong you are using these black and white terms in your amateur psychology).

Anyways, I might get downvoted, but that's my opinion. As long as you help people get laid, you're doing good work. Just stop with these little girl posts because haters will always exist. Stop giving them what they want, attention.

Austonmatthews345 · 2017-09-27T03:24:08+00:00

You maaad? You maaad? You maaad? I got dirt on you doggy!!!

Fuck outta here.

I'm improving and the only way to get better is to be hard on oneself with heavy criticism while rewarding good behaviour. I call it being cautiously optimistic.

Davisco10101 · 2017-09-27T04:34:44+00:00

No links today to your dumbass website? Dude fûck you and your shitty advice

Title	Quit Being Negative
Author	the_christian_grey
Upvotes	128
Comments	47
Date	September 27, 2017 1:56 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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