My ex boyfriend from several years ago contacted me recently seeking my advice (free emotional labor). He basically was dumped and ghosted by a woman he was seeing. He can’t seem to get over it. “I pretended to like her, I didn’t really see myself with her. But now that she’s ended it, it’s like I’m stuck.” I pointed out he’s likely bothered because she ended it first and not him. He admitted it was exactly that. I’m just disgusted and had to share. When men are dumped, they aren't hurt emotionally, it's just the ego hit for them. They like to call the shots in the relationship.