How to KEEP a guy seduced?

ZidaneLoire · 2021-08-24T15:31:14+00:00

There's absolutely nothing you can do to keep him interested if someone he finds more interesting comes along. The advice in this comment section is just people telling you what they would like if they were the ones in your boy's shoes. We do not and cannot know if he's already chalked you up as a temp fwb or is madly in love with you. Just be your best self and hope for the best.

If he does leave you, it won't be your fault and for sure you'll have other crushes. Statistically speaking, you're 18 and this won't be your last relationship, not by a long shot. Enjoy your relationship, prepare for the worst and best of luck.

Ohhhwordddd · 2021-08-24T13:40:17+00:00

Just display your interest in him, guys like it when girls validate

ItsTheGodFather · 2021-08-24T11:59:08+00:00

What ever you do in the bedroom, do it with enthusiasm! Guys love knowing a girl is keen and enjoying herself. For bonus points don’t be embarrassed to ask him in detail what he wants in the bedroom and help him indulge in any fantasies or fetishes he has (only if you’re into it too of course but being so young you should definitely experiment!).

Could also be a really hot idea if your in work before he takes you home to tease him throughout the day. Maybe touch him when no ones looking or tell him what kind of underwear you’re wearing. That would drive me wild personally!

2021-08-24T17:57:45+00:00

Bruh, don't get your hopes up, it's unfortunate but he might have seen you as an easy mark and took advantage.

But on the off chance that his intentions are good. I'd say to keep him interested you have to be able to do better than him. He has to see that and know it. You can't just act like you can do better, because people know what's real and fake. You have to actually be able to do better. When he believes that in his heart then all you have to do is be loyal and compliment his life. Make his like easier however you can. Maybe that's cooking and cleaning, or maybe that's building his confidence to excel at something he's already interested. Overall just be a really good friend. Also the occasional bj couldn't hurt. Good luck!

P.S. This is coming from someone who's never been in a relationship.

P.P.S. Take everything you read on Reddit about relationships and dating with a grain of salt. It's always best to follow your gut.

ORIONFULL23 · 2021-08-24T12:53:52+00:00

You need to show him a teaser of what life with you would be, besides treat him with love, use compliments and fantasy, the fantasy has to be always fun nothing serious, suggests activities where fun memories are guaranteed to happen. Play with his memories ( remember when we did x thing ?)

Important_Maximum_66 · 2021-08-24T12:10:24+00:00

It's not really about keeping him seduced. 1.st make sure he respects you. You do that by not being an airhead and saying stupid things. 2nd figure out what he wants in life and position yourself as someone who can aid him on his journey. If you are an obstacle no one will enjoy keeping you around. And that's about it. The sexual stuff doesn't matter as much. It's more important to be attractive. Guys tolerate bad sex if the girl is hot enough, is inteligent and aids him on his journey.

FineOakBarrel · 2021-08-24T22:22:33+00:00

Tough truths ahead.

The usual comment within the community when a guy asks girls for pick-up advice is, you don't ask a fish how to fish. Holds true the other way around: most guys who will reply in this thread don't know what would really make them stay with a girl--or will tell you what would make them stay, but that might be different for someone else. You're better off looking elsewhere than reddit for advice.

Second to that: you have to come to terms with the possibility that he's way less interested in you than you are in him. A typical comment I hear from guy friends is, "it's fun to take a girl's virginity, but the girl gets so clingy afterwards." Not saying this is necessarily the situation you are in but keep in mind that your perspective might have more shades of pink than his.

Last, a few things that would make me interested in pursuing things with a girl--not saying that I'd go exclusive, but I'd want to keep seeing the girl--is 1) how much affection she shows me, like physical touch, cute/sexy texts, initiating kisses and sex, and 2) that she contributes to our time together as much as me, making plans, say how about we do this, meet there on that day at that time (cause I'm fucking tired of girls assuming I'm always gonna lead and plan and entertain, so a girl who plans as much as me is instantaneously standing out from the crowd). But that's just me, so caveats: also heard from guy friends that they actually lose attraction when a girl shows interest, or when a girl is proactive. Which proves the point of my first paragraph.

PS: last last thing ;) you mention the age gap. I've seen much bigger gaps working just fine, so forget about it, it's much less of a deal you think it is.

Odd-Opening-3158 · 2021-08-24T14:34:43+00:00

Does he know you're his first? Do you want a relationship or you're keen to keep it on a FWB or just hookup basis? If it's just sex, men generally don't turn it down regardless of who it is! I just think it's risky to screw a workmate...

But I would also be cautious; I mean most men (that I've met) can have sex without developing the same connection or feelings you might have. But maybe he already liked you as a person and enjoys your company then it's great. I would keep your options open and not be so attached to him; unless he's made it clear that he wants more than sex with you.

I meet guys all the time who are more than willing to cheat on their partners and have sex with multiple people. Eg I was just chatting with a former FWB who likes to send me cheeky texts all the time. I figured it was harmless despite him having a gf as he's entertaining a fantasy from a time from the past that we can never relive. He was sending me texts and up till when he became serious with her, he was also seeing me till I stopped it. I've since found out that his gf is open to threesomes and he actually not only has a lot of sex with her, but she lets him screw her and her best friend and yet, he's told me that he would love to cheat on her with her friend (without her around). Moral of the story: when something starts out with sex, it might be a bit dubious and when sex is readily available, it can never be enough for men. Some men want to sleep with a partner they want to be with and for other men, sex is just sex - no feelings and attachment involved.

If he's a decent person, he'd respect you and treat you right. It's only your first guy so be careful. I sense that you may not have enough confidence if you think that appearances matter to him... As for him being fairly experienced, well, he's your first so it's not as if you have a comparison to make! There could be other better experiences out there but you just haven't done them yet... Take care of yourself and I hope he reciprocates.

willgo-waggins · 2021-08-25T00:44:38+00:00

Be open minded and willing. Don’t feel forced into things that hurt or make you uncomfortable, but don’t be boring and vanilla either.

Young men are easily distracted.

Potential-Avocado598 · 2021-08-25T03:56:45+00:00

Learn to give him the Gawk Gawk 9000.

joy_collision · 2021-08-25T07:54:08+00:00

Find out what his love languages are. And lean into those. Ask him if there's kinky stuff he's into (that you're willing to try).

2021-08-25T08:48:15+00:00

I’m a guy. You should have more confidence in yourself, you’re an attractive young lady. It’s not about what you can do to keep him. If he really likes you then you don’t have to do things specifically to make him supposedly want you more. It should be organic. And do you really want him to come over just for sex or do you want to have a relationship with him?

isaac098 · 2021-08-25T09:50:44+00:00

I mean if you keep having sex he's going to stick around for awhile atleast. Just don't put strings on it and assume without talking to him that he wants to be in a relationship if that's your goal.

SpectaSilver991 · 2021-08-25T10:42:22+00:00

I was recommended this post for some reason?

Anyway, you're 18. You're young. Get into relationships with no expectations. If the guy goes, fuck him. You'll have other crushes.

J3DI · 2021-08-27T01:47:39+00:00

Suck his dick like your life depends on it

EvilDomGM · 2021-08-27T12:59:14+00:00

Wigs and fmf threesomes and extremely dirty talk

Franciscus_Magister · 2021-08-27T17:00:30+00:00

hey, dont fret over him. just remember, there's a world of guys out who'd give anything to be in his shoes

Ierax29 · 2021-08-24T14:03:18+00:00

Fuck him good

Consistent-Luck · 2021-08-25T03:01:25+00:00

You could easily get him obsessing about hooking up with you. As guys we really don’t care about a girls experience, as long as she isn’t a starfish and just lying there during sex. During work tease him, bend over in front of him, maybe send him a nude while y’all are at work, road head on the way home. He’ll be begging for more.

2021-08-25T00:14:47+00:00

You’re using sex to keep him which is a recipe for disaster.

Women use sex to get love. This isn’t how men work.

kingslayer-x_x · 2021-08-24T13:40:49+00:00

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Noxian-All-Star · 2021-08-24T17:37:45+00:00

Start cooking

QaWaR · 2021-08-24T17:44:28+00:00

Show bobs and vegana. Can't go wrong.

turdddit · 2021-08-24T23:57:46+00:00

Make him jealous by sending all the guys in this thread nude pics.

mookie1955 · 2021-08-24T14:36:45+00:00

Let the game come to you

FlanneryODostoevsky · 2021-08-24T20:01:48+00:00

Seduction isnt something that's sustainable. Commitment is but theres much more to that than sex.

dopesoul12 · 2021-08-25T04:51:19+00:00

Oh, so girls have their struggles too.

5_7pickup · 2021-08-25T07:22:29+00:00

Men are the gatekeepers of commitment and women are the gatekeepers of sex. You gave away your more valuable asset without receiving commitment. That is where you went wrong. You have no leverage anymore tbh.

IGetBoredSometimes23 · 2021-08-25T07:25:41+00:00

Even if he chooses a hotter and more experienced girl, that doesn't mean he won't want to fuck you too. If you're keeping it casual he can still see other people. Hell, so can you. You're 18 so you might as well have some fun. Just use protection.

DoctorPepsi · 2021-08-25T07:43:41+00:00

You're a newly deflowered teenager, he's closer to 30 than 20, AND you work with him. This story is a disaster piece. You had some fun, but you're entering Klingon ("cling on") mode at full speed, and that rarely ends well.

IF you think this is something worth pursuing, look for a job at a different spot, or suggest that to him. (I'm not an advocate for this FWB scenario, by the way. This is a bad fucking idea; quite literally.) Something is bound to give, time passes, and then you're on an episode of Maury yelling at each other in front of every lavanderia audience in the area about a baby that doesn't look like either of you.

Seriously. Get out before you get hurt.

eisforesh · 2021-08-25T09:56:58+00:00

cleavage

M0dsRGay69 · 2021-08-25T21:36:07+00:00

It’s your first time but you think he’s experienced? Am I missing something here

adven4 · 2021-08-26T23:24:46+00:00

Don't try hard just go with the flow. If the connection is strong from both the sides then it will go forever.

anasiangentleman · 2021-09-05T15:03:05+00:00

I have some helpful suggestions. Let me know if you want them

photoman51 · 2021-09-05T21:35:34+00:00

Wear sexy lingerie under your clothes so he gets a big surprise when you are together. Watch porn blow jobs and give them to him at anytime. Make it a surprise. Expect an engagement ring shortly after. Just saying

MindlessReception911 · 2021-09-06T02:48:10+00:00

Did you let him know it was your first time, or did he not know? Does not matter either way, if you wanted to tell him fine, if you wanted to keep it to yourself, that’s your business.

We dudes sometimes are not overly insightful, so he may or may not been able to tell you were a virgin.

kaykay2play · 2021-12-01T23:39:34+00:00

Don't give him the winning prize easily

Remington_Grey_01 · 2021-12-05T21:37:07+00:00

You question is tough because it deals with your feelings. You lost your virginity to him so you have a special connection to him. You will always remember him regardless of where your life takes you. 10 or even 40 years from now you will remember him. The problem becomes that he has most certainly had sex before. While he likes you, you need to be you. You can’t make someone stay interested in you just because that’s what you want. At your age your feelings will change as you get more life experience. I’m not specifically talking about sex but the things you do tomorrow, next month and next year.

Would you still want him to be interested in you if he was mean to you? Next weekend if the two of you planned a date and he blows you off at the last minute to go drinking with his friends would you be happy? What if his excuse was he wanted to have a drink and your too young to go to a bar. Would you be understanding?

Be honest with yourself. Be true to yourself.

Be good to him.

Title	How to KEEP a guy seduced?
Author	imjustcluelesstbh
Upvotes	111
Comments	59
Date	August 24, 2021 11:34 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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