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SCROTES MADorangechickengeneral/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 06:53 PM
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MINDSET SHIFTorangechickengeneral/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/22 11:58 PM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYorangechickengeneral/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 07:15 PM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYorangechickengeneral/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 06:15 PM
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DISCUSSIONorangechickengeneral/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 02:23 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYorangechickengeneral/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 10:17 PM
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DISCUSSIONorangechickengeneral/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 01:49 AM
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STRATEGYorangechickengeneral/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 03:09 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYorangechickengeneral/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 03:29 AM
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STRATEGYorangechickengeneral/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 01:29 AM
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Muh PENISorangechickengeneral/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 02:22 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYorangechickengeneral/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 09:24 PM
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MOOD FOR LIFEorangechickengeneral/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 12:09 AM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYorangechickengeneral/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 12:29 AM
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his response is that he would have treated me better So he knew he wasn't good to you. Yet he continued to treat you poorly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/22 11:10 PM
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Do you have to pay to join the Discord? Don't see the link in the sidebar ...thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/22 12:58 AM
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I've found that a lot of men will try to teach me things It's pretty much them telling you "I believe all women are less intelligent than men. You are a woman, so even without getting to know you, I will assign you low intelligence as one of your traits, because I can't even imagine a world in which a woman would be smarter than me. Also, without asking you if you're interested, I will expect you to listen to me trying to teach you something, because I have no idea what consent is and I just ass…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 01:16 PM
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I sometimes think he sees me as a bon bon eating Miss Priss, and he will joke “endearingly“ about it. He is negging you. He wants you to feel like you have to prove yourself to him. Once you are in that state of mind, it is much easier to manipulate you to do whatever it is that he wants from you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 01:06 PM
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Every time a man compares himself to a woman, or competes with her, it is a very clear sign that he is insecure, petty, vindictive, and most likely is playing the long con to use you somehow. He is telling you verbatim he wants to climb socially. He will use any and all on his way there. Stay far, far away and don't keep him as a friend or confidant. Talk to him about the weather, or a TV show, or what you are making for dinner, whatever. Don't share anything personal, who you hang out with, and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/22 03:37 AM
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This is too funny 😂😂😂 I so wish I could be there to witness it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 04:22 AM
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Oh my gosh..yeah, that's a petulant m@nchild right there. Glad you're getting out!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 04:18 AM
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This is a rule of thumb, at least from my experience: every time a man attempts to compete with a woman, he turns out to be a petty, vengeful, pathetic loser. Have yet to see an exception to this. No man secure in himself and confident in his abilities will compete against a woman. Especially if he competes against his romantic interest. That's not only pathetic, that's borderline "let's start a collection for this guy to go to therapy, he desperately needs it and can't afford it on his own" sad…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/22 03:00 AM
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The male recruiter could not understand this and was pissed off at me It must be nice to be that oblivious to the discrimination that women face in the workplace and to just go straight into denial of it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 02:56 PM
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And of course the women worked harder than the men too That seems to be a universal theme in almost every workplace
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/22 02:53 PM
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I would caution anyone bold from telling a man to shut up. You will cut in a way that violence from someone who is seemingly cool is a total possibility. Yep. They just go straight to violence because someone didn't find their company interesting. Yet men call women eMoTioNal...Uh please. Look at yourself in the mirror, Tyler.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 01:38 AM
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I would've paid very good money to witness this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 01:29 AM
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He messes with her sleeping cap because her having the sleeping cap humanizes the woman. To this type of guy that's very inconvenient and disturbing to his worldview and value system. He only sees her as a machine/ object that produces something he wants/needs. When the machine expresses a human-like preference or need, his worldview suffers a massive blow. Now he can no longer treat the woman like a machine, instead he has to face the fact that she is ...human and has to stop the abuse and the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/22 12:46 AM
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This kind of behavior tells you several things about the man who engages in it: 1) He does not respect his intimate partner. He does not see her as an equal. I posted many moons ago about men announcing to other men they're about to engage in aggression or violence with them, because it's a sign of treating your adversary as your equal. Generally, men don't do that to women because they don't see women as their equals, so they catch them by surprise and cause that much more damage as a result. T…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/22 11:14 PM
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At this point I'd legally, emotionally, and physically separate from this type of mother and would want absolutely nothing to do with her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/22 12:27 AM
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Most likely he is interested in someone else in that group and wants to make that other person jealous or make himself look more desirable to them. I am betting on him being interested in another woman and using you as a way to raise his value in her eyes or to make her jealous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/22 06:12 AM
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It's a "damned if you do, damned if you don't" rule that seems to apply to all women. If she spoke calmly about the abuse, they'd say "It must not be that bad, look at her, she's in full control of her emotions! She's making it up!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 08:30 PM
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Nice and clean. Love it! How did he react?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 04:34 AM
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Please tell more about these fits, what was it that got them so upset about you walking away? What did they want you to do instead?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 04:32 AM
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Re: eating the food that your date has made and in general, eating food made by other people. I highly recommend NOT eating the food that was made by other people UNLESS you are 100% sure it is safe to eat. There are waaaaay too many people who do nasty stuff like not wash the dishes properly, or keep food uncovered and let flies get in it, or they lick the spatula to taste the food and put it back inside the dish. Ew. And some people, as I found out, let their cats sleep inside their mixing bow…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/22 03:13 AM
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She’s only asking for lost wages and he’s still mad Because he doesn't value her. He doesn't care nor even think about what a female body has to go through in pregnancy and childbirth because he doesn't see women in general as people, with their own lives, agencies, plans, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/22 09:59 PM
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they called her dramatic. I hope they burn in hell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 03:29 AM
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Seasons and lunar cycles affect us more than men will allow us to talk about because woo-woo. Because then we will figure them out and their ill intentions and will learn how and when to protect ourselves from them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/22 03:27 AM
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You can always say " I do X hobby but I don't teach X hobby" in your bio.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 09:12 PM
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You can always put in your OLD profile a line like this: "Many people ask me on here to teach them _uniquehobby. I have a profile on Wyzant (or some other tutoring website) where you can schedule a lesson with me if you'd like" Make sure you charge a decent price like $250- $300/ hour because your time is valuable. Those who really want to learn it from you will pay for a lesson, those who wanted to use your time and talent for free, will drop off. Either way, you win.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/22 06:44 PM
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The first step to break free from this awful relationship is to admit to herself that she married a selfish, unsympathetic toddler in the body of a grown man. Her denial is what keeps her in bondage. She will come up with highly elaborate explanations as to why this relationship is worthy of saving, she will play these petty games to "teach him a lesson" on how she wants to be treated, she will cOmmuNicAte until the cows come home, but ultimately, she will waste her one and only life on someone …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 06:09 PM
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of course it is!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/22 04:08 PM
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A guy friend and I played Scrabble in a language that was foreign to me and native to him. I was about 6 pts behind him when he beat me. He was SO pleased with himself and bragged about it all evening long. We were very close friends. I had no idea that he was that insecure and that threatened by me until that moment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 08:47 PM
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Honestly this explains why the world is the way it is, especially in places where m3n are in charge.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 08:43 PM
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If someone double my age, with a brilliant career behind him, both lawyer and university professor, can feel this bad about a woman showing knowledge he doesn't have Tells you just how much he is not sure of his own self and how much he is terrified of women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 08:40 PM
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Yes! Please do a separate post on it and we will all share our collective wisdom and stories there. Hopefully we will warn each other and share enough tips and strategies to protect ourselves from it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 08:15 PM
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ok I've heard the expression "penis envy" but I never knew there's "vagina envy"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 08:14 PM
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BWAHHHAHAHAHAHA thank you for the laugh!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 08:13 PM
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she’s hardworking and smart ....and formidable as a result
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 08:12 PM
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intentionally stays fights w me before exams Straight out of Lundy Bancroft's Why Does He Do That?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/22 08:06 PM
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Well...yes, and also some of the most conniving, dangerous narcissists can be very active in their communities as well. One that I personally know is a really awful person and a creep. On top of his full-time job, he volunteers at his city's coalition for the homeless. There are almost monthly interviews with him about his work for the coalition, his face is on the website, his social media is brimming with photos from fundraisers for the cause, etc. You'd think he's a wonderful, amazing person …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/22 07:50 PM
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Make all of this known publicly. Document it all and email him and others about it. If you do nothing now, he will take it as a sign of your compliance and as permission to steamroll over you in the future. Get others on board and let his words be known widely. Do this smartly and think three steps ahead as he will try to retaliate. Mention it in your communications too - "I am concerned about possible future retaliation for speaking out".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 06:07 PM
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I am so sorry. He sounds like a textbook future family annihilator. Please be safe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/22 05:12 PM
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I'd be shot on or after the first date haha Isn't it terrifying that you and I, and many other women have accepted the fact that dying is a very plausible possibility when going on a date with a man, especially if it's a cop?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 11:18 PM
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one of the careers with the highest rate of domestic violence, right along with military or fire fighters. Add to that clergy and religious ministers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 11:12 PM
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Sounds like a page from Why Does He Do That? Glad you got out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 04:17 AM
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Because for such men, it is not about love, or romance, or attachment, or affinity for another person. It is about power and control.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/22 02:50 AM
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Because you view men as people. You understand that they are not "things" but humans and treat them as such. He, and other men similar to him, view women as objects. So it doesn't matter what age she was or what the rest of her life will be like if he confesses his feelings to her now. He sees her as a sexual/ romantic object to use and abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 11:55 PM
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this story warms my heart
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 11:11 PM
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That caught my eye as well. He is not a reliable narrator so I don't believe these numbers. I bet you a hundred bucks that she was under 18 when he got together with her. He just didn't want the accusations of grooming and p3d0philia.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/22 11:08 PM
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Exhibit A: Moby and his elaborate story about dating Natalie Portman 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/22 11:03 PM
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Very scary. Entitled and resentful, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/22 10:39 AM
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oh he's fully convinced women don't flock to him in droves only because of his looks: link to his Insta comment, scroll down until you see his username
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 02:26 PM
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RRW ??? Relations Race Wheels? Rockabilly Rebel Weekend? Royal Regiment of Wales? Please define abbreviations if you use them in text :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/22 04:51 AM
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Men like that view women as an appliance for cooking, cleaning, having sex with, emotional support, etc. When the "appliance" is grieving, it is no longer fulfilling its duties as expected and therefore the "owner" of the "appliance" gets mad. Short answer, they don't see us as humans, with our own lives, emotions, and feelings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/22 07:06 PM
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Sherry Argov talks about it in Why Men Love Bitches
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/22 08:09 AM
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“Women have very little idea of how much men hate them.” Germaine Greer
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 11:20 PM
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They do all this work and manipulation, thinking that's how they get you hooked and in love, while in reality, all they needed to do was just...be kind, be considerate, don't be manipulative, you know?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/22 11:10 PM
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Men love, admire, look up to, respect, cherish, and hold in highest regard other men, not women. That's why they clamor for each other's attention and that's why they build these hierarchies with other men. One can only hope that one magnificent day men will decide to become completely transparent and open about it and will stop abusing women and children as a result.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/22 10:57 PM
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And if she agrees to date me she's dumb and deserves it haha This is exactly why we shouldn't date below our league. He will resent you for getting with someone like him and will think you're dumb for giving him a chance. He will look down on you. And he will "retaliate" and "punish" you for all of the above by either cheating on you, abusing you, or leaving you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/22 02:57 AM
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A complete lack of introspection and self-reflection, too. "I am wonderful, handsome, smart, strong, and every woman wants me! It is impossible for a woman to leave me for reasons other than finding a new man. Because there is NO way there might be something wrong with me" 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/22 02:47 AM
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He wanted us to keep going until those issues arose (career change, moving, differences in beliefs. etc) Men who do this, practice an attitude the opposite of "I am an adult and I will proactively, responsibly, and strategically shape my future". Instead they believe "Mommy will save the day when that day comes". 😂 Aww little buddy, maybe you shouldn't date or marry but instead, hire a babysitter, and pay them well. Everyone will be much happier as a result.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/22 03:14 AM
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Enter Sheila Wray Gregoire and her newest book
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/22 09:02 PM
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Did you make a typo? Did you mean to put $100? Because $10 is an awfully low amount for what you're offering.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/22 02:33 AM
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That's why self-reflection and time alone with your thoughts is so important and that's why abusers will go to extreme lengths to keep you from it. They don't want you to have a moment to breathe, calm down, and realize that you are being abused. That's why some men convince their partners to have a baby, or two, or seven, even when the money is tight or there are other obstacles in the way. They want you to be too busy to think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/22 09:09 PM
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Nah. I just walk away from the relationship at that point. I have better things to do with my life and there are better men to spend my time with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/22 04:19 PM
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We will never know
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 03:21 AM
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They don't see us as people. They don't see us as fellow humans with their own agency.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 03:21 AM
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Yes. This is true. I know at least a dozen men who moved on after their wife's or partner's death at the speed of light. Quite often they start dating someone new while the wife is still alive but very sick. Someone in my hometown who was married for 40+ years, got remarried within 1 year after his wife's passing. He presents himself as a pillar of the community, has a very reputable job and career and is active in his house of worship. Now his FB bio says "So happy to be in love with New wife's…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 02:36 AM
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I dispelled that notion from him very quick 🤣 I like you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/22 02:21 AM
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“Women have very little idea of how much men hate them" - Germaine Greer
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/22 01:05 AM
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Does your mother not live in the same world the rest of us live in, where men r4pe, m0rder, torture, and assault women every day in astonishing numbers? I want to live in her fantasy world just for one day, it sure sounds nice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 02:35 PM
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You are under-reacting. He has shown you in the past that he is willing to use violence to threaten you. Don't sit around waiting until he moves on to a new target or loses interest in you. He will escalate, you just don't know how or when. If I were you, I would contact a local domestic violence shelter and ask for advice there on how to navigate this safely and to get him to leave you alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/22 04:16 AM
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who has never tried eggs their way This indicates a much deeper issue of how men view women's agency and personhood. The majority of women, if told that a person doesn't like or can't eat X Y Z food, would nod sympathetically, empathize, and move on. They won't force-feed the person, they don't try to change their mind, they don't sneak the X Y Z food into something else to disguise it (and potentially cause serious health issues for the unsuspecting person). With men, it's like a personal chall…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 02:11 AM
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And the trend continued. Meat every time. That was your loud and clear sign that he would not treat you well in the future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/22 02:02 AM
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please tell me you are no longer in contact with him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 12:24 AM
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wow what a m*n baby
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 12:23 AM
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FDSHandbook material This needs to be widely known. Men value their ego above another person's health, life, safety, dignity, autonomy, and so on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/22 12:14 AM
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Yeah yeah this is hilarious but you know what's even better? Walking away from such relationships and not looking back. Here's why: My time on this planet is very limited. I can be: 1) happily single 2) happily in a relationship with an adequate, mature, and fully capable man who knows how to take care of stuff. If these are my options, why waste my time on educating, teaching, training, and ultimately patronizing a man who is actually a child on the inside? I ain't got time for that. And neithe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 03:16 AM
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Love the Solvency Sisters one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 07:30 PM
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a great name for a Frank Sinatra/ Dean Martin cover band that only performs at nursing homes for accountants
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 07:29 PM
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inferiority complex and become fearful of him Because he will hurt others and will not go to therapy or work on himself until it is too late.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 03:46 AM
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Whatttt? I had to re-read this thrice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 12:48 AM
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If he defends another abuser or creep without even knowing them, guess what, he himself is one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 12:48 AM
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Well at least he's confirming something we've all been feeling - men think of us as objects, not as people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 12:44 AM
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He keeps a very detailed calendar of events, both work-related and personal. Too detailed, to the point where it becomes clear he's keeping track of events and people involved to do something with that information. One such record-keeper would go into hours-long debates about things he said or didn't say, did or didn't do, and used his calendar to prove his point. These "debates" were mentally and emotionally exhausting and it was honestly easier to just agree with him and say you're sorry. It d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 11:30 PM
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They have a deep, deep subconscious NEED to defy women to exert their autonomy. Misogyny so deeply internalized that he doesn't even know it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 11:03 PM
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Whenever a man starts competing against a woman, it is a very clear giveaway sign that he is a petty, insecure, vindictive loser. Haven't met one who wasn't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 11:02 PM
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But any knowledge I had about random topics? He'd doubt, scoff, disbelieve and pretend to be curious simply to interrogate me for an hour on it until, once again, I regretting saying anything about things I was passionate about. that's some next-level soul-killing and life-sucking manipulation right there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 11:00 PM
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I've had a similar experience. He derived SO much joy and pleasure from providing for me, even if he himself had very little to begin with. It made me realize he was doing it simply because it made him happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 12:58 AM
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If you run for President, you have my vote
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 03:24 AM
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Nothing will change until men will begin calling out other men on their hatred for women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 01:42 AM
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because they don't see us as people. we're objects to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 09:01 PM
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If he's not defending you to his parents, that means he's perfectly content with them mistreating you. This might be harsh, but I would start thinking of an exit strategy now, before you convince yourself "it's not that bad", and "all couples have problems". Personal example - I was dating a guy from a very traditionalist, fundamentalist culture where women have very strict roles, including cleaning and cooking 24/7. He knew I wasn't going to do that. If and when his family tried to shame me abo…
/r/askFDS05/12/21 08:53 PM
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The police are shocking. Yes, it's hilarious that you had to use a protective device against your own husband, har-de-har 🙄 About 40% of all police are likely to be domestic abusers. "In 1991, sociologist Leonor Johnson presented to the U.S. House of Representatives Select Committee on Children, Youth and Families, suggesting that 360,000 of the then 900,000 law enforcement officers in the U.S. were likely perpetrating acts of abuse. After a Los Angeles Police Department officer murdered his wif…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 07:57 PM
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Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft, a free PDF book
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 07:29 PM
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They hate us for settling with someone like them This needs to be in the Handbook. There is no amount of love and kindness you can extend to a man who is below your league to make him stop hating you for settling for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 11:20 PM
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“MeN neVeR gEt CoMpLimEnTs” Perhaps they don't get compliments because they don't take it as that - a compliment and instead become creepy and obsessive of the woman who gave the compliment?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 11:11 PM
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Press F to pay respects for the adult man who is still not familiar with very basic human anatomy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 02:11 PM
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well said
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 06:26 PM
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What a bait and switch. So he's supportive of your job and career UNTIL the kids come. He's "really wonderful" UNTIL he got you trapped in a marriage and with kids, and then the gloves come off. Doesn't it make this whole dating/ courtship stage one big ruse? If he proclaims to be a Catholic, where's the love, kindness, and all other virtues that his religion is supposed to be all about?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 06:26 PM
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💖 love your generous and caring spirit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 07:55 PM
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I've been (and still am) treated very well by many of the guys that I've dated in my lifetime. If and when someone comments on it and tries to chastise me by saying "Look at you thinking you're all that", "Someone got too big for her britches", "That poor guy must be p*ssy-whipped", I always respond with this: "I'm sorry you don't love yourself enough to let others spoil you". People get real quiet after that 🤣.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 07:53 PM
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You are worthy of being treated well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 07:29 PM
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When he says "I've never felt this kind of love before. This is totally different and so deep. Now my life is split in two parts, before I met you, and after". He has used this line on many, many other women before you. Smile, nod, and walk towards the exit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 03:54 AM
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Totally random but I would gladly hire someone like you to stay at my place while the maintenance workers were there. I'd pay good money, too, for you to do your usual routine with the gear and everything. What a peace of mind it would bring me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 07:05 PM
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because he doesn't see his wife as a real person with her own agency, thoughts, preferences, and boundaries. She's an object to be consumed by him and others. "So what another man did something gross to my object? She's just an object! She doesn't have feelings! But I get to share this story online and get a good laugh out of it."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 06:54 PM
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they don't see us as real people. We're objects to use and consume.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 06:52 PM
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Has anyone else noticed the general sentiment that the woman in this story is not treated like a real person by either man? The maintenance worker objectifies her for her underwear. The husband laughs off the incident like a little shared joke between him and other men, and even the maintenance worker. Meanwhile the woman, the only victim in this story, remains defenseless and pretty much tossed around like a toy for all to play with?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 06:51 PM
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The height part. Recently I was chatting with a rather short and skinny guy who mentioned that his wife is shorter than him and is thin and petite. The underlying sentiment was that he deliberately chose a girl of this body composition/ type to marry. It wasn't her personality, her soul, or her mind, that he fell in love with. Okay. Then just two sentences later he said that the two of them go to a martial arts class together and how upset he is that she can easily hurt him if she wants to. He w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 05:47 PM
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Paul Child, the husband of Julia Child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 02:16 AM
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This is what I don’t understand amongst single men. When they are truly interested and vested in a relationship or even the possibility of one, they have all the money in the world to spend on the woman that they want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 09:15 PM
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I wonder if men who do this in front of women ever do the same gesture in front of other men, especially those bigger and stronger than them...Hmmm...I bet you $100, they don't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 10:05 PM
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I've seen this happen before. Men use a woman's trauma to score bonding points with another woman or just for shit and giggles. Makes you wonder if they think of us as human beings with feelings or merely as pawns and objects.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 03:44 AM
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They don't see us as human beings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 05:48 AM
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Sometimes I wonder, do they ever realize how pathetic it is that they can't get someone go on a date with them other than by torturing a person who can't tell them "buzz off"?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 05:47 AM
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I used to mentor people at my old job, all of my own volition and in my own time with no accolades or recognition from the bosses. Most women from my program did wonderful things with the knowledge and experience I shared with them in the program. About half of the men tried to turn the mentoring into something romantic or sexual Or they tried to blame me for their failures at work. Or they began to resent me for teaching them things that helped them to become more successful because it meant th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 05:32 AM
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For excellent safety tips for women, please check out Cathy Pedrayes on Instagram
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 01:56 AM
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How are we “withholding” something like sex or love that we do NOT owe in the first place? Enter patriarchal/ Complementarian Christianity, where women "owe" sex to men and have very little wiggle room to say no. Even if you don't want to, even if you are in pain, or on your period, you're supposed to find ways to "give release" to your spouse. Otherwise, he will turn to p0rnnn or lusting after other women, and it will be all your fault! You turned down a godly man and now he has no choice but t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 12:18 AM
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They know when to be oblivious and when to be super attentive. They know. They just don't care enough or respect us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 11:46 PM
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The American Psychological Association just issued an official apology for perpetuating systemic racism, which does not negate or remedy the decades worth of damage done to vast multitudes of people...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 11:44 PM
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🫂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 11:35 PM
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Crabs in a bucket. They will continue pulling down those who want to get out of the bucket and live a better life. Reading your comments was like a drink of fresh water because I've experienced some of the things you talked about, but never had the words for it. Thank you for the writeup. If you ever decide to post your comments as an individual post as a strategy post, I and many others would appreciate it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 03:23 AM
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He is gay, I'm pretty sure. All of the women are beards. His one true love is Lukas Haas, they say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 03:06 AM
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He clearly knows he is trash and that he is not good enough for her, so to make himself feel better about it, he tries to paint her in a bad light and to "take her down a notch". We see right through it. We see the negging and the mysoginy, the hostility and the passive aggression disguised as a cutesy, playful, "funny" remark. I hope one day Katherine wakes up and realizes it as well. She deserves so much better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 09:54 PM
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Toxic Christianity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 09:48 PM
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What makes me sad the most about all of this is that relationships like this are encouraged by certain churches and are seen as the standard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 02:46 PM
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Yes that was a very low blow to not mention his son AND to compare the health of one child to another. He is garbage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 02:45 PM
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oh how nice it must be to be "getting help" and soliciting sympathy instead of admitting you are a POS who doesn't see women as people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 04:01 PM
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Most of us have probably experienced it in our place of work. Men ignore us when we are speaking during a meeting, they pretend not to see our emails, they avoid doing their part of the job if the instructions come from us, and so on. What is the FDS way of addressing it and creating a productive work environment where we are taken seriously and listened to? Please share your stories and advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 03:13 AM
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I wouldn't do this in writing because she might show it to him and he will run wild with it, twisting and turning every word into a lie. Have seen it happen. In fact, the guy was so conniving and manipulative that he sensed that the friend might send a letter to his girlfriend and warned her about it. So when the letter came, the girlfriend got angry and even told the friend who was trying to save her, "Jim told me you might write me a letter to try to break us up! Get a life! Leave us alone!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 01:03 AM
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What in victim-blaming hell is this? So it is her own fault he bamboozles her, uses her, deceives her, misleads her, and ultimately discards her?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 04:59 AM
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The silver lining in all of this is that a man who is this this bad in one area of his life, will eventually reveal himself to be horrible in other areas. Essentially, the butthurt business partner just showed you that his pipi runs his life instead of his brain, which makes for an unreliable + unprofessional +unsteady business partner = waste of your time. You dodged a bullet, really. There is nothing that you could have done to prevent this. Also, where one door opens, another one soon will op…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 01:42 AM
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Peggy and Joan from Mad Men. Peggy even more so after the "Suitcase" episode.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 01:34 AM
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Funnily, after Me Too blew up, the high-level director avoided me like the plague his true colors came out, how funny!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 01:29 AM
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Yep. Really drives home the point that he doesn't see you as a human but as an object to serve his desires and needs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 10:36 PM
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I call it out. People get mad, but they learn not to do that bullshit with me in the future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/21 10:35 PM
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His mom was in the FBI and his parents are wealthy..I just don't feel so sure it was his remains.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 09:17 PM
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This is nauseating. They really don't see us as individuals but as bodies to use while we're young and pretty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 05:37 PM
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🫂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 02:44 AM
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He should have asked you if you'd like that or not.
/r/askFDS10/10/21 01:39 AM
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Being in a relationship with an insecure man is one of the most life-sucking things to ever do. He will compare himself to other men, women, and even to you. He will seek never-ending validation and stroking of his ego. And even if you play your assigned role and do encourage, support, and validate him, he will eventually resent you for being with a loser (himself) and will begin to abuse you. There's no amount of love and kindness from a woman that can fix an insecure man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 02:21 AM
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He eventually got very publicly fired You can't just leave us hanging 😜 what happened?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 02:35 AM
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Should've told him to give an extra full day of pay 👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 03:50 AM
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he still talks shit about me Girl you hit a nerve there :) three years later, and he still can't get over it. What a loser. Out of curiosity, what cartoon was it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 10:19 PM
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You are absolutely correct, because it could have been any of us. And also because he does not look or act like your typical wife beater/ abuser/ murderer/ criminal. He maintained a very carefully curated image of himself online and didn't give an impression of being dangerous or evil. Therefore, this story is a wakeup call for all of us women to take a hard look at the men in our lives and wonder - am I in a relationship with a future Brian Laundrie?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 07:46 PM
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Misery loves, and needs, company.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 05:09 AM
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Do they ever go "well in that case let's go to your house for coffee!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 04:45 AM
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Okay maybe it's because I'm in a good mood right now but I kind of sort of hoped that he genuinely didn't know that coffee is not a proper date. And that after your explanation, he'd get his act together. But it actually got worse! I hope you didn't give him your real phone number.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 04:44 AM
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F-ck politeness. I deeply relate to the socialization of talking with strangers and carrying on a conversation because not to do so would be rude. But that's exactly what gets us assaulted, burgled, r_ped, kidnapped, and murd3red. This one time I was cleaning my boots outside on my porch when a nice-looking man was walking by. He started a bit of small talk with me and I thought nothing of it. We had a pleasant conversation and then he left. He returned a few days later, knocked on my door fully…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 04:31 AM
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I found him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 03:30 AM
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When you say, "I know women like her", what do you mean by that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 03:31 AM
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Really enjoyed the podcast but the dog barking in the background was really distracting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 02:42 AM
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A Power Mood on Instagram Career, salary, resume, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 02:34 AM
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1) Check your car regularly for any location trackers, "bugs", recording devices, etc. Also for malfunctions that could have been orchestrated by your abuser. Find a mechanic that you can trust and have your car checked regularly by them, without your abuser's knowledge. My friend goes to a female mechanic that goes absolutely above and beyond for her clients. 2) For your own safety, sometimes pretend not to be as smart as you actually are. Blame it on being tired, or not getting enough sleep la…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 02:01 AM
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there's literally a sub called eyebleach and it is full of cute animals and such. I frequent it for this very purpose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 03:01 AM
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I am proud of you. You are a good mom!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 04:06 AM
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“Women have very little idea of how much m-n h4te them” Germaine Greer
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 05:00 AM
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WTF!!!! Report him if you can. Maybe anonymously?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 04:41 AM
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Case in point: Darius Rucker. He himself used to say that he couldn't believe his own luck in having Beth Leonard as his wife, and that he'd be gone for 2-3 months at a time and she wouldn't bat an eye. Praised her for encouraging him to pursue country music after Hootie and Blowfish, and that she believed in him like nobody else. In 2020 he filed for divorce after 20 years of marriage and 2 kids together. There's multiple rumors going around about his extensive cheating while married.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 02:44 AM
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come to the FDS chat
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 03:06 AM
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what the hell. Was she having some sort of sick fantasy about humiliating and hurting you? She sounds like a terrible person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 03:05 AM
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Ahhh Kelly Clarkson, I so wish the FDS collectively warned her about her husband before this whole mess took place!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 02:53 AM
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You are not reading too much into it. There are too many innuendos in that song. Also, have you ever noticed the expression in his eyes that is there most of the time? Completely flat and cold. I've seen the same look on several men who turned out to be dangerous and violent. Just a complete lack of empathy or "life" in their eyes. I can't watch videos with him, otherwise I have this irresistible urge to run very, very far away from him. He is undeniably talented and has a great singing voice, b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 02:52 AM
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From my experience, every time a man says derogatory or belittling things about a woman's career, 10/10 times he is a petty, small, vengeful, pathetic person not worthy of an ounce of attention or time. It's like a rule of thumb.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 02:43 AM
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You deserve only the best, remember that. And the best IS out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 02:38 AM
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And this is why women don't go to the p*lice when they are abused. Exactly why.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/21 02:30 AM
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My friend "Michelle" used to have quite a few guy friends. All were platonic, all have known her for many years. Some of them she'd even call her best male friends. Then she got married and had daughters. Within the span of 5-10 years, at least 7 of them did something inappropriate to her daughters. Even the ones she considered "good" and "he'd never do that".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/21 04:20 PM
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If you gathered all women of the world and showed them a petite man, how many of us would comment something like that? I am guessing, 0.0000000000000000000000000000000000001 percent, if not less. Makes you wonder, just how many men are walking among us that harbor such violent desires and tendencies, while counting themselves as the "good" guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/21 09:29 PM
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right on!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 05:25 PM
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The "you make me want to be a better person" is a very clear sign that the man 1) knows he is not a good person, 2) understands your value and worth and that you deserve someone better than him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 06:09 PM
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I read this post on the original sub and I walked away scratching my head, thinking - HOW do you get attracted to a man like that? What is so appealing about a guy who doesn't have a steady job but "has a dream career that he can't afford right now"? To me, it screams immaturity and irresponsibility = childish, and since I'm not attracted to children, why in the world would I want to get with a guy like that? Even if he looked like Chris Evans, I still would find that extremely unattractive in a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/21 02:53 AM
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It is not safe to leave female children for playdates or anything at a man's house, even if he has daughters himself. Terrible things can happen there and you won't even know it. Ask me how I know🤬.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 07:29 AM
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You can feel his envy and insecurity seep through every line of this monologue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 11:22 PM
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Yes, and instead of humoring them and answering their questions, I simply walk away now. "I have to go" or "Have a nice day, bye" or "I have to be somewhere now" and a "See you" is perfectly sufficient. This is the first red flag of many, many red flags to come from men like this. Spare yourself the time and energy and choose not to engage. A guy who is genuinely interested in you and wants to be liked by you, will make the exchange pleasant instead of turning it into a negging interrogation. I'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 11:10 PM
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I've been saying this for years. He's gay, gay, gay, gay!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 06:16 PM
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He was adorable when he was young, circa Titanic. Then something happened and he just turned average-looking. I think many people are nostalgic about his looks when he was young and don't realize he has changed a lot since.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 06:14 PM
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He is not worth a millisecond of your time. You are too cool for him. So, what do you do to survive the time that you have together while at work? You "Grey rock" him. Become as boring as plain as possible. Don't entertain him. Pretend you suddenly have some important phone call to make. Bring headphones and listen to an audiobook or a podcast. If he tries to get your attention, ask if this is for work. If not, say "I'm sorry I'm in the middle of something" and get back to your headphones. He is…
/r/askFDS18/08/21 05:24 AM
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Sex doesn't reform bad people !!!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 02:43 AM
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And remember the moment where Rhett was scolding Scarlett for letting her hands get chapped because she worked and picked cotton? Treating her like an object, like she didn't own her body and was only there to be a pretty thing for him to consume🤢. Both Ashley and Rhett make me want to vomit. I don't understand the hype over both of these characters. They were terrible men with very few redeeming qualities. It is befuddling that they are presented as lovable, sexy, interesting, desirable men tha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 06:16 AM
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Someone should do a post like you describe, in the same sub, "for science", and then do a line-by- line comparison of the responses.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/21 05:25 AM
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And we are the more emotional gender who doesn't deserve more responsibility and better pay because we have periods and thus are uncontrollably emotional once a month.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/21 03:53 PM
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Oprah was a failure cause she wasn’t married 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 thank you for the laugh, I needed that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 08:05 PM
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Good grief! Tell me you are insecure and terrified of women succeeding in life and work without telling me you're insecure and terrified of women succeeding in life and work
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/21 07:48 PM
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Broke up with a guy whose name was something like "Otis James Clarke IV". Couldn't stand the pressure to name our possible child after a line of men I've never met nor had any reverence for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 06:21 PM
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You're a legend! We need more details. How were you able to charge him money? Did he retaliate in any way? Did you feel safe living with him after this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/21 02:02 AM
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https://www.scarymommy.com/weaponized-incompetence-household-tasks/?utm_source=FB
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 07:15 PM
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This man was sharing how he doesn't believe in taking care of his health "bEcAuse wE aLl wIlL diE oNe dAy" (red flag No 1) but that his neighbor's hairstylist's former boyfriend's mechanic's twice-removed cousin uncle dad recommended he sees this male doctor who is a medical prodigy, so the man listened and made an appointment. Whilst totally ignoring multiple pleas from the women in his family to start taking care of himself and to please have at least an annual checkup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 06:57 PM
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how did you find his reddit?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 06:34 PM
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Translation: "Technically, I didn't ask you out, so don't expect me to act like we are on a date, and if I see someone I like more, I'm going with them. Too bad for you, you knew what you signed up for."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 06:33 PM
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Makes me think of that scene in Casino Royale where James Bond set Vesper's name as his password.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 03:13 AM
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"But at least he doesn't hit me!" 🤦🏾
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 03:11 AM
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Ooh I want to learn more about the content creator, could you share the link?
/r/askFDS06/08/21 03:18 PM
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And that's a short summary of how Joe reasoned his way around getting together with and later murd3r1ng Beck in "You" on Netflix.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/21 05:47 AM
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Ohh I missed that. Oopsies! I thought the mask was so that you wouldnt have to control your facial expressions so much around the creep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 04:29 AM
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I just wear a mask regardless of the mandate and tell them my grandfather is an elderly, immunocompromised man (it's true) whom I see often and don't want to get him sick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 04:03 AM
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he had the nerve to touch my back If/ when it happens to me, I do something really awkward to embarrass the offender, like say really loud "Ouch! Was there something on my back? Is it a bug or something?" or "accidentally" step on their foot as I fake a really startled reaction and take a step back. The goal is to make the offender see that you won't just comply and take it, but that you WILL react and not the way he wants you to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 04:01 AM
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🫂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 08:55 PM
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AKA the Purity Culture in a nutshell. "Have sex with your husband at all times, even when you don't want to, otherwise he will turn to p*rn, and it will all be your fault!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 01:14 AM
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JB is an abusive POS. That's all I need to know about him and his music.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/21 01:08 AM
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They don't see us as complete human beings. Has even one of these men ever sent a message like they sent to you, to another man? I highly doubt it. They respect other men and their preferences, even if it's a stranger. Meanwhile, they expect complete compliance and submission from unknown women that THEY need something from.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 11:20 PM
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One of my male school teachers used to say that phrase often. Boys were the ones who took it to heart and practiced it, of course, while most girls have been socialized into the complete opposite - asking permission even when not necessary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 11:14 PM
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Each time you doubt yourself when setting your standards or expectations in a relationship, ask yourself, would a man agree to this treatment, would he be happy in a relationship like that? Men walk away when their expectations and needs aren't met ​instead of pleading, convincing, cajoling, and everything else that we women do. It is time we do the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 05:13 AM
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Just commenting to say, sorry for your many losses 🫂🫂🫂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 03:47 AM
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I don't tell anyone (well maybe my immediate family but under an oath lol) when I change jobs until I've been at that new job for 3-4 months. Same for big purchases and other important positive things happening in my life. I know they're your friends but you just don't know what is in every person's heart. Years ago I had to move to another state for work because I just couldn't make it financially where I was. I had to sell many of my possessions to be able to do that, so money was very tight. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 03:44 AM
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Yes. And since it is men who have the most money and resources in the movie-making world, they get to dictate the narratives and themes that will be shown on the screen. That's why we have decades worth of TV shows and movies where the man is glaringly NVM but his love interest is a HVM who isn't bothered by any of his terrible actions and falls madly in love with him 😟. Since it is normalized on TV, people accept it as a normal model of behavior in real life eventually. That's why books and mov…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 03:37 AM
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My theory is that y-t women are conditioned to be "nice" and to get along, not to make waves, etc. In return they get protection and patronage from y-t men. WOC don't always play by these rules so to punish them, y-t men will humiliate and embarrass them at every occasion. It is like WOC are free game for them because they opt out of their system. It is maddening and infuriating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 03:29 AM
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My wife and I were both in the car, laughing, and after not getting the reaction he wanted he rolled up his window and ignored US (still laughing) until the light changed and he sped off. Muahhhhhhahahaha! Well done! he only would have had to keep up his performance for like 30 more seconds. that's what she said but he never delivered...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/21 07:10 PM
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Exactly! Thank you for this post. LVM and NVM derive pleasure and entertainment from causing pain, suffering, and embarrassment to women. Part of the "fun" is seeing the woman react when they do that to her. When we refuse to give them a reaction, especially the one they're hoping to get (anger, fear, pain, embarrassment, humiliation, etc.) and instead either 1) laugh at them, 2) do not acknowledge them, we make their "game" less exciting and perhaps even pointless. Nobody likes to be ignored or…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 07:57 PM
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It bothers me, too. Even when it's simply a coffee mug with boobs or a butt on it and it's supposed to be "creative" or "ironic", it makes me shudder. It is not right. It normalizes objectifying women even MORE than we already are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 05:35 AM
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I am so happy for you! May the Universe send you nothing but peace and sunshine!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/21 05:21 AM
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WTF
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 03:02 AM
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Ryan Reynolds also reminds me of someone I know in real life. They even look alike, except the man that I know, "John" has different color hair and eyes. But! Both married women younger than themselves. Both post "roasting" photos online. Both give off a very strong "I am a picture of perfection and awesomeness in public and I am a total monster behind closed doors" vibe. This one time I was in John's company. It was a pretty serious meeting and he was in charge of it. There were probably 20-25 …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 04:06 PM
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I read your comment last night and have been thinking about it ever since.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 03:58 AM
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Omg I also picked up on the psychopath vibe from him! He makes me think of Chris Watts for some reason, the dude who murdered his wife and his kids and was not remorseful about it in the slightest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 03:42 AM
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Very insightful and SO true!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 03:34 AM
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Just what u/HereForTheFreeFoodOk said in her brilliant comment yesterday!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/21 03:32 AM
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Nice way to make YOUR pain and hurt that he inflicted, all about himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 04:00 PM
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If that ever happens again ( a former crush tells a potential date that you two used to have something going on) DENY, DENY, DENY like your life depends on it. Potential deflective responses: "Oh you know "John", he always comes up with these stories that make no sense" insert absolutely sincere laughter here, "Aww he remembers things differently from how I remember them...that's so cute that he thought I had a crush on him, that poor guy", "Lol that's absolutely adorable, can you even picture u…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 04:57 AM
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DM me when you find out :) please.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 04:47 AM
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Do men NOT call other men out on their bullshit because they are hierarchial? They are so obsessed with maintaining the order of the hierarchy - constantly propping up the leader.... constantly simping for the approval of other men? The few men who do call out the misogyny and the sexism in the workplace, are either super quiet or they don't exist. The men who simp for the approval of other men in the workplace and look the other way when the abuse against women takes place, most likely do not s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 04:32 AM
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Do tell more, how is it done?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/21 04:12 AM
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The part about music is some next level pettiness and hate. I LOVE music, it is so special to me and it is a big part of my life. I can't imagine reprogramming myself out of hatred and spite to dislike something that I truly love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 04:45 AM
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He was planning your murder and probably would make it look like an accident. Not a single person comes to my mind who I know is the benefactor of a life insurance policy who pressured their partner into getting one WITHOUT some nefarious motive behind it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 04:41 AM
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It is not about the money, it is about keeping her under his thumb, subservient and completely dependent on him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 02:42 AM
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If a guy messes around with your food, especially if you have special food preferences/ allergies/ intolerance, it's a clear sign he doesn't view you as a real person with their own needs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 02:41 AM
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That's so humiliating...I am sorry! You deserve SO much better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 02:25 AM
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a man that jokes about hurting me or hating something about me is never joking Never. Someone, please put this in the handbook for everyone to see and learn before it is too late.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 02:24 AM
177

A university cop raped a recent graduate and it all was swept under the rug. It happened about seven years ago and as far as I know, there was no serious punishment for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 05:01 AM
241

And then men say that women INTENTIONALLY do not go into STEM,or any other male-dominated industry, or that they're not smart enough, or not working hard enough to handle the demands of working in STEM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 04:31 AM
669

My school took the rapist's side and told the victim she brought it upon herself. The girl went from a cheerful, happy young woman to a depressed, empty shell of a human being after the sexual assault. Hearing the school administration say her life and her dignity didn't matter, brought her down even more. I am grateful she didn't follow through with the suicide even though she was very close to it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 04:28 AM
23

See how much men and the society at large have changed the norms and standards, to make women agree to less and less in a relationship? What this guy is doing for his girl should be the norm. I've seen this happen in real life and I wish more women got to experience it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/21 03:42 AM
43

How do you access your blocked messages?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 02:08 PM
40

👏👏👏 please make this an individual post. I've seen this a lot in the workplace as well. Men have no effing idea how much physical pain almost every woman goes through in her lifetime, all none of her choosing but simply because she was born a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 08:39 PM
20

Right on! 👏👏👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 03:04 PM
145

In another interview she said their conflict resolution strategy is to just have more sex 🤔 so nothing gets resolved or even addressed, but her husband gets an orgasm. How convenient for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 02:42 PM
236

Ashley Graham (the model) said in one of her interviews that her husband keeps her on her toes by asking this very question. I don't know what the rest of their relationship is like but I can't believe someone would ask a super successful woman this question without nefarious intentions to "keep her in her place". I think he is jealous of her success. So he works hard at bringing down her self-esteem to make sure she stays humbled and with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 02:24 PM
36

I've been saying this in my earlier comments, women are akin to appliances in their mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 03:07 AM
80

And women are the ones who are "too emotional" and "can't control themselves"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 03:04 AM
33

Oh this makes me irate. Absolutely irate. This should not have happened to you or any other child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 02:44 AM
53

That's a very quick "Hell no, have a nice life, hope I never see you again" if a man asks me to prove myself to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 10:00 PM
21

The book is available for free online in PDF format btw.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 09:55 PM
1

r/eyebleach
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/21 02:32 AM
1

Link to the TED talk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 12:29 AM
10

One of the things that he does is he steals Black women's work and presents it as his own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/21 05:05 AM
32

You are not alone. It is definitely a common thread in many families that I know. The women who confronted, called out, and fought against the abuse and the bullshit, were either ignored, gaslit, or even rebuked by other women in their families to "keep the peace". They get labeled "black sheep", they are told to mind their own business, they get disowned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 10:46 PM
5

There have been way too many stories on the news lately, even in my own state, about women getting hurt after breaking up with their romantic partners. Is there any way you could say what you have to say to him through a text? Meeting someone like that in person to deliver the bad news could be very dangerous. Especially in light of your comment that he doesn't value your experience or opinion. Does he have a key to your house/apartment? Maybe it is time to change the locks before the big talk. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 04:04 AM
37

https://www.tiktok.com/@your.big.sis.emi/video/6974898587004177670
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 10:17 PM
2

No. I dated people who made less than me and I regretted it every single time. I felt like I had to apologize for my success to make him feel better. I got told how to spend MY money. I got yelled at when I had to stay late at work. It doesn't work. Every single time the guy felt threatened and emasculated and punished me for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 01:51 AM
31

You know you won in this situation because he had no constructive, cohesive rebuttal or counteroffer to your speech about his properties. His comment about your relationship status is nothing but a neg. It is petty, small, and to be honest, hilarious, because here's a grown man who can't even defend his own work and has nothing better to say than attack his potential client's personal life. Congratulations, you stood up for your opinion, your vision, and your future 👏👏👏. Meanwhile, he made himse…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 09:09 PM
3

Definitely get a prenup. Also, when you have a second, check out @lawyerkelly on Instagram, she speaks about prenups all the time and it is very good info.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 03:39 AM
19

Yep! Case in point, Brit Marling: https://castingfrontier.com/brit-marling-of-the-oa-on-auditioning-in-los-angeles-and-creating-her-own-material/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 02:34 AM
80

It is pure psychological warfare, you are absolutely right. Since the movie industry is run mostly by men, they have the resources and the power to keep producing these movies that glorify/ exalt the men and degrade the women. The audience watches these movies and accepts these values and types of relationship as something to desire and model, so it becomes the cultural norm to act that way. After all, in the movie, the unattractive, uninteresting, socially awkward, emotionally deaf and mute pro…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 01:26 AM
10

I want to print this out and hand it to every woman on this planet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 10:27 PM
15

Take their license plates and call in " a drunk driver heading in X direction, almost hit a pedestrian and didn't even stop"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 10:27 PM
165

She strikes me as someone with childhood trauma who is seeking safety in a relationship with an older person. I look at her and see the pain in her eyes, even when she's smiling and happy. She doesn't present herself as a person who had a healthy, good, loving family when she was growing up. I want to give her a big hug.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 05:16 PM
90

They just don't see us as people. Or they see us as second-class humanoid objects that have absolutely no right to have dietary restrictions or preferences, but have the obligation to provide sex, emotional support, housekeeping duties, child bearing and rearing, take care of them when they're sick, etc. They just don't see us as equals or as complete human beings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 05:46 PM
14

Wtf!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 02:34 AM
20

Wow. The need to control, humiliate, and humble women who aren't even related or connected to them some way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 02:32 AM
14

If she was 15 or 16 she's still a minor and not a "woman"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 08:04 PM
11

He is such a loser
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 04:27 AM
2

This is so scary. I am so sorry that you went through that. How did you get away?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 04:21 AM
15

They are toxic. Why waste time defending yourself when you could be surrounded by people who support your lifestyle and goals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 03:44 PM
35

Straight men don't do sleepovers or go on trips with women they don't want to have sex with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 02:16 AM
110

Mods, please put this in the handbook somewhere in the beginning. I would've saved so much time and energy had I known this before starting to date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/21 11:13 PM
25

Yep like in that story with coconut oil that a JustNoMIL used on a child with a severe allergy to it, despite being asked and warned multiple times by the child's parents. The child died as a result.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/06/21 12:43 AM
7

When I go to my cousin's house, her little boys often play video games while I am there, and they always ask me to watch them play the video games. All of these comments in this thread were a grown up man is asking his girlfriend or wife to watch him engage in a hobby whether it is video games or something else, brings me flashbacks to my cousin's living room. Are all of these men in these stories 7 years old?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 01:05 AM
10

He knew that he was marrying a person with loans. He made a decision to help that person to pay off the loans. I get this funny feeling that he married someone who is not fully financially free so that he could have greater control over them and to be able to abuse them more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 08:55 PM
14

Keep the information about your money, how much you pay in taxes, what property you have, how much you spend monthly on things, to yourself. The more you share, the more it can be used against you, whether by a romantic partner, a friend, an employer, or a family member.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 12:59 AM
9

I would feel very uncomfortable dating someone like that. I totally get that skydiving is fun, exciting, and thrilling. But also, it's very risky and dangerous, and at such frequency, especially dangerous (it's a simple numbers game). If I were the girlfriend in this situation, I would have to mentally and emotionally prepare myself every weekend to potentially receive that phone call (skydiving going wrong and my boyfriend getting hurt or even dying as a result). There's plenty of stress and dr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 11:09 PM
6

That's a no for me. As other people have commented on here, he is still involved in an industry that objectifies, exploits, and hurts women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 06:14 PM
139

Oh my gosh yes. Recently I was rewatching Friends and one of the things that jumped at me was how often and how persistently Joey and Chandler sexualized Monica, Phoebe, and Rachel. In the show, it is laughed about like "har har men only see women as sex objects, har har how funny!" How is this okay? The show is supposedly about these great friendships between guys and gals, but it is not. It is about guys pretending to be a friend until an opportune moment strikes and they can get sex from thei…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 09:35 PM
13

and this is why we live in the world that we live in!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 04:00 AM
27

Straight outta Sherry Argov's book: "A perfect example is my soft-spoken Japanese friend Masae. She’s been living in the United States for less than a year, and she speaks broken English with a Japanese accent. Nevertheless, she’s a wonderful example of the grace and quiet strength that I’m describing. Masae was seeing an American man named Steven for some time. It was his birthday, so she decided to cook him a Japanese feast. She made miso soup, several types of sushi, and two authentic hot mai…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 03:48 AM
5

He gives off a prick vibe and always did even when he was younger
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 07:05 AM
2

I'd love to see this as a new discussion post on this sub. This is a very important topic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 05:12 AM
70

Women being independent, women having money and resources, women living good lives that they built themselves are all a disturbance to the current system.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 11:39 PM
82

Centuries of men having the majority of the wealth, property, and social status to afford the extra space, and women having none or very little of it. They are shocked that a woman alone has the power to do what usually only men or women married to a man can do. You are a major threat and disturbance to the system, just for wanting to do what men have been doing for centuries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 11:37 PM
13

How interesting! So he does have the full right to be upset when you turn him down and he can seek retaliation through the HR, but you have no right to just exist in the workplace harassment-free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 07:12 PM
13

👏👏👏⚡⚡⚡ more of the nice nasty lines please! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 09:00 PM
12

Omg the revving engine! I get it at least once a month, mostly from dudes on trucks or motorcycles (with no helmet on, of course). Like dude you look pathetic when you rev that engine at me 😂. Automatically I think 1) you are insecure 2) you hate the environment. It's not sexy or attractive, it makes me laugh at you. You might as well put a clown mask on if you do that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 05:38 AM
15

Whoever is the British FDS podcaster, you are HILARIOUS and your commentary is so witty and clever! Please more of you in the show!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 12:40 AM
12

Can you please make this an individual post? More people need to see it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 06:13 PM
5

I would love to see more comments like this turned into one big post where women share the truth of how they they've been mistreated by the justice system and how it is men who get preferential treatment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 01:41 AM
5

Exactly!!! I don't know if the correct term is reverse gaslighting? Where you gaslight yourself into believing your own deception and a distorted understanding of reality? Either way, your comment is spot on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 12:14 AM
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Story time! I sort of began practicing this philosophy a while ago to deal with the unwanted male attention when out in public. I was at a store with my friend and we were looking at something on the shelf, completely consumed by the thing. We weren't even talking, just studying the object in front of us. This older guy walked by us twice, looking us up and down and not getting a reaction out of us. He was huffing and puffing and making all these noises trying to make us look at him, while we ge…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 11:43 PM
27

They don't see us as people. We are objects to use and abuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 01:22 AM
17

Men like him see women as property. He got mad at you for disobedience like he would get mad at a dresser for having a jammed drawer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 01:21 AM
56

I saw that tiktok too! Is it the one where she points at her spouse? I assume? And says as long as it's a man with a job, it's all good, and that you're not a princess, your daddy lied to you, don't believe that you deserve a special fairy tale, etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 12:55 AM
89

and then they expect every girlfriend they get after that incident to play therapist and to atone for that junior high girl's transgressions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 02:43 AM
177

on today's episode of, "women are not fully people and they all owe me sex"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 02:40 AM
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that's pretty much it. I lurked in that thread for a while until I had enough. They all remember every minor rejection or lack of attention from women from 20+ years ago. I so wish that whole sub got to live life as a woman just for one day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 02:39 AM
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Yes I read that thread as well and was in complete shock at what I was reading. She told you that you smell like Cheetos 30 years ago at a school dance and you have been angry at all women ever since? Gosh darn, Jeremy, I was pushed and shoved against a wall when a guy asked me for the time and I said I didn't know!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 02:37 AM
13

he only dates really young women. I have this theory that 1) it helps to maintain his image as a desirable, cool sex symbol. 2) the young women that he "dates" get to enjoy some spotlight and fame from dating a big celebrity 3) it is easier to get a "dating contract" with a young woman and to manipulate her (such as, don't go and spill the beans on some TV show, kiss me like this for a photo op, etc) bc she doesn't have as much life experience/ wisdom yet. Older women might have bigger demands o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 01:55 AM
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and it would be good if the police were aware of this pattern the police themselves are some of the worst offenders when it comes to domestic violence link to the article, something tells me they already know or pretend that they don't since they themselves are guilty of such age-gap relationships that become murder :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 08:02 PM
14

he is gay. totally gay. the young women are a cover. Still not okay, but I don't get that kind of vibe from him (serial killer).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 07:56 PM
6

Happy happy birthday 🥳💐🎊🎉🪗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 07:09 PM
19

There was an MTV segment about him back in the early 2000s where he admitted on camera that even though he had a girlfriend at that time, he liked to invite other girls to his house when she was out of town. He was smiling like a Cheshire cat when saying that. Of course he knows what other men are like since he himself is just like it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 04:01 PM
34

Yet another reason not to settle for someone below your league. They won't appreciate the gesture and will think now they are all that and a bag of chips.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/21 12:01 AM
26

He meant, run my basement
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 03:44 PM
41

You are probably right, brainwashed or abused. I don't know her story but unfortunately, historically women have not been given a lot of resources and information to be able to live freely. We are not given the support of the society that we need, such as equal access to jobs, childcare that doesn't eat half of your paycheck, fair pay at work, medical care that doesn't make getting an abortion as easy as going to the Moon, having doctors who BELIEVE us when we bring up a health concern, etc. Loo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 05:19 AM
6

There was a discussion on FB about a pedo guy who got arrested locally. He got 10 years or something. There were multiple men commenting on the FB post saying the girls that he r*ped should get half of the 10 years since "they knew what they were doing". They were dead serious and not being facetious or trolling. Completely convinced that a 13-year old deliberately would seduce a grown man. I had to log out of FB for the rest of the effing week.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 05:02 AM
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Why is stuff like this being normalized? If someone told me that's what marriage is like, I would immediately decide to never get married. I get it, she is trying to sound cute and adorable but to me it's just incredibly sad that a grown woman agreed to do this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 04:54 AM
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They are depraved and proud of it. I think it's really lame.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 06:34 PM
30

🧸 many bear hugs for you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 05:11 PM
44

Aka the history of the world, men abusing women and telling them to be quiet about it, to forget it, to minimize it, to tolerate it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 05:02 PM
5

"Yep, I take things and people that mean a lot to me, seriously. Don't you?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 04:41 AM
2

We need more people like you in every company and every office. I love that you are all about uplifting other women and ensuring they can get into higher positions. Re: a post about lessons learned in the workplace - yes please!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 10:08 PM
13

Yep this one time I dyed my hair a very bright color after having my natural hair color since I was born. Oh, the outrage that I got from men! I got called a slut, a brat, selfish, "too full of yourself", "too cool for a normal guy", "are you doing drugs now?", "my friends would tease me if they saw us together", "you squandered away your natural beauty", etc. It was very disheartening and made me realize that in their eyes my value was directly related to my looks. Apparently, I wasn't allowed …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 03:12 AM
2

ok this is really interesting. Could you elaborate on this, please? What can be done to prevent the yeast from forming? What can be done to prevent the oiliness?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 03:02 AM
2

Thank you so much, this was very helpful. I am taking detailed notes and I hope to be able to do what you're doing. If you want to start a column with work smarts like this, I'd read the daylights out of it! This kind of intel is hard to find and nobody talks about it in the open, at least where I live. Has it been your experience that your supervisors or peers label you a b-word for doing all of this? How do you handle it? Do people ostracize you at work for sticking up to your boundaries? Than…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 12:49 AM
5

You are my inspiration! I want to be like you in the workplace. Question. How would you handle this request to do extra work if your original job description had the line "and handle other duties as needed"? So technically it requires you to do extra stuff without extra pay😕. I'd love to hear your take on this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 04:11 AM
2

"Should have done your job right the first time, then you wouldn't have to redo it"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 04:02 AM
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What a turn of phrase 🤣🤣 I love the way you put it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 02:31 AM
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Girl I went on a date with this guy and he brought his dog along. The dog decided I'm her new best friend and stayed on my lap the entire time. The guy said, verbatim: "I am jealous, she never does that with me" and kept giving me angry looks. Wtf??? I can't control your dog! It is your dog!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 01:28 AM
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Each time a guy tries to compete with a woman or to compare himself to one, that's a dead giveaway he is petty, jealous, insecure, and not worth associating with. I have yet to meet a guy who turned out to be good after doing any of these two behaviors. Every. Single. Time. The guy who saw women as competition or a threat, he turned out to be trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 01:22 AM
74

You deserve better
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 01:06 AM
102

Men keep score all the time. They don't want us to do that because they know it won't be in their favor and we will leave/ demand better treatment/ begin to do less for them. Of course they would promote this worldview.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 11:37 PM
2

A piece of advice I received to help with this is to build a rock-solid career and contacts beyond your current workplace so that if you do get penalized you have other avenues to pursue and succeed in. Such as, going to various conferences in your field of work and making new contacts there, joining a union, signing up for classes in your specialty and meeting people there. That way you have options and don't have to people-please as much at your current job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 05:15 PM
1

👏👏👏 well said!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 03:07 PM
4

ugly inside and outside
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 03:01 AM
3

ooooh misplaced anger. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 02:51 AM
7

why were they all bowing down to this man? what is the logic here? is there a national shortage of men, or what? So if you find one, you protect him like Fort Knox and assume every woman on this planet wants him, or something? I am so confused by this entire dynamic in that "friend" group.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 02:50 AM
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ALWAYS GIVE MEN LESS THAN WHAT THEY ASKED FOR AND THEY WILL WORK TWICE AS HARD TO GET IT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 02:18 AM
1

I had to stop talking to one of my male cousins who went to the same college as me. It hurt a lot and I wondered if I did the right thing, but when he pulled yet another one of his tricks on me, I knew that friendship was over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 01:23 AM
2

how did you discover it? what happened?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 01:07 AM
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When a man feels like he needs to "take down a notch" a woman you know it's a special breed of cowardice, pettiness, and insecurity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 09:26 PM
21

Aaand that's how you develop feelings of abandonment and broken/ anxious/ insecure attachment in your kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 07:50 PM
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Suddenly he was offended and started to say all these negative things about me So it was never just a joke. It was his true thoughts and feelings disguised as a "joke".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 07:48 PM
33

and then they repeated your jokes to their friends and made it look like they came up with the joke
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 06:15 PM
20

Hashtag Ed from 90 Day Fiance 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 04:40 AM
5

Straight from Lundy Bancroft's book on abusers titled "Why Does He Do That?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 04:35 AM
5

I am sorry this happened to you. That's some bullshit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 11:28 PM
23

U/whatismedicine I know a pickme woman in her late sixties who will NOT let her husband go to their high school reunions by himself. He is fine with her going by herself but she won't, fearing the backlash from other women. She won't let him go solo to the reunions bc she's terrified a woman will seduce him there and will "steal" him from her. What kind of security is that in a 40+ year relationship? They've been together since they were teens. I just can't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 11:25 PM
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I like your attitude!! And I want to hear more of such stories and how you reacted to the people freaking out on you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 04:04 PM
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Most definitely! The men and pickme women who treat single and childfree women poorly are punishing them for escaping "the system" and living life on their own terms. Resentment, anger, envy, entitlement to the single women's time, energy, and bodies, are all there. We live in a world built by men, designed for men's comfort and pleasure. When women opt out of the "system", all hell breaks loose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 02:11 PM
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I love this so much. And it tells you so much about the men who don't ask any of those questions that you listed. What a brilliant idea. What other work fields are "safe" to list that could weed out the weirdos and the creeps?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 11:08 PM
9

to cuss coworker out and throw his drink in her face. and then he probably gaslit her into complete submission by saying something like "But I can't control myself around you, baby, you drive me absolutely wild, I am so in love, I can't think straight!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 11:03 PM
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"Women have very little idea of how much men hate them." Germaine Greer
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 08:53 PM
16

The services I'm talking about are free for anyone to access. Do you have any links, please?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 03:44 AM
45

Cringe...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 11:24 PM
28

Wow what a master manipulator. He orchestrated the situation perfectly: you can't make your preference/desires about the necklace known to him in case you don't like it because then he will paint you an ungrateful bitch. You can't share your true feelings with your mutual friends because by then they have been dragged into this, they've been seduced by the romantic story of a boyfriend getting a special gift for his girl, and won't take your side in this. So just with this one exchange between y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 11:21 PM
27

I want to give you gold but I don't have any
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 03:56 AM
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This broke my heart in so many ways. Sorry for your loss.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 03:56 AM
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When it comes to men, especially when you're a young attractive woman, giving them the benefit of the doubt is generally a bad idea. Remember, men don't "need your help" or just "want to ask what time it is", or "accidentally passed by you twice in a row". If you find yourself in a similar situation, immediately whip out your phone and start recording them, make noise, call for help, yell at them, etc. We are way past the kumbaya stage of playing nice and then getting assaulted or murdered in re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 09:28 PM
20

It doesn't escape me that he used this opportunity to assault you the night before your friend's wedding. He probably thought that even if you did wake up during the assault, you wouldn't want to make a big scene because you'd want to keep your friend's wedding stress-free/ happy and peaceful. He calculated it, it wasn't a spur of the moment thing. Whatt a piece of shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 02:24 AM
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I am so sorry this happened to you 😔. You deserved better. If it's okay to ask, what happened after the police came?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 02:21 AM
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You said it so eloquently and elegantly. I wish we could send your comment to her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 03:33 AM
4

Of course not
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 01:45 AM
1

Exactly!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 05:09 AM
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even if they were walking examples of perfect virtue and excellence in every way, he absolutely should not have compared you to them. That is like apples and oranges. Completely different relationship bonds and dynamics, completely different histories and reasons for entering the relationship in either case. Don't know why, but him comparing you, his wife, to his sisters and mother makes me want to vomit. Like dude, do you get in bed with them, too? Or do you expect your wife to mother you? Yike…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 02:51 AM
16

A woman went through something extremely traumatic and yet he found a way to make it all about himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 04:55 AM
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I hope so. There seems to be a very large group of women completely enamored with him who will forgive him anything short of murder (maybe even that).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 04:23 AM
20

He is a narc. I can't phrase it any differently. He is not a good man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 04:14 AM
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She looks and acts like an abused woman in this video. I wanted to reach through the screen and snatch her away from him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 04:13 AM
10

what was that final straw that helped you to decide to leave him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 04:03 AM
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Is there any way to install a plexiglass shield between you and them? And girl, I so hear you! Over the course of this pandemic I got so much crap for wearing my mask in public. Once a man said I am what's wrong with America because I had my mask on and leaned back when he was walking too close to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 03:58 AM
15

It's a toxic masculinity thing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 11:55 PM
55

If this happens again, start recording him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 11:46 PM
2

this is gold. Thank you! Definitely saving this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 05:28 PM
1

Well with the way the economy is right now as a result of the pandemic, it's becoming a dog-eat-dog world, isn't it. In pre-pandemic times, what has worked for me was meeting people through volunteering opportunities or through interest clubs and then finding ways to make the mentorship a win-win for both parties. That way people seem to be more motivated to help, I don't know. The pandemic has changed a lot in the workplace.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 05:20 PM
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Okay sorry I meant the third point, the one about work. How to do the minimum and still get recognition? How to cultivate quiet competence? How to survive in office politics, especially if it's an all-male office? Anything you're willing to share, I'd appreciate greatly. Thank you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 01:26 AM
12

Get a mentor, or several mentors, in school and at work. Having them will make a world of a difference. Especially if the mentors are genuinely interested in helping you succeed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 01:23 AM
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wow this is great! I would love a bigger post on your 5th point with more detail, if you're up for it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 01:13 AM
2

<3 I believe in you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 08:35 PM
2

That must be aggravating! Are you familiar with Dr. Ramani's work on Youtube? She might have some good information for you on how to navigate this, I don't know, just an idea. It makes me really sad when situations like yours happen, especially when other people don't see the evil, conniving ways of the perpetrator.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 05:32 PM
2

You might be dealing with a bona fide narcissist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 01:01 AM
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Lundy Bancroft :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 04:36 AM
49

They act like women should automatically want to be mothers and care for their children yep we are just walking incubators to them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 04:33 AM
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And ultimately they win because then we just stop asking for what we really wanted in the first place, knowing that 1) they will not care to remember to do what we asked for 2) they will do what you said, gaslight us and make us feel guilty/ crazy/ like we're talking to a wall. So after a couple of such interactions and us getting frustrated with them, men get to enjoy doing even less in the future than they were doing before!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 04:25 AM
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Very intentional, I agree
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 01:05 AM
5

That is absolutely insane. I am so sorry this happened to you. So this might not be an appropriate question to ask and feel free to say no. How did this all begin and were there any signs that he was planning to hurt you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 01:03 AM
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Someone needs to do a tricked out video for this song and set it as a theme song for the FDS website a la early 2000's MySpace.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 12:53 AM
20

Yep her outfit and headgear caught my eye, too! I was so confused, is she trying to look like a "bro dude" or like a "sexy mama", or what?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 12:50 AM
10

How nice! Yet another instance where men choose their own ego instead of a woman's LIFE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/21 12:34 AM
15

They catcall to belittle and intimidate. They are not doing it to get a romantic date. The point is to make you feel terrorized, annoyed, and like a piece of meat instead of human.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 02:08 AM
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Have you ever known a man for a long time (a family member, a friend, a co-worker, any non-romantic partner) who hurt you or someone else with no prior signs of it about to happen? What happened?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 02:14 AM
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I explicitly said ‘this will not be romantic.’ "You are a woman so your words have no power, that's why! Also, all women have shit for brains and they change their minds like every second, so why bother taking their words seriously?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 02:11 AM
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Every man shoots above his league Isn't it the truth! We should learn from men and not settle for anyone below our league, ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 12:29 AM
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Exactly. A man who is genuinely in love with a woman, won't have even a glimmer of such thoughts enter his mind. On the other hand, a man who wants to use and abuse a woman, is plotting and scheming all day long to do just that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 12:42 AM
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time to contact a domestic violence shelter. You are isolated and disabled, and he's using both to force himself on you. This is abuse. You might think abuse is when a person is hitting another person, but no, it can take many different forms. A women's shelter should be able to help you. Please know that we are all there for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 12:37 AM
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comparative suffering Excellent term to describe what's happening! I am so going to use it in the future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 01:43 AM
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This is evil and perverted. No if's or but's about it. Men who do this need to have this done to them to fully appreciate the "humor" and "fun" of it. I've been followed by a man before (multiple times) and it was one of the most terrifying, blood-chilling experiences ever. Added to that, this happened when I was in a foreign country where I looked very different from the locals and didn't speak the language well. I didn't feel like I could ask for help from the law enforcement or that they woul…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 02:35 AM
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Yeah I don't believe for a second that "He wasn't gonna do anything". Soon this little "game" that he has been playing will become less and less exciting, so he will seek new ways to attain the adrenaline and the dopamine, such as physical assault in any form, sexual assault, torture, murder, etc. He won't stop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 02:23 AM
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It is so sad. But I’m the one who is in the wrong and not following gods plan because I don’t want to have an authority figure. It's terrifying that all kinds of atrocities and crimes against women can be excused as long as they're done in the name of a diety
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 05:52 PM
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Girlfriend...wow. I don't know how you do it all. That's way too much pressure for one person. I don't know how to help and make it all better, but I see you, I hear you, and I support you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 06:48 PM
12

wow that's just embarrassing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 02:28 AM
14

I commend you for dealing with so much. You are one strong person. Big internet hugs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 02:27 AM
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"Women have very little idea of how much men hate them." Germaine Greer
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 02:00 AM
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Because having a personal preference, no matter how insignificant or small, is a sign of intelligent life, and they don't see us that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/21 10:36 PM
9

yet another reason why this sub is so important and powerful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 01:01 AM
2

look at those hips swinging! So much sass in every step. Thank you for the link.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 04:28 PM
1

wow! do you have a link by any chance?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 09:32 PM
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I hear you. I am a fully grown adult and yet I have learned SO much from this sub, but very little from my own mother. Same for my sisters and nieces. Very little intel on men and relationships was passed down by the older generation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 11:18 PM
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thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 02:15 AM
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whoa. Interesting observation! I need to learn more about cluster B personality disorders, do you have any pointers for me where to start?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 02:11 AM
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Unfortunately, quite a few women. I know several young women who are smart, kind, caring, take good care of themselves, etc, who settled for absolute losers because the felt like they wouldn't be able to do better. Both were in their mid-to-late twenties when they married. So not even on the older edge of the spectrum, that's how much brainwashing they were subjected to by their families and the society we live in! It makes me so mad. So much heartache and pain could have been avoided if the soc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 01:52 AM
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He is like Leonardo DiCaprio who wants the perpetual 25 year old girlfriend I totally agree with the observation about men wanting to be with a forever-young woman. Yet in the case of DiCaprio, do you also get the impression that he's gay? To me, his ever-changing girlfriend collection is a really long con to keep everyone convinced that he's straight. He just doesn't seem to be excited/ interested in any of his girlfriends. It looks like he's dating them out of necessity. Also there's a really …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 01:34 AM
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LOVE IT! Now do the rest of them, please?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 07:57 PM
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dry wit is usually my modus operandi, and for the longest time I could not understand why women would find me absolutely hilarious (sincerely and genuinely,from what I can gauge), while men would give me this puzzled look when I'd spit out a dry-witted commentary or a joke. It looked like their brains were malfunctioning/ screeching to a halt. No laughter, just a complete silence from the man and a very confused look + shocked stare. Your comment explained this mystery to me, thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 05:02 AM
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then two years later wrote an article basically summarizing what I’d said shit like this makes me very wary about sharing my expertise and knowledge with men that I don't know well/ trust enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 04:55 AM
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It's so weird that their reaction to female indifference is anger Yet another proof that they don't see us as fellow humans. We are not allowed to just be and exist. We are here solely for their purposes, pleasure, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 11:40 PM
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I would've paid good money to be there and watch this unfold
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 11:36 PM
5

Very interesting! The timelines are uncannily similar, that is very true!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 08:57 PM
12

Some of the little comments that he's been making about her and their kids just rub me the wrong way. For example when he called the kids "backbiters" or something along the lines, or that they shouldn't get "weird-ass names". I don't know, if I were to bag Amal AND got to have kids with her, I'd be absolutely thrilled to give them special, beautiful names that reflected our shared values and history, I would never want to call them "something not weird-ass". To me that just says contempt toward…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 03:55 AM
20

Have you seen the movie scene from Derailed (2005) where his character is raping someone? You can't convince me that Cassel wasn't turned on during the filming. The scene was way too convincing and terrifying. I know to appreciate good acting but this was something completely different. A man enjoying a disgusting, perverted fantasy while still getting paid to do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 03:49 AM
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i know it was "just a joke" It was not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 02:00 AM
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I would add to that, if you can, have a friend at home with you on Sunday but pretend you're not home, so that if he does try to break in or something, you will have this friend helping you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 11:16 PM
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So sorry for your loss. Hugs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 10:59 PM
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I don't understand the women who continue to have children with men like this. Because there is not enough safety nets installed in place for women to avoid such relationships, at least here in the US. Access to abortion is constantly diminishing in conservative states, plus there's the societal pressure to stay with your child's father, and look at how few men would want to date a woman with a child from a previous relationship? Very,very few as far as I know, and such women are labeled "damage…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 12:55 AM
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thank you!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 11:09 PM
4

greek boy bullshit What is Greek boy bullshit? Really curious because different cultures do things differently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 08:27 PM
14

They all knew but nobody stood up. Cowards
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 03:42 AM
7

Like side long sideways looks or small facial expressions of disgust. Do you have a link to these interviews? Would love to watch those so I can distinguish these looks better should I encounter them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 09:06 PM
7

And then men turn around and use these survival tactics against us when confronted about their abuse: "But she was loving every second of it! She was flirting with me the whole time! I know she wanted me!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 04:27 AM
4

In the US, at least, as long as you have a certain political party in power, this will continue till the end of time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 10:41 PM
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years and years of patriarchy and pickmeishas doing their work have made what you're seeing, possible. They don't even have to make the negs subtle anymore. It makes me sick that such a young guy already knows to do this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 01:25 AM
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Love was never part of the relationship. It's all about taking, using, and abusing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 09:57 PM
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because if he does, his buddy will get upset and his buddy's feelings and his dick getting wet are both more important than this woman wasting her life on a dead-end relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 01:50 AM
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he's not warning her or having a conversation with his buddy, so exactly. Things suit him just the way they are. He will do absolutely nothing to rectify the situation. This post is a celebration of his own self.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 01:43 AM
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remove yourself from the situation on the first sign of disrespect, it won’t get better. Isn't this the common denominator in all of these stories??? This should be in the handbook.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 01:55 AM
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wow that's a new low. You'd think, after encouraging you to date someone else, he really proved himself as someone totally not interested in you romantically and as someone who has your best interests at heart. What a liar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 06:58 AM
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I had a similar experience when I was younger. Older men at work treating me like their favorite coworker, shooting the breeze with me and making my day go by much faster, making me laugh, it was wonderful. Then one of them saw my boyfriend pick me up from work one day and then it all changed overnight. It's like I was dead to them from then on. So that "friendship" was fake from the start, it was a ruse and I was the only one who was totally oblivious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 06:41 AM
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That is absolutely insane to me! Conniving does not begin to describe it. Doesn't it make you wonder what else he hid from you this entire time? I am amazed at how he immediately sized you up as a potential victim that is worthy of pursuit. Calculated just the right steps to take to win you over and that you'd probably never get with him if you knew the real him/ his personal info available on social media.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 06:24 AM
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Get well soon :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 04:23 AM
6

When asked why he came by after I told him not to "If a girl says "no", it doesn't mean "no". In fact, her words, wishes, and requests mean nothing at all. She is here to serve my needs and interests, just like a piece of furniture or an appliance."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 08:25 PM
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It would be wonderful if they applied that resourcefulness and tenacity to something good and useful. if they do that, that's "simping", or "gay". Hurting others is masculine and macho and a sign of a true man!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 01:17 AM
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The damage is more important to them than the sex Exactly. The sense of power over a woman and the ability to hurt her are what gets them off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 01:15 AM
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I just can't understand how men like him can come to the conclusion that they fully deserve to continue having access to someone they hurt that much! On another note, I am so glad you shared your story on here. You just don't know who might read it and learn from it. I wish I read this when I was younger, that's for sure!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 05:35 AM
5

WOW. Just wow. You've been through the wringer with him, haven't you. What a loser he is. Good on you for standing up for yourself! Has he tried to contact you since then? Like most NVM do 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 09:33 PM
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I want to hear the backstory if you are in the mood for sharing...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 12:39 AM
13

How would I start with the re-parenting the inner child part? Are there books or other sources that you recommend?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 11:27 PM
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It is the old "ball and chain" trope. Maybe none of this truly happened or if it did, he presented himself as a victim in this relationship to garner sympathy/ attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 04:18 AM
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The comment about the Asian woman made me especially mad. Wow. Just wow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 07:39 AM
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this and many other videos of this kind feel very performative
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 05:27 AM
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The security guard who helped her deserves a medal! "Now, Correri and the security guard who intervened, Fantasia Atkinson, are asking for anyone who knows Fancher - and where he might be - to tell police."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/20 05:49 AM
1

Thank you!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 02:33 AM
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Have they labeled you as humorless or no fun to be around, or did they just leave you alone? Men can be pretty vengeful and petty, unfortunately.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 01:18 AM
2

take care of your network how does one do that? I'd love to hear it, from the very basics to advanced tips, please :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/20 01:01 AM
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And that is why we don't share our weaknesses or vulnerabilities with men. That's what therapy and friends are for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 12:27 AM
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I wonder about that, too. So Gen X is supposed to be self-sufficient and independence-loving and you'd think that is how they would raise their children. Reading this article link leads me to believe they raised the next generation of men to be focused on themselves, to seek instant gratification, and to not be concerned with the greater good of other people. I am reading more on the subject because I am genuinely curious, why we see so many man-children in the millenial generation, especially k…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 01:41 AM
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Spit was coming out of his mouth, he was so pissed Wow...were you the first woman to tell him "no"? That's so immature, petty, and honestly disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 01:18 AM
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as soon as I buy a house and bring her to live with me, she’s gone forever too 🤣 I am rooting for you in getting that house! May the house market be in your favor, may you find the most incredible terrific realtor, and may your neighbors be nothing but joy and peace.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 01:13 AM
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He probably did that to you because he saw how sincere and deep your friendship was towards him and he knew that his was fake to begin with. The feelings of guilt and shame weren't pleasant so he framed you as the one who distanced herself. I've seen this technique used before. I haven't even met the man but I feel so disgusted with him for this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 03:23 PM
5

Wow that's low. I would think, being a gay man he should realize that some of his best allies in the workplace are women and that if he stumbled upon one who was that willing to be his friend, he should really appreciate and cherish that friendship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/20 10:54 PM
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Do it for your own well-being. Years later when you're much older you'll regret not doing it earlier and subjecting yourself to the grossness for too long.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/20 08:49 AM
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I would, too. Better be safe than sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/20 12:36 AM
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If you decide to do a relationship advice blog or open a Q&A hotline for FDS-ers, please do let us all know! This is great intel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 05:36 AM
5

What is the black pill?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 05:16 AM
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Do tell! Any recent examples?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 05:24 AM
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If I ever worked for a sheriff's department and a man ever said this to me, I'd stick up my pinkie finger like you would a middle finger, and say in baby voice "Awwwww...small pipi...so insecure"...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 01:11 AM
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This is perfect and I am tucking this away for future use. It is so hard to respond in a situation like this without coming across as a b*tch or being a bad team player.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/20 01:06 AM
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This should be in the handbook, too. From my experience, "don't get raped" is framed as a tragic event that happens at the hands of a complete stranger, not someone we know (sometimes really well), are related to, love, admire, and respect. So we let our guard down around men that we are familiar with or are close to. While that's exactly where we need to be the most vigilant and alert.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/20 02:53 AM
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Then making anti-marriage jokes This reinforces the idea that every "joke" that they say is, in fact, what they truly think and believe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/20 08:04 PM
3

what did you teach him?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/20 01:25 AM
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Because it's all transactional to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 10:33 PM
10

He probably liked it that way. "Wife, do sex! Wife, do cooking! Wife, go clean! Wife, shut up!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 01:20 AM
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He was projecting. On the inside, he's been fantasizing about plotting against you or hurting you in some way -emotional, psychological, physical, etc. This freakout on his part didn't come out of nowhere. It seems outlandish to you and I, but to him it a complete logical sequence from his own hidden desires and thoughts. "I want to hurt you but I can't right now, but if I had the chance, I would. So you must wish for the same thing then."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 01:18 AM
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"My dad kept apologizing to the LV used car person for me lol. " This got me irrationally upset. You Dad totally treated you like a petulant child for whose behavior he's obliged to apologize, not like a grown adult who has her own opinions and preferences. He should have backed you up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 05:20 AM
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well done and good on you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 04:54 AM
5

a series of videos what series is it, if you don't mind sharing? I'd love to watch them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 02:59 AM
5

I believe you. This is sick and perverted. So wrong and so disheartening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 02:57 AM
1

One book I began reading is the Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office, you might check it out. It's not be strictly on the subject of drama from men in the workplace but it has some good advice in general.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 04:54 AM
3

I'm doing the same! I have a google docs folder started :) what else do you have in your saved posts on the subject of FDS-ing in the workplace? Would love to read more on this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 04:52 AM
2

I have to show my spine ALL day to men How do you do that? Do share, please.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 04:51 AM
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we get branded as "bitch" I was about to say that, too. I wish all of the women of the world would do a worldwide flash mob where every woman who stood up for herself in the workplace and got labeled a bitch, began wearing a huge pin or hat or something with the word "bitch" on it a la Madeline Alrbight. I'm referring to this story: https://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=113278807 This would make the word "bitch" a badge of honor instead of a moniker to be ashamed of and avoid get…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 04:41 AM
3

because the army actively encourages the harassment and exploitation of women This makes me sick to my stomach
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 04:33 AM
1

This is the content I hope to see more of. Women winning in the workplace and handling tricky situations with poise and strength. I would love to have a mentor like you who'd teach me things like this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 04:31 AM
1

or grab his dick 😮 you are officially the goddess of self defense and boundary setting. I'm taking notes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 04:13 AM
1

ah-mazing. good to know! how did he react?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 05:45 AM
1

wait what? what's the technique? both hands or one?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 05:22 AM
6

please DM me too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 11:47 PM
2

I just did. Thank you. Also sent you a chat message to thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 09:14 PM
2

This was incredible. I am going to save this and read and re-read this so I can absorb it really well into my mind.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 08:57 PM
3

Way more dangerous than you ever want to know How did you figure this out, if you don't mind sharing? I really want to learn how to discern potentially dangerous situations at work and if you could share your thinking algorithm in this case, I'd love to hear that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 03:12 AM
6

Julia Child. Her husband Paul supported her so much in her career. She once said about him, [Paul is] “the man who is always there—porter, dishwasher, official photographer, mushroom dicer and onion chopper, editor, fish illustrator, manager, taster, idea man, resident poet, and husband.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 03:03 AM
6

I found the audiobook on Telegram
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 01:08 AM
3

Nice! Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 01:07 AM
17

He later accused me of adding unnecessary tension to the situation How clever of him to flip the tables! Accuse you of something and make you feel guilty while he's the one at fault.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 01:02 AM
7

Wow. I definitely want to read more of this. Also, for those interested, there is a free audiobook floating around on the Internet of this book.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 12:45 AM
6

wow...that must hurt a lot. Good on you for leaving him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 05:00 AM
16

he started calling me "pig" and other sweet names Whattt? Not okay at all. How did he begin doing that? As a joke in the beginning to get you accustomed to it, or straight up as an insult?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 08:48 PM
15

Who is Jordan Peterson and what does he teach?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 12:46 AM
1

My messages are working, that's weird! And it looks like your original comment was removed...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 10:34 PM
2

Thank you! Haven't received anything yet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 10:07 PM
2

Sign me up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 09:37 PM
17

There was an episode on My Cat From Hell years ago about a really angry male cat. The owner (a man) was advised to neuter the cat to help with the anger issues, there was no training to do because the issues stemmed from the cat not being neutered, it was all a chemical interaction in the cat's body, not a behavior/training issue. The cat was violently scratching up people and furniture, it peed everywhere, it escaped at least once a week, it was a big mess. Well the owner guy fought to high hea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 10:16 PM
10

man commits literal rape and says he's sorry for it: "give him another chance, he can't be that bad. come on dude he said he's sorry" this is the true "duality of man" This should go into the handbook
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 09:56 PM
2

I know, I about fell out of my chair
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 08:34 PM
12

https://www.crimeonline.com/2019/08/22/cannibal-killer-butchers-ex-with-electric-saw-eats-her-heart-for-breaking-up-with-him-prosecutor/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 09:24 PM
35

Do a big post, pretty, please!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 04:13 AM
10

I just took a second to imagine, what would a man act like if he was genuinely interested in this date? He'd clear his schedule, or if it wasn't possible to get out of the golfing outing, he'd let you know way in advance and apologize profusely. He'd set up his Zoom several days before and test it to make sure it works. He'd clean and decorate his house to impress you, all ahead of time. He'd be well-rested, groomed, and ready to talk to you via Zoom at the set time. He'd be the one reminding yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 04:01 AM
47

I feel for your generation because it seems like it's a perpetual game of "who can care less more", by keeping everything ultra casual and non-committal, otherwise you come across as too serious and un-fun.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 03:22 AM
23

What did you learn? Do share the intel :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 03:08 AM
14

It intimidates insecure guys and losers. A confident, secure in himself guy will find all that you mentioned attractive. This has been my experience, at least. A guy who is secure will flaunt you and your multiple talents to others, a guy who's not, will be intimidated by you, will downplay your excellence, and will try to undermine/ belittle/ humiliate you to make himself feel better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 12:40 AM
46

not even my mom what?????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 12:02 AM
6

we need more people like yourself in science!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 03:13 AM
3

If/ when he does turn into a HVM, most likely he will look for a new woman he will now deserve for all this progress that he's made. And he will resent you for staying with a LVM, even if it was himself, and seeing him in his less than stellar stage. He won't want to be with a woman who remembers him at his lowest and can remind him of it. He will want to be with a fresh new face who knows nothing of his past.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 03:47 AM
3

Sounds like a wonderful life to me <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 03:32 AM
5

There's nothing stopping him from telling you before you get to the counter that the dinner is on him. This is deliberate. He doesn't want to pay for you so he designs your dates in a way where he doesn't look like a scrooge and at the same time doesn't spend money on you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 03:09 AM
3

Like "are you sure it works? Sometimes the real thing is the best thing." How rude!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 03:01 AM
7

I wish I had someone like you in my life when I was younger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 02:27 AM
8

I'd make light of it and laugh off their advances, along the lines of "oh you're so funny/ silly/ nonsensical, I have no time for this." This would force them to either own up and say "No I'm serious, let's go out" /finally ask you out directly (then you turn them down as you indicated you wanted to), or they'll retreat and play along, turning it into a joke. Either way should bring more clarity to you and to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 03:48 AM
7

I wish I could put this on a billboard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 01:31 AM
11

I sure hope none of the women in his life go through the nightmare of being assaulted or killed for rejecting a man. Maybe then he'll understand? Or he will still blame them for not carrying a gun around?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 01:30 AM
5

So true. Also, when we do all these "mothering" acts for men, doesn't it feel weird to be treating a grown man like a child? For me that kills any romance immediately. I can't be parenting a man and simultaneously be attracted to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 08:23 PM
101

what a piece of predatory garbage!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 02:06 AM
14

FDSKey
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 11:05 PM
7

You go girl! If you have any tips or advice on salary negotiating for women, I am all ears.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/20 02:29 AM
20

I am SO glad you got away! And I am sorry it happened to you, it must have been extremely traumatizing. I can't imagine how much it hurt to have your trust broken in such an awful way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 02:28 AM
9

This is really solid advice, thank you! Thank you for taking the time to go into so much detail. If you start your own women's mentorship group, sign me up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 05:24 AM
11

Some people found me disrespectful, but I found that if you do it in a charming way, people are more receptive to you that way. That's an interesting observation. Do you mind sharing some examples of how you did that? I think we women often have to walk a very thin line between speaking up our mind and being perceived as "too aggressive" at the office. It's something I have been long fascinated by in my workplace. Women state really awesome ideas but because they don't say it in a cutesy, or sel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 03:11 AM
41

Possessive, insecure, petty, and jealous. Quite unattractive on anybody but on men especially, imho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 06:10 AM
27

This is hilarious. Cats aren't known to like sweet flavors. That cat must've really not liked him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 06:09 AM
5

You beat me to it. I was going to say, there's no vulnerability unless it's earned and "cleared". Otherwise the vulnerable things you share about yourself can be used against you in the most painful way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 01:31 AM
2

I would like to hear your story. Who knows, it might save my life one day too. I am reading The Gift of Fear now and my eyes are being opened to SO many things. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 05:43 AM
2

oh wow. do you mind sharing the story of what happened to you? If it's too painful to talk about, I totally understand, and sorry for asking :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 05:08 AM
3

as you commented earlier, you've never been in this situation before so you are not sure what to do. It's okay. We are all learning here! Stay safe, OP :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 07:10 PM
3

when you say he will be extremely upset... what does that mean? As in he can hurt you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 04:27 AM
6

What has she shared? Someone in my circle is considering dating a doctor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 03:27 AM
2

this is really good advice. Is there an FDS-friendly work-related sub with tips like these?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 07:13 AM
9

this needs to be documented somewhere as an FDS KEY. So true!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 06:01 AM
6

well done!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 12:36 AM
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