Confidence = knowing that whatever happens, it will be alright

PimPedOutGeese · 2020-04-05T12:19:44+00:00

Outcome independence.

Yet more proof that men are in their sexual stride in their 30s.

misterjoo · 2020-04-05T12:03:02+00:00

I've just turned 24. Started doing all those mentioned stuff, hoping one day I'll achive same confident.

Demnian1422 · 2020-04-05T12:53:12+00:00

I completely know what you mean. In fact I am trying to learn all of these things right now by reading "Models: Attract women through honesty" and "The subtle art of not giving a f*ck". Next would be either "Attached" or "Atmoc attraction".

The problem I have though is that sometimes I fall out of the mindset and start thinking "what should I say next", "how to make them like me" and etc. Its such a bad feeling and it takes me days to get back to "Who cares, I will be fine. I dont need their approval".

Given that you are a few years older and more experienced...do you have any tips?

magnetradio · 2020-04-05T16:11:17+00:00

I'm approaching my 8th year in "30 club" (aka I'm turning 38 this year), and I tell you that the piece will start falling into place. You will start noticing things you haven't before due to your lack of self-confidence. More and more attractive women will be attracted to you. You will notice this when you have good eye contact.

I would say good eye contact makes up for about 80% of your game. It shows confidence and that you're interested without being thirsty. If a woman likes you, you'll easily be able to tell. This is when all you have to do is simply ask for her number or simply invite her for a cup of coffee. Sometimes she may have a boyfriend, but you can still tell that she's interested and would "jump on it" if she was single (or has an opportunity)

solidon · 2020-04-05T19:17:22+00:00

For a conclusion. Confidence is NOT "they will like me", confidence is "i'll be fine if they not".

boyopp7 · 2020-04-05T16:50:20+00:00

This what i needed to read today. Thanks brother

decapitate_the_rich · 2020-04-05T17:14:56+00:00

I am in my 40s and still struggle to understand how confidence works, but hopefully this post is making a connection with me. Through everything going on right now, I keep telling myself things will be alright, because no matter how shitty they seem to be, I'm probably not going to come out on top, but I always make it through without things getting exceedingly bad. I never related that to confidence though, and apparently maybe I should.

Gwaffles · 2020-04-05T16:14:04+00:00

I Look forward to feeling like I could write a post like this! Cheers thanks for the motivation!

armartinez_ · 2020-04-05T16:29:58+00:00

This is incredibly motivating, more than you know. Thank you!

M-em-o · 2020-04-06T00:33:57+00:00

Whatever happens happens

DNAngel23 · 2020-04-05T12:13:55+00:00

Definitely!

amusedpsycho · 2020-04-05T17:26:52+00:00

Happy 30th! Everything in your post rings true. I believe low confidence is a result of you not taking in your full potential and stunting your own personal development. Once you get a little taste of what you’re capable of through self development in all aspects of your life you will genuinely grow confidence from within. Just my 2 cents.

ResultsoverExcuses · 2020-04-05T17:38:35+00:00

Nice

drtaylorburrowes · 2020-04-05T19:18:36+00:00

It definitely makes sense. Congratulations!

It reminds me of outcome independence. I explained it here: https://youtu.be/2FZo4tecg0w

christianarguello · 2020-04-05T19:37:14+00:00

I turn 30 this summer, and I’m doing things to help myself feel more confident because the lack thereof is probably my biggest limiting factor. I like the way you phrased the title, I’ll remember that. Thank you for posting!

TaichoOoz · 2020-04-05T20:49:28+00:00

Yes dude, yes

sonhvo · 2020-04-05T22:08:51+00:00

Well said. I always wondered why girls went for older guys when I was younger and it’s because of this. They had more life experience and knew more. As I’ve gotten older, this is true. We grow to become more confident by knowing ourselves better and how we interact with the world thus becoming outcome independent. Happy birthday man!

DaydreamingMister · 2020-04-05T22:26:07+00:00

Truth.

And congratulations. Tons of guys unfortunately will reach your age or older but not have the benefit of all your hard work (personal development/inner work) and all your lessons learned.

disbitchdathoe69 · 2020-04-06T02:35:01+00:00

Confidence and another amazing coincidence. No matter what happens in life, as long as you work towards becoming a better version of yourself, you will be way more than alright! Keep your mind strong, learning, and growing! The lessons we learn prepare us for a much brighter future.

SouthernOhioRedsFan · 2020-04-05T20:14:36+00:00

Confidence = knowing you will succeed, not fooling yourself into thinking it doesn't matter.

misterjoo · 2020-04-05T19:40:10+00:00

Have these new qualities made you any more successful with the opposite sex?

spuriousdreams · 2020-04-05T23:22:27+00:00

I think I have this mindset, but it sure is not 'confidence'. It's just so much blind faith ive put on the universe

reginalnz · 2020-04-06T00:07:00+00:00

fitness, fashion, career, finances, relationships, social skills, intellect, emotional intelligence but also mindset, attitudes,

OP. Wanted to know how you improved these aspects of your life. Any course, books, videos you recommend?

2020-04-06T08:21:02+00:00

Oh hell yes! That part about self improvement is so true and totally relatable. I never dated or had a gf in high school even though several girls crushed on me. While everyone else was learning to date, I was working on myself, gaining strength physically and mentally, confronting my fears/issues, hitting the gym, eating right, and making goals. I graduated last year (still 18), came out more confident than I ever thought possible. It didn’t come easy, but man it’s so rewarding.

Wrong-Flamingo · 2020-04-06T11:23:40+00:00

Honestly you're right, sometimes when I give in to worry, it kills my confidence.

relentless_pma · 2020-04-06T12:29:55+00:00

Hmm I still got some work to do in the confidence department. Great to read the TS is doing alright

SmoothPrimal · 2020-04-05T17:43:18+00:00

I personally think confidence is overrated.

That said, I’ve always been confident. Never even came close to being depressed. I always believed in myself. Looking at what contributed to my success, I don’t think it’s the confidence that the key but taking action. I’ve met so many confident people that didn’t do shit and stayed in one place.

On the other hand, I’ve met people who always had emotional problems, always depressed and doubted themselves every step of the way. Seeing this struggle, I admire them greatly because even though they are afraid and they are scared shitless, they choose to move forward and take action. These people see success.

Action is what bring results. Confidence just makes it easy to do so, but it’s not everything.

furkanx32 · 2020-04-05T16:09:41+00:00

You are still a young adult bro

Maggost · 2020-04-05T17:40:39+00:00

Back when I was a young adult,

You're still a young adult?

cyfrifffug · 2020-04-05T20:52:36+00:00

I dont understand a word what you said after the main title. Got the main title, helped, but the rest did the opposite and just confused me.

2020-04-05T21:58:06+00:00

Except for some people it won’t be alright,

DizzyxSin · 2020-04-06T05:12:41+00:00

You got the definition of confidence wrong. Confidence related to a skill must be earned with experience. "Knowing that whatever happens, it will be alright" is optimism.

loltryagain91 · 2020-04-06T12:46:39+00:00

That’s not what confidence is, confidence is your belief in your skills and talents to accomplish your goals and tasks, what you’re confusing is simply being comfortable. When you’re comfortable you’re relaxed and don’t have a desire for any outcome. Confidence is knowing for a fact wether you can succeed or not based on your past successes and experiences.

Confidence = knowing that whatever happens, it will be alright

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Title	Confidence = knowing that whatever happens, it will be alright
Author	misterjoo
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Date	April 5, 2020 11:41 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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