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Social media has exposed us to dating lives and results more exceptional than we’d have otherwise known without it. It honestly makes sense why nobody seems to want an average partner (in any sense of the word) It makes sense girls don’t wanna just mess with Joe Blow, and that if they do, they won’t be thrilled (one you’ve gotten attention from a certain league/echelon, it is pretty hard to go back) It makes sense dudes don’t want to put in tons of effort when it’s now pretty apparent how girls …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/26 01:08 PM
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Crazy. My (hypothetical) woman having a “work husband” would be the end of things. Likewise if I start labeling someone my “work wife” then that’s a supreme level of disrespect and means I must really not like my girl If one or both parties are single it’s still just…cringy and weird. Conceptually having someone at work of the opposite sex with whom you really get along, is not a problem, but that label is weird
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/26 12:58 PM
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I have now a decreased ability to feel too much sympathy for people who post these relationship issues where they just continuously let themselves get disrespected Like what do you mean they’re just straight up showing you and telling you about how hot they think other people are? Or continue clowning you on things after you’ve told them to cut it out? Excuses only go so far, and at the end of the day you’ve got to make the decision not to let things slide (I’m mostly talking about general disre…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/26 09:53 PM
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I think you’ve got a point; people are pretty good at taking what they already believe and using religion to pass that message via twisting it And I agree with what you say about the church ceding grounds. Matter of fact it wasn’t until recently that I felt convicted on “yeah, I shouldn’t be doing this outside of marriage.”
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 07:34 PM
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It’s kind of funny to be Christian in this sort of space, knowing that I focus pretty heavily on the role of physical attraction in relationships and how important various aspects are Especially because I think the church may very well be one of the founding fathers of bluepilled thinking as it’s in the modern day, and one of the big reasons so many people try to moralize their way around attraction and physical beauty standards (I also don’t think these beliefs are contradictory)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 05:29 PM
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Yeah it could be my biases in my initial comment as I tend to find athletic/muscular girls the most attractive (I mean yes like most men I like significant lower body development but I’m also a fan of noticeable upper body musculature on girls too, which is a little different)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 02:31 AM
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Definitely one of the better gags to have come out of this show
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 05:54 PM
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No, it doesn’t count to me as spiritual at least in the goofy way some use it. I actually believe what you’ve said is…just scientific, and I’d say I believe the same. It’s well-documented that the brain looks for the realities and reinforces the things it already thinks it knows That seems to suggest that the power of the mind is crucial, and aiming in the right, or wrong, direction, is also crucial
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 05:53 PM
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Oh yeah, I wouldn’t trust “spiritual” even if I were still atheist (I mean aside from a quick lay, but even that could be gambling), and in my current case? Definitely not. Your assessment is pretty accurate. Every girl I see like that ends up falling into that same category. (I should know, a lot of my dealings have actually ended up being with that type of girl, even if I’m trying to be a different man now)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 05:39 PM
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Man, you’re on fire today! That was my issue with the “spiritual” label but I couldn’t put my finger down on it, but it’s definitely that. It doesn’t actually require anything out of you Same for the “witchy” girls. I can see the appeal (mostly about sex tbh) and they do seem drawn to me but it’s absolutely a red flag The common sense is definitely gone now. Conventional wisdom was conventional for a reason, I’ll say
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 05:35 PM
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Astrology girls do have quite a liking for me, that I won’t lie about I wouldn’t mind that too bad if I was still out here just trying to get in where I could fit in Lowkey girls with tapestries in their rooms on their pictures trigger a Pavlovian response in me, but in conscious mind I say no
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 05:13 PM
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You know what? I would not be remotely surprised if that was code for “mentally ill” Maybe the Christian in me is doing too much of the talking right now but “spiritual” is nebulous enough that it can really be twisted however feels convenient. As for the factory thing? Preach, brother. “F1 Racing, “did you know others hold hands when they sleep.”, “yapping”, “food”, “just ask.”, “I’ll fall for you if you trip me.”, “I’m probably funnier than you.” At a certain point, one wonders how there can b…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 05:09 PM
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You cannot convince me of otherwise; whether you’re a man OR a woman, your best dating experiences, and access to probably the highest quality and quantity of partners is going to come with having high muscle mass and low relative bodyfat I don’t speak of specific numbers because it’s kinda flawed and not everyone looks the same at the same thresholds, but I think the range is still pretty narrows (Related side note: I’m convinced most people overestimate how lean they are and how attractive the…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 04:50 PM
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So just what exactly is the deal with girls on Hinge claiming they’re “spiritual”? I just do not think there are that many people who could be genuinely qualified that way and that is a half-baked attempt to seem like you believe in something when you’re really just an agnostic/atheist I mean granted it’s kinda moot since I’m probably due to take another break from Hinge anyway, but that’s such an interesting thing I’ve noticed about Hinge (I could discuss the millions of ways profiles are unori…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 04:42 PM
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I like that, actually I’ve always thought to myself that a woman can have an n-count of like 2 or 3 or whatever, and could still theoretically be absolutely dogwalking her boyfriend in terms of disrespect and flirting with other dudes Though n count can be a predictor of those things it’s far from telling a full story. Like what’s a 5, anyway? Five girlfriends? Five hookups? Two situationships, two LTRs, and a hookup?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 11:32 AM
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Q4W: at what point would you consider a man higher-n, or someone who “gets around”? Not even in a negative sense, but just what would make you say “that’s a high number” (Feel free to adjust for age or circumstance should it feel warranted)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 01:11 PM
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Definitely not
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 01:10 PM
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You know? It’s funny that I was literally just thinking about this and was like “maybe it just *is* shallow, and that’s maybe that’s just not an inherently bad thing
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 02:12 AM
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MOSTLY terminally online people, in your defense Albeit sometimes irl I do notice pushback against standards, especially ones held for women
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 02:03 AM
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It’s funny because the majority of girls I’ve been with have been blonde or redheaded, but both this girl and that coworker got the “alt-leaning white girl with dark features” category Which I’m a pretty big fan of, probably even moreso
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 05:43 PM
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So I was messing with this girl the other day, right? Well somehow I’m just now realizing how much she looks and sounds like this coworker I had a couple years ago, that I had quite a thing for. It was so bad the entire restaurant could tell I had a thing for her I guess life finds a way sometimes (It could be more of the phenotype than actual facial resemblance though, idk)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 01:21 PM
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This reminds me of that post I saw a while back where it said something like how the slim pretty waitress? Her recommendation isn’t what I want, like nah, what does the fat dude washing dishes in the back recommend? Even being on the leaner side myself, that’s a pretty smart way of going about it if you ask me
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 01:17 PM
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Interesting take, not one that I fully disagree with. But I’ve noticed there are two different subsets of biases here Leftists are often the ones biased in favor of women, claiming or soft-claiming that it’s crazy to prefer women with certain standards of self-care and claiming that “big is beautiful” (though this *seems* less common now), and acting as though preferring women of high beauty standard is immoral More people who are conservative or seemingly conservative leaning are the ones who s…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 10:09 PM
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You get it. I agree with all this, pretty much Like when I see “I like tall men because short men always have a complex” or “I like (physical trait) because they have/lack (non-physical trait)” Like just don’t even put the performance on, all that moralizing just so some people don’t get their panties in a bunch. (Ironically often sounding even worse in the process). And just reinforcing the idea that preferences are to be justified I do think at a baseline people aren’t the biggest fan of when …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 09:50 PM
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I used to agree with “No one’s shaming you for your preference! You’re just being an asshole about it!” While in many cases people can understand looks preferences, I have heard a sizable amount of people trying to moralize about it and trying to lowkey shame others for it. Even if not aimed at anyone specifically, I’ve heard it out of nowhere before, disapproving the “only if you’re an asshole” notion. The notion women who like tall guys are promiscuous, or that men who like slim women are pedo…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 05:23 PM
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I can agree with your mindset, seeing it definitely works better for some people that way. (Who know, I might be underestimating how easily people get attached afterward) >Since when have women found losers attractive? This is often said performatively, to be fair, and in some cases done if the woman wants perceived control
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 10:52 PM
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You know, I can’t get mad at promiscuous women because when you think about it, both genders really are just incentivized to get more experience than not. (I mean also, they’ve been nothing but good to me, so…) This is inspired by seeing women say they want a low-n/virgin guy who’s a borderline loser, and it got me thinking about how it goes both ways Since when you remove the moralizing aspect from “you should wait to have sex”, then it becomes clear having more experience you understand dynami…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 11:35 AM
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That’s completely believable What guys don’t even realize, (or at least the ones who argue in favor of the looksmaxxing without much thought or masculinity) is this. If you just show up and look pretty it’s a good advantage to have But does not mean you’ll be treated the way you’re probably desiring and oftentimes puts you in position to be basically treated like someone’s bitch
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 10:15 PM
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>Men need to have a mission Fully agree. Luckily ADHD makes it that I cannot become an unproductive bum. I get far too restless and impatient. Hell, I barely even enjoy having days off sometimes. I’ve definitely become hyper (pun intended) aware of just how much the brain shifts toward needing validation once it’s given nothing else >Very cringe Mannn, tell me about it! And what scares me it wasn’t even that long ago for me! They can say “Be a man!” Is “toxic masculinity” or whatever the fuck, b…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 10:12 PM
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Interesting set of circumstances that I actually can’t even blame you for coming to the conclusion that you have, I’ll say. With that in mind, being aware becoming prettier probably is your best option, is pretty wise tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 09:31 PM
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I can kind of agree. Because honestly it just depends which direction “looksmaxxing” takes you in and it looks a *little* different for everyone So I do get what you’re pointing to. Because on *some* level it’s always gonna be a *little* performative at least, depending which route you take > make me pretty enough that I don’t have to pretend to be a man You got this, brother. Albeit I’m curious? Would you consider yourself in-touch with your feminine side? Or just masculine in a more reserved s…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 09:12 PM
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I agree with pretty much everything you just said > provokes a different karmic response They aren’t gonna like that one because it’s not empirically falsifiable, but I’ve had my thoughts that this does matter The body sends so many microsignals per second and small tells give *everything* away on a nervous system level. Not 100% infallible, but I’m convinced that needing validation from them is such a visceral disgust for women, and hiding your need for validation is a *hard* thing to do Everyt…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 03:10 PM
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6’4 and 240! Must be nice! > I’d rather have a woman complaint about my rough hands catching on her lady underwear than not getting women at all because I looked like a wimp Big facts there. When I see guys unironically talking about some “not getting too big” and “ideal ratios” it’s like I *see what you mean* but I’d genuinely rather have my lady complaining about me being too big or too dedicated the gym than complaining I’m not big enough for her; it’s really not even a hard choice (not that …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 03:01 PM
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Exactly what I noticed. Masculine-looking (and acting) men tend to have *better* options as well as more in general I’m by no means a naturally huge guy. I’m 5’8 and like 170 something. I’m not crazy rugged either, as I’ve long hair and a mix of soft/strong facial features But still things have gotten noticeably better as I’ve become considerably muscularly larger, huskier, and more masculine-looking over the last couple years. Difference is impossible not to notice.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 01:37 PM
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I’m still convinced being masculine and strong-looking is the best thing you can do for your dating life if you’re average or slightly above Now if you’re cooked, you’re just cooked, so I’m not saying this is get-out-of-jail-free card if you’re a nightcrawler. This isn’t about you guys It’s ironic given my username, but I really do think looksmaxxing prettyboys *can only do so well* (and a lot of them just become good-looking losers) But meanwhile short and normal-looking blue collar dudes be pu…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 01:12 PM
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While I don’t have a girlfriend or anything, I can safely say I know enough about being in kitchens to know this is 100% overrated Like nah, there’s nothing romantic about this; MOVE out the way!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 08:46 PM
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You know, being someone with some severe ADHD (like “you could tell within the first minute of meeting me” severe), I can say that I completely understand refusing to date ADHD people Not saying I personally refuse to date other ADHD people (in fact that would MASSIVELY shrink my pool), but I’m saying I get it There’s just a whole different world
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 01:32 PM
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Yeah I used to be on the side of women who said “no one ever said looks don’t matter!” But nah I’ve *actively* seen something similar play out multiple times. (The same women turning around and proceeding to be judgmental about appearance) And then I’ve seen some mention sex as if it’s something men are bad for wanting or getting. (I’m not even gonna go into this because luckily even average and below average men now know that this is a massive crock of shit, and that your options largely ARE ba…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 03:52 PM
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So this is kinda crazy and I used to hear these kind of takes and be like “are you fuckin serious?” But I lowkey can understand why less attractive guys would feel like they’re being psyopped about how much women like sex and how much women value looks expecting women to be a monolith is crazy, but then turning around and lecturing guys as though women are a monolith is also pretty crazy ngl
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 01:11 PM
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Have people been calling it misogynistic for real? Because if so then I would agree that’s dumb
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 01:02 PM
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I feel I’ve become more like Patrick Jokes aside, Squidward had many of the best jokes in the series because now they just hit like *damn* “We do this for forty years and then we die.” takes on a whole new meaning once you first start working
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 04:45 PM
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You know as funny as I think SpongeBob is, I most definitely understand parents not letting their kids watch it As a matter of fact, when it comes to extremely high-stimulation cartoons like that I understand in a general sense. Sure fast-paced humor isn’t a *bad* thing and sound effects can be funny, but what happened to the low-stim cartoons that trust in a child’s ability to follow a plot and to observe the moment without needing constant sound cues and music? I’m debating on whether my (hypo…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 02:23 PM
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Now that’s tricky because it jeopardizes the health a little more but I mean, the mindset being “my partner likes x, so living like that isn’t bad” definitely isn’t as lowkey disrespectful as the alternative
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 02:43 AM
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Agreed. This is where I’ve found myself and I can’t picture life without it
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 01:06 AM
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I know life gets in the way so not everyone has it in them to be a gym-obsessed fitness freak like me, or to be constantly appearance-focused but this is more about mindset If you fall into the mindset of “Oh I got the girlfriend/boyfriend/the spouse so I don’t have to care about looking good and can let myself go.” Then that’s lowkey disrespectful to your partner imo. When I see women and men out there talking about how a big part in their motivation to stay active is because they’ve got a hot …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 07:12 PM
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Less Hotter than me is pretty damn hot, so that’ll be pretty fun
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 07:07 PM
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Oh yeah I wear my t-shirts a little tighter so it’s still fairly visible I do also have the alibi in that a tank genuinely does feel a lot better in this weather!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 07:04 PM
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It does feel a bit like it Albeit I’ve become quite used to feeling like a bit of a show-off My justification comes into play with “I didn’t build a physique and continue to working at it so I can keep it a secret” z
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 02:49 AM
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Yeah, well more like for me specifically. I tho my hat particular style looks good on me Albeit I could be biased because streetwear styles and baggier clothing aren’t something I’m a fan of wearing usually
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 02:35 AM
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In spite of my phenotype, I must say, boots with blue jeans and a cutoff shirt is one of my absolutely most overpowered looks Or maybe I’m biased idk
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 12:08 AM
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You *want* a heatwave? That’s a new one
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 01:27 PM
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I can relate My boss literally forbade me from coming into the building today because she’s saying I need rest, but knowing me I’m still gonna try to see if I can get in there today and work on our rig It’s especially tricky when you *don’t* have any chores left so now you’re like “WELL…”
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 05:53 PM
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It’s funny when I hear “you don’t have to do XYZ to date!” It’s like well no, they don’t. But one thing no one’s saying is yeah, they kind of DO have to do xyz for their specific target audience. Whether the feel-good advice is aimed toward a guy or a girl? It doesn’t matter Someone posted another thread (I forgot what user but if I recall I’ll shout out) but I agree with the notion that the guys and girls with options are *not* open-minded with partner selection. And considering most people wan…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 04:48 PM
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Yes It wasn’t conceived with that in mind but a lot of people do allude to that!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 04:13 PM
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Oh yeah, man! And next year there’s still that opportunity to win World Champion
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 03:16 PM
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With World Ninja League Championships being over (well technically the event hasn’t concluded but my team doesn’t have anyone still remaining), I can proudly say that I’m pretty disappointed in myself while also being pretty happy with myself Because World Champion was definitely possible and I’m definitely a top 10 athlete in my division, but the execution was just not there for several reasons Next goal is to try and get on American Ninja Warrior regardless
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 10:58 AM
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Ain’t this the funniest thing? I mi was literally just talking on my story on Insta about how it’s never the jacked guys talkin about how muscular women aren’t attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 09:44 PM
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So in other words, peak female physique (I mean I’m biased toward muscular women heavily, so)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 08:17 PM
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I feel that. Interestingly enough I have strong legs and big glutes myself My wingspan being 6’3 means my arms were *noodly* before I packed significant muscle into them
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 06:22 PM
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Random question for y’all: How would you describe your own build? Though my legs and arms are on that longer side, my torso is quite compressed giving me that appearance where I’m kinda short and stocky…but not really? Anyhow what about you guys?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 05:50 PM
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This got a visible eyebrow raise out of me Well done
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 05:36 PM
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I hate how that’s *wild* but I genuinely can’t blame you, either
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 02:13 AM
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That’s what I’m saying I once was told lifting to get stronger was an empty goal akin to a dog chasing its own tail Literally anything in life is like that when you break it down….(technically anything outside of getting money that you intend to use for a purpose is like that)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 02:07 AM
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I actually do have a little bit of respect for this Because this argument is pretty much “I don’t wanna” Which again, is actually *more* respectable in my eyes than the mentioned alternative
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 01:39 AM
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Probably true Which I still don’t get. Maybe it’s just me not liking baggy clothing, not sure
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 01:32 AM
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Decided to double down and talk about the gym again Another random take. I’ve seen this a few times (luckily not super common), but I must say when people try to make these intellectual arguments against lifting or try to philosophize that it’s a waste of time or a trivial pursuit of some sorts, I cringe so hard Literally just “I don’t wanna” is a better argument than trying this subtle superiority act (Which is funny when they try this while they’re getting mogged by the software engineer in th…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 01:31 AM
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Maybe I just wouldn’t know because I’m fairly short Also not huge (or at least not from what I think; who knows how skewed my own perspective is) but visibly filled out and strong I mean, how scared can they be before it can’t be neutralized and eased? (I mean I’m not *scary* per se but there are….other things that might cause some to give me the internal side eye)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 12:35 AM
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That’s pretty valid especially depending how lean you wanna be
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 12:32 AM
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My gym people will know, and this is a random take Maybe this is ego talking but i think “sleeper build” is such a load of c*pe (we still can’t say that word, right?) In most cases, that just….means you’re still small. Maybe it means you’re lean but you’re likely still small at that point And maybe this is just an mindset difference because I say there’s literally no drawbacks to being both strong *and* visibly registrable as strong. So I don’t get “sleeper build”. To me it doesn’t mean much mea…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 11:42 PM
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This is why i actually don’t feel too bad about it With the right boots I can genuinely LARP as 5’10 or 5’11 and I can’t imagine not having that option at all or anything So my heart goes out to guys that short or shorter
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 12:20 PM
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I’m a black in the west But the point still stands anyhow. Yeah I feel pretty short and it does nerf me It’s strange to be in a position where I have to be aware it’s a net negative but I’m also not to let it bring me down or upset me
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 11:36 AM
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I’m a crisp 5’8 who claims 5’9 on Hinge
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 10:44 AM
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You know, I think I have too. Occasionally saying some loverboy stuff kinda does feel….good! On more important notes, that’s pretty nice, man! I gave the nod of approval from this side
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 04:51 PM
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Yeah I’d say similar sentiment When I say people have always loved me, that was also supposed to be in air quotes. By that I mean they’ve enjoyed having me around BUT again to the point you’re making, it’s funny how much that seemingly increases whenever I became more contextually competent, or seeming like it Agree with your point about allied. I’m glad that was one thing I realized pretty early on in life I’d one of the best things you possibly could have Even in the gym focusing on looks, I’d…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 09:57 AM
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Yeah that’s interesting you say this because I’ve always agreed but never really said it here In my own example I can say people have always loved me but people “love” me a lot more whenever I’m competent within that specific context. And then this applies to other life aspects as well You can hardly ever go wrong with becoming more masculine Interestingly. I also wanna ask you about this too. On this subject, would you say that the much larger focus young men have on looks today is feminine-lev…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 01:26 AM
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Had something similar happen at the last competition I was coaching at. I noticed the flirting off rip Yep, that girl was uh…not in my appropriate age bracket Even my colleagues said they thought she was about my age
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 01:19 AM
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What in the reptilian
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 01:14 AM
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Isn’t that the truth? I’m 23 I know a few people younger than me who are married and get some who’ve never touched a girl in their life My dad had already had a child by this point Crazy stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 01:13 AM
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It just dawned on me that I have exactly two weeks now to get ready for the World Ninja League championship Goal is to be full-blown World Champion this time but this year is gonna be HARD to win, probably hardest it’s ever been
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 04:11 PM
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My main job drops down to three days during this summer it looks like (some weeks an exception), so I’m genuinely gonna have to find a second job I actually get paid the same amount because salary is nice, but I can’t deal with having four days off per week. I’ll get entirely too restless
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 04:01 PM
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This is probably a result of ADHD. I’m otherwise consider myself empathetic and don’t just step on toes to get my way (usually) <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 03:54 PM
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True that checks out Then again I don’t know that my sport is objectively that much safer anyhow
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 01:02 AM
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I haven’t seen Jike Sulvowski in so long One of my favorite reaction style pics still
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 12:57 AM
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Even being athletic myself, snow sports kinda scare me
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 12:56 AM
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Yeah that checks out for most genuinely athletic sports
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 03:25 AM
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Right? I always feel just a tad regretful when I realize I don’t actually know what my athletic peak would’ve looked like because I decided to start doing sports as an adult
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 02:57 AM
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Oh which sport was that for you? I get pretty lucky in that I do enjoy this sport for its own sake, gaining new skills is fun, etc. and also I do have one thing in that I CAN win comps within the Adult Male division. I very much could technically have a shot at World Champion title But that’s because Adult Male isn’t actually hard. I’ll never be able to defeat the Elite Males or come out on top there Still wanna get on American Ninja Warrior though
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 02:25 AM
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So I joke about being old all the time despite being only in my early-mid 20s but I realized when it comes to Ninja, my main sport, that I am in fact old and washed up Only been in it about three years now but starting when I was 20 instead of when I was much younger has made me realize I fundamentally missed that window. Don’t get me wrong I’m damn good at it but will absolutely never be an elite-level competitor There’s just something physiologically different when you’re 13-19 (ish) that make…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 01:38 AM
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Yeah facts. Like whenever I would miss my shots, sometimes I’d think “am I aiming out of my league?” The answer has oftentimes been yes, but not because the girl in question was too hot, but rather she was not in the same echelon laterally speaking Meanwhile when I’ve had cuter girls into me they almost always are within the “echelon” that makes sense
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 06:39 PM
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You know, I think one thing that defeats all, is your general social echelon, moreso than how you look Don’t get me wrong, the latter is very important, but I can say I genuinely don’t ever witness people really date outside their social echelon (granted how you look usually IS tied into that pretty closely) But that’s just how it is You belong in a certain social sphere or world; everyone does. If you don’t understand your place within that pecking order, you’re cooked (not “belong” as in you’r…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 05:49 PM
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You know I’m glad you say this because I’ve always had a theory that yeah men get “alpha-widowed” too but in a different way The bar can and does get set ridiculously high if you’ve been in that circumstance before
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 05:27 PM
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I agree I mean I’ve heard “golden retriever boy” used to describe guys who do have some simp tendencies Granted that descriptor doesn’t only mean they’re a simp, but usually has the implication
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 05:06 PM
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I both love and hate how my algorithm knows how much I love muscular women. It’s funny that the “toned” woman who do cardio or Pilates is what people say they want. But they don’t realize you need muscle in the first place it even look toned… So I’m just saying. Girls who lift heavy win any day Rant over
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 12:34 AM
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Upper body strength relative to bodyweight. Most notably in pulling strength Most of the stuff I do as a ninja is also stuff the average person isn’t anywhere near strong enough to do but that’s so much harder to quantify so eh D’oh well at least I got something kinda cool
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 02:13 AM
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Dating one person is okay If you’re dating dating. So if you guys are going out on dates, fucking, and the like If it’s just a talking stage where y’all are in that phase of getting things initiated I’d argue if you’re talking to multiple you have a better realistic gauge of what’s going on. Fondness because it’s the first girl giving you attention in a while? Or genuine fondness? This is just conjecture. Talking to one person at a time seems to never really be something good for me personally, …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/26 10:53 AM
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Man you’re spitting facts here Went through a “damn, I liked her for real” situation But it was like nah, not really, she was just the first promising talking stage after months of me deciding to be inactive (and was also the only girl I was talking to at that time- another mistake!) I always wanna tell people if you ever catch yourself thinking “I’ll never meet someone like her”, then it’s like you’re right….you can meet someone better (As in better for you; actual love in the sense that you sa…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 03:30 PM
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Yeah I actually just replied to something similar like technically, being resourceful and proving actual ability would be the real thing IQ? The more I thought of it the more I was like “yeah nah”
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 11:25 PM
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Yep, that’s my point. It’s so much easier that I believe it genuinely doesn’t require anything truly special or exceptional Hell, for relationships I’d even argue looks might become more important depending on the person (for sake of being the socially cooler option)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 07:11 PM
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Which is funny My anecdotes don’t *prove* anything for sure but no matter at what level I’ve been, I’ve pretty much always seen it as easier to get hookups than it is to get into a relationship since I’ve been active in the dating world (multiple factors play into this so it’s not so cut and dry, but yeah)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 05:30 PM
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That’s interesting and makes a very good point actually
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 03:39 PM
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Nah I thought about it and I was like Yeah in the past you needed to be more resourceful and somewhat smart and good with your hands But not necessarily be “smart” as we’d say with our modern definitions of it Upper body strength being one of the biggest predictors? Checks out. Didn’t know how much it checked out but I’m willing to believe it. (In fairness it’s been the single biggest difference that’s been made in my own dating life)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 03:15 PM
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You know I used to think “natural selection, natural selection” until I realized that yes there are natural preferences for things But like, if it were truly all on survival, then high IQ would be considerably more attractive And upper body strength, while playing a decent role already, would have an even greater role
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 12:57 PM
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Agreed. Either you’re noticed and chosen or you’re just….not Nothing wrong with putting oneself out there; trying to impress though? Like c’mon
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 01:40 AM
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You know, from when I was a kid all the way up until now, one thing I’m glad I never did fall for was the idea of trying to “impress” girls At least I’ve always, since my single digit days, thought it was performative as hell and a waste of time People talk about “jestermaxxing” and I don’t always agree with it, but this is something I *would* consider being a jester. I say there’s nothing wrong with it if day, you’re just doing your thing and women are impressed. Otherwise, pretty stupid to me
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 12:41 AM
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Somethin like a month ago? Idk
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 04:07 PM
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Perhaps one of the most underrated aspects of a fight In a fight there’s some pretty dire consequences to feeling overwhelmed, or exhausted. And then context matters Like is the guy a confident aggressor who decided to attack a group of women? Or are they the ones jumping him? How angry are those involved in the fight? All being important factors
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 03:45 PM
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You know, hypothetical fight scenarios are one of my absolute favorite things to talk about That’s one thing that always changes the equation by…a lot. Numbers advantage is *hard* to beat for almost anyone. Every additional opponent increases the difficulty of “winning” that encounter *exponentially*, not linearly as people erroneously assume (and as you correctly point out in your comment here) I’m trained (though it’s been a while) and also considered very strong physically; even I wouldn’t wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 02:58 PM
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It’s got its own things where if you don’t get it under control it hurts more than it helps, but it does have a lot of good to lean into
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 02:32 AM
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I mean. Yeah? No? You go out and do more stuff? You talk to more girls? You’re a good time to be around? Yeah, I think that adds up to more overall results Don’t get me confused though. If you’re not even handsome enough at a baseline then you’re just choosing which thing you’d rather be rejected for
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 03:08 PM
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That’s just you making a bunch of assumptions that the person in question can’t ever lock in at all or like the person wouldn’t be aware of this and thus work on their deficiencies in the highlighted areas I didn’t say sex was all that matters, but that’s first barrier Geez, a whole essay written off assumptions > you got to jester for women’s validation a little Y’all and this “jester” thing. If you’re just you, and that’s on display when you talk to people, then is that really jestering? Or ju…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 03:02 PM
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It’s like this post was MADE for me If I lean into it wisely, it definitely gets me more girls than suppressing it or trying not to be does (Granted not if I’m so silly so as to be icky) I think it has to do with how if you lean into it, you’re more likely to just talk to anyone, you also can come off as more high-energy and fun/positive. The stoicism guys can say what they want, but being fun to be around gets you more shots at being laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 01:54 PM
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Anyone else heard of/watch that Hec Speaks guy on YouTube? I clicked on one of his dating videos thinking “alright what is bro yapping about” I didn’t regret it; that man is *funny* Better yet he’s funny in a way that seems so genuine Idk maybe I only say that because now that everyone’s got a platform the amount of truly unfunny people has multiplied
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 12:06 PM
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I’ve been saying this. The body sends of so many microsignals every second and every minute and we can’t even always consciously tell what we’re perceiving when it comes to this And it definitely makes dating a bit different
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 01:51 PM
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Not entirely wrong. I actually say one reason a lot of the “RedPill truths” or whatever the fuck didn’t cause me too much rage or anything was because a lot of it is general human nature shit and I’ve sorta always had the idea in my head that people kinda suck The way I act now in dating is honestly the way I think most would given my circumstances
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 07:18 PM
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Nothing awful. Mostly just noncommittal behavior (not cheating, but like early stage wish washy stuff), being unsure about what I’m even doing, stringing people along without even meaning to, occasional bouts of lying and being a general tool. Just a lot of the annoyances people talk about in modern dating (there’s others I missed but that’s what I can remember) Honestly, my main qualm with these dating apps is exactly this. Becomes hard to remember that your behaviors do have an actual impact o…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 07:08 PM
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You know, I just took a long look in the mirror and realized I AM everything wrong with modern dating A lot of the common complaints I realize I’ve been guilty of or continue to be guilty of
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 06:13 PM
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I don’t think you can really “know” these things from just consuming content and that’s my point Not saying someone who gives up is hurting me, just that I don’t believe that’s a good thing This can honestly be more applied to internet culture as a whole than just the pills specifically
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 01:47 AM
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Yeah I agree with you on that I just don’t think it’s great stuff to consume before you can even determine what of it applies to you Especially fort eh men who are a little more socially inept or logic-minded
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 01:44 AM
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No, I’m specifically referring to situations where this does happen, but not claiming all men who gave up are like this I even say in my post that honestly if the conclusion you’ve drawn from experience is that you’re better off not trying that’s more valid than drawing an early conclusion because of the stuff you’ve seen online Because it can and does happen that if you’re less experienced and are hearing that kind of thing early, your perception ends up warped Because notice i never disagreed …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 04:20 PM
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Exactly The more experienced I’ve gotten at dating the more I understand ghosting and soft blocking
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 04:17 PM
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You know I realized my problems with the red and black pills isn’t that they’re wholly wrong It’s that they’re worded poorly they “catch” people too early. You have guys hearing this shit about dating before they’ve even come to form their own conclusions. No chance to even build any type of positive (or even realistic) feedback loop. Guy who dates around and understands that shit happens (ghosting, they choose someone else, there’s just no connection, etc.) has a way better time mentally than a…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 01:40 PM
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You know? I think I can agree with this take. This is one of those “you can’t please everybody” type of things so honestly I get it Like when you’ve been in that situation where “damn, I don’t wanna have to tell this person to fuck off because that just seems extra mean.” it makes sense real quick (doubly so if the person might have an outburst over it)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 01:12 PM
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It makes sense. I’m in the gym 4/5 times a week and am visibly muscular I still don’t care to talk about lifting for too long (conversations about general fitness and athletics get me going more though) Even with that I didn’t expect it to be such a positive point/ point of interest Also you’re correct in what you think you see; it’s so much fun. Competing in this sport was the thing I never knew I needed in my life
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 12:25 AM
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I was talking about Hinge the other day and two other things I noticed about it -this is the most unserious dating profile I’ve ever made and gets the most results (the PFP is probably doing some heavy lifting) -the fact that I do Ninja (the sport that’s like the tv show American Ninja warrior) has been a surprisingly great assist when it comes to these convos; I didn’t expect it to be that good of a convo starter
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 12:04 AM
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I Don’t hate Hinge; it gets me the most actual quality results (and recently more results overall) But what is it about Hinge that draws the most unoriginal people on the whole planet? Related note: is it valid to swipe left on someone who’s attractive because they just…seem like they’d be annoying?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 11:52 PM
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Oh yeah I only tell them when it’s a talking stage that seems like it might be pretty decent And for my homie I tell him sometimes if it’s a girl I just plan on uh…well playing hide the plantain with
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 09:28 AM
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What’s funny is like for me it’s like when people ask I sometimes can’t tell the full story Like to some people I can basically tell them oh yeah no relationship but I mess around with girls sometimes, other people I can’t tell them this directly because it’s more info than they need
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 09:18 AM
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Anyone else have people ask about or mention their relationship status (lack thereof I suppose) like a lot? Gets to a point for me where I wonder what’s up with it. In my circles it’s like someone mentions it every day in some form Some of my circle is quite invested in the plot
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 01:21 AM
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I thought about doing one again for the folk who hadn’t seen but it’s just not the trend it used to be and also…stalkers
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 09:24 PM
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I can believe this Stem nerds and being unable to talk to women seems to go together well
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 09:23 PM
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Stubble supremacy Motherfucker (trying to say I can’t grow a good beard yet without saying it)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 12:55 PM
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You know I don’t think we’ve interacted much but I quite like you I tell people I myself have improved a lot over time and I get excuses too And I’m like nah, if that stuff didn’t matter there’s be no difference in results pre and post gym Or no difference when I use game vs going complete sperg Signed off as a fella with some severe adhd here
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 12:58 PM
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Oh yeah It’s like putting something in the fridge to get it all cold and then coming back after forgetting you’d put it there Or something like that
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 03:01 AM
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Mine isn’t a mirror gym one but is definitely a pretty good gym pic. Another thing? I have a very firm look on my face, not a smile like some women say you should I feel you exactly on this, at a certain point it’s like bro
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 10:19 AM
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I be saying, the picture that has had the absolute biggest return for me on dating apps is one of me casually flexing in my gym’s locker room
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 12:29 PM
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I’m gonna go on a random rant but does anyone else think we seem to as a whole seem to put humor and being funny on a pedestal more than we should? Like I don’t know what it is but it seems like we have far more people who are unfunny, trying hard to be funny, than we do actual funny people I say this as a person who laughs way too easily and laughs probably more than anyone I know, but still Like some people people just need to know and accept they’re not funny and be okay with it (side note: p…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 05:05 PM
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That’s gotta be disappointing I remember i once knew two chicks with similar usernames and for a second I thought I had my shot with a hottie Wasn’t her; just a friend (without benefits) Just like you, this was also late enough into the night that I was sorta halfway here halfway not Sheer disappointment; almost as bad as waking up to find out you missed that “Wyd” text at 12:67 AM
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 01:42 PM
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Hedonism has taken precedence over morals nowadays I mean this always happened but now it’s just more visible and accepted
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 01:34 PM
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Delusional as I’d like? Taller side, gym baddie type with that huge, muscularly defined butt with great upper body and small to medium boobs Hair color doesn’t really matter too much; I do have a pretty apparent preference for white girls but this isn’t nearly as important as general prettiness and the physique I do tend to like my women slightly more muscular than many guys would otherwise
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 01:28 PM
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Love this take I always have believed something like this. Never shrink yourself. You are the main character of your own series; so embody that I actually say acting like the main character is honestly not a bad thing up until you start making it other people’s problem
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 02:34 AM
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When I think of the fact that this happened I’m never not laughing from the sheer amount of what-the-fuck And what gets me is the part where he was still thrusting on rhythm and she immediately recognized it And that makes me think of which beat pattern he was even- y’know what nevermind
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 02:04 AM
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I’ve always thought this No not everyone has a great fulfilling sex life where they can immediately call anyone up and have fulfilling sex But most people are having sex to some degree
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 01:43 AM
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Being in calorie deficits has both its drawbacks and things that aren’t too bad But it’s okay because in summer I should be thicker, harder, veinier Wait a minute….
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 05:39 PM
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Same. Even if I didn’t go to sleep early enough to justify this I often get jolted awake around this time 5 is more normal and 6 is at the latest
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 01:25 PM
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I can somewhat agree. It’s a trick that works pretty damn effectively even if not the only way (I mean me personally I view it as necessary but not just to “get” women in that initial phase; I say it goes beyond) All about maxing those features. I figure I’m someone who can add a LOT of muscle to my frame before it becomes off-putting and I probably won’t reach that without ‘roids
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 01:35 PM
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I won’t disagree with that I’ve really aged into my face; I wasn’t quite as good looking up until recently I mean i was pretty alright from 19-21-ish but not to that level And that’s coincidentally when I was sorta starting to get more serious in the gym so it’s hard to fully tell and separate (but I won’t deny that it plays probably a big role)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 12:39 PM
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Sitting at 5’8; not particularly tall (and my Wingspan is 6’3 so I didn’t even get the short benefit there, which is the funniest cosmic joke
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 04:05 AM
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One thing no one told me is a strange thing that happens as you get physically bigger from muscle is that like I don’t know how to explain it but even though I’ve not gotten any taller or anything (so the POV is literally the same) it’s like other people become…smaller overall I guess? I can never meet the “gym doesn’t matter” crowd because it’s the thing that’s had the single biggest impact on the volume of attention received and perceived attractiveness for me
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 03:17 AM
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Steak, and my lunch had ground beef in it technically (okay so it was tacos)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 02:01 AM
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Tell myself that this too shall pass even if it really hurts at the moment Either that or instantly get on with trying to find the next, yknow what I’m sayin’?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 10:11 PM
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Forget gay son or thot daughter My question is this Q4A: Unathletic son or ditzy daughter? (If you have any questions about what either entails, feel free to ask)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 06:50 PM
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Now that you’re right about. People are pretty shit at defining their own actual standards
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 11:33 AM
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I suppose Performatively so, I believe, but that’s just my guess
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 11:32 AM
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Two random takes: A dating standard and a dating preference are not the same thing. (Some people seem to get up in arms about preferences; and let’s be real they’re only mad because it excludes them) Another take, one directed at more inexperienced men is that any standard you may think you have for women, or some “I would never act like this” mindset, is all just theory and conjecture until you’ve actually turned down an opportunity for sex
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 03:18 AM
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Hey nice. I had some shit on a bit earlier too Fairly simple polo that’s some shade of purple with some black pants and my boots, with my now signature cross necklace
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 03:04 AM
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Now I’m still on the app right now but not as involved with it for reasons. But what is it about Hinge that it seems to attract the same few copy-paste jokes and prompts? Like why? Is it something about the format or internal culture that brings in people who did not develop a real sense of humor? Or developed that sense of humor that’s just not quite there? But nah seriously you see the same few people run through a 3D copier repeatedly there, at least at first
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 07:17 PM
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I like “typesexual” and think it’s pretty on-the-nose If it’s not a certain look it’s certain behaviors and personality types; I’m pretty convinced it’s on a subconscious level down to the nervous system. Same goes for guys but I think men are both wired at a primal level less likely and consciously less likely to stick to a certain type
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 03:06 AM
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To be honest the moment bro died in jail, I was all in with the crowd of “Epstein didn’t kill himself.” Like I’ve always thought there was just no possible way And also since he died I’ve always thought this when it comes to conspiracies “Yeah some of these things are just loony talk, but not all of these theories are wrong.” I always had that suspicion sooner or later that were going to see something come to light
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 01:19 PM
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If only I don’t cook nearly as much as I ought to, but when I do I stick to what I’m good at (mostly different forms of meat; my chicken isn’t that great though) I make some good white ppl tacos though
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 11:20 PM
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Oh yeah absolutely. This probably goes down after some time (if I’m not too late!). I’m about 5’8-5’9
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 11:55 AM
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Oh yes for a good while now for me, girls who lift are basically the only ones I can entertain on a serious level now I talked about this on my story the other day where I more or less say that being a cardio bunny woman is propaganda, and muscular women for the win
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 12:13 AM
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Right? Everyone’s that until proven otherwise Hey, thanks man! I try y’know?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 12:09 AM
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Sometimes
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 11:59 PM
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So I had ChatGPT do that whole “generate a girl you think suits me” thing for fun I like it; ChatGPT kind of cooked with this one <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 11:48 PM
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I actually love bouncing ideas and thoughts back and forth off ChatGPT, in a similar vein. It can reallly help contextualize things Some people say it over glazed and over affirms but the way I use it hasn’t been as such (but I agree you have to know how to use it)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 11:47 PM
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I say Clavicular is good-looking but a weirdo and a loser The other guys I don’t think are handsome very much so But then again I am a straight man so my two cents only means so much here
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 03:31 PM
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So I have tons of intrinsic drive when it comes to the gym. I just view it as a necessity and don’t need a whole lot of outside motivation to get me in there But not gonna lie, the fitness girlies following my fitness page (with those killer physiques), plus seeing the girls in the gym with nice physiques too, is a sweet little extra kick of motivation
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 02:34 PM
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The moment I saw it was these guys hanging out together I knew it was gonna be the whole circus and a half Otherwise proof you can get rich, jacked, and handsome and still not have actually killed the inner bitch-ass
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 02:30 PM
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Agreed 100% I always say as someone who is good looking that being so to a level where you can bypass social skills and needing to understand things is incredibly rare Even if a woman is throwing herself at you, you’ve gotta be able to see that and respond accordingly
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 02:22 AM
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Reaching that point where I’m actually pretty damn happy with my looks and appearance overall I mean don’t get me wrong I’ve still more plans to improve (but that’s just from being the type of person I am; not because “gotta looksmaxx”) but if you told me I’d reached my final ceiling, I wouldn’t be mad about it Idk, maybe I’m just a cocky bastard
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 01:23 AM
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You inspired me to do the same Don’t know what kind of prompt you used because mine more or less sort of seemed to use my picture as the base template for making this more or less (Okay I swear I had the pic and it disappeared)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 02:27 AM
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I kind of wonder, is keeping the general spark alive what keeps the level of nerves/butterflies high?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 02:02 AM
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I’ve always thought this to some degree. Still getting that slight nervous feeling even years in the future sounds kind of peak though
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 12:33 AM
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I’m lowkey annoyed because I was sick this week and kinda had to hold off training (traps get super hurt when I’m inflamed enough) Now my energy is coming back and I’m clearing up And by the time I’ll be basically completely ready, I’ve got Wait even longer I’m hoping I don’t lose power though because that’ll be REALLY annoying at that point
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 04:04 AM
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I’ve been saying this shit in here and it shouldn’t even be up for debate. The spontaneous fuckin’ usually happens as a result of parties and whatnot Part of the reason hookup material guys are that, is because they have characteristics that put them into places where hookups happen Another thing people underestimate is how it’s quite often people having sex with people they already knew in some capacity. It’s why you probably wanna have that social life on lock
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 04:55 PM
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You know I’m thinking maybe one day I should get my diet together and try to compete in Men’s Physique Even if just for fun and to say I’ve done it (Side note, qualified for Ninja’s world championships again let’s go baby)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 01:36 PM
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I’d be mad if I hadn’t already lost it today Where I work there’s someone on the gymnastics team who forced everyone to lose the game every day. Literally just mentioning her name makes me lose Smh I will never have another continuous streak
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 02:36 AM
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Yeah I used to wonder about myself with it because I was thinking there’s no way it’s attractive and maybe I need to tighten up a bit But really it’s only that bad if you lack the ability to be serious and just let yourself be treated any sort of way. Otherwise it makes life a lot more fun in a way with no real downsides
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/26 02:55 AM
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I both love and hate being an easy laugh-er I think I’ve never met a person who laughs as easily as I do and it makes me look mildly insane Then again it’s a huge positive for overall quality of life.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 05:54 PM
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I actually have a similar build to that with my torso being far too compressed and short otherwise
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 05:52 PM
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This is frying me more than it should
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 02:00 PM
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I used to have nightmares every night Strangely enough I had to sort of just…not think about it too much But two advantages I had there is that my nightmares weren’t awful, just kinda bad, and also I was (and still am) so physically tired at the ends of the days that I didn’t have a choice really
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 01:59 PM
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Same, I walk at quite a fast pace
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 10:05 AM
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Anybody else have those things in life where they become so habituated to them that they just forget that it’s not necessarily common? I swear I’m constantly overestimating the average person’s strength and level of athleticism for this exact reason (I’m a coach and athlete myself so it’s what I’m around) And also I don’t think this is about habituation but I swear I’m also always overestimating to what degree the average person actually thinks about why or how they do things they do
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 02:48 AM
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I agree with you on this That was my first thought. I mean sure it does happen sometimes but I promise you girls who were like that aren’t checking for you, unless you’re unusually good at coming off like a guy who gets laid And especially when it’s said in such a generalized way, like men as a whole don’t get laid and then the evil women are hunting them down to use them. (And they’d be surprised at how it’s not just women who are sometimes picking partners who they aren’t all that into)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 03:29 PM
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I don’t smoke weed anymore but that honestly sounds pretty peak
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 03:00 PM
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While I’m a “carbs are the body’s fuel” kind of guy, I also must say that I sometimes be thinking I should add “is a girl who eats actual sources of protein” to the requirements list
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 02:49 AM
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Right. While I do have long hair I’d say I’m a lot more preferring of a conventional handsome type of look (Albeit I like that bit of distinction) In terms of dressing a lot of alt clothing is a little much for me. I’m a tight shirts guy every day
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 10:49 PM
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Perhaps you should It might work but I find alt girls and art hoes are into looks that are more distinct in general. Alt styles might work for that initial attraction, or if you look like you’re some sort of skater boy I found that being a black guy with longer hair definitely scratched the “distinctive” look enough to get attention from them. Mileage varies depending on what you can pull off, but my best conclusion can be dressing alt is probably best bang for buck
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/26 10:04 PM
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I’m largely with you and I think this even feeds into it I won’t really notice much about a random couple in public unless they’re mismatched enough that it’s truly noticeable Which makes me think it’s even moreso apparent how uncommon mismatches in looks are because of how often you don’t see them
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 10:41 PM
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I’ve retroactively realized that one of the girls I made out with in the past was actually cheating on her boyfriend when she did it. Crazy work. (I was pretty close to that guy too, but didn’t know they were together. I put the puzzle pieces together embarrassingly late.) Also completely random take. I don’t buy the “I see ugly rat guys with hot girlfriends all the time!” Because I swear they’re almost always just both sitting around average. They usually look like a couple I’d see in Walmart (…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 05:48 PM
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I’m not some super well-travelled man but I think it’s absolutely correct Generally it does seem when you go into bigger cities or even just more well-off areas you encounter better-looking people there Exceptions exist and of course you see attractive small-towners all the time. There’s a lot more of them that….aren’t, though. Hell I can see this even by going a few counties over; once I get far enough away the scenery changes in more ways than one
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 02:02 PM
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I read this in Sam’s voice from atypical
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 12:02 PM
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I mean i may not be blue but they call me an avatar the way I can bend things (Wrong avatar I know)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 01:21 AM
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That’s valid. You mean you’re like a 6 facially but then your presentation “boosts” you if that’s what I’m understanding here? (I ask mostly because I think presentation matters so much)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 01:17 AM
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Man I tell you My weeks consist of “So flipping cute! I want like eight” “Man, can you imagine feeling this level of pride, but it were your own kid instead? I can’t wait to be a father” “I am never having a child” While I think I probably will be a father some day, I switch between these three at random (plus more)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 01:16 AM
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Wait is generally making moves considered jestering?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 12:40 AM
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Follow-up question. This makes me wonder what do you personally rate yourself? No stake in whether you’re going for your looksmatch or not but now I’m ultimately curious
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 12:38 AM
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Oh yeah I’m feeling the same way I’ve coached a couple private lessons here and there while we were out so it wasn’t a complete stop for me But my “I miss coaching my classes” feeling is definitely gonna be gone by the middle of tomorrow!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 12:37 AM
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I think it quite possibly would’ve happened but also I would’ve definitely learned my lesson quick enough so as not to have it be a repeat occurrence
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/26 03:49 PM
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Oh yeah I’m just fucking with you I believe in you Why thanks! It seems a lot of people do which makes it even more interesting
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/26 04:09 AM
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Wow, I almost don’t know whether to read that in a disappointed or annoyed tone! I’ll go with disappointed Uh…the answer to that question is unknown at the time; not being a whore has actually not been going over all that well for some reason Jokes aside I suppose it’ll happen once I find that fit girl who’s compatible but it doesn’t fall through for no reason this time
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/26 03:52 AM
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<image> What the actual fuck why did I almost score a perfect
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/26 03:41 AM
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Aye, stay strong, brother! Getting together my plan to find my muscle girly this year myself so I can go through the dame thing
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 04:46 PM
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I’m not up to date on any lore ‘round these parts. Were you with a girl and broke up? Or like you mean your girl just isn’t around at this time?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 03:52 PM
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Agreed on that I’m extroverted with high energy and still would not want to deal with that type of woman. One thing that immediately makes me start reconsidering (or even makes me straight-up turn tail and run) is if a girl’s past seems to consist of that
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 03:51 PM
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That’s an interesting way to look at it What’s crazy is I don’t have a tangible way to tell the way you do, but all the same there are subtleties within that let you know, at least if you talk to them enough Weirdly enough I’ve also been able to tell this with friends who end up falling out, too
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 03:09 PM
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I say something similar. Maybe me having grown up black shifts the perspective here I’ve seen the women who deal with criminals, bangers, felons, etc. (Matter of fact sometimes those women have wanted me for some reason. This is probably why I know this) Although sometimes they are hot women, still the typical type of guy on this sub does not want that kind of woman in his life. They are in no way equipped to deal with that type of person.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 03:01 PM
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Oh we’ll see about that one; I plan to take this year for everything it’s got
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/26 02:34 PM
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No relationship. I have been on a bunch of dates, hooked up with some girls, but never been in an actual relationship. My dating life is kinda on-off right now though, and I’m at a point where I’d rather be in a relationship than have meaningless hookups. I consider myself RP aware and I guess you could say I apply it? But also I think it’s got a lot of bullshit in it too, and there’s a lot of the community aspects I don’t like I do like the internal aspects because a lot of them boil down to y’…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 02:21 PM
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Man I agree with you on that one! It gets genuinely crazy how incels see other incels as being enlightened and knowing the truth about women (that they’ve never touched and probably hardly interact with) And it’s also funny that they disagree so hard when I actually used to be one of them (sort of…) I won’t larp as THE slayer of all poon, but I will say I witness it so often where a guy who gets girls comes along and they’ve got all these objections and disagreements. I’m like how does that even…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 01:59 PM
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I agree Being on the other end of things I can say when I’ve ghosted, it’s been just me not really feeling it, but also we’re not close enough or serious enough that it warrants an explanation or a big message about how I’m not feeling it, and it stands to reason that this rationale stands for most ghostings And then same as you, I’ve ended up ghosted before by women who forced me to kiss them earlier on the same day (not like a violent kind of force but like you know what I mean. Not like in a …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 05:32 PM
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Hard agree. And what’s crazy is There’s something related to the subconscious and nervous system that will draw you toward situations that you believe will happen, or can make them seem that way. I’ve experienced it myself and it even impacts how other people view you, too. Plus within relationships, if you keep looking for disrespect and proof you’re not attractive, or that you’re less than, you’re going to find it. Hence why I think yeah it literally is better to be too confident in yourself t…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 12:32 PM
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Money and fame do get exposure but they aren’t as raw and primal, methinks
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 11:39 AM
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Interesting you say this, because I was just thinking about something similar That your own temperament and way of viewing things matters almost as much as the information itself that you’ve received, at least when it comes to these dating situations Like for instance when it came to my realization some of those “harsh realities” of dating, I didn’t feel as shocked or “lied to” about it as some guys claim they do, since I’ve always been under the impression that people are pretty grey morally an…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 11:37 AM
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Nah, sounds insufferable The whole “she’ll always take the woman’s side” thing sounds like it speaks to an inability to view situations objectively Either that or she views them objectively, but will still choose wrong over right just to be “team girl” Both possibilities sound like she’s someone I’d not even want to acquaint with, let alone date
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 11:30 AM
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One thing I like about using my fitness account on Instagram is my reels end up full of muscular women (sigh I need to actually start hollering at girls again irl)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 02:27 PM
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A little bit to a LOT depending on how bad the structural issues are for aren’t Interestingly I actually have slightly bigger front teeth with a gap in them Interestingly I don’t think it knocks me down super hard, If I had multiple crooked teeth and misalignments I think it’d be a much bigger hindrance Also this one is sadder but yes, it seems as though super prominent gums with smaller teeth is less attractive than a “normal” ratio (whatever that means)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 11:29 AM
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Unless you’re born with a physical healthy issue or have endured some sort of physical hardship that makes this the case, then yes, most of the time what you say is true
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 07:37 PM
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Oh yeah exactly, seen this a bunch Is it a little strange I honestly can relate a lot more to the female side of this when it comes to it Not that options don’t exist, but that getting a relationship with someone I actually like is quite the different beast it seems (Meanwhile I actually genuinely find getting hookups to be easier than finding a relationship)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 10:48 PM
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It’s funny when I see dudes with genuinely no experience with girls and whatnot, see normie guys, guys in relationships, and guys with female friends and accuse them of being simps and betabuxxers and “we’re right” and “Oh you’ll never see me being a jester for a woman’s attention” (I mean what they say can have a level of truth to it that some guys are whipped and genuinely getting played for fools out here) What gets me, and what’s “funny” about it to me though is that I don’t believe for a se…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 10:29 PM
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I might have a broken sense of humor but this was absolutely hilarious
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 08:01 PM
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Me either, though in a similar situation to what you’ve highlighted I’ve also had some gigastacies swipe on me who were trans Not my thing, but I could definitely see it being a cheat code if it were someone’s thing
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 09:24 PM
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If her being trans genuinely doesn’t bother you then yes, yes it is the cheat code
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 09:04 PM
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What’s crazy is I’m in half-joking with what I initially said. Even if not cheating, the flirting-behind-the-back and Shit talking I’ve seen is crazing Some of the actual cheating stories are diabolical as hell and grimy. Now the half-joke comes with that I do think if you really that guy and depending on how YOU move, there are ways you can select or get against it more Nothing’s perfect though, so mileage varies
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 06:28 PM
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I feel like I’m kinda genuinely insane knowing how crazy some girls move while in a relationship, but yet still wanting to be in one because hookups are just…empty and hollow for me I always say oh well though. If I get heartbroken it is what it is
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 06:06 PM
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It’s at this point I have to respectfully ask what you’re even on about
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 07:57 PM
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It’s at this point I have to respectfully ask what you’re even on about
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 07:56 PM
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Breaking news: Having a robust social life and friends is harmful
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 07:52 PM
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I’m so dumb! Solution was right in front of me the whole time! Be right back gotta load up some FitXFearless right quick ya feel me
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 05:50 PM
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In terms of some- well yeah of course I do. It’s almost like I’m a guy or something In terms of trying to dismantle or maintain gender norms surrounding this topic or whatever? No, I don’t really care more than “this is what the field is like so if you want results you’ve gotta play it” And let’s be real, I think socializing more with women can teach one that they do approach and do make first moves. But again you don’t really learn that without exposure
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 05:21 PM
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I don’t “want” anything one way or the other here; we’re talking based on the reality of what things are now Right now you have a playing field where OLD is mostly a joke (even if it works here and there) and trying to DM girls on social media is about the same. And given this playing field what are we gonna do? Restructure the human libido? Collectively pressure women into settling on the apps? It seems a bit more intuitive and say….realistic to say “If you want to pull more girls you need to b…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 05:00 PM
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I was about to say the same thing That’s how markets and exposure work. How ya gonna get a girl if the girls ain’t there?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 02:43 PM
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Yeah for real, because my first thought reading this is “Wait what? According to commonly held notions, this situation would literally be the most possible favorable indicator that you’re desirable” And I don’t even entirely disagree with that notion; a girl who’s keeping you as a FWB isn’t exactly doing it because you have great words of wisdom to share
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 01:44 AM
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While I can’t directly agree because different reasons, I can say your reasoning is actually solid and makes you pretty damn real. Someone who can approach dating (and life) with that “they can try, but they ain’t me.” Mindset always does better than “but-but what about all the other guys?”
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 06:38 PM
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I agree on this. The “I won’t do it because it’s gonna ruin my life” is just nonsensical At that point, admitting you’re afraid of rejection, or that you just don’t think it’ll work for you and isn’t worth the time, is better than that paranoid train of logic I’m convinced that way of thinking is just an excuse from dudes who are otherwise scared of the rejection
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 11:26 AM
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I love experiences like this Seeing woman so hot that I damn near short circuit is one of the things I love about life Then again I’m also crazy, so
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 11:19 AM
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I agree with this so hard On its own it doesn’t guarantee anything, but man it definitely matters It’s one of those cases where even if the woman herself isn’t lying that she doesn’t like a lot of muscle, that’s still not a contradiction to the women swooning over muscle. And almost no man ever is genuinely going to encounter “oh you’re too muscular for me.”
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 10:10 PM
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I have a running joke with my friend about this Where one of us will go “What the fuck does ‘cool rush’ smell like? Wait, what even IS cool rush?!” Because seriously, it makes zero sense I mean the product I have in mind here smells good but one can’t deny the stupidity
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 02:41 PM
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Exactly, makes sense given everything I also made sure to “Uhm” and “uhh” a lot. Someone who seems to not even be able to form a sentence without being unsure, isn’t going to be a good choice for a jury either
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 03:01 PM
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A couple months ago when they asked me all those questions in the courtroom to see whether I’d actually make the cut for the jury, I purposely made myself sound as genuinely crazy as possible Worked like a charm; I was enjoying that too much
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 02:40 PM
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I’m not sure entirely how true what you’ve said is, but I know it’s definitely not 0%; there’s truth there for sure It’s further backed up by the fact that what’s funny is if you told a normal woman something that amounted to “women are these creatures higher than me and their opinions on the internet make me feel upset.” She’d look at you like you were crazy, and for good reason
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 02:25 PM
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This is hard to explain without showing an example (as I don’t have one to show at this moment), but basically there’ll be like a guy posting something about how he’s lifting this and that while his crush is being railed, or something that implies women don’t want him or choose other guys over him, with the sort of implication that he’s using it as fuel (The “crush being railed” one was a real thing that I saw, btw. Yeah, crazy.) It’s kind of in that same zone as people who make that terrible “l…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/25 08:16 PM
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It’s probably isolated to social media moreso or at least most of it is Even the rejection/breakup lift thing starts to border on “cringe” quite quickly Even if it’s not a bad use
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/25 08:01 PM
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You know it’s funny that you touch on that, because I’ve always said dude, going to the gym is genuinely not that hard Maybe it’s just the fact that I have a crazy excess of energy, but still
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/25 08:00 PM
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You know one thing that’s crazy about being a single guy who’s heavily into the gym and athletics and whatnot, is being adjacent to the weird dudes who invent cuck fantasies in their head and use it as “fuel” to “go harder” in the gym That’s truly one of the cringiest genres of people I can think of, because what are you even doing
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/25 06:58 PM
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Women do a lot of the so-called “slut shaming”, too
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/25 06:56 PM
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Had to lock in so hard not to laugh at this Truly did not expect to see this image this early in the morning (I definitely laughed)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 12:05 PM
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Exactly. “Hint of misogyny” sounds crazy at first but you’re right in that it’s exactly what they need It speaks to me because it makes me wonder, if they can get this neurotic and wound up about that, then they’ll absolutely crumble while on dates or actually trying to get laid. Like you said, it’s unsustainable in the real adult world. Because what are you supposed to do? It’d make taking any actionable advice literally impossible, especially about dating I can’t believe so many guys have yet …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 11:35 PM
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Yes! Exactly! What wha-
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 09:57 PM
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I’ve never really said women are always in danger of rape, but can acknowledge the danger definitely exists and for it to be a thought in their heads isn’t entirely unreasonable I mean I think there’s levels for this, and there are ways one approaches that are much less scary-seeming I myself have never had a woman I approached IRL get freaked out by it, even if I certainly wasn’t her type There are things that make people unsettled or less unsettled, and that’s down to discernment and context
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 01:54 PM
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This is what I’ve been saying and I alluded to this a while ago when I said that taking the opinions of women on the internet you hear so damn seriously all the damn time is ironically putting them on a pedestal even if it doesn’t seem like it Especially when dudes drive themselves crazy with this whole “women say this but then women also say not to do that! So confusing!” type of thing. I’m like, has it not occurred to them how personal preferences and opinions work? I swear it’s like people ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 01:29 PM
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I agree on this I think to myself “damn, being a woman’s piggy bank seems harder to me to attain, than just shooting shots until someone thinks I’m hot”
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 06:59 PM
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See I’ve been saying this for a while even if I could never concretely prove it I know for a fact I’ve had more than one case where a woman was definitely attracted to me but either my height or….something made me the less socially cool option
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 11:38 AM
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Saying “Simp” in response to disagreements is just childish Especially because this is one of those cases where it’s like this Want a word to quickly lose its meaning? Say it when it doesn’t actually apply and use it as ad hominem whenever
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 11:37 AM
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I agree To me, that reaction is an indicator as to whether you’re looking for reasons you’ve lost or looking for reasons that you can win
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 03:56 AM
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I genuinely am at the point where I have better forearms than biceps, at least I think so (I don’t know if they’re actually bigger in sheer size but they’re definitely better) Thanks a lot, Ninja! Where the forearm girlies at?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 01:47 AM
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I’ll raise you the opposite What helped my confidence was “That guy got laid? I’ll be alright then.”
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 01:43 AM
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I rag on how stupid it is but good god it’s hilarious and addictive
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 04:13 AM
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Hey that’s at least a little more based than the behavior I mentioned in my original comment
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 04:10 AM
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Nah, because that’s a fairly good thing to do Making videos and posts ranting about a woman in some video or who made some post somewhere about it, often isn’t. Because it often is whining about some performative standards a woman claims to have. Especially if the ire is directed solely at women who say dumb shit and never men; that quite often comes across “Holding women accountable for not giving me the pussy” Because I believe in holding people accountable, but if it’s not coming across consi…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 01:11 AM
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Agree For all the things wrong with simping, somehow I think being mad about the fact that women don’t want to put the pussy on you is even worse somehow (and yet again, they can’t even claim they’re so above it all because as far as I’m concerned, those women are still on pedestal!)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 06:49 PM
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Damn I couldn’t have said this better myself I don’t even take everything seriously that my closest friends and advisors in life say, because I know they can, and will occasionally be full of Shit So then to get on the internet holding everything to that standard of interpretation, is asinine at best. (Also it’s crazy how it’s “watch what they do, not what they say” until it’s a woman saying something that gets them all wound up)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 06:47 PM
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I’m like, bruh it might not be the typical “simping” after a woman or whatever, but it’s damn sure pedestalizing! And I’d argue it could be even worse possibly Because getting and staying so bent out of shape about that kind of thing is just so attractive!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 06:38 PM
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You know what’s crazy? When you have a community who speaks of not putting women on a pedestal and whatnot But then always going around talking about some “A woman said this.” Or “women lie about this.” And other such things about the stuff women say and do (often on the internet) Taking all of that so seriously is a quick way to lose, and to me, that sounds kind of like putting women on a pedestal.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 06:29 PM
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I’m so in the zone today. Let’s hope it continues and I don’t get some random wave of tired in the middle of the day
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 02:22 PM
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You mean like in the sense that “losers” are like the guys who sort of made up society as in the common man who just sort of did the labor he had to do? Because I agree if that’s what you mean; in this case I specifically mean in a dating and social context. Regarding that, I believe it’s possible to be a loser with a good job, or a loser with muscles, etc. at least from a dating lens; it’s possible to be a loser in one aspect of life but a winner in others Just depends on what game you’re tryin…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 02:23 PM
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Random take: if you needed money and status to get the attention of women in the first place then you’re still ultimately the same loser as you were before you got that money and status Nothing wrong with leveraging it, IF you have the actual internal profile to match it. (plus past a certain level of status you can’t realistically separate yourself from it) Plus a lot of dudes do manage to get money and end up still dateless or getting disrespected by their woman All of this to say: working on …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 12:58 AM
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I’ve missed this bit of lore; what makes this Chad a Nautical Chad?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 10:39 PM
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Oh yeah. I care about my body’s aesthetic a lot but the pure aesthetic bros can genuinely be so insufferable I mean even in my own case I started lifting primarily as an athletics thing
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 02:39 PM
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This is a general question for all of you people out there, so it can apply to women dating dudes and to men here can answer in a more general sense But in your own opinion, at what point would someone go from being “fitness-focused”/“takes the gym seriously” to being “insufferable meathead” for you personally?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 02:37 PM
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You may have to once or twice /j
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 12:09 PM
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Harsh but hey I can get why
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 10:26 AM
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Imagine a gibbon swinging off one arm from branch to branch Yeah, that
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 10:24 AM
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My sport, which has a lot of “pull” movements similarly to rock climbing, has also helped so much with accelerating the back gains it’s pretty nice (That sport is actually part of why I’m so unusually good at brachiation)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 10:23 AM
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That’s strangely reassuring I unironically have a build that’s naturally really good at it (and I’ve done it enough so for it to be effortless for me) So hey, nice!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 03:44 AM
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Question for the ladies, is it a turn off if a man is unusually good at climbing things and also suspiciously good at swinging like a monkey? Like presume it looks like second nature to him (I’m only half kidding, too)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 03:21 AM
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Finally can land front flips semi-consistently (I’m still mostly ass at them) finally landed this one technique in Ninja that I was struggling with (pretty consistently), PR’d on weighted pull-ups, and got clean one-armed pull-ups Today kinda ruled I must say; no complaints about that How is that related to men’s day? No idea
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 03:47 AM
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Exactly I’m having to wake up to the fact that it’s a single leverage point that can only carry so much importance. It’s definitely a strong enough point that puts me far and away above where I’d otherwise be, but even for girls seriously into the gym/fitness (which are pretty much the only ones I’ll realistically entertain), the face card wins and not taking advantage of it is leaving untapped potential right there
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 06:38 PM
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I said the other week I realized I’m hard-carried by my physique Yeah no, I’m not. Stupidly enough I drew incorrect conclusions. It’s an asset; a good asset that definitely counts more than it doesn’t, but I had to remind myself that it’s an amplifier. Gonna need some new pics for when I plan to hop back on these apps for real
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 05:45 PM
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Honestly, autist is usually so on-the-nose I say it’s worth keeping Coming from someone who has had his fair share of really autistic takes
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 02:30 PM
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I agree Now calorie counting has become second nature for me after years now of doing so (I was counting calories before I was even in the gym) But fully with you on the protein; I go so crazy on “eat red meat and eggs” that I don’t think about it much but I ought to if I want to optimize it more
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 02:27 PM
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Who I can pull IRL is more attractive on average than who matches with me on dating apps even if there is overlap
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 09:09 AM
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Now I look visibly bigger both in the mirror and in pictures I mean don’t get me wrong I haven’t looked small or like I don’t lift in pics for a while now, but now it’s like damn that’s even more noticeable It’s all coming together!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 12:59 AM
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Man, I'm definitely feeling that meme where it says "I accidentally became important at work". Then again, this was foreshadowed to hell and back and was essentially inevitable, but it actually happening is like a "Damn!" feeling, both in a good and bad way On another unrelated note, I'm dipping my toes back in to the pool to see who's out there and sadly, they just ain't *her*. And what's more embarrassing is that "her" is a girl I was never even that far with. D'oh well, c'est la vie, I suppos…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 04:13 PM
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Yep exactly Either not any men are lifting so you’d might as well get up on the competition Or they all are lifting so now you REALLY have no choice I mean I’m a fitness guy so of course I’m going to come back to the conclusion of “Get in the gym”
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 07:19 PM
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I agree, that logic is just stupid On the other hand you could even argue if more men start lifting and getting jacked, then the bar to even meet the bare minimum and not get left behind, skyrockets What’s funny is that similar to what lift said, what’s funny is how “in the gym” or being “not out-of-shape” isn’t even referring to men who go to the gym and actually look good.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 03:27 PM
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This is what makes you so real, big dawg (Or presumably big, based on the username)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 03:21 PM
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My ideal is obviously going to be slim with assets but if I had to choose a girl who was either a little skinnier than ideal or a little heavier than ideal I’d pick the skinnier one
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 03:05 AM
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Similar to you here. Almost any platonic friend (that I’m actually semi-close to) I have of either gender could tell you I’m that way in general My mother would say I’ve been like that pretty much all of my life
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 02:23 PM
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MUSCULAR AHH WOMEN 🗣️🗣️
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/25 09:07 AM
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That’s the spirit!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 11:03 PM
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This made me feel validated not even gonna lie
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 10:45 PM
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I honestly kind of suspected rap was going to phase out of the mainstream (probably will come back decades later because trends are cyclical) Funny enough I actually do not like most rap at all but “Wobbly wiggly wobbly wiggly wobbly” has been incessantly stuck in my head
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 10:43 PM
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“DAYUM THOSE THINGS CANNOT BE REA-“
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 10:42 PM
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Yeah no I’m kidding, if someone I knew was doing that I’d definitely disagree with that behavior
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 01:25 AM
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“Introduce you to his Chad friends” is absolutely crazy but I can’t even hate on strategy I mean in the other hand you’re right because I know a girl who almost got either kidnapped or stabbed by one her orbiters And other subsavory stories that aren’t as bad but still aren’t quite good bedtime stories either
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 12:07 AM
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I agree to some extent I couldn’t tell you what measurably matters more but in terms of behavior even then I’ve noticed I have some pretty harsh filters that make it so that most women aren’t even passing minimum threshold I’m inclined to say they’re equal for me too overall though
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 10:12 PM
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Part of me thinks I should’ve tried to get out partyin’ last night and tried to well, y’know… I saw some NICE looking costumes here and there last night if you get what I’m saying But albeit I didn’t even dress up! I’m becoming an old geezer at such a young age somehow
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 06:45 PM
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The adorableness, I just can’t Kids just being adorable is still one of my favorite things about life
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 06:42 PM
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I think you’re spot on I’m not sure if this is just because or if it has to genuinely do with how my mind works; I think getting a hookup is easier than a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 01:47 AM
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That makes it actually even funnier, especially when I’ve known a dude or two who was just like this The best part is when they’re so unintentionally funny thus making it even funnier
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 06:02 PM
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For real It’s all too easy when you’ve known one too many person who talks like that Part of me has my worries people expect me to sound like that before I actually open my mouth…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 05:18 PM
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I’m not a woman but the Yeezy one has me genuinely hollering and hooting with laughter The visual in my mind is sending me
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 05:16 PM
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Getting me kinda jealous here not gonna lie, but not today, demons of lust and temptation! (Kill me)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 06:35 PM
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Oh yeah I’m being tongue-in-cheek In no way was the girl I described actually crazy; just very able to match my energy (and considering I’m a fuckin’ weirdo…) Like I’m playing it loose with the word “crazy” here
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 06:34 PM
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Not wrong. I’m convinced they’re all crazy in some way but you just have to pick your crazy carefully Though honestly if I had to be limited to redheads forever from here on in I wouldn’t even be mad Which probably speaks to how crazy I am
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 06:28 PM
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I’m with you. Past Spread would’ve wanted that girl you just described all day, but no way I’d do it now; I’ve become boring (Ironically the girl I describe in my post is a Christian who didn’t even drink alcohol or cuss; I so wish that situation didn’t fall through) And here’s what’s crazy! The fact that her and I never actually got to that point where we were hooking up or anything but yet still she remains in my mind so much! Like how am I even selling this hard!?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 06:23 PM
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The last girl I more or less “dated” (I suppose it was a talking stage? Idk) was a redhead Now I have a thing for redheads and I can’t quite figure out if this is chicken or egg. Don’t know if she just exposed what I already liked or if I have that preference because of her Either way, I need to get a grip here; I’m losing my mind
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 06:03 PM
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Do you just mean brutal because it gets colder and darker than summer? Or for other reason? (Fall and winter have their charm but I’m definitely a little more baseline depressed during those seasons)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 05:59 PM
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I work with kids. Oh no….. (I’m not super worried but it’s something to keep in mind for me)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 05:58 PM
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It’s so flippin’ hilarious when guys come up in here seeming to want a guaranteed success manual or some shit I get thst playing the game can be hard sometimes but dammit you’ve gotta do something Even the “Chad” you lament about will actually get the results he wants moreso when he makes moves
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 01:30 PM
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Look at those nice, round, shapely vents I would engineer HER prompts all day!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 01:25 PM
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When her lower body is elite but she also has biceps the size of mine> Makes me want to lock in twice as hard for both reasons if ya feel me
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 12:43 AM
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Right? That physique is supremo right there
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 12:35 AM
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Yes it was, I was mindlessly typing not realizing she spells it as Sh3bulk on her Insta handle
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 12:25 AM
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I’d say the point of being too masculine looking exists but she definitely doesn’t fit it( to me she’s extremely hot Those biceps, man
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 12:03 AM
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I ain’t the type to get celebrity or influencer crushes and think that’s stupid, generally But Sh3bulk is literally perfection
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 11:58 PM
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Word? Me too, man. It’s like to what end? I don’t even entertain girls now if I couldn’t see myself making them my girl The fun of a hookup doesn’t compare to the hollow feeling afterward for me
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 11:26 PM
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Sort of? I do see a lot of UMC women with scrawny prettyboys but then I also see ghetto girls with scrawny wannabe gangsters too so there’s that. (Also do you mean lower class economically?) I do feel the musculature activates something moreso in women who are looking for something short-term both scientifically speaking and in what my experience seems to entail. Especially given I don’t look like a provider type at all It’s hard to gauge, but I’d bet on the answer to this being yeah, lower clas…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 11:06 PM
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Is she single?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 01:49 AM
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It was cheating because it was a machine and not a raw lift technically, but as of today I can deadlift 565 lbs. So where gym baddie girlfriend? Jokes aside this is such a great feeling and it feels kinda unique to possess that level of raw strength while also being in a sport where I’m swinging around on stuff constantly
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 02:04 AM
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Now hips on a dude is actually a pretty unique one that I can’t really say I’ve heard before
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 04:17 PM
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It might be getting a little concerning just how much I love women who have visible upper body musculature and nice arms/shoulders. I mean I’ve always appreciated a fit woman but recently… It’s not more important than the typical sought after features of a female physique but damn do I love it Something is seriously wrong with me, I think, but I’ll die on the hill that upper body musculature on women is top-tier
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 04:12 PM
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I just realized how much I am hard carried by my physique I mean it’s whatever; I’m not ugly or anything without it but I’m convinced that it is THE key difference for me. I don’t know if anyone else has felt this way but it’s enough to make one think
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 01:19 PM
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Not sure I’ll drop it yet but may in the future
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 03:00 AM
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I’m not entirely sure but my (quite unprofessional-looking) fitness page on Instagram is about to surpass my main one in terms of following and traction I like that feeling though. I think it’ll be bolstered even more if I end up actually getting on American Ninja Warrior
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 02:42 AM
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He does kinda look like one; always thought the same thing
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 02:40 AM
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I agree Ironically I’m actually quite extroverted and ADHD but still you get what I mean Especially in this place specifically. Lots of actual autism
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 01:42 AM
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For a fact for sure, I’m a few steps off being actually insane I’m pretty sure Oh yeah my flair is just sorta there right now, it feels like such supreme autism to have it and that’s why I’m keeping it
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 01:31 AM
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Yes sir, comp season is back in swing for me starting tomorrow It’s a double header event and I’m hoping to take double gold home with me (but we’ll see) Side and semi-related, even being slightly leaner feels so amazing; I don’t even know how or why I could perceive such small differences in weight
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 01:28 AM
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Can confirm Chad is a stretch, but I definitely would consider myself a good-looking weirdo I’m convinced if I’d just stumbled upon taking care of my looks and going to the gym normally and never happened upon any of this shit my life would be better for it But alas
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 01:25 AM
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Maybe one of these days I’ll be able to make a relationship work Maybe i shoot myself in the foot too hard with my own standards or somethin’ Either way I’ve to figure this out
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 06:20 PM
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I agree Even if someone is similar to you, it’s not enough that it makes up for the amount of differences in you guys’ life experiences and natural temperaments
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 04:03 PM
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I don’t watch that guy but i read that last sentence in his voice
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 04:00 PM
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Similar case here but not family I have a friend who jokes the longer I go single the more he starts to get “worried I’m actually gay” Tongue in cheek but it does make me think
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 03:59 PM
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I agree; and that’s even worse when it comes to just how stupid it is Someone’ll really argue that being technically able to get a date is the same as women actively wishing they had you
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 03:21 PM
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There’s a difference between being “dateable” as a baseline and “someone women actively would want to date” The line gets muddied I find and a lot of people confuse A for B and B for A when some people air their grievances
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 01:50 PM
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I can agree Even when I had somewhat different ideals/worldview that I do now (currently much more stringent and strict than I have been), hooking up feels good physically but afterward the emptiness/clear lack of fulfillment is loud I can’t even describe why.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/25 08:34 PM
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Like even though I have zero plans on trying to mooch or ask a girl for things, there are just so many benefits to even being around that type of girl on its own (plus they’re just generally hotter) If I can get her family likin’ me too then that’s even better
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 02:45 PM
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You know what? I actually intend to find out here soon because I have a suspicion that this town is the type of place that would have them
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 02:42 PM
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As long as they’re round in the right pla-
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 02:39 PM
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It’s just occurred to me that having now moved to a much more affluent suburb of my city, that the women ‘round here are both rich and uh…my type (if you know you know) I’d ought to start busting moves here soon and capitalize, ya hear?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 01:00 PM
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Depends, but there are a few ideas I might just be Batman at my workplace because I can’t actually dress scary, or a pirate, idk A friend and I joked about him being Mr. Incredible and me being Frozone
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 03:39 AM
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I agree I’m not at “gets free shit often” pretty privilege (though it happens sometimes) But albeit I do seem to get benefit of the doubt, a high baseline level of friendliness and smiles from strangers, willingness to work with me and be generous, etc. The fact that I walk around thinking “People are quite nice as a whole and aren’t that bad!” Is reason enough to justify my line of reasoning in my initial comment; I couldn’t imagine how much greyer things would feel without that baseline pleasa…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 07:03 PM
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You have to be a semi-insane person to want to become better-looking (or maintain your current looks) for the social benefits and pretty privilege moreso than just the women benefits It’s me, I’m semi-insane person Obviously the benefits on dating are good and to pretend you don’t care at all is probably lying to yourself, but I’d say even if I had a steady girl right now I’d have the same mindset (even though yes that would also be to make sure the bedroom Doesn’t die) (I mean also, in part my …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 02:08 PM
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Somebody laughing so hard that they can’t even get it out is always funnier than any actual joke I swear
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/25 02:42 PM
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Every time I see someone imply, or even outright say that women just don’t like sex I always think “Uh…who’s gonna tell ‘im?”
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 03:34 PM
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This is what I’m saying I said this a while ago. The assumption that these are good women who like those type of men is crazy, and I’m willing to bet that assumption comes about because the women are beautiful sometimes. But those women are often just not people of the type of moral fiber that the middle class dorkier types would want (Which nothing wrong with being that if you own it) Because I…look the way I do, I’ve had this type of woman interested in me before and it still happens sometimes…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 04:38 PM
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Random but I actually hate the word “rizz” Miss me with that bullshit; the term is “game”, and anyone who says the word “rizz”, automatically doesn’t have it (Yes I work with kids so I probably hear it more often than most adults would; end my life please)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 12:01 PM
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It doesn’t in particular The I my thing that makes me feel better is great big booty bitches
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 11:52 AM
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It’s strange; I have empathy for the ones who are just dudes who’ve had a rough go of it. Whether it be due to truly being that chopped, or just plain ol’ autism, I will say it’s unfortunate and I sure as hell wouldn’t be happy either (side note: I think autism and adjacents are more common causes for this than ugliness) My issues start with the following: when guys whose defining trait is that they don’t get women, try to have the most shit to say about them, with often downright weird takes. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 10:14 AM
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I was about 15 or so when I woke up to this fact I thought to myself “people who try so hard to be unique and different are cringe because their claims that different=better are often unsubstantiated and just plain-out wrong. Something that’s popular, is usually popular for a reason.”
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 06:08 PM
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Funny how some guys go “Erm only looks matter akshually game doesn’t matter.” Looks is good for getting in the door but game brings consistency of getting the results you want. The type of guy who says this kind of stuff, is the type of guy who needs game so he isn’t out here getting finessed left and right, thinking it shouldn’t happen because he looksmaxxed And no, I’ve never been if the idea that game is about having special lines to spit or”rizz” (fuck that stupid word) but it implies more i…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 09:22 PM
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Slightly taken aback and think “Yo, WHAT?” But then promptly realize that’s probably something you don’t encounter very often, so hence time to make that work At least, assuming she’s physically active, but if I find her attractive, then she is
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 01:06 AM
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Meeting another man with his priorities straight, I see!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 08:31 PM
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Don’t you just love getting mail? 90% stuff you can ignore, the other 10% will ruin your life or send you to jail if ignored
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 08:30 PM
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Me? I’m like 5’8-5’9 While it’d be cool to be taller, this is still a chill height
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 08:46 PM
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Oh yeah I feel you on the good and bad almost in a “pick your poison” sense Personally I like it. It’s a bit jarring at first to realize you pretty much won’t get the kid gloves anymore (especially when you hadn’t even realize you were getting them) But upon adjustment and learning how to act accordingly it rocks
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 01:13 AM
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Agreed. It’s like my whole league has shifted and I can feel the impact of being objectively hotter With that has also shifted the expectations and way to handle things And this is even if the shift from 20-22 hasn’t been massive by any stretch. Similar to you; I’m noticeably more muscular and again for some reason my face and jaw got wider and stronger, albeit I probably will never shave my head and I’ve got that patchier beard right now
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 01:08 AM
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Going from cute but unassuming and non-threatening in the looks department, to being good looking but more masculine way overall is an interesting feeling (not a bad one though), hence my flair change yet again Feels good though! But realize that I’m probably going to have to YET again change how I approach this game, who I pursue, how I do it, the whole nine yards. Any of my other fellas here had a shift like this that sorta ambushed them? On this note: I didn’t know your face could get wider a…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 12:29 AM
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One of my friends and I (shit, this guy’s actually my bro truly so, not even just “a” friend) are always hanging out just going to Walmart or getting into normal daily shenanigans This type of friendship is superior to any other kind of friendship I’ve experienced and I think we grow so close because we don’t need any superfluous pretenses to hang out with each other
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 03:56 PM
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Crazy take, errand date good Errand date good because it can tell you about person and gives much conversation opportunity Never been on errand date and wouldn’t ask for that, so just theory Theory exists because of experience with friends
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 03:55 PM
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Weird take of the day: Is it just me or do errand dates conceptually kind rule? There’s so much going on that there’s plenty to engage on and opens up the conversation so much, you can tell a lot of little things about the person and see how they move through this world, it’s relatively low stakes, Not that I’d ask a girl on an errand date (if it ends up there then that’s a different story), and logistically it’s probably not the best But then again, I’ve never done this as a date before but I d…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 03:44 PM
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Not at all, I hate that fact about it Otherwise I like my name, but there’s better out there for sure
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 03:36 PM
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Not really in a general sense. In my personal circles (mostly people I know from my sport and my work), nah not really. There is the odd attractive guy here and there but most are just average as is to be expected, but that being said I’ve noticed none of my friends are actually ugly barring maybe one or two exceptions of being overweight My closest/best bro is an absolutely good-looking fella though. He and I are usually among some of the best looking in a given room, albeit he even moreso than…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 09:19 PM
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I mean while i think settling absolutely and positively sucks for all parties involved (and for the exact same reasons on both sides), the reason he said that is likely because it’s sorta on the same topic/stream that I brought up
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 01:50 PM
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I take it further I don’t care about just BMI, but rather, I’d she active? Does she go to the gym? Is she a “oh I work out sometimes hehe” girl or a “I’m training my ass off regularly” girl? If she doesn’t go to the gym, what does she do to stay active? And his seriously?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 10:33 AM
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You know, if I dated a girl who was out of shape or not into fitness at all, I think seeing fit couples in the gym or worse yet, on Instagram would make me want to actually die Yet another reason to keep that standard maintained
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 02:48 AM
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I’m taking about the dudes I see get laid the most or are known to get laid a lot
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 09:47 AM
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Oh I’m inclined to agree; there are multiple means to an end of the goal is just “get laid” without any specifics Hell, even in my own case I guarantee you I’ve been carried by looks before, and also my above comment does fail to mention how those two aspects do go hand-in-hand In my own experience, being charming and charismatic is ludicrously easy when people already want to like you
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 12:46 AM
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I won’t get up here and say that personality is the end all he all of the whole thing but I WILL say this From what I witness, I’ve never seen a guy who gets laid or is known for getting laid, who isn’t also pretty damn good with people in general and generally charismatic. They’re all great at getting people to like them, pay attention to them, and making friends, even if surface level sometimes. And i must say this is entirely apart from whether the man in question is a good person. The men I’…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 12:24 AM
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15" biceps, let's go! (Possibly more like 14.5; I don't know if they're just extra full today or what) Not huge or impressive but for me? Finally; took me damn long enough
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 01:52 AM
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Probably
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 11:09 PM
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Sounds like heaven Speaking as an athletic, extroverted, and energetic person myself
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 08:52 PM
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Q4A: Are you an energetic person? What about your partner, are they energetic? I mean in terms of both how much energy you generally have and how you express it I’m genuinely such a hyperactive person it’s kind of nutty. Even though I’m not always like “just had caffeine” wired or anything, the energy is still there almost constantly
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 08:20 PM
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Agreed on that The quickest way to not pedestalize women, or chase incessantly, or do stupid Shit in dating? Having something you’re locked into with intent; not in any “monk mode” shit but you get what I mean
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 08:18 PM
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Good reasoning, albeit this is not the typical case I was referring to
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 02:46 PM
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I agree, it ought to be just the known fact
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 09:56 AM
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You absolutely cooked with this one. I can’t remember last time I’ve read something here I agree with so much
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 09:31 AM
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Literal monk mode, neat Was there a particular thing that spurred you into it? (Majorly I must clarify, I’m speaking from a male perspective which includes a lot of guys hiding their failures behind going monk mode)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 01:57 AM
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Yeah I do believe “I genuinely don’t have interest in dating right now so I won’t do it” I’d a very real thing But then “I’m not getting the results I want with women so I’ll just fool myself into thinking I wanna be on monk mode for a while” is also real too, and as is “If I go monk for this arbitrary amount of time I’ll come out a changed man”
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 01:39 AM
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Random hill I’ll die on: going on “monk mode” or “lone wolf” type of shit is pure cap and BS Self-improvement is an eternal journey and I don’t see why assume dating and relationships are much different (this is why you’ll also see ke say it’s lowkey disrespectful to get into a relationship and let yourself go) Unless going that way is directly contributing to improving your dating life or there are genuinely circumstances that make dating less than feasible
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 01:04 AM
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Even if they stick to the topics they claim to be experts in, they still won’t be taken serious for a key reason It often can and does attract guys who fail with women and just…don’t have the firsthand experience to be talking anything about female nature or knowing how women work If I’d watched a million videos and read books on welding but never touched a god damn welding stick in my life, would you take my opinions on welding seriously? Even if you did, it pales in comparison to a guy who’s a…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 07:49 PM
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I’ve had more than one user admit that they literally want instruction that guarantees success During a discussion where I was saying dudes worry too much about trying to do everything right to a T It’s almost like that’s not how human interaction works
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 01:23 AM
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I’d rather be “not bad” if the alternative is being damn near undateable, but given the opportunity to make yourself have attractive qualities, it’s certainly worth taking It has been for me at least. For all my dating troubles, at least I’m never worried that it’s because I’m just chopped
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 06:17 PM
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That’s true I think I think furthermore a lot of them ain’t even physically unattractive but still may be average and not really all that noticeable Which again isn’t the worst but definitely doesn’t hedge your odds amazingly or anything
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 06:16 PM
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Part of the disparity in dating advice given by people and it not lining up is that a lot of the advice given is stuff that makes you baseline dateable or at least not the worst option in the room The issue is the guys asking for it want results that would come with being actively attractive, not just “not bad” At least this is my two cents on why it seems the advice just doesn’t do it; it’s geared toward a different goal.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 03:44 PM
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Oh yeah I’m terrible about it when it comes to validation; I’ve been working on going without it In these contexts of course I establish hard boundaries but you get what I mean in a general sense (it’s still adorable though) That being said, it also has moments where it sucks; a big group of kiddos that want your attention for one reason or other, can result in several hours of hearing your name called every two seconds
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 09:08 AM
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One of the most weird things I encounter regularly while working my job is the sheer amount of little girlies who crush on me On one hand it’s so adorable in the purest way, on the other hand, fucking Christ I have to be careful because this is crazy On the flipside though, the younger boys usually have quite the level of respect for how seemingly skilled I am and that’s never not flattering (not to self-glaze)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 02:09 AM
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Interestingly I can somewhat feel you. I used to look more naturally approachable but I’ve just become bigger, huskier, more muscular, more mature-faced (still not massive, but visibly muscular) If I’m not smiling, laughing, or clearly making myself look no open to interaction? Not saying I’m super intimidating but there is a slight factor there
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 09:28 AM
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Resting Slav face is so real Every kid I coach that are of Slavic descent, have had some scary-looking parents
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 02:33 AM
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I hate to double dip but Q4A: Do you think you look approachable, generally speaking? Bonus question: how generally friendly/gregarious are you? Does it match up with how approachable you look?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 01:08 AM
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It’s over Not really, it’s over in like the best possible way But I’ve learned most of my friends, acquaintances, and coworkers agree I look like a fuckboy, and I’ve learned scientifically I apparently have features that correlate with short-term attraction cues rather than long-term ones This is hilarious because it feels like a bit of a flex yet also feels counterintuitive to get the kind of girl I need in my life, but maybe not; only time can tell
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 12:32 AM
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Due to my type; my friends would likely make the joke my relationship will probably look like this
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 12:29 AM
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I’m only bout 5’8 (I just claim 5’9 because I’m 5’8.5)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/25 02:47 AM
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Tonight training some Ninja with people I know and mostly coworkers (maybe some outsiders will show up tonight but we’ll see) Tomorrow I’m going to the gym then back to work for tryouts to see who makes our team this season Between all this I ought to be plotting how on earth to make actual connections with the kind of girl I actually want in my life and contemplating why I am the way I am
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 06:10 PM
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I’m in a quite different situation than your typical “never had a girlfriend” type guy, given I’ve hooked up and gotten attention from girls for quite some time now (only seeming to increase no less) That being said? I think it’s a combo of: I don’t date just anyone; my personality and behavioral standards are ruthless. I don’t actually like most girls in a way beyond thinking they’re attractive (I think this is actually pretty normal if you aren’t a desperate guy tbh) Sometimes I just fumble De…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 01:36 AM
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I’m inclined to agree with this here
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 10:56 AM
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This shouldn’t have made me actually lose it laughing but it did
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 11:29 PM
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I begin to think I should start going back to church again; there’s nothing quite like it
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 03:11 PM
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Man that writing is just so top-tier Even as a kid I could sense something made the characterizations and plot-lines feel different The show’s so great you’ve got me thinking about watching it a 14th time
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 07:10 PM
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I don’t identify with the pills but if you take what I believe for the most part I lean like a less extreme version of red I’m fairly happy. Now granted my dating life has its ups and downs (and lefts and rights), but I’m doing much better than a lot of guys Yet still I’m not quite where I want to be yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 10:08 AM
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It’s so bad where I’m at right now My workplace nor car have A/C right now, either
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/25 01:17 PM
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And that’s what counts
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 11:50 PM
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While big and toned is best, this is definitely a very close second and I’d argue what most women ought to aspire to since genetics for big and toned are only so common
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 11:16 PM
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It’s second best; hard work booty is best booty, but genetics are cool too (This is funny coming from someone who actually has fairly good genetics athletically speaking)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 10:15 PM
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A big booty doesn’t count if it didn’t at least partly come from lifting (or some other active pursuit)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 09:51 PM
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Athletic women are the elite
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 02:21 AM
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Agreed As someone who flowed up pretty damn hard, there’s no world where I regret doing so
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 11:37 PM
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My dating life is definitely interesting that’s for sure, but I can’t say I’m in that boat of completely lacking in female attention
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 02:59 PM
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https://preview.redd.it/3rfxphak2w7f1.jpeg?width=1170&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=afe0ab16eb34b883445ced54c83b6fb7937e2a37 Pretty solid if I do say so
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 01:50 PM
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Aw shucks why thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 12:33 PM
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Exactly I always say “shit, I’m not even saying we have to go the gym or work out together but you’ve at least gotta be able to understand where I’m coming from on an actual mutual level.”
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 12:27 PM
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https://preview.redd.it/9dx948dsjv7f1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=354c259c0ddb37b965bb5831dc168752b970600c Here is the physique reveal I mentioned I’d do Still not as ultimate jacked as I want to be but hey, what can ya do? (Well ya can keep hitting the gym I guess)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 12:06 PM
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Lowkey just thinking about doing a physique reveal at this point
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 02:51 AM
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Being into the gym and/or fitness at least somewhat seriously. It’s a road to resentment otherwise Oh and additionally? A sense of humor that can kinda go with mine well enough
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 02:51 AM
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Yeah you get me on that Which is funny because it sounds like I’m virtue signaling to say it’s not exactly fair for her, either. While I’m wishing she’d get off the couch and into the gym sometimes, it’s quite possible she’s wishing I’d take a damn chill pill Bad enough all around to not even be worth it
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 07:27 PM
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Exactly that! It’s hilarious that you being that up because that’s a category I’m in. Not in college and no intentions to go; so it’s a damn near perfect relevant statement And yet still it’s like yeah! Makes sense! I realized this one day while forming my own standards and was like “that isn’t even (entirely) about raw intelligence or earning potential, but about attitude toward the things one considers important. In a similar vein to how my attitude toward fitness is only partly about the look…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 05:26 PM
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I for sure agree on that Exact congruency isn’t a necessity (because it almost doesn’t exist) but but agreeing on the basics and core fundamental principles definitely is one I completely get you otherwise. The day I can set up a complete home gym that’s got everything I need, I’m probably done with public gyms (if that ever happens)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 05:12 PM
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Exactly Like I have a couple traits that are straight-up disqualifiers for a lot of girls and that’s before we’ve mentioned traits I can actually control You won’t catch me saying to those girls that you have to have fair standards to include everyone
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 04:59 PM
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If a girl told me this then I’d say I was going for gold and got platinum (Assuming she actually uses those weights) Exactly. It sounds like I’m being dramatic when I say I’d end up resenting some girl who’s a slouch when it comes to her fitness, but it’s true I don’t mean to brag (yes the hell i do!) but I’m a world champion-level athlete in one of my sports; that’s a recipe for incompatibility if the girl isn’t even slightly on that wavelength of being physical
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 04:56 PM
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I remember talking about how I can’t date someone who doesn’t go to the gym or isn’t fit in some way and someone says “But not everyone has time for the gym” (heard that a couple times funny enough) Like what am I supposed to do? Give everyone a fair shot? Because that isn’t how that works And number two? Damn, it’s almost like being unable to make time for the gym makes someone wholly incompatible with me, or something! Shocker!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 04:44 PM
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“What’s your type compared to who you actually attract?” More than one answer will be “I attract no one” as if they were the subject of that question. What’s crazier is I never understood the point, like are you wanting someone in the comments to get one of their friends to throw pussy on you? What do you gain by giving a non-response like that?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 12:13 PM
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I alwyas find it funny when this happens Two people are talking about dating strategy, or are talking about their experiences, or a question is asked that involves people talking about what their dating experiences Some dude: “This doesn’t work if you’re ugly/ that’s never happened to me/no one’s attracted to me.” And I’m like dude…that means no one asked you
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 10:29 AM
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No I get it. The person who has a septum piercing often, but doesn’t always fall into that sort of category. I find they often identify more with mental illness, liberal or left-leaning politics, being into more “unconventional” lifestyles and attraction cues, being less conformist overall, etc. That’s just my personal experience speaking really, I won’t say it’s indicative of anything real because who am I to make that judgement call? But I can move in the future based on what I already know We…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 03:25 PM
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You know what’s crazy? I see a false equivalence here with some dudes saying “normal” women and saying women who are psychopaths and criminals etc. as if there’s not a third category Dawg, I’m telling y’all a lot of these women who are going after the criminals and hood dues are still women y’all don’t want. I swear to god you don’t The girls themselves might not be literal criminals or psychopaths themselves but they’re still often either ghetto/hood women, trashy women, or women who probably a…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 03:15 PM
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I’m doing summer camps where I work this year alongside my normal coaching as well Summer’s gonna be interesting But hey, I like havin more money
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 02:53 PM
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I will say it’s strange being a guy in this space AND in real life where it’s like…how would I explain this? It’s weird being a guy who’s never had a girlfriend but has hooked up because people hear “never had a girlfriend” and lump you into that category, so it’s like you gotta find a weird way to clarify because me personally I can’t be thought of lacking Not to mention saying “I’ve had a couple girlfriends” definitely would make me sound like less of an ass than the truth does
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 01:34 PM
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My physique is reaching levels it’s never seen before AND my facial hair is starting to fill in more Official Tyronelite status here I come, baby! (Only lite because I am 5’8, but it is what it is)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 10:35 PM
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I think this is our first time encountering each other here but I already deem you to be real as hell On that note you’re pretty good lookin’ no homo
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 10:27 PM
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Hard agree there Dudes be lookin any ol kind of way and be in relationships. Albeit their girl/wife is usually right around the same tier as them so it’s not quite the “ugly guys can get hot girls” narrative I’m promoting here And what was funny was that even back when I’d place myself in a more firmly “average” category I still could and did get attention from women so these dudes can miss me with that “the average guy never gets complimented or a shred of female attention” (Even one of their b…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 10:22 PM
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Agree There is not one of those concepts I can think of that solely apply to women by nature Some apply less commonly to men because they can’t get away with it as often because of the libido gap But in terms of desires and wants? Well shit, turns out humans can often be capable of greatly sucking wait that didn’t come out right
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 10:13 PM
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Been there before. On both ends
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 09:51 AM
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Fully agreed full stop. How you’re showing up and your presence/energy make so much difference Having “game” isn’t even about how smooth and suave your lines are, like some people want to think or like some people assume I mean when I say having game matters. And images definitely can’t capture a person’s whole energy
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 09:38 AM
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A lotta dudes i see I’ll be like “Wtf your looks aren’t the problem. It’s not because “Chad” or some shit.” Even in my own case I can say how I act or don’t act can change the vibe and how a woman responds so much Not even to say it in a “you have to be perfect” way but it was like somewhere along the way I lost the art of talking to women and hint hint: that made a night and day level difference
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 11:50 PM
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Agreed If you’re not just trying to fuck anythin’ in sight, it becomes immense evident it just…won’t work out with most women The only way to keep in the game is to see it that way, so I’ve learned. After all it’s still just a person whose energy you can enjoy taking in and being around
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 10:08 AM
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Yep, seems about right
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 09:36 AM
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Duh
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 02:16 AM
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Nah that was still pleasant I mean, it seems she likes me so I don’t think that’s a bad result
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 02:12 AM
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Oh yeah no I get you if that’s what you mean, when that happens the date becomes a faded memory pretty quickly
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 02:05 AM
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What’s your definition of results here? Because I mean it’d be different if we went on a date and there was now a complete downturn But uh…as far as I concerned things are smoother than that (I mean for now…who knows) can’t be 80 As far as I’m concerned I’m stating I enjoyed a date I had not even a week ago, big dawg
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 02:02 AM
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The food was far from what I’d call “good” food (I mean…it was okay. It got the job done) The date itself was though, was one of my personal bests
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 01:57 AM
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I enjoyed that regardless I didn’t push for any particular outcome anyhow and the results definitely weren’t bad ones
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 01:56 AM
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I say I went on an impromptu-ish date earlier this week and despite its brevity and the fact that it was nothing particularly noteworthy we did, it probably was my best date I’ve been on. We literally were just getting some food together but it was just pretty much immaculate. Things are in an interesting spot with the girl right now just due to a lot of circumstances going on but otherwise not going bad. The girl is literally just like me but ginger and a woman instead
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 01:49 AM
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I agree It took having casual hookups for me to realize they’re empty and don’t actually do much for me, for one instance
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 06:20 PM
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I’m at an outdoor Ninja competition for the weekend and the culture of this comp (and for logistical reasons) equals wearing a lot less clothes Needless to say, I didn’t wear a shirt all day today and I don’t know if I’m bugging but I think people notice; the work on my physique has obviously helped I must say
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 01:30 AM
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Pretty much Finding someone I could just hookup with isn’t that hard, really. Finding someone I’d date (and then not fumbling) is a different case
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 09:15 AM
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Oh yeah For what it’s worth I’m not devoid of female attention by any stretch and have had uncommitted encounters for sure Don’t know if that changes your answer. I’m 22 at this moment though I’m somewhat joking If I were this age and never even had the opportunity? Yeah then I’d be genuinely worried
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 02:02 AM
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What ya mean by “in my position”?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 01:54 AM
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Essentially yes If I were looser then it wouldn’t be nearly the same for me
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 01:54 AM
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I learned apparently some of my friend group is jokingly placing bets on what age I actually get a girlfriend I think I’m cooked and slightly wanna die Speaking of, it’s such a strange thing being in this position. Explain you’ve never had a GF and you seem like a cel-adjacent, even though you don’t really feel like clarifying the full truth (which is a doozy)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 01:11 AM
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I must ask Would you guys say you’ve always had a pretty solid perception of your own looks and how attractive you’re considered? Or did you have to sort of “discover” it upon realizing Bonus and related question- I wonder how many people here are people who’ve had big glow-ups (or downs)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 11:06 PM
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Here’s my typical “ladies how you feelin” question for the day but Question for the girlies: how y’all feelin’ bout a guy who’s a generally upbeat, positive person? Think smiles a lot of the time, has a “happy” upbeat music taste, is easily driven to laughter, gets over negative emotions quickly, is confident and optimistic (Not that creepy fake upbeat. Not trying to force toxic positivity; he still can be visibly upset, sad, etc. but his baseline is definitely more “happy” than “neutral”. If yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 12:26 PM
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No need to ick; I think you’ll find I’m quite the respectful fellow hence the “plz” You can call me Spread…or anytime
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 10:16 AM
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All I can say is- hope you're into nice sport athletic dudes with inordinate levels of energy
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 03:08 PM
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The kid isn’t even two yet but can pretty much understand and talk quite well; for being that young he’s really good at saying what he’s gotta say Ain’t that precious (It helps that the little guy absolutely loves me which ramps up the cuteness of it all)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 04:44 PM
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One of my coworkers has a bunch of children. I’ve gotta say playing around with her infant son before work started gave me a special kind of serotonin boost for the day. As a single man it’s like hard to describe without sounding weird that you love kiddos, but alas I do Random and entirely unrelated note: I never realized before how often I get checked out or looked at but I’m just genuinely so oblivious (and the whole time I thought I was too perceptive to miss stuff like that)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 04:30 PM
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The thing’s fun to talk to but damn that’s a crazy decision to be leaving to ChatGPT
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 12:07 PM
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Go to the gym and fry your CNS so hard you end up taking a fat nap afterward and forget what was even bothering you
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 11:44 AM
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Yo yo yo I mean uh…salutations there
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 11:24 AM
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My experience shows this is true.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 11:22 AM
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Always dudes with no skin in the game saying the absolute most and I don’t know why this is the case I used to be the same way and even I don’t know why What’s the absolute shameful part is my takes that come from a more nuanced place (and less defeatist/less “woman bad”) are less positively received than my older takes that aligned with a much more “it’s over” mindset
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/25 08:11 PM
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I swear I have a new random song obsession every few weeks and it’s always some oldie That being said, don’t know why Mr. Blue Sky has been being BUMPED by me recently. (Also that coda at the end is fuckin’ incredible)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 09:31 PM
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Oh actual hell no
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 09:27 PM
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Oh yes I’ve seen housing prices Shoot, one of the main reasons I ask this question is because my family and I think multigenerational land is gonna end up being a way better investment than everyone parting ways
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 10:38 PM
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Fair enough For my family this is what we’re trying to build up to here. So it’s got me thinking about questions in this sort of vein
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/25 02:10 AM
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Assume absolutely nothing of that sort He’s more or less treated like he lives alone
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 10:44 PM
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That’s fair Enough to run you off immediately?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 05:43 PM
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Q4W: How would you feel about a guy you met who technically lives at home but he’s in a basement suite which is functionally like it’s own autonomous mini-apartment? (Separate entrance, kitchenette, bathrooms, etc.) Assume his name is on the property so he also is a share in being an owner of the home
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 04:40 PM
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It’s interesting that I’ve met girls who ended up wanting to screw me but I’m sure had i slid into their DMs or met them on an app there’s no way they would’ve liked me
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 04:38 PM
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Being in that situation where you’re about certain it would be a great connection and everything likes up perfectly, except the timing isn’t right for either of you, is a canon event and a pain unlike any other
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/25 02:14 PM
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No. I’m actually quite the workaholic (when it’s a job I actually give a shit about)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 05:56 PM
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I think the same too sometime It’s quite saddening how much attention I could get by posing and acting like a wannabe thug Like not in some “I’m mad because the girls pic those thugs over me” way, but moreso it’s just crazy how well it would work for me But that far and away goes against everything I stand for; I’m good Did you also experience something where you also didn’t want the kind of attention that those girls attracted too? (Because I’m the same way in that i wouldn’t want attention fro…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 03:00 PM
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Okay, glad to know I’m not just crazy (I mean…I guess I am still but that’s aside from the point)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 04:22 PM
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You ever looked one way, that kind of fits a certain stereotype or archetype, but you didn’t or couldn’t lean into it because you didn’t wanna? -Shortened version
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 04:21 PM
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Anyone else in a spot where they are kind of in a spot where they could very easily lean into a certain archetype but they absolutely refuse to do so because they don’t like that archetype, or what it represents, or who it attracts? Because I know I am. I can’t complain too hard but I know it affects my dating life in more ways than one (to be honest I don’t know exactly how though) Whether it be music taste, clothing style, choice of diction, etc. it almost all feels atypical in a way
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 02:21 PM
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How much can I? I’m truly not sure my 1rm Some days my shoulders decide 50lbs for 8 is too hard but other days I can swing 60lbs for like 6 or something (that’s standing though; seated i have no idea) I definitely have a lot of work to do on pressing movements; they lag far behind my pull power
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 02:10 PM
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Truth Did you also feel the type of attention you received was different? Like maybe more subtle but definitely more respect and more genuine sexuality behind the attraction?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 01:35 PM
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Truth I used to be a lot more baby-faced even relative to my age but now it’s like I’ve almost “caught up” in essence I can definitely say the type of attention I get is now a bit different than it used to be
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 12:47 PM
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Q4A: Do you guys think the skinny twink-ish but relatively less masculine pretty boy look is overrated in appeal? Or are people accurate about how attractive it is? Or maybe is it even MORE overpowered than people think? Another bonus question: do you think there’s any male look style/archetype that’s widely overestimated in appeal? (As in people in these spaces assume it works better than it does in real life) Go based on your own observations
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 11:46 AM
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Thought as much
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 05:07 PM
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Yeah I think you’re right about that there Definitely agree on the fact of the matter that if you’re already cooked then that’s that
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 04:25 PM
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Questions for you guys, how much do you guys reckon picture quality and type of picture impact a guy’s dating profile success? (Assume this is a regular ol dude or someone who’s decently enough good looking, not someone who never had a chance in hell)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 03:21 PM
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That makes sense “Go with the nice girl you still do have attraction for” definitely beats trying the baddies constantly Part of me kinda wishes I was in the spot to date “normal” women without the fit thing, but I’m way past being able to do that now Oh well! What can ya do, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 10:53 PM
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All depends to me I definitely joke about Stacy-chasing but don’t believe it actually makes sense in the long run In my case the issue is both about looks and lifestyle compatibility, but also girls with that kind of lifestyle are probably just in a much more competitive niche (I mean the fit girls? Especially with the uh…phenotype I tend to be into? That’s probably one of the most competitive niches you could play in!) But honestly? If this issue wasn’t present then yeah forget waiting for some…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 09:41 PM
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Exactly I mean even from the women I want I can get attention so even that’s not a super crazy thing (there seems to be something missing otherwise) But if I had no standards then generally I’d be some girl out there’s best option When you play in some niches things are just a different fight altogether
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 12:08 PM
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Exactly It explains a weird paradox I go through because I don’t consider myself being super successful at dating for this exact reason But then I also can’t relate to the struggles of the uggos and autists or -cel adjacents either And so I think what I said above is pretty much why
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 11:14 AM
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Being able to get a woman so as compared to the type of woman you view as high quality (whatever that means to you) are two different skill sets Okay I’m exaggerating, but I think the distinction ought to be made. There’s overlap but pulling a woman is much more ridiculously easy than the latter Or at least it’s a bit different for me. Maybe I just play in too competitive of a niche
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 01:54 AM
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Why is it when I see people discussing dating. As in ways certain things should be done, even strategies, etc. why do self-proclaimed (or hell sometimes they just actually are) ugly dudes always feel the need to show up and say “But that won’t work if you’re ugly bro!” “But follow rules 1 and 2” etc. at least in spaces of this kind where this stuff is discussed Like dude, maybe no one was talking to you about about game plans if it’s not even a game you can play in Actually? I could roast the -c…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 01:48 AM
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I’ve essentially become part of a second family by working where I do I frickin’ love my life sometimes
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 05:47 PM
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Oh yeah I feel ya! Never really known exactly how girlies feel about long arms exactly because it's something I've hardly ever wondered about Frankly I'm kinda impressed by the fact that I have any arm size or definition at *all* (not as big as I want to be yet) with those freakish long tentacles
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 03:23 PM
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I think you’re so so right about this. Not falling in is kind of a limiter Doesn’t automatically mean you’re cooked so long as you’ve still got good attributes but I could definitely see myself having higher volume if I uh..had different tastes and ways of speaking than I do
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 11:58 AM
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No but I do have the weirdest advantage at that sport Because the long arms and pull power give me an advantage up to a certain point but then after a certain point that isn’t as helpful and has a pretty hard cap. I do in fact do Ninja though which has a lot of transfer with rock climbing (matter of fact, regionals is this weekend!)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 08:05 AM
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Man one thing I’ll lament being short-ish is that I don’t get that buff of looking incredibly jacked easier I’m 5’8 but with a 6’3 wingspan. Takes away one of the only advantages to not being tall Long arms are huge good advantage in ninja, in MMA, and in a lot of “pull” movements in the gym Aesthetics wise I curse these ape arms
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 01:13 AM
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So yesterday I just had a shocking realization that never occurred to me but I realized I’ve been essentially starving myself/undereating for the last couple weeks to a months and it’s been killing me It’s a miracle I didn’t lose any muscle or anything but I for sure was experiencing the other symptoms of being undernourished I need so many more calories than I thought and it’s so easy to overlook the fact that you may need more food especially if you’re already lean and muscular
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 10:34 PM
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I’d argue I compete in that bottom of the “Average to attractive” SMP Things can feel tough sometimes (well to be fair this is also because of how specific my standards are) but I refuse to quit. Rather would go without for a while than settle with someone who I didn’t really want I’m not some Chad who’ll get like 30 matches in a day or something (to be fair I could probably get more matches with some pic tweaks but that’s not here yet, and still not that crazy of a number) but I’m certainly con…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 03:55 PM
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Agree hands down with this here Like I’m sorry but even if you’re conventionally attractive there are ways you really just ought not to behave if you want any sort of fighting chance People seem to act like behavior doesn’t matter because it doesn’t necessarily apply to ugly dudes as much (which is a strange line of logic but is commonly seen here) But oh it does matter. I’m not “Chad” or whatever but can say as a conventionally attractive person that yes, you just focus on more than just being …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 02:02 PM
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Glad to see this energy over it Not that I’ve thought of doing something like this on a date but I can say this question came to my mind while I was climbing a tree earlier…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 11:51 PM
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This is where I start making bets I can get to the top in fewer moves than she could
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 11:00 PM
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Question for my folks here: you’re on a date at a park, either you’re on a walk or going to have a picnic or something like that Your date eventually spots a tree, goes over to it and begins climbing it (in a semi-playful manner but also trying their best) What’s your reaction about that? How you feelin? How icked out are you? (Assume you’ve been on a couple dates so far and you guys somewhat like each other by this point)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 10:32 PM
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I don’t even want to think about how far I’ve fallen and how hard I’d have to be selling for that to happen to me
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/25 09:28 PM
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I WILL GET ON MY KNEES AND BEG- (I think I was arrested before I could fully finish that thought)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 02:44 PM
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TIL I’d be considered as “having a history of violence” (Not knocking you or anything, just sort of chuckling about that in a tongue-in-cheek way)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 02:28 PM
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Me reading this like “nice lis- HEY WAIT A MINU-“
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 02:05 PM
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not someone I can take home… Excellent point made. To me the criteria goes “Would I feel comfortable leaving this girlie here alone with my parents or grandparents, or am I afraid she’s going to fuck it up?”
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 02:02 PM
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The UPenn thing sounds extra personal and I love it
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 01:58 PM
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Hey that’s a good little list right there, I probably should edit my comment to include the full range Idk, I’m someone who believes behavioral standards are generally a good for the dating world and people need to have more of them and stand on them harder
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 01:58 PM
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Q4A: What traits could you see in a man/woman that would automatically make you refuse to even get to know him? (Assume the man/woman is otherwise attractive enough to meet your physical baselines) For instance I was thinking about how ghetto chicks for me meet this criteria; the moment I think you’re hood/ghetto I’m out without fair trial. What about y’all?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 01:06 PM
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Astute observation, I find and concur with, my friend
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 02:32 AM
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Yeah I view it as part of my nature, like waking up early, or preferring spicy food, or liking big bu- You get the picture My original comment says nothing about moral failings of unfit people, though
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 02:25 AM
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Pretty much what I’m saying I mean I’m also a pretty different case that my life sort of revolves around my sports/physical hobbies so essentially that locks me out of seriously dating anyone who couldn’t even make it a slight importance in their life
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 02:00 AM
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“Muscles aren’t important to women” but yes they are if the only women you’ll even date are fit women themselves Don’t care about outliers or the “but I’m different” examples either, it’s just much more likely and that’s that
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 01:48 AM
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Thanks, my brain truly just didn’t want to remember the word I had for it cu I’m dumdum
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 07:11 PM
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I’ve now coined the term “Tyronic” (Idk what the Chad form of this word would be) Anyhoo, I’m feeling quite Tyronic today and I don’t know why but it’s always a pleasant feeling See, it’s just so versatile when you’re in a niche enough space like this where someone could piece together what it means
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 04:49 PM
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Random recent song obsession: but good hot Jesus fuck Human Nature is such an addictive song for me recently I mean i know who doesn’t like some Michael J, but this song especially is slapping extra hard to me
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 02:45 AM
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I think I’ll probably end up capping out round there maybe a bit more one day but I can’t imagine much more
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 02:28 PM
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I actually think about learning welding It’s cool and will also be doable alongside my coaching job as far as I’m aware
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 01:13 PM
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I’m considering learning it and because of the sport I coach it actually has a direct transfer to that job (which I know barely makes sense)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 12:59 PM
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It’s over Not over in that way, just over in that I realized that I’ll never be that type of guy who works at some firm or office wracking in six figures and such Chances are I’ll just never be a high earner, like those software engineers and cybersecurity guys, accountants and shit I’m conflicted on how to feel about this but I as a person am just so wholly incompatible with office life that I couldn’t sustain it. Part of me is like “you know what? I Can live with that cuz it’s who I am” and th…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 12:23 PM
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That dude from the Bee Movie He wasn’t even a villain, just pretty much the only person in the situation to realize how weird it was
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 02:01 AM
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Assume he’ll usually be like “yeah sure I’m down”
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 12:59 AM
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are just dumb Probably so
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 08:40 PM
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I mean you could say his gym routine is dialed in, and the guy has mostly physical hobbies But his diet is more of a general “get the protein and such” but nothing much more than that and not in complete sacrifice of that good stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 08:39 PM
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Question for my girlies here: Could you date someone where fitness is basically his entire life, pretty much? But his diet isn’t like some strict bodybuilder shit and the guy has physical hobbies outside of just lift heavy thing
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 07:28 PM
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You know as much as being sick sucks, there’s something absolutely euphoric and empowering about coming out of it and returning to your former glory Don’t know why, it just feels like such a sudden surge of power you’d see in cartoons or some shit (Even though it’s not, I’m still undernourished and ought to take it easy)?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/25 04:36 PM
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This is how I view it Whining about this sort of thing would be the equivalent of some loser kid randomly going up to the popular kids’ table and saying “you all are so stuck up and think you’re so cool!” Because he’s mad that he doesn’t get to hang out with them In the end he doesn’t get anything out of it. What’s the benefit of that “I sure told them!” feeling if fundamentally he’s the same loser that night and the following morning?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 08:24 PM
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What’s funny is I used to think my standards were this low I can’t tell if I realized they weren’t or if I subconsciously chose to increase them
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 04:00 PM
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I could blush if you were implying I’m Chad Jokes aside, agree. Not to be self-glazing or anything, but I’d definitely get a lot more action and probably have actually had a relationship by now if my standards were just “is a woman who isn’t hideous” It’s at the point where I must think beyond that or else it’s a setup for misery
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 03:52 PM
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Just thought about how the reason I’ve never really felt any real type of way about women having supposedly high standards is because the more I think of it, the more I’d consider my standards fairly high, too Not ridiculous high and I don’t think “shooting out of my league” high, but still statistically probably not that common
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/25 02:20 PM
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Why thank you! It’s crazy being a categorical world champion but also having impostor syndrome about it
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 03:37 PM
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Only sometimes
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 01:33 PM
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Actually, great idea
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 01:31 PM
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You brought up women’s opinions, not me They like mine, anyhow
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 01:29 PM
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Only because I’ve earned it pretty well tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 12:40 PM
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You know I’ve had that realization that I nitpick on my physique all the time, but with my shirt off and in the right lighting, I have quite a good resemblance to the physiques that are touted as being ideal athlete physiques Yessss
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/25 12:35 PM
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Is it strange to end up in a situation where you know you’re definitely better looking and definitely get more looks and attention now than you used to, but somehow get less action due to some factor or another?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 01:38 AM
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Although gettin’ them girls for me recently has been a bit different for some reason, it’s overall been enough of a net positive
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 04:25 PM
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Makes sense It sounds like general over-grooming and over focusing on that kind of thing leads to the fuckboy kind of appearance
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 02:32 PM
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Question for my ladies here: what styles of clothing and general ways of dressing would make you assume that the guy is a fuckboy? (Or even a wannabe fuckboy) On a sorta related note, I don’t understand wearing baggy clothing on the upper body as a dude. Maybe this is just my “not wanting to feel small” showing, idk, but I can’t live without my almost too tight shirts
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 02:25 PM
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Ey, long time no see, how’s it hangin’?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 11:46 AM
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Getting a plus one for this wedding is gonna be uh….interesting
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 02:57 AM
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Welp, I sold yet again Sometimes it does get hard to maintain the notion that I am somewhat attractive but I pretty much have no other choice but to do so(after all what good alternative is there?) On that note getting a plus one for this wedding is gonna be uh….interesting
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 02:53 AM
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Actually, yes, especially if your bosses normally wouldn’t take notice of such matters
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 02:41 AM
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You don’t have to look grizzled and masculine for women to like you Yeah I mean I figure, since its not like I’m some KHV or something But it’s for sure an interesting position to be in, I personally think I get the best of both worlds (albeit I’m still not big enough as I’d like)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 03:02 PM
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Truth I find it funny because I feel like a walking juxtaposition in the funniest way. Having somewhat of a more “pretty-boy” look in the face but also being muscular with thick forearms and rough jagged hands It’s a fun feeling to be a walking contradiction though
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 12:47 PM
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I kind of have this thought I haven’t always had calluses so I’ll have to start uh….changing up how certain things are done if I don’t want to completely ruin the vibe
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 12:39 PM
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Question for the girlies here: How you feelin’ ‘bout a man with calloused hands?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 12:32 PM
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Oh yeah I stretch (not as much I should), shadowbox, practice my sprawls, etc. whenever I do occasionally spar it doesn’t seem like I’ve lost too much skill thankfully Weirdly enough when doing my main sport and MMA at the same time, it seemed like it made me damn near unstoppable (I think the gripping involved has made my hands heavier and made me harder to deal with in grappling situations)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 12:31 PM
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Yes I don’t train currently as much due to time constraint but I did/do MMA though now it’s taken a backseat to my second sport since it’s sorta part of my job now Boy do I miss training and sparring frequently though
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/25 12:22 PM
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Agree on this too
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 09:19 AM
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Does anybody else feel fucking hungover if they stay up too late? Or am I just an old man’s soul in a young man’s body? (I’m only 22) And for me that limit can be like anytime past 12:30 AM ish basically seems to ruin my ability to produce dopamine effectively for most of the following day
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/25 02:19 AM
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Side note related to what I said earlier: I was doing so much flirting at world championships and I can say after a while of being not as uh…active with it (oh yeah and lots of selling) I can say i can like…feel my game returning to me if that makes sense?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 01:58 AM
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Yes. Like American ninja warrior Strange niche sport
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/25 12:02 AM
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I got 4th overall in the world championships For my division of Ninja Got one third place on an event and two first places Was actually quite close to getting 2nd overall (could’ve even gotten first tbh) but I’m still overall happy with how I did
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/25 11:56 PM
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Ey thanks man, now here’s to hoping I don’t sell the whole thing
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 04:32 PM
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Thx
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 04:11 PM
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Just flew out for the world championships of one of the divisions I compete in (in Ninja Warrior) If you’d asked my younger self where he saw himself in ten years, it definitely wouldn’t have been traveling to compete for title of a world champion athlete. Oh well, Let’s get this on and popping, baby!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 03:31 PM
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I reckon it does have to do with charm and personality somewhat but I agree otherwise
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 03:01 PM
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For sure, like don’t get me wrong I make sure I’m not insufferable to be around but beyond that I make no attempts to hide my brain spiciness I’ve been recently wondering just how often this has shot me in the foot, and simultaneously just how much does the prettyboy-ness save me from it
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 12:17 PM
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I figured there are probably more of me in this place It probably has impacts on my dating life in ways I’ve not considered at all and have yet to even begin to grasp
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 12:00 PM
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Interesting I get results on the app but I’m not usually satisfied with them but yet I wonder how much this plays into it (I’m 5’8 but probably conventionally attractive)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 11:15 AM
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I imagine It’s gonna act as more of a repellant/disqualifier in the eyes of women who are more commitment minded thinking “Oh he just wants some easy sex and nothing more.” (And I wouldn’t blame them)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 10:11 AM
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You’re making me hungry and I already had my snack/dinner, dammit! (I won’t give in though)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 02:19 AM
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I realized just how few of my dates/links with girls have been the conventional type of date that would come to mind More “let’s just link up and chill” scenarios than actual dates I’ve been on and actual dates feel foreign enough so as to say the idea of real dates still makes me a bit nervous That doesn’t bode well for a guy who’s decided he probably wants an actual girlfriend and not…well yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 01:50 AM
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In this context it’s “wrong” in that it’s framed like advice but really is some shade of “that’s what you get for not fucking me.” Out of this context I’m just thinking damn, that’s crazy and slightly pathetic but nothing else really
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 01:51 PM
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Exactly You can just tell when you dig around the argument long enough It sometimes can be formed/framed out of genuine concern or genuine belief that women don’t pick right But with the type of guy this is often coming from, it’s often a roundabout way of saying she was wrong for not popping that pussy on him
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 01:48 PM
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Choose better is guys literally saying, or rather, implying in a roundabout way “choose me”
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 01:34 PM
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I sort of wonder if there’s a psychological difference of sorts between women who prefer bigger/more filled out type of muscular guys vs the ones who prefer leaner or even borderline wiry guys after you control for age Same for guys who prefer small but shapely as opposed to the bigger, yet thick curvy type of woman
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 11:54 PM
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It is a spectrum, after all
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 11:49 PM
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I stand by the statement that the hottest big booty white girl you’ll ever meet is a Texas Roadhouse server
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 02:55 PM
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You know I was talking to my homie yesterday and we’re talking about a girl (recent failed talking stage of mine) and how there’s some new guy she went on a date with and how he’s this certain type of guy. While we were saying he and I are definitely different types of guys, my homie says “yeah you’re the type she’d want in the future.” To which I promptly agree You know what’s crazy though? In the past I would’ve mentally crashed out over this but nowadays I’m like you know what? That’s actuall…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 01:05 PM
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Oh yeah I know there is I suppose a better way to word it is people, especially in spaces like this, should really get better at detecting said nuances with it
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 04:19 PM
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There needs to be some level of nuance between “You need to have female friends in order to have success” and “oh making female friends is a bad strategy so it’s not important at all” Neither are entirely true nor entirely false. It’s interesting because sure making friends just to smash is a bad idea, and a lot of guys do end up in that friendzone (I’m using the term for ease, I’m not here for a semantical argument about the term or who “puts” someone in the friendzone) I can also say, friend o…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 04:14 PM
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Exactly “You don’t get out much, do you?” is something most complainer types would definitely say “no” to Even I myself realize I probably got more action when I was more degenerate compared to my lifestyle now, even though I’m hotter now than I ever have been (albeit I do get more matches than I used to whenever I’m on apps) But minus that distraction, seeing it with your own eyes is what changes things
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 03:58 PM
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Banana pudding slaps every time when it’s made right Also, talk to the girls like normal but just be a little more sly and teasing. Rarely about what you say, usually about how you say it (within reason).
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 03:51 PM
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Your first paragraph directly alludes to what I was saying in parenthesis, thus we agree more or less I think the real problem is conflation of terms I see both advocates and detractors mistakenly use “body positivity” to mean fat acceptance (shit, half the time I’m so used to them being used one in the same that I just go with that colloquial definition)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 03:47 PM
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Agree with that full stop. It’s why I always raise the eyebrow when I see posts or comments from men that want a dating life but then mention a lack of any social circle in general. Like sure you could score a girlfriend without friends, but having them is how you ensure your mental health doesn’t completely collapse in on itself when she ghosts you one day or cheats on you. Or even if it goes well, it ensures you don’t have just one outlet of socialization
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 03:38 PM
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I agree with this take right here I mean make no mistake, I think to myself that I would want a girlfriend But it’s much more tolerable to be without, when I have people I consider brothers, than when I don’t. Even if we just chill and chat nonsense together, that’s far better if the alternative is constant solitude My current circle is one of my lifelines in terms of mental health for sure
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 03:28 PM
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I am against it because it seems to spit in the face of the things I believe in Those things being accountability in oneself and my belief that you owe it to yourself to maintain physical standards up to a certain point It doesn’t “give an excuse to be fat” but damn sure does let people hide lack of self control behind something else I’m just on an ideological soapbox here though if you want to have lights on hot hot sex The women most guys would want that kind of sex with, wouldn’t be the kind …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 03:20 PM
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unattractive dudes making things about themselves Hoo boy, preach! This phenomenon on this sub is common and annoying. When I see advice given, people talking about their experiences, etc. I see some variation of this shit. Not trying to shit on this kind of guy but a lot of em have a tendency to insert themselves into conversations they really just don’t have an actual seat in
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 10:32 AM
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I have a slight feeling of being the same way It probably explains how I fumble the bag so often That being said I don’t know if it’s more of a turn off or more of a “okay, something’s up here” feeling I mean not trying to play that pickme “oh shucks really, a guy like me?” Card, but her falling for me that fast would still just be a bit odd
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 10:29 AM
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This was some real shit here It’s why I can’t take the whole “women all band together like some hive mind and always have each others backs” narrative seriously It’s a sign someone probably doesn’t get around much women to me; hearing how these girls covertly shit on each other makes one go like “Yknow what? Maybes settling conflicts with fists is the lesser evil.”
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 01:54 AM
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Me, I guess My guess is it’s an energy or vibe thing as opposed to literal look
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 03:24 PM
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I hate to double dip (and so soon too) but it gets annoying as fuck when dudes are given advice but then repeat it as though the advice was framed like an easy fix No, the advice you’re being given is simple, doesn’t mean it’s easy. Different things entirely. Furthermore it’s not supposed to be an easy fix, but it’s supposed to put you in a better spot than being on the internet wondering why your dick isn’t wet
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 03:23 PM
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This happened a couple years ago but flashback to when someone told me I look like the black version of Sasuke from Naruto That’s one I’ve not heard very often but that’s probably one of my favorite compliments I’ve received
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 03:19 PM
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Yeah this is what I was thinking
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 02:20 PM
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I’ll play it loose and say committed being anything where the two were considered exclusive for any sustained period of time Like presume the subject of the question hasn’t ever been exclusive even a little bit
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 01:40 PM
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Would you say it’s the norm for all those bodies to accumulate without a single committed relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 01:31 PM
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Uhhh good question For arguments sake say mostly ONS and a couple short lived FWBs
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 08:16 PM
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Would you say it’s normal for all those to be outside a relationship entirely?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 08:14 PM
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Q4W: How would you feel if you were talking to/dating a guy who eventually tells you he’s relatively low n (somewhere in that 3-6 range) but hasn’t ever been in a committed relationship? (Assume the man is about your age) Actually, I suppose my dudes here can answer too though I think I have a pretty good idea of the consensus
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 08:04 PM
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Real shit there I can say A lot of dudes could use that mindset
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 08:02 PM
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being neurodivergent can be leveraged for “freak cred” This might explain why goth girls are so into me Niche wise I look like…not that niche’s type, but maybe they can sniff out the fact that I’m not quite right in the head
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 11:00 AM
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Same I’m not even gonna lie
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 09:38 AM
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“Yeah, pretty round” is crazy, bruh
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 09:32 AM
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That’s the way to look at it! (My next goal needs to be to stop fumbling the girls with pretty faces and big booties lmao)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 02:11 PM
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While I’m not a you-know-what, I can say sometimes it feels unfair when you see a big booty and pretty smile but she’s taken Cruel cruel world we live in
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 12:27 PM
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I was thinking about this the other day and realizing a lot of stuff related and in that sphere of “maxxing” gets to the point of being downright feminine. What’s crazy is that whole time they’ll still be a bitch at heart even though they think going to the gym alone makes them a hardass I’m definitely guilty of being vain and checking out my own physique more often than I should I’ll say, but at least I also enjoy functionally using those muscles all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/25 12:25 PM
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It’s like she’s almost my type but just isn’t really. That being said this is the type of woman where I’d meet her and know there’s a higher than normal chance she’s probably into me
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 12:43 PM
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Aight bruh
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 01:32 AM
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This question’s not about me by the way Do you think it ever happens to a guy who might not be the best looking but can pull girls hotter than he because he’s got c, y, or z about him? If so, could the reverse? Because I don’t see why not But this is all speculation and whatiffery
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 01:19 AM
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I think so too, but I asked the question because that’s not always the narrative on this sub Also it is possible other stuff can make it that he doesn’t ever hit at his level due to secondary factors and that’s what this question explores
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 01:14 AM
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He’s only getting women below his level Mostly because I don’t think there’s a such thing as a guy who could only pull hot women but not normal-looking ones
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 09:17 PM
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Question for y’all: how common do you believe is the phenomenon of a man who can get women, but can’t get the ones either on his looks level or perceives to be on that level? Bonus: what’s the reasoning behind your answer?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 05:28 PM
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Feels weird as shit to be in a sustained caloric deficit for the first time in quite a while Part of me wonders if I’m going entirely too low, but damn I really am feeling it I do like how rock-hard my abs have felt though and I feel like I’m already getting floatier, which is a great feeling in my sport
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 04:01 PM
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Thinking about just changing my flair to say Tyronelite (with adhd) at this point but don’t know if it’s just due to feeling myself or what
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 01:28 AM
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Are you secretly me in disguise? Perhaps I am. It depends. You get double points if it was completely different in the past (when I was first into girls I wouldn’t even look in the direction of a basic blonde type chick, then after that I really did have no phenotype preference for a while)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 10:36 AM
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By the time I was actually kinda getting interested? Uhhh I was about 160-170 or so, skinnyfat with thin arms and nothing crazy muscle tone wise. I’ve always had sort of broad shoulders though Granted this is not 100% controlled because my face has matured a bit since then and I also have more facial hair I’m not out here going entirely nutty or anything but before, being genuinely looked at by the women who are actually fit and somewhat more attractive just was not a thing that happened to me
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 12:52 AM
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Changed mine I’ll tell you that much (and I’m not even big)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 09:54 PM
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I mean hey it’s all good with some self-awareness
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 09:54 PM
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I mean epidemic in a more relative sense As in there will be a good handful of dudes who try “gymmaxxing” (gay term but whatever) and realize it doesn’t work if they’re still social losers with no game Won’t be mainstream overall though I agree that much Ya feel me?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 09:43 PM
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I’m a huge advocate for going to the gym and finding physical hobbies, everyone knows this, but that shouldn’t be forgotten But for Christ’s sake I think we’re soon to have an epidemic of guys who lift weights and whatnot but still ain’t got no game at all or are straight up socially awkward weirdos In essence, people who wanted to become him but just ended up being a dork who lifts weights (which I think are more common than is believed, and probably growing)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 08:24 PM
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It looks to me like the disagreement/qualm seems to occur with the claim that it’s all the same 20% of men when women mention this argument Not agreeing or disagreeing but that’s what I see
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 01:29 AM
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I don’t think so but I wouldn’t completely shut that possibility out I seem to get headaches easily in general though, the blood sugar example was just the first that came to mind Luckily most of my headaches are just an annoyance and not debilitating
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 04:04 PM
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Being someone who can get a headache if my blood sugar is one nanoliter away from where it should be, I got so jealous reading that
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 03:59 PM
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I pick Becky easily. Busybodies can be annoying but I’m somewhat used to it from how childhood kinda was, and I can put my foot down if need be Besides, maybe her family is cool and fun aside from that issue of them being kinda nosy Option B is just miserable and that would quickly drive me into some form of depression
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 03:58 PM
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Ya feel me?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 01:28 PM
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That’s not a take/opinion, but rather a state of being
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 11:10 AM
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Question: What’s a take/dating opinion do you think a guy could have/say, that would easily betray the fact that he clearly is lacking in actual experience with women? (If you’re in the aforementioned category, do not answer)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 03:07 AM
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I was far from satisfied with my actual tangible results but apparently they were far and away better than the results that some people say “average dudes” get Having been able to match with and talk to girls, and being liked by girls who are your type is a brief ego boost but then the actual ensuing conversation going nowhere or the following situation falling though can being that boost right back down tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/25 12:14 AM
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Depression from the apps? Or from deleting them? That being said I probably do follow rules 1 and 2 fairly well to my own knowledge
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 11:48 PM
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Is it weird to delete my dating apps again for the billionth time, but the difference is this time I feel strangely way more confident than usual. Like an immediate 10x boost compared to last time Both in the sense of “Nah I can work my magic so well that I don’t even need the apps” and also in a general sense I just feel a bit more peaceful too Whereas last time it felt like I was just hiatus-ing without any real differences
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 11:27 PM
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Athletic-looking girls with the typical gymnast or volleyball player physique. I used to think I didn’t have a phenotype preference but people have called me out saying I definitely seem to have a preference for white blonde type looking girls Facial shape wise I don’t think I know that well because I’ve been up and down that perspective (I myself have a long ovular face shape interestingly enough) My type used to be different in the past (I liked em chubbier or even downright fat, as long as th…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 11:03 PM
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I’m sorry this is just wrong Confidence very much can be grown over time or completely and utterly destroyed, and it’s some serious bias towards determinism to say it’s not malleable
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 10:55 PM
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The kids I coach think the signature right-eyebrow raise (think The Rock) is absolutely hilarious
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 05:21 AM
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I have an overly animated face too which can be of comedic value sometimes but other times I wish it weren’t the case
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 05:02 AM
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Oh yeah I have no doubts I’ll be back to my full gripping glory in no time (pt worked very quickly last time) and it’s only been a slight regression from where I once was so I’m not too concerned
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 02:32 PM
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I feel the same about having generally small wrists. Sucks doubly so having a wrist impingement that I’m gonna have to go (back) to physical therapy for in a sport that involves mostly grip strength
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 02:26 PM
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Yes. Yes you did I don’t blame em; validation and attention just feels good for real
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 03:06 AM
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I do love some rock climbing; it’s reminiscent of my “main” sport in a way
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/25 02:26 AM
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Unless it involves fuckin’
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 11:52 PM
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I kinda wish these existed for adults or generally people who are 14+ or had better time slots for them (like sometimes bowling alleys and skating rinks have) I understand there’s probably not a huge market for that but it’d sure be nice Shoot, I kinda wish there were more adult recreation options that didn’t feel the need to be alcohol-themed and also cost an arm and a leg in general
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 11:46 PM
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Being someone who kinda needs to run as pet of his sport sometimes, this is my main reservation with wearing them other times Could fuck my heels up a bit more than I want to or just cause pain I’d rather not deal with
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 10:50 PM
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I’m 5’8 and enough to 5’9 that I could lie about it tbh The boots only added bout 3 or so inches or 3.5 thereabout
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 10:49 PM
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Ew
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 10:48 PM
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Based
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 10:48 PM
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Uhhh I can’t remember exactly but I think they were somewhere round like 180 or so Was nice to be in a state where I had so much money I could do fuck-all with (I mean I still sort of can but back then even moreso due to life circumstances)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 10:47 PM
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Worth it Mine were expensive as actual shit but man they’re just so cool. I love it when I have genuine excuses to wear them
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 09:01 PM
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Okay hear me out. I used to hate on dudes who wear shoe lifts or insoles stating that it’s stupid and is bitch-ass behavior But the other week I was wearing my boots and I was like “you know what? I kinda can understand why someone would wear shoe lifts” (said boots made me stand about 5’11 or 6’) Not even for the girls. Just the mere fact that the extra inches makes my arms look more proportionate to my body alone makes it worth it. Regardless of validation it just feels cool ya feel me?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 08:35 PM
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You know it’s very interesting when you’re trying to date but then you realize the past experiences you’ve had no longer are as relevant to you now or barely “count” if that makes sense Whether it be because you glowed up, glowed down, had a big life change, changed your standards, or even fundamentally changed as a person, etc. Sometimes I think that’s what it’s like in my case and I have to keep reminding myself of it. Am I just crazy or anyone else gone through something similar?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 02:04 AM
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Hookup material: Just need to be attracted to her or willing to smash. This often is a girl who actually does carry girlfriend qualities but there are one or a couple hugely glaring red flags/flaws that would make it not work. For some guys this also may represent a girl who they perceive as being below their own level but she made it easy for him Girlfriend material: A girl where the match is there both personality and looks-wise, and mutual attraction, but there’s incompatibilities in the medi…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 12:34 PM
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I more or less agree Like yeah there are guys who can effortlessly get the girls I want and yeah it’s not exactly how I wish things were But it just is what it is. At the end of the day focusing on that just ensures misery (Then again it might be easy for me to say because of still being relatively on the handsome-er side of average)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 08:19 PM
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I still stand by my argument that being good-looking doesn’t actually mean you have sex appeal Yes of course you have to pass a certain looks threshold to be sexually appealing, but I don’t often see it talked about here Honestly this’ll sound like a crazy think but I think a mid with good sex appeal who knows his audience, can get more action than a “Chad” who doesn’t have those things
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 01:25 PM
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When I was younger and still more or less a cel-adjacent, it was definitely encountering the occasional girl who did want to fuck me or would fuck me, that guided me into the light
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 05:21 PM
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Stuff like this is part of why I can say I’ve never asked if I can kiss a chick I think there are ways you can get her to kiss you or ask for permission in a way that doesn’t kill the mood but eh Other than that building to it seems more optimal anyhow
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 09:22 PM
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Never used meetup for anything but I kind of figured this was going to be the case It seems like anything that isn’t a preexisting social or semisocial space, or hobby group, will have this result because it would attract people who already aren’t having the greatest time socializing normally The type of crowd/demo it reached just wouldn’t be the cup of tea most people are intending to drink from, so to speak
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 09:16 PM
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Shit, good point!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 11:15 AM
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Nah I say you’re right I didn’t even think about it till quite recently where I was like Yeah, I could’ve definitely smashed had i focused on both making it logistically convenient and setting a mood for smashing to happen Matter of fact I’ve realized how haphazard my dates have been in general and it’s probably not the best way to approach things…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 02:49 AM
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How common do you think the following are for men across the looks spectrum? women looking/glancing at Getting likes and/or matches on dating apps gettin’ flirted with smashin’ How common do you estimate/guess each of these occurrences are for: average-looking men, slightly ugly men, decent-looking men, ugly men, and hot men respectively? I have a couple guesses of my own but want to gather the opinions of the masses (might make a female version)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 01:35 AM
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Reddit women seem to think sex is all about mutual masturbation only and PIV doesn’t exist I see it sometimes and it’s so laughable Like nah I’m sorry, most women I’ve seen do quite enjoy actual PIV and the idea of it. Tell them that the relationship won’t ever go past handy-land and you’d be metaphorically laughed out of that bedroom
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 01:02 AM
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In terms of actually attainable body shapes for women, this general type is one of my favorites I might have to howl
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 12:19 AM
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For better or for worse, it can in fact make a difference I’ve had moments where I saw a coworker or friend dressed a certain way and it sort of made me see them in a completely different light as if a switch was flipped in my mind, as weird as that sounds. I don’t know, it’s probably just me being a sucker for yoga pants, and certain types of shorts, and athletic clothing in general It hits a part of the monkey brain I can’t describe, ya feel me?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 08:25 PM
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I think it’s about both for me tbh Her mindset of fitness being unimportant would be turn off for an LTR for me Albeit yes that’s probably got a lot to do with Fitness being sexier and being more likely to maintain sexiness
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 07:09 PM
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I’m an active guy who can’t ever seem to stop moving. Tl;dr: very important. I will not date a woman who places zero emphasis on her physical health and figure. Both because it’s hot and it’s compatibility I go to the gym pretty regularly, I’m a competitive athlete, I coach that same sport, and also do combat sports (when I can) too because why not. I’d like to think I’m in noticeably good physical shape It’s among the highest priorities of things I look for in a girl. Matter of fact, it’s a dis…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 07:06 PM
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I straight up agree with you The way he says things be havin me about ready to box, but he’s usually not entirely wrong Even condescending advice from someone who’s had his way, beats the whining of bitchless men any day (also funny how the ratio of actual experience with women vs how much they act like they know)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 04:48 PM
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Yeah I just never got it Don’t get me wrong, I love having a hot waitress and all but this takes that concept and makes it…weirder than it needs to be Also I’ve heard the food is eh…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 04:42 PM
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I think you’re right Can’t make everyone happy, and this goes DOUBLE for having dating standards No matter what kind of standards you have, someone’s either clowning you for it, shaming you for it, or thinking that you don’t have any rights to have that standard Better off just holding em high even if it means being single for longer
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 04:39 PM
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I thought it was some bullshit too until I once got with a girl (actually, this was when I lost my virginity) That whole little friend group basically would have fucked me despite knowing that I had been with that girl I also have a similar work story where the guy let it be known that he had hoes and getting girls was his “thing” I’m fairly certain he fucked more than one of our coworkers
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 03:53 PM
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For me? Oh yeah most definitely Most of the stages go basically nowhere so it’s easy to brush off or think “eh it’s not a big deal” But when given a bit of thought the more I’m like “Nah, that says something is fundamentally wrong here” Right now I’m in a place where even I can’t explain just how so many times it’s managed to go so wrong (but not in an entirely one-sided way; I definitely have my share of the blame in these but I don’t know how much) Any girl I plan to take seriously won’t be he…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 07:05 PM
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I hate you
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 03:35 PM
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You know, sometimes I wonder how many more failed talking stages I’ve got in me
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 02:57 PM
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Full agree with everything you just said I say yeah it feels empty but I’d rather be doomed to be only good for casual sex for the rest of my life, than have incredibly minimal chances ever to get laid or any attention whatsoever
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 12:38 AM
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Old geezer lookin’ ahh (I’m just playin with you unc) You know what though? That reminds me that I remember a conversation I was in with some friends where they were sayin’ how only in recent times is it seen as somewhat normal to openly “have hoes” and to be somewhat judged as being not attractive enough if you can’t receive that And before then like you said it was considered more normal to just be sort of in a relationship here, another one there with some gaps in between I mean i imagine you…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 06:44 PM
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Nah, there’s definitely correlations there While these things don’t exist as autistically calculated numbers and data points, the vague idea is still there
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 06:18 PM
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Yeah no kidding In opposition what guys here often seem to think, I personally don’t feel it’s a flex I mean don’t get me wrong it’s cool to be not seen as a dickless dork (coming from someone who used to sort of be seen as one), but being someone who finds hooking up to be quite empty makes it moreso like “Shit, forget hooking up! If I don’t improve those secondary traits I might never find the quality of relationship I want.” (That and also there are uh…quality differences it seems so)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 06:16 PM
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I might have asked this before and just be tripping now but I’ll just ask the dumb question anyway You usually hear complaints of the opposite, but does anyone else have thoughts that they actually might have a higher SMV than RMV? (Even if neither of them is super high or anything) I’m thinking this is probably the case for me (Whether it be because of just lacking the RMV traits to begin with or having certain traits that just completely nullify the good RMV ones)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 06:04 PM
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I ought to watch that movie That being said I can’t see Jack Quaid anymore without thinking of Scream (2022)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 11:09 AM
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Glad you ask When you’re fed a bunch of information, with some of it being actually quite useful, but a lot of it being bullshit (on top of hearing so many contrasting viewpoints), well let’s just say… Your brain can internalize it in the weirdest ways if this occurs before you start gaining any real (dating) experiences to actually have as a solid base Can lead to you just sometimes feeling stuck not even knowing how to approach some situations or worse yet, you read situations wrong because yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 02:23 AM
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Ah yes Workin on that currently ya feel me?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 01:15 AM
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I’m trying to get back into that swing Trying to get it out of my head that it’ll have an undesirable result, when the alternative is being forgettable
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 01:13 AM
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Good point Part of me is trying to get it through my own head that yes there are general principles that will apply But because every person goes through their own experiences due to a variety of converging factors that are rarely the same, I have to remind myself “This happening to them does not mean it will happen to you!” And also having to remind myself that because I used to do xyz with a certain result, doesn’t mean the result will be the same now due to changes I and my environments have …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 01:12 AM
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You know between all this pill shit, and doing some reflecting on dating and all the discourse I’ve absorbed (both on purpose and by happenstances) I’ve realized I’m just hopelessly brainrotted. The constant battle between what to do and what not to do puts it in a state that I might genuinely be unsalvageable, in quite a hilarious turn of events Anyone else feel a bit pill brainrotted?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/25 12:36 AM
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A recent talking stage that went wrong makes me think about this Q4A: At what point do you consider someone a workaholic? (especially if said person was someone you were interested in or dating)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/25 12:38 PM
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It’s true; first worlders are privileged as all get out. I’d argue in my own case I’m even still more privileged than most first-worlders Even though I’m not a fan of the “starving children in Africa” method as a way to brush complaints and criticisms off, I think you can still see the lint
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 03:47 PM
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While I’m not the guy you were asking, if you’re in a position where “life is boring” is your worst problem? You’re actually doing pretty damn good relatively speaking This is coming from someone who goes mental if he’s bored; I still say it’s a pretty good problem to have
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 03:41 PM
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I think you’re overall valid I can see the equivalence I just wanted to be pedantic and point out how social awkwardness is a practical barrier that prevents you from even entering the game most of the time vs how being fat is like you can still play the game but it’s just on a much higher difficulty So many skills are just lost if you’re too socially anxious as a guy. Possibly can’t recognize flirting, flirt back, chain flirting into a real “thing”, or even be in situations where he’s talking t…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 02:43 AM
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It’s not about that but that made me laugh
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 03:14 PM
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I’ll let you take your guesses But let’s just say being in the situation of “going good, then suddenly not” can be quite tiring when it’s been a couple times too many
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 03:08 PM
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I’m being figurative I mean Idk, i tend to be having fun up until certain…things happen
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 03:03 PM
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I mean the only reason I’d be quitting would be being unable to take the pressure, which sounds like a bitch move to me, if you otherwise want whatever it is you’re looking for Unfortunately the libido and general feeling of “hey I think I want me a little ol boo thing” is kinda stronger right now so quitting just isn’t an option even if it would be more peaceful
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 02:36 PM
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I make it sound like I’m at a crossroads but realistically I know my brain won’t let me just stop unfortunately Mama ain’t raise no little bitch quitter, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 02:12 PM
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True Fucked up as it sounds, criminals are weirdly less scary when you know them or have a vague idea that it’s ol’ dude from round the block
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 01:04 PM
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Will DM explaining why so I’m not just airing laundry in the open here
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 01:03 PM
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Is it weird if part of me wants to like stop dating but both my ego and libido make it that I refuse to? Idk, might kill me in the long run or something but I suppose onward I press
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 12:34 PM
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Agreed The girls who live in those areas with an actual reason to be scared are the ones least afraid to act wild it seems
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 12:33 PM
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Yes and no There are some arbitrary measures people set not because of attraction, but because they “think” it’s how it should be. That’s arbitrary Outside of those, you’re attracted to what you’re attracted to Like for instance, I’m into fit girls, but if I started restricting based on exact weight or exact curve ratios, then that would be arbitrary and a new level of idiotic (because who can look and immediately know these things?) Or how a girl can be into tall dudes; that’s fine though most …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 11:23 AM
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I know I certainly do But I think overall yes
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 05:19 PM
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I don’t think you should That being said I don’t know if I did or didn’t expect you to be in fact quite pretty
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 05:14 PM
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It’s bad, pretty bad I’d say A lot of young people are stuck in this cognitively dissonant state where they take plenty of pictures of themselves and post themselves on social media which normally would indicate they find themselves attractive but in their minds actually struggling to find themselves as so on some days It’s interesting really. Social media and dating apps definitely haven’t helped matters in any good way
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 02:13 PM
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Kinda reminds me of when people here will mention that there are average looksmatched And then the response is some variation of “Erm…actually she isn’t attracted to him” Like dawg you don’t know how much pussy she is or isn’t throwing on him. (I mean i get it…not that I want to think about how often those Walmart couples are getting it on either) Hell she might want sex with him and he isn’t giving it to her (that actually happens way more often than people here think) It’s just not often a pro…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 04:20 PM
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Well I guess i disagree Yeah nah a stranger who knows jack shit about you is just infinitely more patronizing I can’t get on with that being possibly better even than a friend even if that friend is gassing you up
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 04:57 AM
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Even that feels better than platitudes from someone who doesn’t even know you, and in these contexts probably doesn’t know what you look like, simple as that
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 04:52 AM
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No, not really To what context are you presuming a bluepiller telling someone this, would actually mean anything?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 04:39 AM
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Someone you know and has to deal with you on a regular basis having that level of faith in you comes off much more meaningful and less like empty encouragement than someone on the internet That goes for any sentiment at all really
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 04:30 AM
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I was talking to my bro (as in best friend, not actual brother) and I remember I said “I dunno, I don’t think (girl’s name) is pull-able” And he says “She sure is; you can pull whatever you want.” Not gonna lie part of me wants to break down and mention how I mean I technically get results on the apps and whatnot but eh…my satisfaction levels highly vary with that so thus making his sentiment wrong But I just won’t admit I am or ever was on apps to him cuz it just wouldn’t feel very gangsta of m…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/25 04:13 AM
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If it’s overdone in early stages yes it’ll kill it If it’s overdone in general yes it could kill it Being sometimes silly shouldn’t otherwise be enough to kill attraction completely Childish generally will kill it faster and harder though
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 10:10 AM
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That’s crazy; never heard of that kind of school (sadly I can believe it exists)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 01:44 AM
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Q4A: Do you think you have or have you ever been told that you have a flirty personality?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 12:57 AM
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Oh yeah Reddit seems to have a bias of assuming people in general are more left-wing than they really are Hell, I think all my closest friends and my whole workplace (most of whom I’m friends with) are Trumpers too
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 12:55 AM
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I hate when people here -Anyone, men, women, redpill, bluepill, blackpilled, or whatever other descriptor fits them Acts like shallowness is something exclusive or done worse by one gender, or is exclusively done by “bad” people or is exclusively done by “people you don’t want a relationship with anyway” Wrong in every way, and the latter two sentiments are annoying because they’re clearly a way to help someone sleep at night Like nah G, it’s not that the team is being unfair for not picking you…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 12:37 AM
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It’s always seems weird but it makes sense “A friend of opposite sex” is actually how it starts quite a bit of the time ime
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/25 08:54 PM
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What if the real looks-pill isn’t “Women only want Chad” but “Only Chad gets actual quality relationships” Not saying I agree or disagree but just putting that out there, like what if though
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 10:02 PM
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Life has a funny way of biting you upside the ass I remember a couple years ago I posted in here theorizing like what if people who really want relationships genuinely are unsatisfied in other parts of their life and that’s why they focused on it so much. I was projecting my internal logic around why I didn’t want a relationship at the time onto people in general It can be true, but now I’m finding myself in the spot of having a social circle I love, a job I wouldn’t trade for the world, etc. bu…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 02:30 AM
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Oh yeah, my job is semi-physical being a coach and all, and of course while I’m at work I train That being said flexibility (and lower abs) are a quite notable weak spot for me, in spite of being quite fast and strong, as my contemporaries point out
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 01:31 PM
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Man, it be feelin so weird to know you’re good-looking enough to catch eyes and get attention from girls (especially if it wasn’t always like that for you) but then still the conversion rate just isn’t satisfactory
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 12:47 PM
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I be thinking about doing yoga simply because it’ll probably increase my longevity as an athlete overall
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 12:45 PM
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Being out here playing the game be having me feeling some type of way sometimes for real. I don’t have it as bad as some dudes say they do but like damn. But at the same time I can’t just withdraw because well…obvious reasons Furthermore, to give up would feel like some weird admission that I’m unworthy or just couldn’t hack it and was too much of a bitch Maybe I’m just crazy for thinking that
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 01:31 AM
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I actually fuck with this take Like if people wanna get into it and learn, and are willing to, then good But don’t bring other stuff from outside and changing things to make it more palatable usually results in a product that isn’t that great Considering my hobbies, it’s especially susceptible with niche sports (biggest offender is that some forms of martial arts notably suffered from this happening)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 01:26 AM
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For sure. “Be vulnerable and open with your partner” only goes so far and there’s definitely things you should just take to the grave
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 12:23 AM
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One that people don’t seem to call out but it’s kinda the weirder you think about it People who talk about how they want their thug/gangbanger/hood dude but seem to want a fairytale ending with said dude (If you know, you know) Not to say it’s impossible, but it’s such a “Really?” moment Generally, anytime your preferences lack congruency it’s gonna turn out kinda weird in its own way
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 12:18 AM
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Question I thought of. Yesterday I and a coworker were talking about our sport (guy’s actually pretty famous in it too) and discussing how people opening franchises, who don’t understand the internal culture of the sport could become a serious nuisance if it happens. And it got me thinking about gatekeeping and how honestly it’s overly hated on as a concept I say all that bullshit to say Q4A: What’s something you guys believe should be gatekept? Can be any old minor or specific thing, or somethi…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 12:10 AM
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Basically close as we’ll get to human perfection That genetic makeup is insane
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 12:05 AM
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I’d say yeah it likely was
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 12:04 AM
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Generally would agree If you’re anywhere in that “pretty cute” to “regular hot” range it’s much more possible Anything above regular hot and yeah it’s really hard to fail at that point
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 03:30 PM
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I mean not gonna lie I’ve pulled out of meeting girls at last minute or just ceased talking to a few girls before because something or other told me “this won’t be worth the time/energy/gas/all of the above” This being said what’s strange to me is that being somewhat attractive now (debatably) is actually a recent development compared to the general span of my post-pubescent life so far (also becoming a somewhat different “type” of good-looking compared to how it was before, which definitely swi…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 04:18 AM
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You know, I didn’t really realize it till now but when it comes to dating I actually deal with some serious impostor syndrome and it fucks with my chances sometimes Leads to fumbles and all kinds of stupid shit that sends me down the wrong way Tough thought pattern to break I will say
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 03:13 AM
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Similar case of a dude at the restaurant I used to work at Good-looking guy and around 5’11 and very much could’ve had any woman he wanted to in that restaurant Didn’t pull because he like…didn’t make moves. Was also too oblivious to read flirting in general. While I don’t think it was autism he definitely was a little slower upstairs than most people I hate to say it because I love the guy, but it’s just true
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 09:15 PM
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I remember i had this discussion in a similar space a while back and now I’m remembering it But I wonder how common it is (or if it even happens) to have dudes who are good-looking enough in their own right but are socially too low-caliber, too dorky, or too autistic to actually get the girls they want or are on their level. (This relegating them to having to date down or be single entirely) Do you guys think this basically ever happens on any real scale? If so how commonly do you think this occ…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 03:59 AM
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I can finally do muscle-ups consistently; the ladies yesterday were quite impressed if I must say (half-joking) On another positive note, I’m more or less a Ninja state champion (It’s kinda weird to explain) in my divisions so that’s nice (actually runner-up but eh) Life kinda rules right now but I’m also sick so I’m in this weird spot where my mind is doing great but my body is bleh so it feels like I’m constantly high
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 05:09 PM
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Based Helplessness and uselessness that isn’t brought on by any extenuating circumstances pisses me off to no end
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/25 05:06 PM
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Real shit I personally don’t feel as though I’m big enough as I’d like, but even having visible muscle tone with broad shoulders makes a difference I feel
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 05:58 PM
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It’s hilarious how one thing people overcomplicate us the mere fact that if people look at you constantly, or someone constantly, it means they’re attractive. It’s quite simple It might not mean that specific person wants you (especially because kids and babies do this a lot too), but it does say something good usually It could be striking ugliness, but that’s usually so evident it’s not a question if you truly were Honestly if you’ve ever wondered how attractive you are, this is the prime quest…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 01:49 AM
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It’s strange because I can simultaneously agree looks matter hella But at the same time acknowledge the spiraling about looks just ain’t worth the time or mental energy beyond “doing what I can to be hot as possible”
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 12:33 AM
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175 lbs I think (probably closer to 170)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 02:53 AM
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Doesn’t work for me It passes the “attracted to her physical appearance” thing but doesn’t pass the principle and compatibility part of it
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 02:45 AM
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Oh yeah a large part of it is appearance for sure And I hate people who feel the need to moralize all their standards and preferences but I can say in my case it’s also a matter of principles and compatibility Couldn’t stand the thought of me being well but yet my girl sits on the couch and couldn’t be assed to dedicate a few hours of the week to her physical condition. Or worse yet, said gf thinks that lifestyle is stupid
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 02:44 AM
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Sometimes I reconsider that maybe I shouldn’t hold my standard regarding women who care about their fitness But every time I think about going back on it, I just remember I’m setting up for a much higher likelihood of a relationship with a lot of subtle resentment Which sounds quite dramatic on my part and I don’t know why I’m like this, but it’s just the truth
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 02:35 AM
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Honestly I see the opposite. I see women say they can’t or won’t date broke dudes but I never have really seen a dude who just couldn’t get action cuz he was broke
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/25 02:19 AM
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I’m not sure since I’ve never been in a committed relationship That being said someone who’s high energy as me probably works so long as it cuts off occasionally or they can turn it off occasionally For instance my current best friend and I are both high-energy and we kinda balance each other because it’s sometimes like we almost “take turns” with who’s being more energetic at that time
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 02:05 PM
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Oh how I wish it could be trusted But alas, the potential of great evil within is part of the allure, I suppose
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 01:53 PM
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You know it’s over when people say the fact that you have a lot of energy comes across even over textual format Oh well, where my girlies that like ADHD dudes at?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 01:16 PM
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but she had a big ass Tale as old as time for fellas
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 01:12 PM
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Ironically, I’d say that I’m quite an asshole if you ask me, but most people I know tend to describe me as nice and helpful Which is cool, I guess. I do enjoy extending an arm to help when I see fit (which can be quite arbitrary tbh), and I generally prefer to be a positive energy person because it’s better for your own sanity In terms of “goodness”? No, I’m pretty morally grey in that regard, as are most people
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 01:43 PM
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I most certainly feel you on this one I just haven’t got that type of humor that works very well on Reddit or forums like this in general Too much of it in my case relies on being able to hear the intonation of how I say things, and being able to see the concurrent facial expressions That and being able to “blurt” doesn’t hit the same on a forum as it would in a conversation or even a real-time group chat
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 02:23 AM
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A is fine I am not and probably never will be a high-earner per se; it’s not a requirement I really expect for any girl I ever date or get serious with to meet Woman A assuming she maintains a healthy BMI (for the record, I think BMI is largely bullshit, but I understand the picture you’re trying to paint here given the word “healthy”) most definitely has more aligning values with mine Though her being more attractive will certainly be great and also Uber important, it shows mostly we probably p…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 02:19 AM
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This is especially funny when it comes to dealing with preferences While I’m not into whining about women’s preferences, cuz it’s stupid to do so, I find the mental gymnastics around it to be quite amusing
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 11:13 AM
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I’m the same way when I’m in places/areas I haven’t been already frequenting for a while While it’s not complete fear, it’s definitely a slight side-eye toward everything
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 10:35 AM
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So there’s one thing that I never see discussed as a dealbreaker, but yet would be totally understandable to have as one. I can’t imagine what it would be like to date someone with little/no survival instincts and/or someone who can’t read rooms very well Any of you guys been there before or seen something similar? It sounds like hell on earth to deal with someone that oblivious when the matters aren’t exactly minute (Idk…this here was only on my mind because I’m about 90% certain that the other…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 02:48 AM
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Fully agree with this one It’s damn near a full-body workout (Yet another reason why I argue that as a man you should be in the gym if you want any good dating life)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 02:43 AM
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They can For the record, ironically I think showing anger is actually one of the most frowned-upon emotions you could show I show emotions such as amusement all the time, and genuine happiness sometimes. And others but my main mood seems to be “amused”. This never really has caused many real problems for me. Anger on the other hand? Yeah nah showing frequent anger leads to people trusting you less or being scared of you. (especially if well….just look at my avatar) And if you’re not “scary” angr…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 02:15 PM
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Agreed I was thinking to myself “this isn’t drastic catfishing but it’s certainly no longer a fair representation” Which to be fair I’d like to think I’m more attractive now than I was then anyway, so funnily enough it would almost be reverse catfishing
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 03:06 PM
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Oh yeah the pic quality itself isn’t an issue (at least….once I free some storage on my phone) Just posing, getting someone who can take good ones, and good situation-ing And then being actually satisfied enough with them myself which is the hard part
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 03:05 PM
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You know I’ve told myself I’m not gonna let myself back to Hinge or Tinder without a good amount new, high-quality pics Because I’ve come to a crazy realization that the pics I’ve been using, while decent enough pics, are no longer accurate. Those pics are about 20 lbs ago, with less “beard” and a couple less inches of hair on my head (That 20 lbs I’ve gained since those pics is mostly muscle) Now to go about actually getting them…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 01:31 PM
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All the time Granted I’ve no right to talk about being unfunny on Reddit, but I generally don’t even attempt Probably also has to do with humor coming across so differently on forums and it just doesn’t translate sometimes
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 11:49 AM
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That’s where I just say “who wouldn’t?” (Kidding)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 11:47 AM
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Yeah it’s like I was initially trying to make myself actually stay away and come back with some better pictures (and more hair on my face) But I’m kinda hoping I don’t need to go back at all ya feel me That being said as many lamentations i have about being single as long as I have, I keep it in mind the freedoms that will be inevitably missed later
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 04:27 AM
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I know what endorphins and dopamine are lmao This being said, I guess I was born fit or something? Idk I’ve always had the sensation of it feeling great, sort of…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 04:00 AM
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Is it bad that I feel sorta bored not being on the apps currently? (And the only “talking stage” I’m in is a bit complicated currently, logistically speaking) Christ man, that’s some real bad ADHD dopamine deficiency shit if I’ve ever heard of it I somewhat wonder how much of an obstacle that* will be toward being able to actually have anything real with someone but I suspect it doesn’t bode well (*”that” as in, me being a total head case)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 03:59 AM
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Where’s the fun in that? There’s inherent physical and mental pleasure in pushing myself physically Maybe someone who doesn’t experience that wouldn’t get it
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 03:32 AM
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Duh. Don’t wanna end up a gymcel looksmaxxing nerd who’s scared of women Im quite very against the idea that improving your objective stats is all you need. Nah if ya can’t talk to ‘em or navigate dealing with them, well, the results are likely what you won’t want My post above is just about calling out the people who try to moralize against improving your looks in the gym
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 03:29 AM
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Uh…duh
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 03:27 AM
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I think our main big dividing factor between “bluepillers” and “redpillers” is ultimately that bluepillers mentally place less emphasis on being seen as competent, strong, desirable, etc. so long as they’re loved whereas redpillers place more emphasis on the aforementioned qualities At least…when it applies to their dating and romantic lives (I put them in quotes because this time I’m referring to anyone who exhibits the behaviors of one side or the other, regardless of whether they claim any pi…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 08:11 PM
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Nah I think some dudes here are so lost that that won’t go anywhere without them either cucking themselves or fumbling hard
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 08:00 PM
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I can’t agree more Being somewhat short myself but (debatably) handsome and quite good socially
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 07:59 PM
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Is there actual proof “Chads” or whatever do it more though? Genuine question
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/25 07:12 PM
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I agree with all this, pretty much Even the girls who are into fat men, are into fat but strongly built dudes Even girls who are into skinny guys, like the skinny athletic types
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 04:43 PM
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In light of my other comment being automod-ed, I can reemphasize this point here. Saying “Don’t lift for women because the women who’ll like you for that are just shallow and low qualityyy!” is such nonsensical bullshit. (It’d be a different argument entirely if you were arguing that it just doesn’t work at attracting women at all, but that’s not what I’m highlighting here. For the record, I think the argument that it doesn’t do anything is also erroneous) Like oh yeah totally shallow. I’m sure …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 04:03 PM
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They were delusional enough to believe people really don’t think about looks or that everyone gets equal treatment despite their outsides I mean maybe it’s just me; I always knew people were superficial enough that being not fat was gonna change how I was treated. Or at least since around late middle school I came to this realization I was never treated like complete shit, but I wanted better than just being “there, I guess” and well…when I saw how fit, muscular men are treated, it didn’t take m…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 03:47 PM
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Trust a low trust? I think NOT
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 02:43 AM
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Somebody help me, I’ve become obsessed with Rio by Duran Duran I don’t t even know what is is but I can listen to the song like 50 damn times I a row and I’m still jamming The instrumentals and singing genuinely do something to my serotonin levels
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 04:52 PM
1

I’m a high-trust looking person myself Some days can’t decide whether I love it or whether I hate it
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 04:04 PM
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What? How on earth has any man ever gotten good at sex then? This is a prime example of thinking yourself into a hole you don’t have to be in (instead of the holes you should be getting into)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 04:03 PM
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I thought that rule only applied if your post was just that one word and nothing else
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 03:48 PM
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Oh yeah the monk mode shit is probably one the worst things you can tell a guy looking to improve his dating life Because one of the worst things to be is a guy with a lot of money who doesn’t understand women due to lack of experience
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 03:47 PM
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Think so? The redpill is quite broad so I’m wondering Do you mean all of it’s wrong because only looks matter? Or are you saying all of it’s wrong because they’re overcomplicating something that isn’t all that deep?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 03:33 PM
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I hate this one because it’s such a huge presupposition of value with nothing backing it up
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 03:29 PM
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You dodged a bullet! Oh MAN this one. Like yep, it’s possible that maybe they are a shit person and actually did you a favor, but it’s also quite equally possible you missed out on something good because you just didn’t make the cut for what they’re attracted to (whether that be looks OR behavior) It goes back to that “oh they’re shallow anyway, you don’t want them!” type of bullshit. Sorry, everyone is shallow and it’s not a win if someone you were into rejects you because you’re not hot enough…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 03:19 PM
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Oh yeah that’s a good one, similar vein to “when I become xyz age…”
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 03:08 PM
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Funniest copes I see in dating and/or related topics “Hot people are stupid./Hot people are stupider than average and ugly folk” “Hot people are morally shittier./Being ugly makes me morally superior.” “Promiscuous people are gonna get what they deserve” “Gym bros are vain and toxic!/ Don’t lift for women! That’ll only attract the shallow thots!” “When I turn 30 they’ll come snapping at me” “You can still be attractive even if no women are or have been into you” (I shit you not I’ve heard this t…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 02:54 PM
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Same I find sometimes kids who are athletic all through school hit some sort of cement wall upon graduating or going to college sometimes I had the opposite in that I was a dork through my whole school career but toward the end, and after graduating I’ve become a ton more athletic And to no one’s surprise, my whole life now is about athletics, lifting, and general physical activity
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 12:19 PM
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but the question didn’t have to be about you Yes but no; it’s complicated I just don’t think you give off relationship material…ig that was a callout Yep, I was making a joke alluding back to that discussion we had
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 01:41 AM
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This feels like possibly a subtle callout lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 01:21 AM
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That’s fair I could say
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/25 12:36 AM
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Question for my folks here: What would be your immediate assumption if a guy told you he gets and receives plenty of female attention/validation but it never seems to go anywhere meaningful? (Assume this guy is reasonably attractive without a doubt. Not a stunner; just a looker) (Assume that he gives no other info than what was said above verbatim)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/25 10:18 PM
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Actually I wouldn’t say I’ve made a full fumble as of currently, just moreso was kinda oblivious That being said if I do some shit that blows the whole thing up then that would be a fumble of epic proportions
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 02:59 AM
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I actually hate you (As in: you’ve hit the nail on the head)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/25 02:58 AM
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Sounds about right! (This is actually the second time this scenario, or something similar has occurred for me in this same mini-community of sorts)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 08:21 PM
2

I feel violated with how hard you just called me out. I’ve been telling myself “Alright Spread, this, and/or the subsequent stage is where you usually fuck it up, so how about not doing that this time?”
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 08:17 PM
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So after a little while of me not being entirely sure about that one blonde cheerleader who’s taller than me, she basically texts me the other night confessing she thinks I’m cute, confirming my suspicions I’m actually him. That being said I wonder how long she spent thinking “dumbass!”
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/25 08:12 PM
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Yeah It seems everyone loves me wherever I go (with exceptions, and obviously I’m using the word “love” quite loosely) And for the life of me I can’t really understand why entirely
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 06:35 PM
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Unexpected allies are one of my favorite things about life in general
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 06:34 PM
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For me it’s been a mix most of my life of black and white girls (ironically when I first was into girls I was like “where the Latinas at?”) Ratios vary a bit but it seems a recent development that white girls are more into me than they used to be
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 05:58 PM
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Don’t worry, bro, I’ll be attracted to you on their behalf
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 05:06 PM
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Question for my gents here: any of you ever noticed or had a noticeable change in the type of woman who’s attracted to you? (aside from their ages changing as you get older; that’s almost a given) For some reason recently for me it seems blondes are more likely to have a thing for me than before and I can’t really tell why (no complains though) Anyone else experience that? Whether it’s about phenotypes, personality types, height, etc.?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 05:04 PM
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I agree, actually
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 04:57 PM
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Phenotype problems: when people who are into you are also the type who are into YNs and wannabe thugs, and you’re not that It’s attractive to the type of woman I consider a big personality mismatch; damn near the complete antithesis of what I’m into personality-wise (Just felt the need to get that out there)?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 01:43 AM
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Update: ended up coaching a comp today as well and was at that place all day; no rest to be bad at all (But it’s okay because competing in ninja isn’t usually super taxing)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 01:09 AM
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I think it’s a sign but not the sole indicator Not a 100% sign because can also be used as a manipulation or lovebombing tactic Or a case of being at the exact right place at the right time
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 12:12 AM
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I shouldn’t be awake right now, but me and my entire team crushed the competition yesterday and I am pretty damn pleased with myself, my co-coaches, and our team Aside from feeling a bit under the weather I’m doing great
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 07:19 AM
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Being good-looking and having actual sex appeal are cooperative partners; they are not one in the same, ya bums
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 04:54 PM
1

I mean It’s no biggie considering you couldn’t have possibly known that specific detail
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 02:01 PM
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Eh I don’t know if intense is the right word. Generally I’m high-energy but quite unserious (I suppose I can be intense depending on what I’m locked onto)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 01:58 PM
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How could ya tell? Cuz that’s frighteningly accurate tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 01:41 PM
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If you’re going on dates with the mindset of “whatever happens, happens” then the answer is 5 If your sole intention every time you go on dates is trying to bust a fat nut, then it’s 3
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 01:39 PM
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Which is funny considering irl people tend to say I “sound white” But what can I say? Code switching is fun
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 01:34 PM
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Q4M: Question for my fellas, which category do you fall into right now? I’m out here trying to date with intent to get something serious started I’m in something serious I’m just trying to score some cheeks/ am actively scoring cheeks I’ve given up entirely/I never have tried and never will I’m out here just dating (or trying to) but don’t care if the results are long or short term I haven’t given up, but I’m on hiatus
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 01:25 PM
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I am certainly not a twink Not as big as I’d like to be though
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 02:18 AM
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Well, this year so begins the journey to go from being a semi-masculine pretty boy with braids to being a big buff (yet lean) black dude with a beard and braids by the end of the year Who knows how this will actually go or how much hotter it will/won’t make me, but I’m curious to see Started using beard oil recently so we’re gonna see how this goes
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 02:12 AM
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Yeah not gonna lie it’s kinda funny seeing women be oh-so confident that they’d be a hot guy if they were swapped gender Or what’s funny is seeing “oh I’ve pulled girls as a girl so I’d do fine as a guy” And I’m like there is just no way it’s a 1:1 comparison or skillset needed
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 01:46 PM
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Yeah i know what you meant I’m being facetious
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/24 09:26 PM
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Let them Well I mean, did you think I had plans to stop them or tell them not to?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/24 07:36 PM
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Fair I already would say I am well past that bare minimum of “in shape” so there is that
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/24 06:50 PM
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Yeah at the end of the day I for sure think me getting an even better physique than my current one will be more helpful for that specific preference So far my own results throughout my journey sort of seem to agree with that notion Which is why I’m not too bothered bout it overall, but it’s still a damn thing, definitely indicated fiercer competition if anything
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/24 06:16 PM
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All I saw was “shorter than average” I’m 5’8 so yabba dabba doo
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/24 12:43 PM
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You know, seeing that study about short guys saying they basically are more likely to have fat partners makes me think a little harder than I should While it does seem I’m able to pull fitter women now than I used to, this does make it apparent now that where I’m at is about 2x more competitive than I even that (When i say “where I’m at, what i mean is that i refuse to date non-fit women seriously” and i don’t even mean just in body shape, i mean as in actively physically active)
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/24 12:16 PM
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My job doesn’t have tons of manual labor but I can end up doing a lot of physical stuff in one day if I choose to If I’m going nutty then my appetite does get even bigger
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 02:41 AM
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You know, I’m not even that big or that muscular but for fuck sake, being 170 lbs of relatively lean* mass, while being young and active my appetite is usually through the roof Even on days where I’m just existing, I have to eat so much and so often just to not get headaches and shit (* I say “relatively lean” because I’m probably around 15% bodyfat, so I’m still kinda fat, but also I’m not exactly sure what the percentage is) Any of my other gym going makes be experiencing having an absolutely …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 02:27 AM
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The bubbly ones are just the best Can legitimately be a feeling of “you know, maybe shit isn’t so bad” when you’re going through it fr
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 02:24 AM
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I don’t blame you, depending on what you do that makes sense My current job has worked out to a point where I love it; I’m more than happy to put in extra hours there and no qualms with 50 hour weeks But if I hate whichever job I’m working at the time, then it’s absolute hell and even 30 hours can feel like an eternity
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 03:06 AM
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When people ask me why I speak Spanish; my favorite answer is “I don’t know” But the truth is that over time; being exposed to it bits and pieces here has taken me to crazy heights considering I haven’t actually sat down and studied any Spanish in eons But it’s funnier to say “I don’t know” (since at first glance there’s no “logical” reason that I would speak it)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/24 11:01 AM
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Been at it for close to two years now (I mean not consistently; took time off at a couple points for various reasons) And yes it’s certainly a quite unique sport that I would’ve never predicted ending up in Oh yeah, mostly because full body is so flexible to work around but also planned to experiment with upper/lower or push/pull/push/pull (with every day having a leg movement)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 10:51 AM
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Some of it came from doing Ninja (the upper body stuff in that sport stimulates your back like crazy) Otherwise my routine-ing skill is pretty shoddy The general principles I followed were that I’d do full-body 4 or 5 times a week, hitting major muscle groups but being very careful with either volume or intensity
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 03:55 AM
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Shit, I’ve just realized I successfully made it to the end of 2024 single the entire time I’m better-looking now than I was in ‘23 but ironically came closer to relationships several times then Oh well, at least my non-romantic relationships have grown and developed in ways I wouldn’t imagine, plus making more money is always nice
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/24 03:28 AM
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It’s weird that I don’t feel like I should hate gamers but just instinctually look down on them just a bit The same way I would a fat or chubby person. We can personally be cool and I won’t have an issue with them personally, but it’s like a tiny chunk of respect will always be missing (But also I’m just a D1 hater, so…)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 11:48 AM
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His pics aren’t just shit, but they’re shit in a quite uncanny way; looks like same face photoshopped onto different backgrounds and I could see why it’d be off-putting
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 11:40 AM
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The only experience I draw this from is girls who very clearly haven’t got much of a life Aside from working (and sometimes not even that) a lot of their nights consisted of trying to get high or drunk at home, or just having nothing stimulating to do for that night if they don’t already have a party lined up For me, these girls have been the easiest to get dates with or get interest from, and I’m starting to realize that it’s got to do with well, of course that’s going to be the case, if you’re…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/24 01:00 AM
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Random thought that’s kinda crazy to say out loud, but I have a theory that a girl being bored seems to make her “easier” (for lack of a better word or term) Just seems that from what I know, girls who are stuck in that state of “Looking for something to do” are more likely to link with or go on a date with some dude even if they don’t know well The more I think about it, I’ve had more than one link/hangout that was just me saying something at the right time (she hadn’t anything happening that n…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 07:59 PM
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Yeah I’ll say the basis is a bit erroneous but not entirely Dudes whining about women definitely are a lot less likely to ever get much, if any attention or action I mean It’s just conventionally obvious that someone who gets tons of action isn’t complaining about women’s standards in a market that they do qualify in just fine It’s possible to be successful and dissatisfied, but I still don’t get what whining does for you (Hell, I’m in a category where I’m similar in that a lot of dudes would sa…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 05:56 PM
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Those options you listed are encompassed in the options I said Unless one plans on continuing to whine while getting a dog, or learning how to please yourself, or traveling abroad
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 05:20 PM
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Right like I’m not a generally fearful person at all; generally I’m confident in my ability to handle direct confrontations But for fuck sake I don’t feel anywhere close to completely comfortable going over to some girl’s house if we don’t know each other well before that Even upon vetting her and being pretty sure I’ll be fine, there’s always that voice in the back of my brain (For the record this is also why I don’t bring girls over as often as I could; I make sure my ass is covered in those f…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 05:09 PM
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This ain’t that likely to happen Not to dismiss safety concerns or anything, but personally I’d be more afraid she’s a psycho who tries to stab me after becoming overly attached, or that she’s trying to set me up (ngl I’ve noped out on some potential hookups before because I was paranoid I was about to get set up and robbed lmao)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 05:02 PM
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I mean, the question is, how’s it BS if there’s not really any other option? In a predicament where someone is failing to date how they want to or who they want to, their options are mostly Stop whining and do your best to get the results you want Stop whining and quit the game entirely to go do something else Keep whining and focusing on how unfair it is, to absolutely no avail*, thus wasting a load of mental energy for no reason (*the whining won’t magically make fuckboys commit, it won’t get …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 04:55 PM
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Man I can’t wait to get back into training MMA regularly again Just gotta wait till I’m making enough more money that I can afford it without even having to take a second look That being said balancing two sports, the gym, and work, takes a special kind of person On this note, what am I doing today? Working and probably training after work; also in a bit of a contemplative mood about how I’ve managed to fumble so many talking stages
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 02:38 PM
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Nope, but it sure is suspicious when the “woman” in question just so happens to agree with all the very specific viewpoints and also happens to talk suspiciously like that of a normative guy Or when the argument in question involves the arguer attempting to paraphrase or talk about what women say, but then it becomes obvious about two seconds in that they’re full of shit
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 02:27 PM
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Trade the e cups for “flat chest with a gigantonormous ass” and we have a deal /j (sort of….)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 01:30 PM
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While I haven’t seen what you’re talking about because I haven’t been paying attention, I believe it It’s hilarious when dudes who swear they know somethin’ bout women mimic how they think women talk/think but anyone with two braincells would say “women don’t talk like that”
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 01:26 PM
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That’s cuz weak men ick women out Even if the stronger more dominant ones have a higher chance to hurt them I don’t make the rules
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 12:03 PM
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So I will say there’s a difference, socially speaking Incels are weird and that lingo just comes off just real strange to a normal person. It definitely doesn’t help that they’re expressing resentment over the fact that no girlie has ever popped pussy on them While rappers come off misogynistic, they do it in a way considered much cooler and socially accepted (oh yeah and they also have money and status which helps). They’re bragging that they already have women You’d be surprised at the shit yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 11:19 AM
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Nah the types definitely matter from what I see and experience Take two dudes who are moderately handsome on the same “level” One guy styles and has the energy of a douchey fuckboy and the other one is a lot more of a golden retriever They won’t get the same volume of girls, or the same type of girls. Furthermore, their relations with said girls won’t have the same quality or length.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 02:42 PM
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This ain’t what I meant but alright then
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 02:25 PM
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Getting likes is cool the first couple times; you come to get used to it Your type (both in lifestyle and looks) beginning to seem to pay you more attention is far more gratifying factor than matches in of themselves But that’s just me speaking as someone who’s been on these apps and in so many talking stages, without anything sustained and real coming of it, so eh
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 11:37 PM
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I don’t know if this is a coincidence or a short blip, or actual sign of things to come, but it seems recently there’s been an uptick in quality of my matches on Hinge, and general women of my type showing more interest in me Of course, I don’t wanna jump the gun and assume I’ve ascended to some Tyrone status, and of course none of this really matters if I can’t convert any of the interest/matches into dates, but it definitely feels nice anyhow
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 11:09 PM
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I always took that as them getting at wanting to get their back blown out or an attempt at innuendo
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 10:08 PM
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Dealbreaker? No. I’d probably try to ask enough misleading questions to figure out wtf that was about I’d also lie about not having an appetite because undercooked chicken is too much of a gamble If she seems just genuinely a little clueless about cooking, that by itself isn’t a dealbreaker; everyone has to start somewhere
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 03:24 PM
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Sometimes that happens where I’ll look and think “nah he ugly fr” But I have actually seen posts from alleged “incels” that are actually good-looking To presume all incels are correct in their reasoning and identifying it, is erroneous
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 12:59 PM
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There’s different types of “good-looking”, different types of “average”, and different types of “ugly”! Subtypes and differences within the general category of being hot, average, or ugly, are generally more of a difference maker than not This especially goes when looking for advice; telling the internet that you’re “average” or “fairly attractive” tells only some of the story
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 04:17 AM
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Yeah I’ve met some girls where I’d say damn they’re hot but they’re genuinely too annoying for me to actually see them on a light of being attracted to them
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 05:46 PM
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Yep I think this realization put things into perspective for me Realizing that spells of having much less attention is pretty normal unless you’re a super hot guy and that it doesn’t necessarily mean too much in the grand scheme, and thus there no real strategy or trick to avoid it
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 05:00 AM
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Q4A: Maybe this is far fetched and I’m just talking out of my ass here, but would you guys agree that dating is much much more cyclical/periodic than people (in these spaces) think? I was talking with someone else here about this, but it seems it’s much more normal to have periods of attention and success, followed by relative silence, and honestly this might go for basically all men except the cream of the crop in SMV and the men who have too low of an SMV to ever get anything Tbh I wouldn’t be…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/24 04:17 AM
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Oh yeah for sure I don’t exactly mind being called cute or whatever the hell, but someone claiming that I’m a tough fight, or saying that I lift a lot of weight, or any general declaration of strength/competence is just way better and arguably better for the psyche
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 05:44 PM
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Update from me: Yeah this definitely ain’t happening today. I don’t know how the hell i get distracted so easily; I don’t even know where the past couple of hours went
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 05:42 PM
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Wanted to go to the gym this morning but head and neck started hurting a bit so I was like “let’s hold off” and now I’m laying down. Probably gonna fix my room up to stop it from looking like a doomer lair Later I go to work; probably will train at work in order to make up for missing the gym, unless my head’s still hurting
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 03:35 PM
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I’m inclined to agree Bias because my whole life is essentially physical fitness, but the point is there anyhow Being strong is an inherent good thing and no amount of people saying “Oh BuT tHe MoDeRn WoRl-“ It’s the funniest cope for being sedentary ever
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 02:36 PM
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You know, no matter how many compliments I’ve had from women (and men) on stuff like my looks and physique, I still think the best compliment I’ve received went like this In a Jiu-jitsu class, two students and a coach were discussing a certain submission (after I had just rolled with one of those guys, and the coach) I forgot what submission they were talking about, but the coach said about “It’s a good submission, but he’s too strong for that to work” (referring to me) It’s compliments like thi…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 02:16 PM
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What I’m sayin’ is it helpful to know what they look like. If you want know how to avoid girls who shit test entirely; knowing shit tests when you see them is important
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 04:10 AM
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That’s a fair take You still have to know what they look like to avoid them
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 04:07 AM
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I used to cope via saying “it’s only toxic women who do that” and by thinking it doesn’t matter much But whether only toxic women do them or not, it’s kinda Because either you can pass them and this not fumble women, or if it really is only the toxic ones, you kinda have to know shit tests when you see them
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 04:19 PM
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Most common form would be saying something to you that might strike a nerve or saying something in general to “test” your reaction to something Seeing how you react to things in general Occasionally pulling away attention or energy to see how you react It’s often subconscious too, it’s not a conscious “I’m manipulating him into saying this” thing, think more like a scanner running in the background
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 04:04 PM
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Always super obvious I’m probably just an idiot; I used to easily be sent on spirals wondering where the hell I messed up or exactly what happened Sometimes I’d have a vague idea (like usually it’s pretty easy to tell those times that I sold on a date or did something egregiously weird), but other times, it wasn’t very clear; turns out it came down to “she tested you; you failed”
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 03:58 PM
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You know, when it comes to TRP, there’s lots of bullshit and some real shit But the concept of shit tests is one of those things that always went in one ear and out the other with me And this is gonna sound stupid in an absurd way to women and bluepillers, and stupid in a “we told you so” way to redpillers. But it’s sort of crazy how I’m just now starting to understand that shit tests are a very real thing and that saying “only toxic women” is kinda cope in this case. Maybe I’m completely off-tr…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/24 02:03 PM
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You’ve kinda got a point Besides, I see too many ugly mfs walking around to possibly believe only hot ones are reproducing
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/24 11:52 AM
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Q4A: How much of an asshole are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 12:19 PM
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This makes a lot of sense to me
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 02:22 PM
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Question for my folk here (but especially the ladies) If a man were to confide in you that he supposedly wants a relationship, but he only ever gets hookups, what would be your immediate assumptions about why this is?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 01:45 PM
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I’m a nerd with nerdy interests… Probably explains a few things here In my case, a lot of the female friends I had back then were because of the restaurant industry (which….well yeah), and others where a lot of what we had in common was smoking weed The first girl I smashed was technically a female friend (funnily enough, most of that little friend group wanted to smash me), and had coworkers/female friends, who I’m quite sure I could’ve smashed if I’d caught them at the right time and went for …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/24 11:17 AM
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I’ve had female friends my whole life… This difference win experience if anything just speaks even MORE to how much this shit is luck a lot of the time (And/or being around people who provide more opportunity than general for various possible reason)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 09:05 PM
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Oh yeah I embarrassingly had this realization fairly recently I’m not a dude who gets nothing per se, but when I do get noticeable amounts of female attention, it seems to come in “bursts” of sorts And that can be followed by either a short or long period of fumbling, selling, getting almost no attention, or getting sparing levels of lukewarm attention. Which the first couple times this happened, made me think “What’s going on? I was Adolf Rizzler just a couple weeks ago!” Hell, part of why I sa…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 02:55 PM
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Can’t tel if you’re just having fun with this or being for real
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/24 01:56 AM
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With that being the case I’ll say Yeah maybe like middle-upper middle class problems so to speak
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 04:18 PM
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Oh yes absolutely. Why would I change your view if it’s just kinda very obviously true, as well as being backed both scientifically and by pure conventional wisdom? Looking the way I do definitely made me more aware of this since Presentation is the difference between me looking like a smart respectable young man or like I just might be ready to crash out (Or like a fuckboy, apparently)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 04:09 PM
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A good bit, I’d argue It doesn’t matter as much as general body language does, but it ties in for sure; walking slouched and looking unconfident definitely ain’t gonna do you any favors I’d say gait matters maybe almost as much as fashion but not quite, and not as much as body language matters
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 04:05 PM
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If this is about looks, then I’m like maybe upper middle class, but not rich lol (Or did I miss the analogy-mark?)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 02:57 AM
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Another dating-app related question, because why not Do you guys think that the dating app sample bias sucks or is that just cope from people who just can’t hack if?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 01:16 AM
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This line was far too stupid to be considered sexual harassment; she laughed even harder than I did
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 11:25 PM
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Flashback to at one of my old jobs, once the girl who was working grill for that night went to the back to get some more burger buns, and as she passes me I bolt out saying “Damn Jones; you carryin’ even more buns than usual!” I still think this is unironically one of the best and things I’ve ever said Oh how I occasionally miss those restaurant days
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 10:56 PM
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Yeah; I generally hate it but have to live with it; I genuinely don’t think I can sound un-adhd I mean I can slow down to become more intelligible and not sound as hyperactive but don’t think I can ever remove that “vibe” from my voice
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 04:21 AM
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This is so cool! Why thank you! It’s one of those random things/tidbits I always like to drop when it’s convenient, especially because it makes no sense in context Also Swedish is so cool. How much would you say is a “bit”?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 04:13 AM
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So I recently learned that in a past “situation” (not really) with a coworker, apparently she was flirting with me for months before I ever made a move, whereas I thought it was maybe a month or couple weeks before I used to see guys talking about how obvious they can be and I’d think “speak for yourself!” But nah it looks I have to go right back in that club of being quite oblivious, apparently
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 04:06 AM
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That’s cuz my voice is generally funny-sounding Not helped because the cadence and pitch of my voice involuntarily shifts whenever I’m not speaking English; even my laugh changes for some reason
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 04:02 AM
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What? Forgotten that I’ve got this little trick up my sleeve?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 03:46 AM
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https://voca.ro/1eM2RY7b2ZoF Okay, so two things, I am sorta congested right now and this sound even more like absolute shit than usual, and also it comes out in shit quality for some reason so eh But I guess this is my voice reveal, featuring one itty bitty interesting thing about my speech patterns that I don’t really ever speak about here (If you need a transcript I can provide)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 03:27 AM
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If I had to guess, my pics are okay. Usually good enough lighting and nothing corny, nerdy, low-quality, or too trashy (maybe a little bit on the latter) But I also don’t edit them much and don’t have those grand type of pictures that show I live some super exciting life either
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 08:07 PM
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Rats! Think I’ve been in these type of spaces so long I occasionally let myself forget this shit is nuanced
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 08:05 PM
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Piggybacking off my question from yesterday, would you say you agree or disagree with the notion average men get literally nothing on dating apps, and that getting results, even somewhat subsatisfactory ones, is generally a sign of not being average?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 07:58 PM
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Idk I think folk generally put me in the same ballpark Even when I’m not given numbers it seems people refer to me as being generally conventionally attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 11:43 AM
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Yeah that mirror was dirty for sure; doesn’t help that that particular bathroom has the suckiest lighting of all time I never feature it in my profiles for a reason. (That being said currently i try to avoid mirror selfies in general)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 04:29 AM
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It’s still strange to me that it’s happened on such a scale but hey Ngl I wont exactly be happy if I was saying I was average, but then people hyped me up insisting I was above average, but it turns out I was right the whole time But then again I feel the waters have been muddied as to what type of results a truly average man gets; the results I’m unsatisfied with could still be above for all I know
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 04:24 AM
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Not like I’m one of those fellas who’s never approached or something, but probably should come back to doing it more often Not a fan of cold approach myself and definitely have my preference for warmer ones
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 04:14 AM
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This is a good point; it just happens so much that it’s strange Maybe I should approach more irl for better consensus
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 03:47 AM
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If you’re actually attractive. That’s what’s currently in question, really You at least get some True. Albeit it’s strange because it’ll be a period of silence interspersed with a like here and there, and then occasionally a few rapid-fire matches or likes Then my conversations seem to be a mix of not going past the first exchange ever, getting arbitrarily unmatched (or account deletion but I assume the worst in these cases), or more or less she’d be willing for me to smash her asap
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 03:45 AM
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I occasionally think that’s the case but then I think “Nah I’m coping, they must just not work for me” Which in my mind of course would solely be because I’m not attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 03:38 AM
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Lol okay then
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 03:36 AM
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Oh I’m not slow enough to think mother’s compliments mean anything
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 03:21 AM
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Question: if people tel you that you’re attractive, but your dating app results are uh…questionable (not zero, but definitely questionable and usually subsatisfactory), is it safe to assume people are gaslighting you about how attractive you are?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/24 03:17 AM
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Most of hookup culture is people getting drunk and fucking, or meeting at bars, clubs, or parties and fucking Very common I’d say Then again I personally have never felt I had to get a woman inebriated to hookup with me, but have observed it’s easier if you’re around such spaces
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 10:39 PM
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I’ll never forget seeing someone say in this discussion I was having with them. I mention how “Some people just think high-body counts are icky” and she responds saying “I think thinking like that and being judgmental about it is icky” The whole convo was really her saying in a thinly veiled way that she doesn’t like being judged for having sucky decision making in her past (too bad so sad)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 10:36 PM
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Nah it don’t take all THAT But if you hang around the girls who smoke weed and drink enough (assuming you manage to do that somehow), and aren’t particularly picky about looks, you can get some action that way
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 10:29 PM
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Yeah, you’re tellin’ me!
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 06:41 PM
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Anti depressants An extreme method I discovered by accident was to make my life so busy and tiring that I rarely ever had the mental space or physical energy to truly be horny Very last resort though; wouldn’t recommend because I was absolutely burning myself into the ground (without even meaning to)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 04:29 PM
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Anti depressants An extreme method I discovered by accident was to make my life so busy and tiring that I rarely ever had the mental space or physical energy to truly be horny Very last resort though; wouldn’t recommend because I was absolutely burning myself into the ground (without even meaning to)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 04:29 PM
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Weird spot. A little less than happy at the fact that we probably ain’t doing thanksgiving tomorrow because so much of the fam is sick (but at least we can reschedule it) and so thus I’m probably due for a day of doing basically nothing tomorrow Also one of those nights I feel a bit lonely Yet between all this I feel quite serene and peaceful in a weird way
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/24 03:15 AM
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I suppose that’s true (I guess the more “unusual” part is just how hard I sell sometimes when not “on”)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 08:57 PM
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I have some days where I’m like “truth” and other days where I doubt it But even then, it’s like. If you take two identical-looking clones and one of them is great at flirting and the other is awkward, well…. (Especially being me; whose game is sometimes in the zone but sometimes quite egregiously bad, I can physically see the differences play out)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 07:59 PM
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You’d be surprised at just how batshit crazy some of the takes I’ve seen about this are
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 07:50 PM
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I’d love to see the autists who say that game and ability to talk to girls doesn’t matter, actually talk to women and try to pick them up (And yes I’m aware there are points where it matters not as much and I’m aware game doesn’t magically turn a hell no into a yes. I know it’s not a magic bullet or anything)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 07:42 PM
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Yes, just car accident stuff a couple months back
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 07:40 PM
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On this note, I find that it’s always crazy to hear the mental gymnastics surrounding insulting dick size as “Oh we say it because we know men are insecure about it and it’s a way to get to them.” That’s bullshit because girls talk negatively (and positively) about their boyfriends/hookups being too small (or nice and big) behind their backs too The insults would only be done face-to-face if the actual content wasn’t relevant and it was just a way to get under skin
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 08:26 PM
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Makes sense to me tbh Tats are cool for sure but I have my doubts to the point that I doubt it’s worth it (because what if turns out I don’t like?)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 05:54 PM
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Kinda sucks knowing if I got tats, dressed differently, and made some more stylistic tweaks it would probably dramatically increase my appeal Because that paints an image for myself that I definitely wouldn’t want and to be frank I’m iffy on the quality of whom that would attract But I might be full of it( who knows
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 05:32 PM
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Nice, I see your point I still gain nothing from “holding those groups accountable” or “blaming” them for anything and neither does anyone else I mean unless a brief sense of moral superiority is enough of its own benefit
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 05:26 PM
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Giving outside a pass for being an awful place If we run with the idea that outside is an awful place or whatever, then still, what other choice do I have than to give it a pass? There’s not a single person I can hold accountable or any specific entity that I can; outside is a nebulous mass comprised of different people, identities, cultures, mannerisms, etc Generally speaking I find improving oneself makes outside less awful but what do I know; maybe I’m too much of a “Chad” or whatever to know…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 04:40 PM
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Dorks usually haven’t got the balls to make moves and tbh that’s my main reason for assuming they ain’t getting any play But hey it’s always a pleasant surprise to be wrong in these instances
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 04:03 PM
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People say that because that’s realistically his only choice. His choices are continue to self isolate and stay where it’s comfortable, or to go outside If he does the former then he gives up the ability to complain about lacking social skills or dating ability, because the only way you can get better is by going through it and experience The latter is his only real option to do anything about it. Even if it sucks and is gonna be uncomfortable, what else is he realistically gonna do about it? Do…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 04:01 PM
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21, 4. I’m fairly certain it could be higher if I had a combo of lower inhibitions and lower standards (and if I drank and/or partied more especially) I occasionally think fuck it, screw a relationship, maybe I should just go out and try to get some left and right, but I’m probably not at a point where I need more empty victories and ego boosts. Something stable is probably the goal
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 02:35 PM
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A Ninja competition (like American Ninja Warrior sort of thing; it’s obstacle course racing as a sport)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 01:10 AM
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One competition followed by doing some work certification stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 10:15 PM
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Truth, and hell, even barring the end result I’ll at least have more fun on dates
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 06:55 PM
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Even then I realize most people tend to think I’m weird but they tend to like it and I’m re-realizing it’s one or my greater strengths
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 06:49 PM
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I had a realization that trying to act normal on dates might lowkey be costing me Screw it all, life’s too short to be normal; time to rizz ‘em with the ‘tism and actually have fun with it in the process
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/24 06:20 PM
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Our top competitor has three sisters who are all on the comp team and I wonder what life is like for them knowing that they probably will never be as good as him
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 05:52 PM
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Oh yes for sure it is; some peoples’ baseline puts them a whole league ahead or behind Some kids are naturally fast, strong, and agile but have trouble with technique and control, or have mental blocks that make them fearful to use their strength And then others who can pick up mechanics fairly easily but physically speaking their speed, power, etc. are “meh” And then there are the kids who seem to have basically been born with all of the above (or none of it) Our current best competitor is a ve…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 05:48 PM
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An interesting blackpill I encounter at my job regularly that has nothing to do with looks- is when you see genetically determined athleticism It’s not always guaranteed, but you’ll notice it a lot that when one sibling is particularly talented, their siblings usually are too Then you have some kids where you’ll coach them and they’ll be tryin’, but you begin to get a little afraid that there are some skills that they’ll just never grasp, or at least not until they undergo significant changes ph…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/24 03:54 PM
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Sounds about right. A lot of friend groups have a person where the more and more you overlook their fun personality, humor, great storytelling, etc., the more you realize they’re actually kind of a menace First thought of this while I was saying that “personality” in dating is more about how much of an off-putting weirdo you are than how moral you are(n’t), and then realized “Yo it’s kinda the same with friendships; must be a human nature thing
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 04:21 AM
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Think general asshole/scumbag behavior like cheating, lying, asking for money and not giving it back, fighting, stirring drama and shit, etc. Not so bad that you’d call them Hitler but bad enough that you wouldn’t consider them an upstanding citizen (hence the “questionable”)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 09:30 PM
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That’s just wrong and reeks of “men good, women evil jezebels” sentiment
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 09:25 PM
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Why do people act like this “nice guy/bad boy” shit only applies to romantic and sexual relationships, and that it’s only done by women? Fact remains humans as a whole would rather be around someone who they find disgusting on a moral level than a visceral level I mean “visceral” not as in a literal disgust (although it can apply) but think maybe someone who’s too annoying, smells weird, can’t contribute to conversations, is off-putting or creepy, etc. Lots of people will be friends with and be …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 07:18 PM
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Yeah this is the other side of my thoughts here. Potentially double-edged sword Not only could the… worst possible assumption be made, but there’s the other side of things where they might just think “A manchild”
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 06:58 PM
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Idk I occasionally feel like being a man who’s good with kids could potentially be a superpower in dating but that I could be completely wrong about the benefits That being said some of days the things that keep me going are the cheers of happiness when they successfully complete a skill, those unexpectedly funny things they say, or their cherubic little features smiling up at you My job gives me actual baby fever sometimes (this is as someone who used to swear they didn’t want kids and is still…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 06:09 PM
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Props to you; you literally couldn’t pay me to be a NEET
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/24 02:25 AM
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Sometimes I have this feeling I’m not exactly sure what’s missing; it’s hard to explain what exactly it is Could be just misguided ideas about what it actually means to be attractive; perhaps I really am just plum average and not a pretty boy Maybe it’s a standards thing
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 09:22 PM
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You got anything to actually back that up or are you talking out the sides of your mouth here? That being said, if you reread my last comment you see why I said what I said; seemed OP wanted to speak on besides being ugly
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 03:50 AM
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The reason I didn’t go there is that he barred being ugly (I mean I know he said grotesquely but still) This isn’t something I need explained to me
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 03:26 AM
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Yes they exist It’s called having no game and/or generally being socially awkward Can also sometimes be from lacking that overall experience too (didn’t flirt in HS/college and thus becoming an adult without flirting experience even if social skills are otherwise good)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 02:03 AM
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TRP has multiple issues and also some things it does right, but one unique problem with it that no one mentions much is that simply put, the target audience There’s just too many people in its target audience that will never have that dawg in them that the ideology says they should; they’d be wasting much less time by developing game catered to their own personal tastes, natural temperament, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 05:24 PM
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It’s so funny to hear of blackpillers wanting to say that if a short man goes to the gym he’ll be said to be “compensating” I’m a short-ish guy who goes to the gym and have never once heard such nonsense, nor seen it directed toward other guys On this note, it’s funny that compensating for being short would be considered a bad thing; why would it? You mean to tell me guys should just remain short and skinny? Because I’m sure that’ll get you alllll the ladies and all the respect from other dudes
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 05:22 PM
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I’m a 6-6.5 somewhere around there I think On days where I’m really feeling myself a 7; as low as 4 when not, but I know 6-6.5 is most accurate (7 is what I call “the hot friend”; you’re probably the prettiest/most handsome in the average friend group or at the very least you’re 2nd place. I’m actually considering making another comment entirely breaking down these ratings)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 04:52 PM
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That’s where my logic goes. A lot of cases of the idea of gamer girls being one thing, but irl you remember reputations and stereotypes exist for a reason Dork-ettes aren’t always more appealing than their male counterparts, let’s just say that….
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 07:56 PM
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Fair; I’m probably just not enough of a gamer to understand the hype really
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 06:32 PM
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Thoughts, am I just crazy fellas, or does it seem gamer girls are greatly overhyped and overrated? Is it just me who doesn’t think it sounds all that great to have a “gamer girlfriend” moreso than a general girlfriend? On this note Q4A: What’s the most overrated niche/archetype of man/woman? What about underrated? (Spare me a speech about how people are more than just traits or niches; I already know that)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 06:04 PM
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What’s the difference in your definition?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 05:06 PM
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Especially if it’s that Gru from Despicable Me type build
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 05:05 PM
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WDYT I think you’re wrong. Simply put, actions speak louder than words and no one is exempt from this rule None of the shit a woman says to virtue signal matters at all if who she dates in reality isn’t reflective of what she says. “Height doesn’t matter” but has a pattern of fucking tall guys? “Doesn’t prefer ‘bad boys’” but exes are all supposedly shitty? Yeah no one’s buying that and they shouldn’t be expected to. “Height doesn’t matter” and she’s dated all over the spectrum of height? “Emoti…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 04:04 PM
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When I was skinnyfat and okay-looking i had encountered this a couple times
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 07:37 PM
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Yeah no kidding; my thoughts are that this will be a quick way to decide for myself who is and isn’t gonna be compatible enough to spend my time with Plus I agree sex that happens quicker than it should can fool one or both parties into thinking there’s an actual connection and that you two should be together, when it turns out there wasn’t any real bond outside of wanting to bone each other (as I’m quite certain you already know the hard way) but more importantly that I shouldn’t roll with the …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 07:28 PM
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Never forget a couple years ago I was texting with a girl and I made a sly innuendo/suggestion that if she’s chilling then I should chill with her Her response was so brazenly sexual in nature I damn near was like “Uh, excuse me?”
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 07:10 PM
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I’ve been thinking about doing this; telling girls, even if it seems unwarranted, that we are not having sex on the first date (and yes following through with that) Takes the pressure off me to make any big moves and may have an added benefit of image. Like “what’s he mean he doesn’t wanna fuck me immediately?” Honestly mostly for my own benefit; I probably need to change my pace if I want to find someone who might be an actual girlfriend. Hence I find I should just lay it out and refuse to let …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 07:09 PM
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a funny thing no one seems to talk about dating as a guy is this It’s funny how narrative seems to push the idea that men are rushing for sex and push for it too fast, and that women reluctantly agree to it Does that happen a lot? Oh yea for sure But it’s rarely mentioned being on the other side of things; just how many women out there will think you’re weird for not wanting to fuck them quickly, or how they will quite actively want you to fuck them, and could get turned off if you don’t put tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 06:41 PM
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I’d imagine your username gives a clue as to why
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 12:15 PM
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I don’t know who that is but I dig this sort of facial phenotype
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/24 12:13 PM
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I talked a bit ago about how whether or not being “funny” as a guy is overrated when it comes to girls or not Now on the flipside, how overrated/underrated/generally important do you think “nonchalance” and “mystery” are? (My guess is gonna be they’re overrated as hell and it kinda borders on cringe, but I could be wrong; it’s something I never think about in my interactions with the girlies)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 02:51 PM
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A “who can get laid first” contest of sorts on PPD is conceptually hilarious and sounds like the best things ever
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/24 11:15 AM
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Nice, is it like a standalone wrestling school of sorts or is it via a collegiate/scholastic program of sorts? Being an MMA guy myself I hate how little wrestling is available after high school if you’re not in college
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 03:57 PM
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I believe in leagues mostly because I mean in real life you see it play out all the time and anyone with eyes and room-reading ability can kind of “feel it” But the thing people don’t seem to get is that it’s a social aspect of sorts; a soft science without any real hard definitions, numbers, or data I tend to be of the belief that there’s “hot” “not hot”, “ugly”, and so on and so forth; combined with the belief they there are different types of good-looking which can each have different implica…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 12:32 AM
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Oh yeah that’s a big one right there Leagues exist for sure and everyone is in one, but good god the whole face rating this is just an undue level of analysis that sometimes has no bearing on actual life
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/24 12:13 AM
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True. And on that note just the idea of “humans like things, and people, that are attractive” seems to often be made into something it’s not in this space In reality it is that simple
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 11:56 PM
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Q4A: What dating dynamic, concept, or general talking point do you think is the most needlessly overcomplicated and spergified in this space?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 11:38 PM
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Don’t exactly know how but there’s the constant thoughts that maybe it’s just a result of stupidity or some sort of underlying general problem Also means lots of laughing for seemingly no reason which can look really strange
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/24 12:54 AM
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I swear being able to find most things funny, and laugh at stuff that isn’t funny, is somehow both the biggest blessing but also can be a curse in some way too
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/24 07:55 PM
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Finally got my new set of wheels after being a car-less bum for what might have been around two months (not exactly sure) Next stop is hopefully get myself a girlfriend through some magic or divine intervention l (Next time, on Dragon Ball Z…possibly not)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/24 01:47 PM
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No, I haven’t Not saying that’s how anyone should operate but it sure does throw a wrench in that notion that women are like completely unbothered being single or somethin’ of that sort
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 09:56 PM
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I used to follow that notion that women are okay single while men aren’t Seeing women who continue to choose to date men and be charmed by them, despite the experiences they have, told me otherwise
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 09:48 PM
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Just texted that one cheerleader chick I mentioned a while ago, who’s been caught eyeing me It’s strange that I was that nervous to shoot a DM because generally I’d say being nervous to even send a text is such weakness But alas, let’s go gambling! Update: Yeah I had zero reason to be nervous; I’ boutta go nutty
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 07:48 PM
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That’s a great idea, even if just so you have something funny you can laugh to yourself about later
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 07:39 PM
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The first scenario is strange but sounds to me like that money isn’t a big deal for that guy and it sound like some strange kink in their relationship more than anything The second would be a quick way to crush someone’s ego entirely. Getting cheated on while you’re paying her bills and letting her live in your house, is an entirely different level of betrayal. I could see even a level-headed dude crashing out over that That being said, what the fuck?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 11:13 PM
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Number three is no doubt the biggest killer, too People with the “Um akshually that won’t work because…” mindset just remain stuck; being a coach myself I see this play out time and time again
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 11:28 PM
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I’m someone who works with kids. And I love kids when they aren’t being little devils, and they love me (usually) As you can imagine I fucking hate this line of thinking. (Responded to the wrong comment earlier but I’m leaving it up anyway)
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 03:52 PM
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Okay yeah I will agree that their bios and prompts suck absolute ass (idk how much better/worse men’s are cuz I don’t ever see them) but as for the pics? Yeah it ain’t that hard to look appealingly provocative to the male gaze Abso-fuckingly do Your imperative I suppose. There’s just no actual way I’m gonna see a woman get on a dating app looking a certain and believe she’s not doing it for male attention in some fashion.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 02:25 PM
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appeal to the male gaze It’s not that hard to do; most female profiles that put in effort do appeal to the male gaze in some fashion state that none of their make up and dressing…. And you believe that? On a dating app no less?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 01:33 PM
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I’m someone who works with kids. Love kids when they aren’t being little devils, and they love me As you can imagine I fucking hate this line of thinking.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 08:33 AM
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Perhaps. I’ll have to see because my Hinge has been so dead recently it’s not even funny; I’ve sorta just left my account there in limbo, occasionally swiping with negative expectations What I’m guessing will happen is I post it on my Insta and it gets some attention or it absolutely blows up and everyone likes the post moreso than any of my previous ones I’ll have to figure out how to use those pics though; otherwise sorta in limbo rn
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 01:05 AM
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The funny thing about having glowed up possibly more than one time, is having to remind yourself that your earliest rejections/dating struggles don’t really count, and then the ones after that kinda count but don’t really, and then others that sort of count a little bit possibly not really, and so forth Side note, not really that related: I’m so excited for tomorrow because I have the lowest-effort “costume” ever but if I pull this off right this’ll be like the best thirst trap I ever made that …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 12:32 AM
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I honestly could never tell in my own case Most people I interact with a good bit consider me funny but thinking back I can’t tell how often that’s made women like me in comparison with them thinking I’m hot (especially including the times where a girl was into me and I wouldn’t notice it)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 05:45 PM
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You do make a good point. Being someone who laughs easily some of these chicks would have even me thinking “But I ain’t even say anything funny…”
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 04:26 PM
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Q4A: When it comes to being “funny” as a guy, would you say that it’s an overrated quality as it relates to dating prospects? Or underrated? Or neither Bonus Q4W: when do you guys say a guy crosses the line from being generally funny/humorous to being too goofy/immature?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 04:15 PM
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Exactly. “Yourself” comes in increments in any new relationship you make, logically speaking. It’s in a similar vein to how you don’t thrust your full “self” onto new friends right out of the gate either if you’re naturally afraid to flirt That’s another thing where I think one can condition themselves against that and it still doesn’t have to be “going against who they are” (there are some who definitely seem to frame self-improvement as the antithesis of “being oneself”). That being said one c…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 02:40 AM
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“Be yourself” is such a funny concept and such funny advice just because of how it’s somehow both sensible advice yet also an incredibly useless platitude. It’s funny as a whole concept because of the fact that “yourself” is a wholly multifaceted entity Of course it also makes sense as advice because like trying to hide too many facets of yourself forever, or make up facets of yourself that don’t exist, is just not going to work in any real way in the long running Both the detractors of said adv…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 01:49 AM
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Being a gym-obsessed athlete myself, I can say BMI fuckin’ sucks; doesn’t tell nearly enough of the story Similar case for specific numbers on scales; everyone holds weight differently if we’re talking from an aesthetic perspective. (Someone with a very short torso, yet long limbs speaking here; makes the way I carry weight real weird) Personally I’m not into girls who aren’t active and generally even a fat girl who goes to the gym wouldn’t exactly be my choice; chubby could be considered if the…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 03:07 PM
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Tough question, but one thing I’d love to see the results of is, what if men and women’s libidos were magically much closer and more even
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 01:01 PM
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If you somehow find anything interesting enough; go for it
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 01:36 AM
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I mean, to be fair there’s probably also folk saying they’re “average” and/or “good-looking” that are actually full of it or not telling the accurate truth
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 05:20 PM
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You know, something that’s almost always irrevocably cringe is when people proceed to say they can’t get dates/can’t get them to go anywhere and then proceed to list off all their stats/accomplishments and whatnot Yes. Being a statistical mogger (in terms of shit like looks, height, physique, lifestyle, etc.) is usually a HUGE help to how many dating prospects you can get But uh….listing off the fact that you’re 6’ and whatnot gives off no indication of how you talk to girls/guys, the energy you…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/24 04:38 PM
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Today starts the journey to get big big arms. Some say I’m big, but personally I’m not satisfied. Must absolutely mog. On another note, a girl where I work has been caught eyeing me and the fact that she’s both taller than me and a cheerleader is kinda cool; couldn’t have imagined that happening when I was in HS
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 07:28 PM
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Thanks, man. Can’t believe it’s already been four years with this account, like fuck….
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 12:03 PM
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Uhh Missä Muruseni On- Jenni Vartiainen Polka Face- Weird Al (usually his parodies are meh, but this song is actually a good mini-compilation) Country Girl- Luke Bryan
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/24 11:37 AM
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That one scene from Scream 3
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 04:08 PM
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I feel you on this. If I say I’m into a small subset of women people will probably automatically say that I’m a Stacy-chaser and thus that’s why I’m single But anyone who knows you and has seen the girls I be freaking out over, would disagree with the idea that I’m only chasing the absolute hottest But meanwhile behavioral and personality standards are the real killer; they probably make one’s pool even smaller than it would be if it were just about looks
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 04:07 PM
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Big mistake, taking the dating opinions seriously of those here will result in nothing good
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 04:04 PM
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It makes sense It’s something I try not to think about but my voice somehow being both raspy but also a really strange pitch has probably blocked me from a date or two before It’s in this weird spot where it wants to be a deep voice and kinda is but also can be squealy/higher pitched and nerdy-sounding, depending on the affect I have going at the moment
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 01:50 AM
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I agree wholeheartedly to that; I used to be someone who could get easily trapped into thinking I had to do things a certain way because of some arbitrary rule But I’ve learned how sometimes you just gotta do shit on the fly and it won’t necessarily be how you envisioned it and won’t always be ideal at first, but hey Realizing this recently with the fact that I’m probably gonna have to put a smaller down payment on my next car than I would’ve wanted to
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 02:59 PM
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If Reddit’s taught me anything, it’s that actually a lot of men aren’t wanting to have sex with their wives either and that DB’s definitely happen a lot more from the other side than you’d think
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 02:45 PM
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I’d be like “Nah” in my brain but the wiener would definitely be like “wait hold up, hear her out right quick” Nevertheless I’d probably pass on that
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/24 12:55 PM
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Generally I think I’d prefer “me love you lonnnnng time. Me want to do shakalakalakalakalakalakalakalakalaka boom boom with you”
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 10:23 PM
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Fair enough. Not that I feel a need to give them an answer, but it’s interesting in a “makes one think” way
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 06:13 PM
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Under some circumstances it is teasing Most of the time it seems like just an actual question
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 05:05 PM
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Ah so in other words my guess is more or less correct; moreso just asking ‘em out straight up
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 04:44 PM
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I hate to double dip on the daily thread, but I had to get this thought out. That being, how on earth do “serious” people flirt?Serious is probably the wrong word but I’m referring moreso to people who generally lack a sense of humor and/or don’t particularly enjoy making jokes. Like I sort of can’t even comprehend how they even do it. Do they just skip straight to asking the person out? On a related note: having unfunny sons and/or daughters must be one of the biggest disappointments a parent c…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 04:33 PM
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Was that an implication that you’re ugly? If so I will say in my case it’s not blatantly obvious because I’m not ugly This being said part of me does wonder how much looks does come into play for me specifically
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 04:23 PM
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Usually my response is something like “oh I dunno” or “Oh I just…don’t” But because I’m..me, the question makes me think a lil bit no less
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 04:14 PM
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One interesting thing about working with kids: getting asked why you don’t have a girlfriend/wife and not really knowing how to respond to that Frankly I don’t even know how to respond when other adults ask why; there’s like a billion potential reasons of which I can’t even pick out which are real and which ones aren’t
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/24 03:45 PM
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I mean like energy-wise and looks-wise, what the difference is between “this guy is a fuckboy” vs the guy just so happens to be good-looking
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 04:28 PM
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Q4W: So a while ago I was chatting a bit about “looking like a fuckboy” Now that I think about it though, how would you guys, er…girls separate a guy who gives off fuckboy aura as opposed to just happening to be a guy who’s good-looking? Men I guess you could feel free to answer what would make you look at a dude and assume he’s a Fuck ton
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/24 03:36 PM
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It’s kind of crazy to realize the reason you only sometimes attract the type you want is due to major errors both in your game and your selection process I mean i always figured it was something I was doing wrong, but it might be less about looks than I originally assumed; and that the selection process plus way I approach interactions also matters more of a hefty percentage than I imagined D’oh well, let’s hope this conclusion is correct and hope the change is effective
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 04:47 PM
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I’ll play it by ear but now that you mention it, I sort of wanna smash some Qdoba later or something adjacent
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 03:57 PM
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I mean yeah I mean “allowed to” in the sense that like Of course no one will physically stop you from doing so but more or less you’re not in the position for your complaints to actually be worth much of anything imo
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 12:11 PM
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Ah yes. The famed white girl; my type in which I kinda hate the fact that it’s my type
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 02:22 AM
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I say this but moreso you’re not allowed to complain about the dating issues you face in that case Like yep yep humans are shallow and kinda suck; it’s what it is
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 04:29 PM
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I can confidently say. Meeting someone who actually peaked in high school, and learning that it’s not just a movie stereotype, is actually the saddest thing ever Also I find that it’s funny how much this sub you’ll see lamentations about not experiencing teenage love or not having as much fun in your teen years But to me, high school was relatively shit compared to how life has improved since then. It hasn’t even been very long at all and I can say that I wouldn’t trade a single aspect of my lif…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 03:15 AM
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It’s usually one of the main determining factors of if they’re just approaching dating and dealing with the opposite sex in a logical way or need something to hold against women as a whole If anyone says that shit then argues “nuh-uh” when it comes to men, that’s how you know they’re full of shit
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 03:03 AM
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For me it’s like Sometimes it’s the mirror. Sometimes I got a particularly good pump in the gym, sometimes I’m particularly feeling myself after I put on my outfit and my cologne Other days I just wake up feeling like I’m him But then at its worst it’s truly “Why would you even put any woman through the misfortune of having to deal with you?”
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 07:23 PM
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