I’ve found something better.

I used to arduously practice my “game”. I just want to tell you gents, i think it’s crap.

A man doesn’t play games. He doesn’t play mind games, head games, all these different ruses to entertain a woman, which is essentially what this PUA science is getting you to do.

You’re all so much better than that. And I know that because I’ve lived it.

Ever since I stopped trying to be a PUA, my life turned into something that would make Hank Moody look like a prude. I would go to a party and find at least 3 women there I was sleeping with (which was not a fun feeling, but there ya go.) I dated a girl who challenged me to pick up someone else, which she and her friends said was impossible. I did it in 20 seconds. Id be the guy making out with two girls at the same time. I would be in bed with one girl and get a knock on the door from another I was bedding.

I swear this is not to brag.

I did this using a simpler, much more fun method. I didn’t entertain them, they entertained me. I made them pursue me. Not through negging or other sad methods; through honest to God sexual attraction.

Which, by the way, is all about the eyes.

If you hold eye contact with a girl for 3 seconds, she’s yours.

Also, shut up. The less you talk, the more sexy you are. But don’t try to be surly and smoldering. Always a slight smile playing on your lips. Twinkling eyes. And awkward silences are your friend. If there’s an awkward silence, smile and look her straight in the eyes. Her heart will start racing as she desperately thinks of something to say to fill that silence. And then she’s invested.

In fact, the best opener I’ve found? “Hey.” That’s what I say. And I smile. And wait. If she responds to me sullenly or rudely, I move on. I don’t tolerate discourtesy. Most of the time, I’ll get a cheerful “hey” back, and then I’ll smile again and say something like “you looked like somebody interesting so I wanted to meet you.” Say it light and cheery, not heavy.

And when I do talk, it’s not to neg; it’s to make her feel lusted after, desired. I do that by being unabashedly romantic, sexual and cute. We might be talking for a few minutes and I’ll say, “I have to confess, I wasn’t paying as much attention as I should have.” I let her react. Then: “I keep thinking that if I don’t kiss you soon I’m going to blow a gasket.” I let her react again. I don’t think about what to say too much, I just say things as I mean them, in a cheerful tone.

She might say no, but in this case, it doesn’t mean no. Rest assured, she’s getting butterflies.

I’ve literally told women before I hadn’t met - even in front of their friends - that I was going to seduce them before the night was over. And I did. I would say something like “I’m sorry, I’m going to have to seduce you.” Just because that’s what I wanted to do, so I said it without apology, without needing any permission. Maybe her friends laugh, maybe she says “oh really now?” And I say “yeah. Where should I start?”

Also, when it comes to touching: I don’t do “tests”. After I’ve made her laugh and giggle with my unapologetically smitten comments, I’ll do something like look her in the eye, my eyes twinkling and say, “hold my hand.” I make her do it instead of that whole awkward thing.

To go in for a kiss, I’ll wait until we’re speaking face to face. And then I’ll simply say, “come closer.” Sometimes I’ll get a “why”. I just say it again, slower and with more force. “Come. Closer.” When she does so, I’ll say it again. She knows what you’re intending when you say that. You’re commanding. You’re manly. You’re a manly man that wants her and few women can refuse that.

I can tell you right now that other men don’t do this, and it works. It WILL set you apart. You will be unapologetic in your desire for her, and you will teach her, guide her, command her sexually.

But you don’t need all the bullshit. It’s beneath you. You don’t need to think of clever openers and approaches and negs. She hates awkward silences just as much as you do. She wants to feel desired, truly desired, just as much as you do. And women are often more insecure than you are.

So stop talking and trying to entertain her. You can make her come to you and you really don’t have to say much at all.

There are other principles of this method that I’ve learned, not because I experimented, but because they worked and I realized it after.

If any of you want to try this or have any questions, let me know your thoughts.